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Inferno001:
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You're right about him not accepting her excesses and I think my first line suggested that...what I was trying to say up there is him finding peace after the naming and not slating him for following his budget...now the naming is done, she's upset and the reasonable thing to do is find peace...don't advice a man to ignore his wife when you don't stay in his house or know how they live....

It's not about ignoring her. Why give her high hopes when you know it isn't realistic? Why?
Oga that woman isnt meant to be a kid. So she she be treated as such.

janedonez:
Sit her ass down and explain to her that this period calls for prudent spending unless she is ready to live with a man is will be a chronic debtor.
Child dedication isn't the last in celebrations in a family. More are to come, so celebrations are likely to follow

Woman wey don born pikin, naa small pikin she be? No be she suppose to dey make sure say her husband no spend unnecessarily for this period. Sit her down ,my ass..

Inferno001:
My brother, at this moment the naming is over and you have spent what you can afford and nothing can change it..it is only natural for some women to want to show off and I won't blame her for that but here is the thing..sit her down and apologize not because you did wrong but because you want peace..promise her you'll celebrate the child's birthday better and she will draw the plan and you'll give her whatever will be needed to make it her taste after all the baby is yours also and if not for the period we're in you would have loved to do more...just say this for peace to reign and make her feel she is right..a happy good woman makes a happy home my brother...

Op, DON'T EVER TRY THIS. DON'T COS SHE LL TROUBLE YOU WHEN ANOTHER OCCASION ARISES. ARE YOU READY TO START WHAT YOU CANT CONTINUE? TELL HER TO ADD HER OWN MONEY TO MAKE IT WHAT SHE WANTS AND MAKE SURE YOU WATCH HER CLOSELY ESPECIALLY HER FRIENDS. RUBBISH

xavuv:
43!...Her children will be succeptible to defects like autism, down syndrome etc

Your biology told you so. Right?

eni4real:
2different cases.. One is a 43 year old childless unmarried lady.. The other one has an adult Daughter!
Stop comparing Genevieve with the lady in question

My dear abeg go wash your mouth. You brought up Genevieve as a point of comparison and yet talking without a single point..


If it were Genevieve then to you that was so issue..See your life. GOLD DIGGER. Why didnt you say Genevieve was wayward for having a child outside wedlock?

See where your sense end?

eni4real:
The lady in question has never married nor have children!!
Not like Genevieve

Has Genevieve ever been married? What exactly is your point? What has Genevieve having a child got to do with this? Pikin wey she born in her youth? Lol.

Unaa never talk wetin unaa really want

[quote author=chronique post=89386396]Hmm. Had several near death experiences but I'd share 3. One told to me and two personal experiences. My mom once narrated how I passed out as a child and God used my late dad to bring me back to life. I was still a baby at the time and she had just breastfed me and placed me in the baby cot to sleep only for her to come back to check me later and I was still, cold and not moving/breathing. She busted into tears and was crying. Then my dad came around and when he noticed what was happening, he asked them to boil hot water. He placed me on his lap over the hot water and hot balm covered with towel and despite the thing burning him, I didn't move but the man didn't give up and he kept on trying until I eventually sneezed and came back to life. My mom was suggesting they take me to the hospital but he told her they'd just put me in the morgue if he takes me there. After God, I owe him and my mom my life though.

Second experience : As a young man in the higher institution, I'd made the mistake of being with people I should not have been with. One time, we had an issue and had to go visit a certain alfa/medicine man. We sat around burning candles, were made to recite several incantations and given something to eat with incision made on our head and of course, some midnight incantations done. This was the beginning of serious demonic and occultic torment in my life. For years, I kept seeing and experiencing different kinds of attacks at night. By 7pm, I'd be seeing owls already perching on the next building and looking towards my direction. There was practically no night that I was able to sleep in peace. Was always in different worlds and kingdoms being chased by people and wild animals. So bad I couldn't sleep in my room at some point and went to start sleeping in my sisters room on the floor. I was always scared of the nights coming as I became apprehensive every day once it gets to evening and would be seriously praying for the morning to come when it's night. At some point, I'd wake up in the morning feeling very weak like blood had been drawn out of my body. I started raising up my bed to see if there was a calabash or something where my blood was going into but I didn't see anything. Then came a certain night when I woke up in the middle of the night to see about 4/5 people in my room. 3 knelt at my side with their mouth on my body while 2 stood against the door. As I opened my eyes and my eyes met their eyes, I was too weak and frightened to shout. I watched them stand up one they each moved gently one by one to the window and dissolved into something like particles and disappeared one after the other. For more than 30 minutes after they left, I was too scared and shocked to even move. Before then, I had always made gest of mfm and their fall down and die prayers but when I eventually got up that night, I went to one my sisters room and woke her to pray with me. The prayers drew my father's attention and he had to come check what was going on. The next morning, I quickly went in search of an mfm branch near me for prayers as I couldn't imagine what the night would be like. The prayers didn't stop the attacks eventually but it was the beginning of my journey to deliverance.

