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Omojudy:
Only someone who has lost a loved mother will understand this thread. It makes me remember my mother today. Hopefully this mother would get over this Ill health.

To my mother:

GONE BUT STILL HERE!
After dad’s passing, my mum was able to save up and build a place of her own. I had graduated from college and married Uncle Ex within the time. Seemed like things were beginning to look up for mother now.
 She registered for French classes and joked about studying a big named course affiliated with physics(can’t recall now the name). She got all the right promotions at work too.
 Then her medical condition worsened.
 You do recall that mother had the SS genotype…… Sickle cell as we all know it? I had gotten used to her sporadic medical attacks. She got used to injecting herself after dad past on!


 But this time was different. She got admitted at the hospital frequently and she would tease that the hospital room was her hotel room.
 When she clocked 50, we had a big party in her honor. It was a beautiful event. I have the pictures to remind me of so much selfless love. 
 She never cared for pity. I remember her teasing her changing body stature saying it’s only the traditional blouse and wrapper that could camouflage her weight loss for the party. 
 Friends and family came from all over the nation. Home cooking was done and I do remember grandma trying to inspect the pot of Ogbolo soup then missing her step and pouring it all down. She started to lament about it and my mother replies her “who sent you?” Hahaha, they had one of their famous quarrels. One funny thing my grandma used to do, she calls her children their names affiliated with a “Sister” or a “brother” prefix. 
 Her health continued to degenerate. She had to stop work. Nonetheless when Uncle Ex absconded, she travelled all the way to my base to try mediate. I wept when I saw how fragile she was.

Every journey she embarked on then led to her being admitted in the hospital and having blood transfusions. She began staggering in her strides. Yet she stayed strong in Spirit.
 The doctors couldn’t diagnose anything out of the ordinary Sickle Cell anaemia at this point. Someone suggested she tried traditional herbal remedies, she did take a few and began speaking about going to some traditional healing home. She spoke to me about it and I discouraged her with words similar to “you may go there and get healed or not but get some demonic possession and go to hell when you eventually die which you would, so is it worth it?”


 Well she went not and continued with medical science methods. One day I did dreamt that she died. I narrated it to her and she did reply “if I die, I die”. Oh did I fail to tell you she was Born Again
 I remember the last vacation I took to spend a week with her at home. We had fun of some sort. She loaded my head with advice. She had the habit of writing letters of advice to me at important events in my life, the way her dad did to her too! I have carefully preserved the one she wrote me on my graduation from University. I laminated it and I re-read it sometimes. Back to that vacation, her mum was with her (actually she stayed with her till her last breathe, through admissions and all. She had to be forcefully prevented from catering and partaking in the funeral), we shared meals, jokes(she loved to tease me and I didn’t like it much).

She would call me “dotty” like making it sound like she was saying something was dirty in pidgin English while insisting she was trying to coin it from “sonny” which is a pet name for a son. Then when I play scrabble with an elderly neighbor of hers and I get defeated, she would laugh at me unending. I don’t like being laughed at! I REPEAT, I DON’T LIKE BEING LAUGHED AT!

 I was back to my station many weeks later when mum calls and says to me “I was sick since you didn’t check on me”. I didn’t realize she had broken down again and I had been so wrapped up in my separation from Uncle Ex that I kept to myself. A few weeks later I was called that she was re admitted. I travelled to be with her, oh I do remember the day I travelled was the same day the court clerk and I served Uncle Ex divorce papers in his office.
 She was in the ICU, diagnosed with kidney failure, a dialysis was planned.
 She was asleep when I came in, on seeing me, her face lit up(she always had the biggest smiles) then she quickly says “ let’s make up” and me I still had the mouth to be making long speeches and saying “I never had anything against you, I just didn’t like the way you shout”. Haha. Ain’t I a clown? She then shows concern about my marital challenge wondering why Uncle Ex wouldn’t tow the Christian way of reconciliation. I assured her that I was fine.


A Dialysis
Dialysis was scheduled for a few days later. I was gainfully employed then but not my brother. When mum heard the dialysis cost, she tried to persuade us not to go ahead with it. Well I assured her that she was more Important to us than money!
 She was put to sleep to have the dialysis done. After it, she was released to us still asleep. We returned to the hospital we were using but she didn’t seem to wake up after a considerable long time and we became scared. Eventually she did wake up but she woke up exhibiting traits that she didn’t manifest before the dialysis and she couldn’t talk to explain how she felt, she could nod though.
 She was later moved to a more comfortable ward and put on oxygen. I spent the night sleeping by her bedside. She would wake up and be concerned about me. 
 I had to return to work soon. She had one more dialysis before I left. I remember telling her goodbye with a hug, promising to return in a week time.
That was the last time I saw her alive as I received a call few days later to learn that she had died.

