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Family / Re: I Want To Cancel The Marriage Plans. Is It Worth It? by FanRong: 2:16pm On Dec 31, 2023 |
Badgers14:Thanks for your advice. She checks most of my boxes and that's why I'm so disturbed. |
Romance / I Want To Cancel The Marriage Plans. What Do You Think? by FanRong: 12:34am On Dec 30, 2023 |
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly. My story We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months. On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth. Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage) After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok. Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on. She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes. I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers. A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved. Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home. 1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy. 2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand. 3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears. When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals. 4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her. While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house. 5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex. Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me. We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways. After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys. At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone. I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved. The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife. We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace. Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil. I need mature and candid advice please. Should I continue with the marriage plans or the red flags are obvious? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Family / I Want To Cancel The Marriage Plans. Is It Worth It? by FanRong: 12:21am On Dec 30, 2023 |
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly. My story We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months. On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth. Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage) After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok. Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on. She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes. I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers. A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved. Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home. 1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy. 2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand. 3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears. When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals. 4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her. While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house. 5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex. Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me. We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways. After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys. At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone. I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved. The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife. We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace. Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil. I need mature and candid advice please. Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious? 49 Likes 1 Share |
Travel / Re: Flood Kills Mother Of Five In Anambra (Disturbing Photo) by FanRong: 10:20pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Skiborobo:I opened to check this kind of comment and u didn't disappoint. Not even a respect for the dead. 1 Like |
Programming / Re: Sam Altman Visits Nigeria On AI Tour by FanRong: 9:59am On May 20, 2023 |
foolbuster:We heard that when GSM came to Nigeria. 1 Like 1 Share |
Food / Re: 20 Things About Hilda And Her Guinness World Record Marathon Cooking Attempt by FanRong: 5:02pm On May 14, 2023 |
Odogwuzack:Your hatred is spicy. I pity your heart 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Governor Sanwo-Olu Meets Hilda Baci (Photos) by FanRong: 4:53pm On May 14, 2023 |
seunmsg:Your hatred is spicy. I pity your heart. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: A Chat That Caused Mixed Reactions Between Men & Women Online by FanRong: 8:55am On Apr 27, 2023 |
OvertheTop:She's a local Olosho. I played along that i already sent it till she got tired. I later used the 3k same evening to chop peppersoup and 2 beer. There's no free money anywhere. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: A Chat That Caused Mixed Reactions Between Men & Women Online by FanRong: 6:59pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
I came late. I have one here. Its everywhere. Once you tell a girl that you like her, you're owing her money but u don't know. 4 Likes
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Romance / Re: Foreign Lady Gives Her Fellow Ladies 5 Tips On Marrying A Nigerian Man (Video by FanRong: 6:52pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Zonefree: Not all Nigerian men. Attach Southern Nigeria for clarity sake. |
Politics / Evacuating Nigerians From Sudan by FanRong: 5:02pm On Apr 24, 2023 |
Allen Onyema is from Ihiala in Anambra state which means he is an Igbo man and by extension an IPOB man. Adam Garba and Bashir Ahmed, an SA to Buhari, led a Northern attack against Peter Obi and his Igbo brothers on Twitter. They vowed that the Igbos will never rule Nigeria cos they are IPOB people. Please they should educate their people caught in the Sudan war never to enter the plane because Air Peace is an IPOB plane 😁😁😁 What's your thought?