Third incident : during one of those many nights of torments and afflictions, I found myself in another world and I was with so many people struggling to swim out of a thick muddy water that had insects biting people. Some people were sinking in it while some of us were struggling to stay up. I managed to get out and was taken to the presence of an old man. They said he was a war lord from several ages and he said he wouldn't allow me go. He was sitting on a wooden native chair. There was a young boy by his side also pleading on my behalf. I eventually tried to run and he sent people after me. I was chased to a dark lonely road where I could no longer run again and the people chasing me were laughing at me and saying it was already too late. I was crying profusely and then I heard a voice saying "my son, it's not too late. It's just 25 mins after one". That voice rescued me and asked me to come with him. As I opened my eyes in the real world and looked at the clock beside my bed, it was exactly 25mins past one at night. If that voice didn't rescue me, I obviously wouldn't have woken up.

All these events got my mom taking me from one pastor to the other until we met a man of God after one church service. When he was about praying for me, he stopped barely a minute into the prayers, paused for a while and then asked my mom to ask me where I went to and what I did. That was how I eventually narrated how we went about the whole thing. My mom was shocked. The man told her it was a very serious issue. Apparently, I had dedicated my life back then to the witch mother and asked them to watch over me 24 hrs of the day. It eventually explained why I always felt people walking behind me during the day but each time I turned back, I wouldn't see anybody. It took me several years again to remember the exact incantations I made back then. It was on the first of January of a particular year. We had just closed from crossover service and I was sitting in the living room when those words came fresh in my mind. I asked my mom to interpret them cos they were made in yoruba. She was shocked and asked me where I heard such. I just told her to tell me what it meant and I eventually told her the origin of those words. That was the eventual beginning of my road to deliverance that spurned several years of prayers and fasting and everything. I eventually got delivered from the "Iya osorunga" that I had committed my life to. The bottom line is that, even though I got into that covenant, my head did not agree with it. Hence, the several torments and attempts to take my life through those years it lasted. Now, I can freely talk about it and lend some form of advice to the younger ones. It's been about 17 years from when I first made that mistake and more than 10 years since I got my deliverance. Today, anybody who doesn't believe in God and doesn't pay attention to prayers can't have a place in my life. [/quote

God is ever faithful. Praise be His Name

ForeverSaved:
Wow!. What a wonderful God we have as a Father. I wouldn't have been alive today if not for his grace.


On the 11th of December, 2018 at about 10am, I was sent with a driver to pick up a client to inspect a property somewhere in Rivers State. By the way I reside in Port Harcourt. The agreed pickup point was Genesis fast food at Trans Amadi. The driver drove to the entrance of the premises which is also shared by a couple of other businesses, the building directly faces the Trans Amadi express road. As we approached and tried to navigate into the premises, we had no idea that a robbery was going on there outside at the car pack, the robbers had finished and were quickly making their exist.

All I saw was an armed man with an Ak47 riffle loaded with 4 magazines of bullet, at this point we had blocked the exit way from the premises while the robbers vehicle was right in front of us, so it appeared as if we were there to block their escape, instantly one of them took his gun, corked it and came straight at us, he rested on our car's bonnet and directly aimed that heavily loaded gun at us, I quickly fell backwards in the car to avoid taking a direct hit, the driver froze and couldn't move. Thank God he froze, because if he had released his legs from the break, the car would have hit the gun man, that would have been like a declaration of war!.

What happened next was simply a miracle, the guy looked at us though obviously scared because a little delay could cause them their lives as that area has a number of well armed security men, but the ones at the premises fled when the Armed robbers came. The gun man stepped away, directed his colleague to revise and take another turn. Imagine armed robbers giving you way when you obviously had blocked them, and put their life in danger?. People were just watching it like movie.

After everything, I and the driver were the center of attention, people didn't even border about the man robbed of 10m. A man said, 'I don't know why that guy didn't shoot you, maybe he was not high enough', another man said 'o boy if you have not been serving God you better start now!'.

The funny thing is, after escaping the incident, I and the driver fell sick from the shock for almost 1 week, as I couldn't believe that I was still alive. Till today each time I remember it, it sends shivers down my spine.

Indeed our God is faithful.

I told God I would not complain again no matter what, because the life I now have is not mine anymore.

Praise the Lord!.

Halleluyah

kamez:
how someone can be trapped in a car, between life and death and still be able to count how many times his car summasulted is still a mystery to me

Eye witness nko?

