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@ Poster
Good observation.

@debrief
Nice advise! May God bless your marriage. Keep it up!

@ Smartrizz
I understand your need for the kiss, hug and so on but the best choice is to keep off them or you tempt your man again. Thank God you have a good man and I pray your wedding comes up fast.
All the best.

Thank you my people, @FERYA, where you leave us go?

My teacher, I dey look for money for my own house oh! Were you see money? (frowns) It is well

Any class today

Well done Spyder! You won't fall from the building, Chineke ekwela. Say tufiakwa my brother

I SAY A BIG AMEN OH!

You are doing a great work here . . . Keep it up
I was looking forward to nominating you as the property man of the year, but no thread for it

Lol! I support oh! Oga Fhemmmy it is not yet late oh! we can open one ASAP  

^^^ honestly I was looking out for such thread, but I would have voted Am Alone as man of the year, for his class and taste!

Haha! You are correct while I vote Fhemmmy as the best student in property section.

Oga Spyder, well done!!! good job!!

Thank you so much everyone. I have prayed abt it n even use my money to buy herbs(dat is if it's pile) but it still not working.
pls keep d advise coming

@ Poster,
Due to fact that you are worried and looking for solution to your hubby's problem do not get him herbs to take, it may cause more harm than good always consult a good doctor first.  I have this feelings that your husband is looking for solution alone and shying away from informing you just to guide his ego forgotting that both of you are one. He maybe feeling that he will lose you to another man having in mind several guys asking you out in his presence this may be affecting him psychologically.

Reassure him of your unconditional love it may help him open up to you since you said you love him.  If I may ask what are your plans of getting a job or starting a trade? This gives you time to focus on something else than reading meanings to everything he does and equally helps you contribute in the family.  Never think of cheating it is a sin against God and man no matter who does it. If you feel it is more than you can handle tell your mother-in-law to help you talk to him.

Remember marriage is never a bed of roses. No marriage is without a problem but how you handle yours makes the difference. Build your marriage on prayers it pays and stop thinking that the grass is greener on the other side remember it will be mowed.     Goodluck

@ Poster
If you can try this out too, it really worked for me  
1 . Exercise.
2. I removed anything with sugar and artificial sugar expect natural ones in fruits or food from my diet. So I don't take cola, juice, sweets etc.
3. I stopped using milk, cheeses or any diary product.
4. I take lots of vegetables and fruits everyday.
5. I only drink tea bags and water .
6. I still eat my semovita with any soup but in small quantity.  Please, do not starve yourself just take your time. Also, do not expect to see result imimmediately. Goodluck.

^^^^^^ lol! May be I need eye glasses. I will check again
Teacher, update on total money spent,

Completed, finished, finito

@ Spyder Great! Great!! Great!!!
Neat Work , Nice pictures but I never see my drink for holding rain for two days oh !

^^^^ Well done oh! Thank God too

She's really gorgeous,an epitome of beauty(not cos she's my wife,just a fact) but all my feelings towards her just disappear to thin air. I want to love her but,

But WHAT 

this is a generational curse.

you need to call on Jesus.

You cannot kill me hahahahhaa!   Wahala ! Please, who married her for you? Your father or kinsmen?
After, three kids ! Marriage is for better for worse please, marry her.

@ Spyder

How work? Waiting for picturessssssss

Lord Spyder880, the Lord is your strength, the wheather will be sunny today so that u can complete the decking.

AMENNNNNNNNNNNNN

I miss Abacha, Ugba, fio fio and with correct palm wine to wash it down

@ Poster You can check this thread, the link below
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-11383.96.html

I must use this opportunity to give special thanks to my client and the owner of this house, he has been very supportive both the time he was outside of the country and now he is back, he has been attending to all our concerns, feeding my boys, asking us where he can assist and even helping out with some works in the site on more than 2 occasions.

I must also thank him for the engineering tools which he bought for me while overseas and have handed over to me, measurement tools that can help my work and improve my services. The Spyder team says a big "THANK YOU"

@ Spyder

It pays to be dedicated and honest. Thank God your client appreciated the good work you did for him while he was away. Nawa! teacher, maybe by the time you complete that house he may give you a land in that village oh! If you relocate please, remember your students oh! Keep up the good work and may God bless your client too

Seeing this kinda stuff makes me to hate our leader with such anger . . .

So painful Yet nothing Good comes from that luck

^^^ I am so sure the guy is glad he gave his project to a great man . . . keep up the good work.

YES OH!

we offloaded rods, the owner of the house is back and is happy with the work, come see where my guy dey help workers carry rods and offload materials! House dey sweet o!

@ spyder
E sweet well,  well. Even ask we dey watch picture, dey follow you dey go,  E sweet us too  Bravo!!  on the work well done. We are waiting for the picture 

Hey freecocoa! just wanna get the bolded clear, do u mean your mum frowned at u girls sleeping with Bras and pants on or not sleeping with Bras and pants on? I grew up in all boys house, lost mum as a kid and we were raised by Dad only. So stuffs like this is interesting to me, how would mum attend to issues up to whether the ladies are going to bed with or without bra? does it matter at all? Home trainings dey Naija ooo, but hey the question? Clarify pls!

