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rummmy:
WHERE IS THE DEAD GRILL MEAT SELLER?

Kobicove:
Those guys are a bunch of jokers...I'm interested in what action they would take after 48 hours

sylve11:
This is deep..

Ybaby:
You want the truth?

Any woman will act like OP wife... the husband may just never find out but she will seek masculine energy somewhere else
Usually from her boss at work.

wirinet:
It seems you are ignorant that Cosmas Maduka was an "infidel" before he married Charity. Cosmas married charity at the age of 19 years when he had nothing, and they build their fortune together. Their company CosCharis (COSmas and CHARIty) is a testament that his wife was critical to his success.

djon78:
His wife was way above him in class. She was from an influential family in Nnewi, I know her family very well.
They never belonged to same class.
Cos was serious nwa ogbenye. Poor of the poor. Wretched.

So her people never wanted him. In fact he was chased away when he went to ask for her hand in marriage.
The woman accepted him despite all this. That's why they are very close.
He doesn't play with her.

They started from nothing.
Your ideology is a very dark and evil one.
I wonder the igbo man that will marry such a woman like you.
Our women don't behave like this.
We train them properly. Maybe na audio igbo man that is marrying you, in your dreams.
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I don't even look at a woman's money
A woman can't even feed me
When my dad in his seventies can still doll out better cash to his children talk less of taking excellent care of his wife. Na me no go spoil my woman?
Even my sisters are married to men taking excellent care of them, but they have there own money too and sometimes support there family.

They were going on summer vacation with children. My sister told her husband to fashy that she will buy there flight ticket for every member of the family.
Her oga was shocked and surprised.

Woman I have been reading your comments and you are dark, evil, a gold digger extraordinary.
In fact all you claimed here are audio to me. And you got no class by the kind of reply you have been giving here.

dayleke:
First of all, let me say I'm sorry for having quoted you in the first place. It was this one I saw first that I quoted to debunk what you said but after reading subsequent quotes, I can only say SORRY.

With this kind of warped mentality and interpretation that you are giving that verse in the bible, I can only say WOW!!!!.

"Eating out of my wife's sweat"?
"An infidel" if I can not provide for the family?
This is the 21st century for crying out loud.
A wife/husband that you both said "in sickness, in health till death do you part"?
So pulling resources together as a family is now an abomination?
Like I said before, what works for you may not work for someone else but do not put the other person down or say their way is wrong.
You live in an environment in which you wanna have a better life for you and your family and you find out pulling all resources together by both of you can make you accomplish that, you call that eating out of the wife's sweat?
Just check this out.
Wife works dayshift, husband works night shift.
Husband gets the kids ready for school in the morning while wife gets ready for work.
Husband takes the kids to school and is home when they come back. Assist the kids with homework and cook for the family before wife comes back from work.(Since he is home, why will d wife who's been working all day will come and start cooking again?). Kids attend public schools cos you pay taxes and they are good schools too.
Husband goes to work for his own shift.
Household chores are shared as need arises.
All bills are paid from a common purse. Everyone is happy. So which one be INFIDEL there now?
If wife's medical insurance plan is better than the hubby's, all family members are put on the insurance including the "infidel".
My sister, if you find yourself in an environment whereby you have to do the right thing to survive and enjoy your life to the fullest, you have to do it.
God bless you and say you wanna do it by yourself and not be an "infidel", na "dead infidel" you go be sef.
In marriage, love and understanding is not enough, good financial planning is needed too.

I wonder what you will say to a man who has been shouldering everything for his family for years and suddenly have a debilitating illness like a stroke or something and can not do so anymore. Should the wife not work and take over the running of the family affairs?
Or she should just go and find another man to take care of her?

Like I said in my first quote, "God bless your family" but please do not use your own yardstick for other marriages out there and please also stop quoting that verse.