CsRockefeller:
It's not because you are a prayerful person, many who are more prayerful than you have gone.

Did she say or imply so? I wonder why just want to be bitter

eni4real:
Genevieve has a Daughter

And so what? Does that make her married or reduce her age? What's even your point here?

Vulcan24:
this is not KG class.... if u don't understand wait till u are old enuf

Why not answer the question? How is that a liability, Mr prof.?

ozodigboo:
Nonsense.
The only way to get justice, is through the traditional system.
1 week, the god of natural justice will prevail..
Police ? Lol.
They may even tell her to go to court and disgrace herself publicly. Can she stand in court ?
Everyone will now know she's a rape victim forever.

Funny enough it might have been what she wanted but never knew it would get this bad. It might not even be a case of rape cos I have seen youths of her age act same way. She simply wasn't even strong enough to bear/ enjoy the sex

Vulcan24:
tell him he's a fool

something he would regret in life.....

he thinks it's a child's play to put a woman under your roof and even an old woman !!!

eternal liability at his early start. pls advise him well

And how is that a liability?

Tajbol4splend:
You can't understand my point, I get it, it's beyond you,.so you had to think it's stupid, but the people who do, do

And again pretend to be smart

LOVEGINO:
Based on the interview from the horses mouth on INVICTA FM. The so call lady went there with her friend and the guys asked her friend to go and come back later. To me oooo, d babe just wan try something new.

Adventurous girl has gotten more than what she wanted /bargained for

middlebelter:
What an argument. In elementary geography there is what is called the pull and push factor for population? The pull factors such as economic attractiveness, peace, infrastructure are not as much in the other Yoruba lands as Lagos, nevertheless you go to nearby Ogun state which is not Federal project as alleged by you and tell me if there are no considerable Igbo population as you claim.
Now, imagine if they stop selling land to your people because of such comment as yours, you will be the first to run outside shout marginalisation. Let us put behind us all these unprofessional sentiments and move forward.

They need the 'Igbo's ' money.. They can't just stop selling their lands cos they sell expensive to the igbos

membranus:
Did you go to Ibadan and find Ibo missing there?

Have you visited Dugbe, Mokola, Ring Road, Challenge and did not see Ibo people selling their fashion wares and motor parts, or at Gates, selling their building materials?

Where are the Yorubas and the Hausas given the same liberty to sell in Enugu and Onitsha? If they try it, overnight all their stores will be looted by robbers supported by the whole indigenes.

Ibos want access to other people's lands while they are denying other tribes access to their own lands.

Very soon, it wiil be "back to your tents O Isreal" and then we will see who will be the ultimate losers.

LIAR like you.. Who has looted any of your wares in the east. Such a BLOODY LIAR

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Tajbol4splend:
Lagos built Nigeria brut Nigeria built Abuja

Pls pretend to be smart

Angelfrost:
It's as well she deletes them all... She probably senses you would be a nosy, distrustful spy (a very childish and petty behavior)!!!

Married or not, everyone has a right to privacy, especially phone privacy... Going through a person's messages without permission is WRONG!!!

PRIVACY my foot

MichealKin50:
This is the same girl December last year before proposing to her, I asked her if she has cheated on me before. To get the truth from her, I lied to her that I've cheated on her she also told me she has cheated on me. When I finally told her that I was lying about cheating on her that since we met I've never seen another girl she also told me that she was lying too about cheating on me. When I told her to swear with the Holy Bible she refused to swear. I went ahead and proposed to her on 31st December hoping to marry her before end of this year.

SHE IS A CHEAT.. But you dont need the bible swearing . do you?

Poloyanabo1:
The most incompetent, clueless, and useless governor to have ruled rivers state.
under him port harcourt is very dirty and has become an eyesore,
Timariv disbanded and thousands lost their job, all scholarship boards have been scrapped, no new school has been built,
no new job has been created, no people oriented scheme, no support for farmers hence the inability of rivers state to feed itself, nepotistic and tribalistic government, pensioners have not been paid.
I can go on and on...
Wike is worse off than buhari.
Affliction shall not rise a second time, may God save us from wike!

LIAR !!!LIAR!!!LIAR

etiumo:
ADVICE FROM A FOREX TRADER PERSPECTIVE: FOLLOW YOUR MIND. In business, you dont put all your eggs into one basket. Every business is risky be it farming, transport, bet9ja, forex or any kind of business. So, MBA is not immune to risk. Invest with amount that if you loss, your life will still continue. However, as long as MBA makes its money from forex trading, it will survive and continue to survive. This is because in forex we make money when the price of currency goes up and when the price comes down. Note that COVID 19 has already killed a lot of businesses. Yet MBA is still standing. To play safe you can invest just 50% of the intended amount on MBA

WISDOM

KayMan05:
Could you please mention one ponzi scheme with legally binding Contractual Agreement with its clients?
It is evident, even to the blind,that MBA Forex is in business and will remain in business as long as her business model works.
I HOPE YOU WILL BOW OUT IN SHAME WHEN YOUR JUNE 1ST DOOMSDAY PROPHECY FAILS.

