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Romance › Re: What Is The Sweetest Thing You've Ever Done For Your Partner? by Evina(f): 12:26pm On Nov 29, 2014

striktlymi:
She is not a "hoe" and she was very loyal. If she doesn't 'feel me' then no biggie.

Better man, wey get sense.

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Romance › Re: What Is The Sweetest Thing You've Ever Done For Your Partner? by Evina(f): 12:25pm On Nov 29, 2014

stanconnect:
Lol..keep dreaming..

Better to be a big dreamer than to be a broke nuisance wink

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Romance › Re: What Is The Sweetest Thing You've Ever Done For Your Partner? by Evina(f): 12:24pm On Nov 29, 2014

phantonce:
I will love to be your boyfriend.

theenk you.

Romance › Re: What Is The Sweetest Thing You've Ever Done For Your Partner? by Evina(f): 11:45am On Nov 29, 2014

stanconnect:
Ok..u mean the ijebu garri bussiness?

Yes

the Ijebu garri business that rakes an annual profit, not less than 12million naira. cool

whilst you still move around with your legedis convertible searching for a job wink

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Romance › Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Evina(f): 11:17am On Nov 29, 2014

DieeDiee:
@ Evina: please look at the dictionary definition I posted. Submission is impossible without a power relationship and it paves the way for abuse because it gives it an excuse. The degree of power exercised depends on how sadistic and submissive the two players are. So your honey may seem loving and sweet but it does not take away the fact you are being controlled. And how small does one's IQ or moral compass have to be that they need another human being to tell them what's right and what's wrong, what to do and what not to do?

With friends, siblings and even parents there's always compromise. In a submissive relationship there is none because the power is always concentrated on the one. (Btw parent-children relationships can be submissive too and those are abusive relationships (not necessarily physical can be emotional))

And you just keep affirming my observations.

Anyways, it's your life, your relationship, your choice. wink

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Romance › Re: What Is The Sweetest Thing You've Ever Done For Your Partner? by Evina(f): 11:13am On Nov 29, 2014

Started a business and made him the Managing Director

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Romance › Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Evina(f): 10:59am On Nov 29, 2014

DieeDiee:
A leader guides he does not control. That is why at work you will have a meeting and the issues are discussed by the whole even though final decision rests with the manager. A good leader is one that considers everyone's input before making a final decision.

Submission by its nature implies loss of will on your part as you bend to the other's will and compromise is not even a consideration. Because submission is a power game the honour and respect you speak of is "forced" from you (I use the word "force" loosely) not earned. When you submit to someone you give away your power. Submission can be voluntary like @midehi but it doesn't make it any less of a power relationship.

To honour and respect someone it is not necessary to submit to them. You love, honour and respect your siblings and friends don't you? Do you submit to them?

You have further affirmed my earlier observation that you do not fully grasp the art of submission.

Let me ask you this: in your relationship with friends and siblings, do you always choose to have your way? Or do you respect their opinions, let some things slide, make sacrifices for their happiness? If you have, you have submitted to them.

Being submissive doesnt mean loss of will, it is your willingness to yield to the will of another.

I understand that weak, insecure men will mistake submissiveness for vulnerability and take advantage. (I guess this is what you have a problem with).This doesn't make the art of submission stupid or wrong, it just makes those who do not get it and try to abuse it, ignorant.

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Romance › Re: What Is Wrong With Me by Evina(f): 10:40am On Nov 29, 2014

Dozie730:
THATS SOME NIGERIANS FOR U THEY NEVER ADVICE INSTEAD,THEY START WRITING OFF POINT.

It is really dissappointing because it portrays gross ignorance and uncivilised mentality. Just visit western forums and see how issues are trashed.

Back to topic, op it is clear you are not used to him yet and you most likely really like him. You are still very self conscious around him, you haven't really let loose.

The only solution is to get to spend more time together.

Romance › Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Evina(f): 10:30am On Nov 29, 2014

Midehi:
Its nt control cos most of d do's & dont are things dat will favour me & @ d end tankin him

You are indeed a wise woman.

Wise women build their homes.
Wise women have influence.
Wise women are treasured by their men.
The mark of a wise women is in understanding how much power you weild through the art of submission.

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Romance › Re: Women Must Be Submissive In A R/ship? Ladies Your Say? by Evina(f): 10:26am On Nov 29, 2014

DieeDiee, apparently you don't known the meaning of submission, neither do you understand the concept.