Shalom.

dayleke:
Beautiful.
God bless your family.
One thing though, just because it works for you does not make it a yardstick.
I saw where you kept saying a man should not eat from a woman's sweat......and even supporting it biblically.
Is it not the same bible that says both of them come together together to become one.
If you find yourself in a situation whereby the way the traditional roles were supposed to be played out do work, adaptation is needed.
Marriage is a partnership, there is no my money or your money as long as trust is there and there is transparency.
In some environments where both the couple have to combine incomes to raise the family, it can not work especially in the western world. All hands are needed on deck. There is no traditional role for any gender. Understanding is needed.
Any of the parent can cook, assist the kids with homework, attend PTA meetings etc.
What works for couple A May not necessarily work for couple B.
Thank you.

djon78:
I am telling you real life issues I have witnessed and you are here making noise.

Empathy is the key here. When a woman have your kind of mindset. It makes men become more business minded in there union. I am talking from experience.

I have always adviced guys to hustle up and not just have one streams of income, but several, that has been my philosophy . But on the flip side a mean less empathy wife is a no no. It turns marriage into more of business which may not augur well with the woman. That's how some men place there siblings over there spouse concerning there money.

Prymestrr:
Go back to my comment. Thank you.

Ybaby:
Spiritually when a man is eatting from the sweat of his wife - things hardly get better for him.

I like the word you used "forced"

If she was still feeding you - you will not have this new job because you needed force to dust your books and I pray you continue to dust more books more knowledge so no one has to ever force you again.

Buy your wife a gift for forcing and demanding you step up and realise your potential.

She really tried for you. Many other women would be meek and feeding you and you will never dust those books and realise this new potential and well done to you for stepping up albiet it was after torture.

Go to a corner in your room and vow to your maker that you will never eat of a woman/wife sweat again.

Preferito:
Please can you stop quoting the Bible upside down. What it means is that any man who does not provide. It did not say a man who is providing but it's not enough. Being a man does not mean to be a slave to a woman. Would you rather prefer your hubby to go into crime in order to provide for you?

Obingene:
God is not an author of confusion, not every one that calls his name is of him or his kingdom.

Blessed are the peace makers.

My mum is the standard for a good wife and she is still enjoying her marriage, my Dad can take a bullet for her.

Men, marry a good woman regardless of whether you are rich or poor.

Marry a woman who truly has the love of God in her.

Ybaby:
I am seeing a pattern that it is men whose mothers feed/fed thier fathers that think like this.

Poster Is your mum single cos you may have to wife her.

1 Timothy 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his own, and
But if any man have not care of his own, and especially of those of his house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Obingene:
That yours is good doesn't mean you should insult and look down on others that aren't.

Many men try their best to provide but things don't work out, I have seen my father go from a 100 to zero and for 2 years my mum respectfully and diligently worked to cater for us.

Life is no textbook. Nigeria is still d poverty capital of the world.

In all, spouses should understand and support each other, a peaceful marriage is all we all want.

Roles yes, but love still remains the greatest commandment and nothing else.

Preferito:
Wow! This is so disheartening. Love has really waxed cold. But I think the type of foundation given to the youths of nowadays is what's causing this. The Bible stated that the woman is an help meet to the man. This means that when the man is incapacitated she should be able to augment him. She should not compound his troubles. I see no reason why a woman will be troubling a man because he is trying unsuccessfully. Had it been that he is not trying at all then she could have charged him up. Before exhibiting any nasty behavior towards your husband you need to remind yourself the reason why you married him at the first place. To be honest men are now an endangered species and all these things gives me cold feet towards marriage. Why can't the women of these days be like our mothers? I started hawking since I was in primary 2 all the way till SS3 along with my older siblings because my dad was trying unsuccessfully. But there was never a time I did see my mother insult him. Neither was she in any way ever promiscuous. We were in it together and we pulled through. Why can't the women of these days have the will to build with their husbands? This reminds me of the popular quote that says it is only women and children that are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved base on what he can provide. May God order our steps in the right direction.

Ybaby:
Eventually all wives who pay all or some bills cheat. I am not saying it is good I am only stating the fact.

Wives who shelter thier husbands eventually become violent towards the husband.

See the bible knows what it was saying when it said a man who cannot provide is worse than an infidel... those wives may pretend to respect thier husband in his face but gossip their husbands to neighbours, family and friends letting them know they pay the Bills.