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Sports / Re: Saida Mouh: I’m Unaware’, Hakimi’s Mother Reacts To Son’s Fortune In Her Name by FanRong: 10:34pm On Apr 20, 2023 |
ivolt:this your comment is a well taught out material for the TRASH can. |
Sports / Re: Saida Mouh: I’m Unaware’, Hakimi’s Mother Reacts To Son’s Fortune In Her Name by FanRong: 9:57pm On Apr 20, 2023 |
ivolt:Can you post the court papers showing where the 50% wasn't stated? |
Sports / Re: Saida Mouh: I’m Unaware’, Hakimi’s Mother Reacts To Son’s Fortune In Her Name by FanRong: 2:45pm On Apr 20, 2023 |
How a wife filed for divorce, requesting for 50% wealth, in a 3 year marriage makes me understand why serpent met the woman instead of the man. She actually don't have comprehension sense. 543 Likes 38 Shares |
Business / Re: Fire Guts Olowu Spare Parts Market In Lagos by FanRong: 7:14pm On Mar 30, 2023 |
Davido confirms he's married to Chioma. The rich Yorubas are busy marrying Igbo women and embracing Igbos with business and so many other good things, while the poor ones are busy shouting go back to your state. And you wonder why they remain desolate , this is the answer... |
Romance / Re: Are You In Relationship For Sex Or To Build by FanRong: 12:21pm On Mar 27, 2023 |
Wordsfrombimpe:Are you kidneying me? |
Romance / Re: Are You In Relationship For Sex Or To Build by FanRong: 8:24pm On Mar 26, 2023 |
Omo, mine is for build. I'm building skyscraper like this. I should be in thirty something floor now. Finally na for the pent house i go live. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Crime / Re: Any Person Who Unlawfully Kills An Animal Is Liable To Imprisonment- SP Hundeyin by FanRong: 6:27pm On Mar 25, 2023 |
Omoawoke:If not that this is nairaland , i for call you Afornja. |
Crime / Re: Any Person Who Unlawfully Kills An Animal Is Liable To Imprisonment- SP Hundeyin by FanRong: 6:25pm On Mar 25, 2023 |
Thats to say those guys working in Abbatoir that kills cows has reserved life imprisonment for their tenth generation. Omo! 1 Like |
Business / Re: Disturbing Pictures From Nigeria Commercial Bank Halls (photos) by FanRong: 7:50pm On Mar 24, 2023 |
lhordspy:Campaign after election. What's your purpose, if i may ask? |
Sports / Re: Lionel Messi Scores 800th Career Goal In Argentina Win Over Panama by FanRong: 12:33pm On Mar 24, 2023 |
Georgejeez:Small fight, you carry granade 25 Likes 2 Shares |
Sports / Re: Lionel Messi Scores 800th Career Goal In Argentina Win Over Panama by FanRong: 12:32pm On Mar 24, 2023 |
G O A T 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: No Clandestine Meeting Between CJN Ariwoola & President-Elect Tinubu - Onanuga by FanRong: 10:57am On Mar 24, 2023 |
yarimo:Stealing the village drum is easy but finding a place to beat it quietly is the problem. ~ African proverb I would have called you Arfonja but I won't. Continue. Another person will. Not me |
Politics / Re: BREAKING: Peter Obi Dumps Christianity For Islam (picture) by FanRong: 11:49am On Mar 21, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: Fintiri Defeats Binani In Adamawa Governorship Election by FanRong: 10:17pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: How Many Labour Party Governors Do We Have Now In Nigeria? by FanRong: 9:48pm On Mar 20, 2023 |
Why is noone celebrating the results so far? 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Update On Kaduna State Governorship Results (2023) by FanRong: 11:19am On Mar 20, 2023 |
burp18: 3 Likes
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Politics / Re: Death Threats Won’t Deter Me - REC, Olusegun Agbaje Warns Politicians by FanRong: 11:16am On Mar 20, 2023 |
Babaibe:Na you go decentralize, na you go still cry. Erudite Skulla. See image below
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Politics / Re: Final Results Of 2023 Governorship Elections So Far Across States by FanRong: 11:15am On Mar 20, 2023 |
SkrewYou:There's a moderator that's bent on deleting comments that speaks the truth. See this one below. On the Lagos Guber Election,The so called moderator deleted a post like this on pretense that its spamming the forum. That mod must be an Erudite Skulla. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Death Threats Won’t Deter Me - REC, Olusegun Agbaje Warns Politicians by FanRong: 11:00am On Mar 20, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: Death Threats Won’t Deter Me - REC, Olusegun Agbaje Warns Politicians by FanRong: 10:58am On Mar 20, 2023 |
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Politics / Re: Death Threats Won’t Deter Me - REC, Olusegun Agbaje Warns Politicians by FanRong: 8:49am On Mar 20, 2023 |
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