I was amazed when you stated that to submit to a man means you have made him a Lord/master. Yet, you went ahead to call him a leader. huh

Are you not meant to follow the lead of a leader? Is following not submission?

It really baffles me how many so called "independent" women disregard the authority of their man, but actually have no problem being floor mats to their male bosses at work.

Gurl, the duty of a wife is to submit to the man, just as the duty of the husband is to love the woman.

If you really love him, you will submit because that is how a man understands that you love him. And please, never make the mistake of marrying a man you cannot honor or respect (this is what submission entails).

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Jokes Etc › Re: 19 Funny Things That Happen In A Taxi. by Evina(f): 10:07pm On Nov 28, 2014

AgapeCharis:
Dem stl dey enter taxi?
Wetin happen to maruwa n molue?

I rem my days in Enugu
Inside dox long buses (we call dem ogapu bus )
U'll see someone with lots of skin disease selling something dt can cure any kinda skin infection

Did you school in Enugu?

Romance › Re: Ladies,can You Marry For Money? by Evina(f): 6:09pm On Nov 28, 2014

Marriage is not for children.

When one is still young at heart, you feel that love is all there is to marriage and overlook many important things.

Marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities and when the challenges come you will question the "love" you think you had. Fact is, finance is a reason found to be a major cause of friction in marriage, even more major than sex. shocked

If you claim not to care about his financial status, please make sure you do have a trusted, worthy source of income(i.e money of your own) to cater to your marital needs.

Romance › Re: Friendzoning Her Husband, Please Help. by Evina(f): 6:01pm On Nov 28, 2014

There is more to this story.

I think this could be one of two things:

Your "friend" committed some serious offence and his wife is reacting to it by treating him this way.

OR

She is cheating, or in the process lipsrsealed

Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 5:03pm On Nov 28, 2014

crackhaus:
Please observe quickly o...

I'll be checking out for you as well.

Lolz...

Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 4:02pm On Nov 28, 2014

crackhaus:
Never have!

It's just an old nickname - actually, the nickname on there is just the 'crack' bit. It's added to my first name when called by a specific group of friends.

For further enquiries as to how/why someone decided to start the nick, apply within...

Apology accepted!

Lol at apply within grin

I may consider, still observing tongue

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Romance › Re: Do You Experience Pee-shyness While Pee-ing & A Pretty Lady Is Spotted ? by Evina(f): 3:57pm On Nov 28, 2014

tosyne2much:
Yeah I know that... Don't knw why the dude keeps beefing and insulting me.. He really got on my nerves this afternoon otherwise I would have kept mute as usual

Well, keeping mute doesn't really solve anything. Just that there are more dignifying ways of handling such situations. wink

Nuff said

Back to topic.

Romance › Re: Do You Experience Pee-shyness While Pee-ing & A Pretty Lady Is Spotted ? by Evina(f): 3:49pm On Nov 28, 2014

tosyne2much:
That dude pushed me to d wall...bin a long time this dude has been attacking derailing all my threads or comments and I have been trying my best possible to avoid him.. Which kind wahala be dat now ?

So that is how you treat your "fans" undecided

Don't you know people have different ways of expressing their admiration? undecided

Romance › Re: Do You Experience Pee-shyness While Pee-ing & A Pretty Lady Is Spotted ? by Evina(f): 3:37pm On Nov 28, 2014

tosyne2much:
Who is this bush man ? Why always attacking every of my comments or threads ? Dem force you make you comment at gun point ? Can't you just view and fuccck off you this attention seeking nincompoop

I just viewed your profile only to see your pix.. I must confess you really look like a dumb old man

Btw, what sensible thread av you ever created ? Either dumb or silly thread, create one and let us know your relevance on this
forum

** those who do things make mistakes but never make the greatest mistakes of those doing nothing ** get that into your head you dumb hypocrite

dude, why vexing like this na? huh

Romance › Re: Do You Experience Pee-shyness While Pee-ing & A Pretty Lady Is Spotted ? by Evina(f): 3:18pm On Nov 28, 2014

Don't tell me you have the bad habit of urinating in public places...Very disgusting habit angry

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Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 3:12pm On Nov 28, 2014

crackhaus:

No offence taken...

Apologize!

I am sorry embarassed

But what prompted such moniker? Do you use? huh

Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 2:31pm On Nov 28, 2014

Very well said Crackhaus.

Your moniker though undecided

Makes me feel like I'm chatting with a junkie lipsrsealed

No offense embarassed

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Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 1:39pm On Nov 28, 2014

crackhaus:
Nice one Evina, you pretty much covered everything.