Yeah she didn't allow us sleep with bras and panties on instead she buys us shorts which we wear under our nighty,she said sleeping with undies especially tight ones don't allow blood flow properly,she would walk into our room and touch our backs,if she notices the bra on,she'll draw the elastic( with force) on that side of the hook and leave it to sting you then you'll know its her,up till her death(last year) she made sure we all took our bathe and brush before turning in anytime we are home,whenever she starts asking“have you brushed your teeth this night?"My elder sis who is 24 gets angry and tells her "this woman when will you realize am not a baby anymore?"She just says"as long as I'm alive you are a kid and my baby too" We miss her so much cos she was all you could ask for in a mother(mind you if she discipline you eh, you go believe)now that she is gone my Dad sef dey wan do those things she used to do but I find it funny and lovely when he opens the door to my room and says"I hope you don't plan on sleeping in those clothes o,better wear something lighter,you know your mum won't let you wear that to bed"it just melts my heart.

Hahaha! My mother said and did that too. For my brothers she made sure they had their pants on. Very funny!
@ Freecocoa May your mums gentle soul rest in peace.

^^ What! Hundred wishes
Jamb can never give you such opportunity dear but we don't mind on nairaland. So ride on

Lol Ferya I don't see it as suffering oh! I use dat term very loosely. I enjoy doing these things for my husband, I can't be as tough as his mom oh, his mom didn't have a choice than to be tough, 5 boys plus her husband 6 would have run her mad. But no matter how tough she was on her boys she practically worshiped her husband, I remember one day I went to the house he had just finished eating and I wanted to clear the plates my father in law told me abeg oh leave the plates oh except you want to quarel with Mama. As for my husband, I don carry am with love. If am not home I miss doing all these small issues for him.

Thats it girl! Keep it going

That's why I love it when my mother in law visits, all of a sudden this scattered man transforms into an organised man even doing laundry and helping out in the kitchen, ha like majic, his mom will tell me na me dey leave am, lol, she raised 5 boys and she is tougher than an Army General, my hubby and his brothers are all above 6 feet but the way they dey fear the 5 ft woman ehnn, no be small thing.
How many women dey suffer like me oh?

You made me laugh very hard oh God ,
If he can be so organised when his mother comes, is he doing it on purpose, to punish you or what? See wahala! Please, ask him why he changes automatically when his mum comes. And what is his response when your mother- in-law boosts of being tough?
Please, try not to see it as suffer oh! if not you may end up losing your mind one day. It is better to have a loving man that disorganise the house than a lazy and unfaithful husband. Take it as a small cross you have to carry till the issue is resolved peacefully between the two of you.

The key lesson is to start with the little you have, don't wait a day, buy that plot in the bush instead of waiting to get more money to come to a better location, start with baby steps, you will be surprised at what you get in return

Good advise Teacher.
This means take a step at a time. Rome was not built in a day

@ Femmy
That is the greatest  

Pls, keep them coming. I believe we can make amends, learn and focus well from beautiful wishes coming from good minds like yours.

@ Sasi
I really love your wishes and the third lol! Is very very important

^^^^^^^^^ I wish you luck

My fellow Niralanders! If you are asked to make three wishes, what would it be?

My first wish- Peace in families.

Second wish- That God should favour all women battling with problems of infertility by blessing them with children.

Third wish - That God should never allow any family lack monetary.
May God grant all our wishes Amen!

Find out her reason/s for wanting to stay, then advice her to temporarily forget about furthering her education for now and persuade her husband to set up a business for her so that she would not have to keep going to ask him for every kobo for food, nappies and sanitary towels.

Good advice

^^^Life is good, I love this bathroom
@ toybum are you planning to have that in your house? hahah! Your visitors or in-laws will not go again oh!

@ poster

It is so painful you went through all this in the past. I want to ask have you informed your God of this whole situation?The doctor did not say you cannot give birth but that the chances are slim. This basically is his opinion and not God's. I will suggest you look into some of the points below:

1. It depends on who you love, is it the new guy or your former EX? If you love this new guy and he loves you tell him your story before marrying him, if he really loves you he will cherish you and endure with you when his family come to eat you up in case you did not take in on time. Remember if you hold on to the truth now your Ex can make your marriage miserable by telling him anything in future to frustrate you too for refusing to marry him.  

2. When you inform this new guy it helps you relax in your marriage and limits chances of divorce or heartbreak in future.

3. Please, go to a very good hospital and see another doctor for futher treatment.  

4. Inform your parents on the situation of things they need to know what you have gotten yourself into and they can guide you in decision making.  

5.  Please, pray seriously before going into any marriage. And always remember you have a womb and can give birth.  Nothing is impossible with God. Good luck!