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I have never cheated before. Think is absolutley wrong.

But I was cheated on. We were supposed to chill out for a couple of days but whenever I called him he wouldnt pick my call or cut it off quickly and when I messaged him on whasapp he would read it but not reply.

But you know how God works, coz I am a good and honest person, God made his ex who he said was his ex and a psycho call me and tell me to leave her man alone.

Na that day I know say, I must never fall in love easily with any man and even if my heart is falling for him, I must keep my other half open for any nonsense like the above. Plus my dad has shown me pepper when he cheated on my mum for 20 years so I know that its rare to find good men out there.

I am in a relationship now but still, my heart is not fully in it coz I am a very innocent girl whose eyes got opened long time ago and never again will that happen to me.

I actually wish I was single again.

Miss doing things on my own without waiting for someone, not chasing someone or better sleep not having to be in a relationship.

Being in a relationship is too much work.

rittyray:
His has been asking an begging me too visit him, but I didn't just feel comfortable going to his place, I like him but don't want too vist him.He buys me gifts an even bought me a phone, I accept the gift with smiling face...
Not untill he started chatting dirty with me, he even sent me a picture of his casava saying that I should imagin it inside of me...I wasn't scare or angry. With him because I did like what I saw but still said NO. He still buys me gifts take me out an I knew he wants too have me so badly because no ordinary guy would be decorating a girl with gifts when you know you can't have her.
I was invited to a friends bithday party an on getting there I saw him...he was handsome even more than ever...
But I preten not to see him or even notice him, till around 1am in the morning an my phone was death, so I went up to him asking if his going to ON his Gen for me too charge my phone an he said ok so my friend an I followed him too his place...I was feeling heat an my friend has slept off, so I ask him where the shower was an he directed me..I was in the bathing room for an hour because I thought his going to come in but he didn't so after taking my bath I come out with towel wrap round me... An when he saw me...he was like your beautiful an I said thanks an I went to the next room where my cloths were. I drop the towel so I could wear my pant when I felt a strong hand wrap round me an I turn an he kiss me deeply, I knew I will be able to Restand him bu the way he kissed me, so I didn't try stoping him so I free him... Just to notice him shaking on top of me like a chicken whose head has been cut off...an I just knew his just a man that can talk a lot but physically dosnt know what to do...
So guys abeg why ona too dey make mouth
Especially about sex..?

This is really funny.

Make I laugh small

Sometimes handsome guys are generally not good I heard.

daviesblaze:

Loool why u dey cry na?

On your other comment, Noted

HMMMMM this is why sex is a no no for me. The woman is now going to have an STD or might now be pregnant.

I call it rape because they both agreed to use protection and he out of selfishness decided to remove it so that is rape even though they both consented on a different note.

Justdulla:
hahahah you know owning a beards comes with responsibilities. Am sure he stole from yah to take care of the beards.
Not all beardies steal,an they cute and responsible
Don't shy away from the beards,they are the real men

Loool. I do have to admit, guys with beards are kinda hot.

Ahhhh weellll the next time I see him again anywhere in the world, I would disgrace him onbehalf of my work colleagues who he stole from and myself.

daviesblaze:
then go and date no more

Loool. Thanks Bross. Although my bf doesnt have a beard but if he did grow his, I wouldnt mind.

gerald2017:
Your explanation does not explain why most of these your ''HOLY" colleagues do worst thing when they are out of Public glare..e'g During my NYSC days many single and married corpers were caught in the bush with different guys...They ate sex like sweet to the shock of many guys...

Yes I know some of these "HOLY" people cheat on their spouses. Sadly more and more people are doing this.

Sigh.......

Justdulla:
he doesn't deserve that beards
Naija beaards are the best,try 1

Loool. I am so scared of guys with beards now. Any guy that approches me that has a beard and asks me out scares me because of my ex. I keep on thinking they are thieves.

Splinz:
So you were dating 'Anini' all those while

Yep. I was dating a theif who borrowed money from all my work colleagues and never gave them the money back inluding from his own GF.

He was Jamaican so I guess its in their nature to show off and borrow money. That guys bragged about everything and made himself look like a millionaire when he actually borrowed money to look like that. Even his own best friend would call to ask for him saying he borrowed hima huge some of money.

When you meet him you would think he was a nice guy and very friendly but noooo, he is a thief.

daviesblaze:
but he was the best thing that ever happened to you right?

I hate to admit it yes coz I felt for his lies but yes he was good.

My ex had a beard but he was okay but a big time liar and thief so I would have to disagree that they make better boyfriend. In fact he was good at lying a lot about everything.

So I dont know about that.

Jay542:
But would you be comfortable the other way round? Sincerely, most of the girls I know won't.

Hmmm me I let my man see my phone all the time on all my devices but when I ask him for his phone he behaves strangely maybe I need to start panicking too.

Guys get angry when you don't give them your phone but when you ask them for theirs they start behaving funny.

Hmmmm. Lord deliver us from wicked people and people who are cheaters/heart breakers. There is enough of them already in this world.

Virginity is overrated. There is actually nothing intrinsically special about it. It's just one of those ideological cultural frameworks that people subscribe to without examining critically.

If the idea of keeping one's virginity till one gets married should ever be taken seriously, then it should also be emphasized in the camp of males too, and not just in the camp of females.