What OP experienced is even small. When a woman pays Bills she emasculates the man in front of him or behind him.... she will sha find a way to subliminally let the world know she wears the trouser.

Na so we see am. I pray for you that you are able to fully pay your household Bill's and kids bills if you add your wife's bill she will let the world know you are the MAN!

Sunny Ade said one man was made to escourt his wife to her boyfriend house.... na money cause am.

Man is on earth to pay Bill's, to work and uplift his family...... may all men be able to do this because the consequences of otherwise is severe.

An angel can become a witch if she is made to pay a man's bills

Ybaby:
Such a sad story. Glad you are doing well.

See women are not good at paying a man's bills. We are not wired that way.

She starts seeing such a man as a child.

Once a man stops seeing the woman as his bread winner - the way will open for him like it opened for OP.

Not always true. Pls speak for yourself and I dont see any reason why just N170k ll make a lady proud.

POVERTY

Young men get money! there is a financial clock for men.

OP, happy for you.

Gift7428:
Read again
You highlighted just one part and refused to move to the next line.

I cant with you please.
Na dem.

efighter:
I need to see this Uzodinma's medical certificate of mental fitness because he does not sound mentally balanced. I am suspecting that he must have inherited madness from his grandfather.

Is this how Northern governors give money to Igbos when useless Almajaris destroy Igbos properties? Hope Uzodinma has lost hope.

LordviccoDaGuru:
Buhari is working, shame on all f*cking wailers in South east

HarunaWest:
then that means you know nothing..sorry though

HarunaWest:
Okay lemme burst yah head. I grew up in a liberal home..I attended a Catholic primary school, most of my friends are Christian, my childhood was spent in Lagos state amongst largely Christian neighbours, I speak Yoruba than even my dialect I go to churches, I attend weddings in churches, I attend burials even carry Coffin join during my NYSC @ Abia State. Even I was in KD sometime last year, precisely for a wedding @ Zango Kataf. Having stated all these facts, do I look like someone that gives a damn about religious outlook.?

Southwest2023:
Tonyebarcanista. You are from southern Nigeria ijaw precisely. What's your problem with Kaduna.

Does it Christian's in the state complain to you. If truly Christian and Muslim are equal in number why Christian not sponsor their people to climb the seat of power in the state.

HarunaWest:
See the problem with Nigeria. They so called people appointed, aren't they from Kaduna? Does religion of the person really matter?
The important thing is that they carry out their function properly. If they err, they should be sacked and replaced but that law doesn't hold forte in Nigeria. As far as am aware, there is calm in Kaduna politics today, they aren't complaining so I don't understand why Tonye is crying over spilt milk. I was in Kaduna recently and Elrufai is working whether you like it or not you can't hate the man. If the trusted people carrying out this developments are Muslims, so be it.

infogenius:
op
I won't say you lie because I know a woman I met online too that is going through a similar issue that we are working on but
definitely not you.

Kindly apologize to him, living with your husband and not talking for 7 days is harsh.
Do it because you are displaying wisdom and that you are a weakling.

Your home has to be a peaceful haven.

I don't care what your home is going through as long s you earn you must have savings.
Save 10% of your earnings. This can be used to start a business in future or even as a bailout
one day. Save money.

Buy yourself little things you need like shoes and the likes. How can you be working and struggle to get little things?
It's not convenient but squeeze through. For this another 10%. Pay your tithe if you are a tither and the remaining
70% you can put into your family.

Many women like you these till they go to their graves, their men put them under pressure because they have made themselves available.
This is not bad but should not be a norm.

As much as possible, be yourself show him you are still the woman he married and of course avoid unnecessary arguments with him.
Your silence will not make you stupid or a weakling. It demonstrates maturity.

I can go on and on, but immediately go to him and tell him sorry.

Proffdada:
Don't be quick to judge the man. She maybe a thirsty ho

Inferno001:
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Bro I'm not saying he did wrong by spending within his budget... See ehn this Is a win win for him because party is over and he didn't exceed his budget now the second win will be to make her feel she's right and pet her into understanding your situation...him also getting angry won't make the home peaceful o...sometimes we need to stoop to conquer and making her feel she's right, he wins both ways