As an addendum, @SkinnyDude:

Work on your self-esteem and self-worth, that's just about it - when you're comfortable in your own skin without feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, you begin to live a fairly simple and easy life totally dependent on your own rules.

Cheers...

Thank you Crackhause

At the highlighted, how does he work on it. I am sure he knows he ought to but not sure that he knows how to.

Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 12:40pm On Nov 28, 2014

SkinnyDude:
my inability to speak well. i'm a stutterer and it's getting out of hand.

Oh. I know someone, she was once a colleague. Now, she is doing very well, working as an on air personality in one of the top radio stations in Abuja.

When she told me she was once a terrible stutterer, I couldn't believe it. She said she had the worst kind, those who actually tap themselves before speaking shocked

Now, there is absolutely no trace of stuttering when she speaks. She has a clear, strong, soothing voice. wink

I was once intrigued about the cause of stuttering and through research, I discovered that it was purely psychological. People stutter when they get really nervous.

You should decide to deal with it. And you sure can.

First, you need to observe what triggers it. I think your self esteem is at a very low point. Try seeing the good things about you and appreciating them.

For one, you write really well

that is a plus. I don't know you, but I sense a really creative, intelligent dude who has set limitions for himself by looking down on self.

Why not make a list of ALL that is good about you?

Start from there. wink

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Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 12:20pm On Nov 28, 2014

SkinnyDude:
thank you so much. you must be a Psychologist.

Always welcome

Can we talk about your depression? what is getting you depressed?

Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 11:58am On Nov 28, 2014

SkinnyDude:
i can't remember. but it's been long now. i'm 19.

Okay. So it is a habit that has become your weakness and dealing with weaknesses can be pretty tough. One of the things you can do is to make yourself accountable to another person whom you trust and who can support you in your quest to manage that weakness.

Dealing with covetousness requires a lot of discipline and also requires you working on your self esteem. You want what others have because you feel inadequate with what you have and consider others to be more superior because of their material acquisitions.

You need to begin to understand that your self worth doesn't increase or diminish with how much possessions you have. You create your own value.

One of the most effective ways of changing your mindset is to start reading the right books. As a wise saying goes, "our lives go in the direction of our most predominant thoughts". So, basically, we eventually become what we think because thoughts form actions, consistent actions lead to habits and habits forms our character which defines us. So, to become some thing different, you have to start again, with changing your thought patterns and feeding your mind with the right materials will help achieve that.

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Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 11:28am On Nov 28, 2014

SkinnyDude:
yes. i always desire to obtain every thing i see ( shoes, money, clothes, phones). even though i'm not working. thats the root of every problem.

When did you start observing this attitude?

I am going to be asking you quite alot of questions, because in answering these questions, a solution will come up.

Family › Re: I Don't Understand Myself Anylonger. by Evina(f): 11:14am On Nov 28, 2014

Have you always been covetous?

Romance › Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by Evina(f): 11:04am On Nov 28, 2014

Dexema:
The guy has done something evil but why do I have a feeling this girl deserves to be tormented,in life there always has to be a scapegoat to serve as a lesson for BAD deeds.
FOR THE LADY
Approach the dudes friend with either your pastor or a respected elderly person and have a face to face conversation with the guy and iron matters out,you cud hav a recording of such meeting for future purposes,I'm sure behind the hurt there is
A logical man.

FOR THE guy
Releasing the video won't be only unciviised behavior but also barbaric.try to forgive her and pls delete ALL the pix and videos as secrets find their way into the open later,her merely seeing you after this incident wud giv her high BP cos she dosent know if you stil hav them that is enough eternal punishment for her.
For all those suggesting brute force,fire and brimstone,obviously you don't know how the law works,make the guy get beta lawyer he wud not only release the video and get away with it he might even sue the OP .

@ the highlighted shocked

on what grounds? He is the one that would be sued. angry

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Evina n Friends. by Evina(op): 8:45pm On Nov 27, 2014

laykhorn:
Bro! How have you been? I missed this family. Where is everyone
Oh! Evina threatened you, and that was why you returned
.
Hi Evina! Hello Agape!! How far Will!!! Where is Layk! Laykorn

Seriously, is everyone out of the country? huh

Hi Laykhorn

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Evina n Friends. by Evina(op): 7:56pm On Nov 27, 2014

will1am:
Hello cheri, have been so busy..
Am back dear..
How are my hommies- laykorn, laykhorn and agapecharis?
Missed ya all bunch
Nuf respekt

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