 I left work instantly, texted Uncle Ex who had been avoiding me for months, he took me to the motor park and I do remember that was the last time I shared a hug with him. Even his parents who had been mean to me, called to express their condolences.
 The funeral was a quiet one, a Will was in place, everything sorted out, services and food then after everyone had gone, the reality of the quietness dawned on me.
 Good bye mother. I will forever miss you. 
 No advise for today. Let me cry today. Cry alone.

dipseacon:
Sir Chigo in Michael Okpara University of Agriculture, Umudike. Continue o, na CNN undercover dem go send for you.

ArmaniUhuru:
Baba no need to leave jare, Barcelona is the best club in the world.

Blackivy27:
. just feel like booking this space. I have commented on another thread that didnt get to fp .

ELVISHOT:
Pastor and masquerade go toe-to-toe while 'evangelizing' in market place in Lagos.

A pastor and a masquerade amused traders and shoppers when they went toe-to-toe while evangelizing to traders in a market place.

In the hilarious video shared online, the masquerade is seen mimicking the pastor's every move as the traders and shoppers laughed in amusement.

This is really serious, drama everywhere in this country. Watch the hilarious video below,

https://www.instagram.com/p/B3Ean3oALcF/


Source: https://www.thenaijafame.com.ng/2019/10/pastor-and-masquerade-go-toe-to-toe.html?m=1

sinaj:
Just wondering if he will get old or remain young since he is uconscious

Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.

TheAngry1:
The cure for sex addiction is more sex!
Just keep fuuckking, after a while, your prick no go stand again.
Problem solved...

TheAngry1:
The cure for sex addiction is more sex!
Just keep fuuckking, after a while, your prick no go stand again.
Problem solved...

Ochason:
I will share mine first.

I was in a church and there was this girl that has cancer of the blood. Every 6 months she normally undergoes blood transfusion.

So on this faithful day, a friend of hers invited her to their church she reluctantly went with her and as service was going on, the pastor made a statement that every problem in your blood is healed in the name of Jesus Christ and in her heart she said amen. She was also planning to go for another blood transfusion the next day and this costs the family #1.6m. When she went back again, the doctor told her that there is nothing wrong with her blood that she is perfectly OK. Neither her friend nor the pastor is aware of her problem but God was.

You can also share yours too. I will still share more even my supernatural encounters.

Donshaga:
Most guys don't know how to text girls and spark attraction.

If you're you're among those guys that don't know how to woo women when texting her on WhatsApp or Facebook.

Don't worry man because in this post you'll learn the Top Best Ways to Text Women That Get Her To Like You & What To Text Her In Certain Situation.
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WARNING: This informative post is quite long and not for lazy readers , if you're that type then leave this post now
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Alright... let's roll..

#1 Blame Her For Trying To Seduce You:-

This is an extremely powerful method of texting girls because this buy into that frame of mind and conditions her to start pursuing and chasing you.

Use this technique throughout all of your interactions (including face-to-face) and watch the attraction skyrocket.

Example:
HER:"Guess What!"
YOU: "You want to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me ? You're so naughty :p


HER: “How are you?”
YOU: “what in bed?….jeez you’re too forward! :p”
HER “haha that’s not what I meant!”
YOU: “yeah right...you're so bad”

HER: “Guess What!”
YOU: “Let me guess....you want to grab a drink and get me drunk so you can take advantage of me? You are so bad!!

HER: "Ok , good night, I'm going to bed now"
YOU: "Hey, slow down girl..we just met I can't go to bed with you yet"

#2:Cocky & Funny:-

Women know that cocky guys are usually confident guys. However, cockiness alone can appear rude and arrogant, and most women don’t want to date that type of guy.

Try to mix cockiness with a touch of humor as this is very effective, and will set you apart from the average (needy) guys who try to seek her approval. It also jokingly sets the framework that she is chasing you, which baits her to play along and agree to that role.

YOU : Stop it ..*smiles*
HER: Stop what ?
YOU : "Thinking about me.. you'll get to see me again soon enough"

YOU : "Congratulations!"
HER : "for what?"
YOU : I was just thinking of you . Congratulations

YOU : So are you in love with me yet ?
HER : lol..no we've just met.
YOU: LOL.. You're really good at playing this hard-to-get thing, but just give it a few more days.*smiles*

#3 Bait & Switch
You essentially bait her into thinking that you are saying one thing — like being totally overly into her — and then switch to something else — like teasing her or being cocky.
It's like lowering her attraction for a moment so that you can increase it even higher

Example:
YOU:“I can't stop thinking about...........*smiles*”
HER: “me? ”
YOU: “No. Lollipops. Why would I be thinking about you? jk :p

•I know it’s wrong, I know it’s too early and I know I’m probably being desperate, but I really have to tell you this, I can’t hold it back any longer. You’ll probably think I’m insane, that I'm going too far, and you might even despise me a little for saying this, but please understand that I’m only doing it because I think it’s right, because I can’t hold back my true feelings any longer….I think Tiwa Savage is really really hot."
Note: This works great especially if she’s told you who her female crush is . Just replace, “Tiwa Savage” with the name of her female crush.

