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I believe in 1-3 years for the age difference in spouses....

I understand you so well but the way you pushed ur point is too aggressive.... 6 months is the starting stage for friendship to grow.........I vote for 2 - 3 years of relationship

1StopRudeness:
u pple will just be giving funny advice that u can't follow if u r in the same shoes.do u have a son or daughter..?? It's only desperation that will make one marry a person he has never seen or know from Adam in less than 6months
please...if ur son comes home with a potential in this terrible day and age..and tells u he wants to marry with 4-6months....u won't ask him any question ??
when it's not like he's 45 or 50 years old

Mum won't be involved if ideal things are done...mum is acting like a typical Yoruba woman ...he should know wat to do....guy should just liberate himself first cos he don fuckup himself

Dayg88:
I agree, the guy is not man enough and the in-laws wanna take advantage of that. Mum is 'maybe' trying to protect himself or herself. Is it proper to threaten the guy? It is like the girl is not really into getting married to the guy. Let her get a groom to get married to in February

Nope its not that way....I'm not comfortable with it ...however I believe if the guy had been man enough I'm sure things won't get to this level

Dayg88:
Being ready for marriage is not age related in anyway. And the girl is not mending his life, she is destroying it. Why is the girl's family dictating for her too? You think that is cool?

Y are most comments favouring the guy and hitting hard on the lady.....I observed some key points in the write up of the op

1. If his Lady is 30 he is in early 30s or late 30s.....is it too early for him to get marry?

2. A man at early 30s is he too early to marry?

3. A man at early 30s that can't take decisions for himself what kind of man is he?

4. A relationship of three years without a reason to continue....what kind of man is that?

5. Y will a guy be so irresponsible to be scared cos his woman works and earn for herself to help him......


Finally as a man decide with your mother and not ur mom deciding for you cos she will blame you for the decisions you are suppose to take....

I adore the lady for trying to mend the life of a man that can't decide like you!!!!

My piece though

I believe anyone that fights in this thread actually explains who he is......my tot is just that how can a guy of 17 advice on a relationship issue that is as old as he is....? When u get into any thread u will read comments from them like f**k her and dumb her sorry ass or any guy that can't buy me latest phone is stingy......I guess their ages from their comments



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SweetBuns:
meaning what? You don't know anything about me. Don't quote me again

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Your speech explains who I will meet if by chance we are to meet

Your moniker explains your age range sis....

SweetBuns:
Studies show that 70-75% of the posts on nairaland is filled with the crap.
Yours is no exception

I observed that the major people that comment on relationship issues are basically boys and girls that are not old enough of having relationship and keeping one




Please there should be what you learn from ......not u talking on every topic despite being as naive as sowore in Nigerian politics.........



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Lagos yahoo girl catch Kano maye........my guy u go pay till u old no...even wen u son marry anoda person

Bros let me start this way...how old are you?


Decisions are taken by men for women not the other way round.........

U made my morning with your answers....

ValCon888:
I doubt you're going to be ready in February.

From your writeup it seems you chose February as a last ditch attempt not to lose your girl.

Don't let anyone manipulate you and this includes your mother and your potential inlaws.

Pick a date that's convenient for you. Anybody that does not like it should take a hike.

One final thing. You have to man up.

The signs are there that external forces will control your marriage if and when you do get married.

What could have been his moms reasons? Parents Nd myopic mindsets.....his happiness is so important first.....a man that cant stick to decision ...is that one a man or mannequin for clothes display....bro take your decisions abegquote author=MichaelBukamzy post=74008007]oga,this is enough warning sign to back off.at this stage,should have been close friends already. you wanna go with your inlaw's date against your mother's? she might have her reason too,she went to extent of laying a curse must you go against her. also,as you are doing all you can for the wedding to hold,remember to observe wheather madam has shed of off that bad character as she promised,trust me relationship is always time for mutual deception.when you settle down,you will those attitudes been burried just to keep the courtship going. if i am you,i will back off if inlaw is not ready to go with my family's date,i cant ditch my mother because if unfortunately shit hit the fan,you fit clean am alone .[/quote]

I'm sure u are not more than 18 years old

IamD18:
Low self-esteem is damn bad!

What nonesense!

Will you die if you don't marry the lady?

The earlier you understand that no one is irreplaceable, the better for you.

Kindly part ways with her,Mr.


PART WAYS!!!!!

Maturity in men to me comes with age and with ladies it comes with experiences..... My piece though!!!!!!!!



Let your opinion roll

Be wary of making partners get to their state of no return when anger will be the deciding factor.....

As study reveals open relationship is a relationship where spouses can actually be in a relationship and still involve in things with conditions with other people with sincerity as the watchword of the main relationship!!! My question is that can it really work for people in this part of the world?Mature answers please..

I strongly believe this guy is not as wealthy as he portrays..... Believe hushpuppy is a child but this guy is a toddler......I seriously believe hushpuppy slept with his wife in those days cos he's always attacking him......stainless stell makes more notice than breakable plates.....

I believe as its paining this guy.....hushpuppy is wealthier and more matured than him......cos it takes time for hushpuppy to drag him into anything but any small money wey mompha makes na social media and to insult hushpuppy........




To this maturity fight ...the winner is hushpuppy

Violence trends more between people of different ideologies......age difference shows ideology differences..........take for example whenbu were young your playmates were basically people within your age range....why will marriage now give u a different shot?




My piece though

They force people for marriage ooooooo....when your clock no tick again even as a man.....e don be for you be DAT oooooo.....

When a lady asks you this question...my brother think twice cos she did already just wanted to know your reactions if u find out........ They don't ask before doing they do before acting




My piece though

If u don't like to be driven be a female u go go buy your own car na




My piece though

Most times we believe lack of funds is the reason for late marriages you will now be surprised how young
men with bucks shy away with flimsy excuses........




My piece though......

I feel that if men marry early and start having children early enough there will be a boost in life expectancy rate for men and they will live longer cos they hustle early in life and have time to rest in future.....




My opinion though

Why do people still keep people with disability locked up in the room always whenever visitors come around.....and please what can be done to stop the trend?

Domestic violence thrives more in places where the man sees himself as the elder brother or uncle of the wife....whenever she does something there's always a reason for wanting to punish her without looking back or feeling remorse about it......


My piece though......

What's the most ideal age difference for marriage please....cos all opinions look towards maturity in age before marriage.....

I believe hustle comes better when u are married...... Focused

No Ill feelings just that I feel that when you marry above 35 as a man u marry someone u can't really fall in love with because of the age difference .......u just endure the marriage because of children and tend to spend more time outside doing unnecessary things

Most people belong to the school of thought that ladies are more desperate for marriage than men.....
So a man can feel comfortable living till late 30s as a bachelor ...
However marriage is needed more by the man but a man that doesn't enjoy the youthfulness with his wife then what's the story he wants to tell his children.....
Very large age gap between spouses makes a lady uncomfortable in the house.....she sees her husband like her elder brother ...first step in the break in communication.....
The highest amounts of cheating among spouses stems not from maturity or finances but lack of friendship between spouses.....
Lastly let's not be deceived ...its awesome to grow with your kids in a lovely setting rather than being the pta chairman of a primary school when u are supposed to be retired......



My piece though....critics allowed access.......good morning all