Take your risk as you have being doing. But as for that paper you call MOU, NEVER you bank on that. Okay? I have seen lots come and go even with MOU

[quote author=henry4lov1 post=89223083]Congrats bro, achieve alot physically so that when she sees how far u have become she will see what she has lost [/quote


Are you for real? Do you live your life this way? And what makes you feel the girl hasnt got a richer catch? Abeg focus in your life and stop reasoning and acting that way.. TOO LOW AND IMMATURE

Farki:
I used to think like him though, that real men support their women regardless of what they bring to the table. It could be down to lack of experience and Nigerian culture of being a male provider.

After hearing some women around me brag about using men's affection to their advantage my mind completely changed.

It's a good thing he has learnt his lesson on time.

Good. No one says being nice is out of place. But why kill or stress yourself over a lady or guy that brings little or nothing to the table? He or she has got nothing to lose should the relationship go south. So painful to see such person walk away with ease

Farki:
Wait something is very strange about this story. You were working another job on top of your regular work to pay her bills!

What was she doing with her life? She didn't have a job or her own side hustle, did her family abandon her?

You should be very grateful that you were able to get rid of the parasite before she sucked you dry.

Why blame the girl? Blame Op that was ready to be her SLAVE.

Dantepet3000:
First and foremost most girls don't realize that most men spend more than they earn. All in a bid to enhance affection towards them.

I dated her for two years until that faithful day she found my salary voucher on my bed. Tho I do other side hustlE that enabled me pay her bills
I've always known that when she discovers the amount I earn in my company, she will be scared of the future between us. I remember the days in shoprite that I was only able to afford bread. Oh my God, I don suffer. Anyway I had plans for us despite my 45k salary of an MSC holder. There is no financial hole I did not help her block. Infact I did what guys who earn more than me couldn't do.

She started misbehaving towards me ever since she saw that pay cheque. What she didn't know was that I did not use my other professional qualification in the company and when she left me.

I decided to forward other qualification to our management. Like play like play my salary rose to 75k after 3months 100k after 6 months 120k, now I am a site manager and I earn 360k. I believe the whole graduates in her family don't earn what I now earn combined. I am not proud or beefing anyone. Am just reminiscing. By the special grace of God I will even go higher...

PS. Now I am spending my money on my mum and family. I thank God for another chance. Bless

You knew she was a money monger ,yet you continued. God saved you the day she saw your payment voucher ..if not that your 360k won't have even been enough for upkeep in the house. I dont still understand why you guys kill yourself just to impress someone. Is it inferiority complex or what?

It took the lady leaving for the scales in your eyes to fall off. It's well with you.. Bragging about spending or should I say wasting money on someone just to be her 'slave'.

Chosen1984:
Look within.. Nigeria has the Cure..
Ezekil 47:12, Revelation 22:2

we need to Prayerfully look Within!

Have u had Of Siamweed?

Siamweed.. Reminds me of agricultural science in secondary school

NLReposter:
The first one you sent can't be accounted for

you are sending another?

That is so selfless of you Mr Jack

Selfless indeed

bukatyne:
I believe at this stage, the siblings should step in if she lets them to.

But the wasted years......

That ll only happen if they have nt moved on with their lives having other things and happenings taking their time. Let's all know that people might NEVER have all the time to wait till foolish person comes to his or her senses.. Not that they might not want to help but they might be so occupied with other issues that no time to spare ...

I DONT WAIT FOR ANYONE. I RATHER MOVE AND YOU CATCH UP WITH ME IF AND WHENEVER YOU COME TO YOUR RIGHT
SENSES.. NO TIME TO CHECK TIME

Bahamas95:
Exactly, our father made us tough because we forgot about him completely. My younger sister who is the last among us now reasons like a full grown woman, nothing moves her. She sees every challenge as a stepping stone. She will be graduating this year without any assistance from a useless father, uncles/aunties....We have been taking care of ourselves from day one. Even when he dies today am not sure any of us will attend his burial. What's on my mind now is how to complete my programme and get married in not too distant future and be a responsible husband/father. I will shower my children with the fatherly love our father deprived us.

Baba God please bless me with a virtuous woman when the time comes.

Sure HE ll. God's Grace keep you safe and sound..