#4 Interesting Questions;
•If you knew you had a week to live what would you do?” “
•Would you rather have a guy who is a great kisser or a great dancer?”

•“Would you rather have a guy that is an amazing lover or has a lot of money?


#5 After You Have Slept With Her
YOU: “Stop...
HER: “What ?”
YOU: “....distracting me....I keep thinking about last night. Bad girl

•YOU: “I can't believe...”
HER: “What?”
YOU: “How incredibly sexy you were last night ”“


#6After You Got Her Phone Number During The Day;

The first text you send a woman after you get her number should never be boring or generic. It should be fun and interesting, string up emotions inside of her and baiting her to reply back.

“Hey, it's John nice meeting you today!” is an awful first text and is what most guys send. If you can, include a playful nickname that uses callback humor — recalling something funny from when you met her
Hey [Nickname] + crazy/random/cool/fun meeting you just now.... + [Bait Question/Statement] + [Your Name]

Example:-
YOU: “Hey Talented Tanya so crazy meeting you just now....do you always do that to guys you just meet? -[your name]
(Note: This will drive her crazy wondering what she did to you)
HER: “Haha do what?”
YOU: “Totally distract guys when they’re innocently minding their own business lol.

•: “So cool meeting you just now....are you always so friendly? -[your name]

#7 RESPONDING TO TESTS
Examples of tests from women via text are, “I have a bf,” “I want you to take me to dinner,” “I don't sleep with guys on the first date,” “I'm not that kind of girl,” “can I bring a friend?” or she may just not respond at all.
Here are some examples of how to respond to a test to show that you are unaffected;

HER: “I don't know If I should hang out with you ”
YOU: “Hmm and here I thought you said you're the fun-loving, adventurous, live-by-your-own-rules kind of girl. You're making me wonder now.”
HER: “I am that kind of girl….you just seem like a bad boy ”
YOU: “Ok prove it.....when are you free next week ?

•Do you text all guys like this....or just guys you are attracted too?”
•Well your still my favorite little brat……well your at least in the top 5”
•“That’s minus 2 cool points :p
• “You are too adorable….what are we gonna do with you

#7 If She Doesn't Respond Your Text

YOU: “Hey I saw a cute little cat the other day and it reminded me of you. Hope you didn't turn into a cat. If you don't reply I will assume the worst.”
HER: “haha no I've just been super busy with school”
YOU: “hmmm....well I'm going to call you in 5 minutes just to make sure this isn't the cat texting me...”
Note: Then you can just call her

•OMG did u get kidnapped into white slavery or something? Holla back

#8 :Funny Answers to Common Questions

HER: “What have you been up too?”
YOU: “Oh not much just busy fighting evil terrorists and rescuing orphans from burning buildings, you know the usual”

HER: “Who is this?”
YOU: “Your future ex-husband. You just weren't spontaneous enough for me in the bedroom -Chris

HERl: “How was your day?”
YOU: “Well, your evil step-mother had me locked up in the castle. But I broke free. Now we can live together happily ever after.


That's it guys. Now you know how to flirt over text.

Till then
-Chris

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9jayes:
MO SALAH


“The reason why I think Salah should win the award is because of the journey he has taken to achieve what he has .

“To come back to England after his disappointment with Chelsea and become the Premier League’s top scorer, as well as reach the Champions League final and lead his country to the World Cup for the first time in 28 years, is something unheard of.

“Furthermore, if FIFA were to look at the big picture and consider the hardships and culture barriers each player had to endure in the course of his career to reach this level, then Salah must win hands down.

Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

erico2k2:
How where you dressing the last time Liverpool won the EPL ? ?

Justinlean02:
I do wonder what this coach see in this player Guendouzi, wasting such talent like Torerrra... Wenger style

Kiishii:
There isnt more to it, i kept it from him before marriage that's why he's reacting this way, he said it was a risky gamble, and i have apologised multiple times.

I had triplets.

famiebee:
I can't date a student after dating for 2 years hmmmmmm that statement Still hurts till now.

chiizworld:
Prety soon u will stop calling me coz am getting married....u hav a gud heart,caring & hospitable..if Elizabeth wud have half ur care,i will b d happiest man on earth....then i asked,who ar u leaving me for?
He said im still wit u

I wept bitterly,pleaded wit him to stay ....told him he's leaving wit d best of me but he jux said to me...im not changing my mind

I hv to block him on all social media but his mobile contact can just go off my fone
I still cant wish him HML

Temptee101:
Wow, thank God for you, mine already on the way. Remain blessed

Temptee101:
Thank God for sparing his life. That would be the case of anyone here expecting an urgent miracle in his/her life and family

AMEN

MartinCorridon:
Death can strike anywhere...anytime.

He died in Church. Good for him. Some have died in brothels

Where will you and i (the reader) die?

Diamond360:
24 looking like 35