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I was in my house earlier today, my workers have topped some blocks on the lintel beams and we now have some rooms ready for roofing.

@ Spyder Congratulations you finally made it too. Your house looks good

@ Chaircover

Well done oh! You have nice house and it was well built too. Wow! you guys have packed in already? It is our prayers to be landlord one day.

Nice job Spyder! Loving the pictures

this site looks like my maternal grandmother cocoyam farm in Uli, ihiala LGA Anambra State. If na the place, I am rushing home with my cutlass

LOL! I still dey laugh

During the stay of my girlfriend staying i got her impregnated and we have to go her parents for introduction which we did last year.

Please, I want to ask, Is Introduction not Traditional marriage? From the quote above I think the poster is married to the lady when they found out she was pregnant. Traditional marriage is recognised as marriage in Africa which means that there is no room for leaving or fighting to stay with the in-laws in this situation.

I have missed a lot oh . . . .Now i have gone through all i missed, thanks for the teaching

No assigmnents yet, teacher was waiting for you. Welcome back!

@ Poster

I praise you for bringing your family, wife and yourself to the level you are now. Only determined man/woman can survive in your kind of situation. BTW nothing is as painful as crisis in the home but there is still hope. I will advise you to do the following:

1.  Talk seriously to your parents in privacy: Tell them how much you have worked hard to make them happy and will still do. You need to tell them that you can never get back on your feet if they fight the only joy in your life (wife).  Inform, them that they need to be praying for the family and not cause pain to your wife that did nothing to them.

2.  Talk with your wife also in the room privately: Praise her for supporting you in good times and ask her to be patient with you about your parents till you get a place for them to stay.    

3. Have a family meeting with the 3 of them and emphasis on peace in your house . As your father to call your mum to order.

4. Talk with your wife on the need for her to be busy with any trade you can afford to start for her. She can contribute to the family.
 
Finally, you need to start thinking seriously about moving your parents to were they lived before coming to your house? If your mummy continues abusing your wife and making life unbearable for the family.You do not please others and displease yourself. YOU NEED TO BE A MAN, YOUR PARENTS WILL NOT DIE IF THEY MOVE OUT. It will even help you concentrate in your business and make more money.
Please, never join your parents to believe that your wife pulled you down. Marriages is never a bed of roses, there are ups and downs and none is for ever. Introduce prayers in your house and God will help you. Goodluck!

I can't say if they are security Doors but they are Doors lol!

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Oga Spyder, permit me to post some pictures I got. I want to contribute my own in this thread.

^^^^Maybe, he has made enough money for the year. You know business is good.
I take God beg you take him but warn him before hand not to move your goalpost again oh! .

@SPYDER

Your carpenter did a good job. His job is so neat maybe he forgot that you will remove the wood after. lol

Welldone!

^^ Thank you Sir!
Oga Fhemmmy no class oh! Will be back tomorrow.

@ Spyder

No class today??
Updates please!!!

Nawa! some have graduated already from Executive class to Royal class and I still dey watch  I can't wait to graduate too 

@ Teacher Spyder

I must congratulate you on the good job you are doing and I pray you cover more States by the end of this year. May God bless you & your family. Did I hear Amennnnnnnnn? Carry go!  I am loyal

Oh! good Spyder, am waiting

@ blink182 Nice gate, I like it.
@ Spyder That Anambra gate is cool and not so expensive.

Good Job! Nice Pictures

^^^ Thanks for the update. Well done sir

@Oga Fhemmmy, U sabi push sha, U've pushed spyder, he in turn pushed his carpenter(s) and now they are sick, LOL
Well Oga Spyder, Well done jare, u dey try, just keep the good working coming (but dey rest too) meanwhile like fhemmy talk, pictures speaks volume, We dey wait becos for this very class some of us wan graduate with Distinction (First Class), as our universities no dey give am for free,

@All, good work and Happy Sunday.


Lol . . .u too dey use style push oh . . . yeye man

Nawaa, for Fhemmy & hexcraft make una no push teacher! or you will fail
@ Spyder welldone oh! How work today?

Looking really good! Well done my teacher

Finally,oga Spyder work is going Good job

Pls i need matured advise on this issue. it is a personal issue as its concerning me.
Today I've decided to get divorced from my husband of 7yrs. We've had series of heated arguements that ended with that resolve. we live in the UK. I am the primary breadwinner as i've worked hard 2 keep the family (myself, hubby n child) together. I'd love to have more kids but my salary is barely enough to sustain us so no space for a 2nd child.
My concerns are how my child will fare when he's with his dad as his dad hasnt worked in the past 3 years and collectively hasnt held a job for upto 8month during the period of our marriage.  I dont want my child to suffer whilst he's with his dad as we've discussed shared custody. However i do not want to carry on funding an "expected acceptable" lifestyle.
My hubby is very good with out child. very doting and loving father (physically) but not practically.
I'm willing to try it out as a single working mother in the UK and if that doesnt work out, i'll return to Nigeria.
How easy is it to cope as a single working mother in the UK or in Nigeria? Has any of you experienced it? know someone going through something similar? Are you okay in sharing experiences or advise to me on what to do, what to expect et al.

@ poster

1. It looks like you two have made up your minds to divorce having discussed how to share custody? Which means you do not need advise on how to live as a family?
2. You said your husband is very good and a loving father but not practically. How? Is it because he has no money to contribute?
It depends on what you want in life wheather married or single mums nothing is easy but one is more honourable in Africa.  Encourage your husband to get a job. Tell him your worries and work things out.

@ Poster

Have you tried to findout why she suddenly changed? Is it as a result of the church she joined? If it is maybe you should follow her to that church and see for yourself. Even book an appointment to talk to her pastor before informing your in-laws.
The reason you should take this steps seriously is because your kids are watching and learning. This is never a good way to train kids as they may learn to hate one parent. I also suggest you date your wife all over again try to win her heart by all means or you lose her to that church. When at home help out with the kids. Please, move back to your matrimonial bed it makes it easy to make love with her and chat with her. Try to be the man by not arguing with her. Please, quietly remind her she will be judged by God if she goes to heaven without her family members the same applies to you. Tell her how much you love her and the kids and so on.   Finally, introduce night or morning prayers as a family even without her ask your kids to pray for you guys. A family that's prays together stays together.  
Treat her like a Queen then she will look up to you as the King with time  

Oh! I like that gate
Good Job! Spyder

@ kkonsults, great design. Keep it up!

Nice one . . . where is my own Isiewu for the baby dedication now?

@ spyder

Isiewu is too big for me, I only need the Ukwu ewu,
My regards to the family.

^^Eêeeyaaaaaaaa! It is well.
I will come to class on Monday.
Thanks for the update oh! .

@ Spyder

How work today? Any picture updatessssssssssss for us

^^^^ Yes oh!
Come to class everybody oh!

@mama gee

I think the wedding is supposed to be in two weeks time 27Th of August.
I hope she sticks to her word