If anyone demands that his wife-to-be remains a virgin till they get married, a notion I find inherently silly, and a mere product of ideological indoctrination and sheepish conformity, he too has to be a virgin, and remain one till he gets married. Don't expect from someone something you can't deliver.

How I wish I can like your comment a million times.

Nairaland please give this guy 1 million likes for me.

Do you know how many times I have said this since I was 15 thats its stupid that all my uncless say they want virgins for wife that they wont marry a non-virgin and am like but you are the same ones bleeping every single girl you see in skirt so what is this?

Ummmm thats because some of us ladies are not crazy about sex and might have literally never done it before or just dont want to be seen as sexual object for your disgusting fantansies?

Maybe if men behaved like men and not think with their dicks everytime they meet a woman they like.

Every guy I meet all they want is sex this sex that. Blah Blah blah.

Sex isnt everything.

Here I am 5ft and petite and feel awkward about this convo and I dnt know why?

Bros, leave the poor girl alone.

She probably knows u only want her for sex.

Just go and look for a prostitute somewhere.

U r not serious.

Sandydayziz:
Seriously how could he av married 4 yrs ago nd she had no idea? Very serious

My sister, there are lots of people out there like that. My own papa sef was married to my mum and my godmother never knew he was married for a whole 20 years and she is muslim and has been letting my dad decieve her saying he is going to marry her. My godmother was in naija and my mum who is jamaican was in london with my dad and us.

When I say men can lie no be joke thing. Beware of men. Yes there are good and bad men and women out there but chai in my 22 years on this earth I have never known a man that cant lie or cheat.

They are everywhere ooooooo, shine ur eyes well well!!

Don't say I never warn una!!

Loool you guys have forgotten there are some women out here who know these tricks and will just be laughing at you.

And we know you think giving us Money will shut us up and listen to you but thats not always the case.

Like me for example if my bf/husband wants me to listen to him, he must first always be listening to me otherwise I am very good at blocking my ears when I dont want to listen to someone.

So you guys dey there thinking we are fools. We know all ur games.

RealityShot:
Lols..well said...

Now imagine going through 5 years in the University
With an ex in the same class!
(and the ex dumped you for your friend in same class!)

I died many times over.. But here I am today!
How?
I got a new hubby from another department

Chai!!! GBAM!!

U r one lucky girl. Serves him right. I bet ur guy is also way better than he was.

Like I cant imagine ever dating anyone in my office again. Like no way.

It would kill me.

ismart:
Did you tell him you were in a relationship when he made his intentions known and what were the signs you gave him that made him wait for that 5 months? Were you giving signs that you are considering him, like him etc? how did you exhibit this to make him still hang on?

Well from the day I met him I guess I liked him from that moment and also yes he knew I was currently seeing someone and he would even advise me to take things easy with my ex etc so it wasnt like he was trying to make me breakup with my ex but rather to put up with him. I would say around one month mark he made his intentions to me that he really cared me but knows I am still trying to sort things out with my ex and he told me he will wait and I asked him if he was sure because I am not ready for another wahala and I dont want him to be a rebound but he still waited and I told him I liked him too and he just has to give me time. My head was actually all over the place during that five months but one thing was for sure was that, I realy liked him and he became my best friend.

I would say the signs I gave was going out with him during my free time and talking him on the phone occassionally and I even went to his famiy event as well and we would hug and play around so thats enough signs to show him I genuinely liked him but wanted us to take things slowly. Plus I told him how things were with my ex at the time so he knew a lot of was going on.

So yh the key is to communicate with him so he knows I am not using him coz I dnt like that.

Think we are at the last stage.

Although my man has never farted infront of me and I dnt think I am ready for that yet.

TrapQueen77:



I tried few times.. Honestly, I hate It too.. Tho they look good on every girl's hand (when it's new) especially when there is special occasions but it's very difficult to do some chores & the worst is when ur trying to pick some tiny particles..

As much as possible no long nails for me.. Tho I wudnt mind painting my nails at least once a month

So true my sister. I see lots of ladies with really really long fake nails and I am like there is no way you can tell me you do your hair, wipe your nyash etc and chores with those nails coz even me I tried and Ohhhh lord I hated it. I cant pick up anything or even cornrow my hair. Like its so impossible. And since I am a computing engineer, just imagine me try to type on my keyboard.

All these ladies that have fake nails on IG and FB probably have them in for like a week or couple of days but dnt believe they have it for a month coz I know damn sure the nails will end up getting dirty from dirt and chores.

Now I just wait for my nails to grow and use those healthy nail varnish and paint them.

Lighthouseman:
Most times it does not work. I dated a colleague of mine only recently, but due to family pressure, I had to succumb... I told her we couldn't continue...
Now to greet me na war!

Another disadvantage is colleagues mounting pressure and others making jest of you two... Till you don't know who shows genuine concern.
Another is seeing same person everyday whether you breakup or just want a break...
Finally, it's quite regrettable

So true. I used to be one of those girls that would be like how can u date ur fellow work colleague like really but then I ended up dating one of my colleagues from february last year to october. He was a nice guy and we couldnt let anyone know we were dating as it was frowned upon but we genuinely cared for each other but during the time I was dating him, he would flirt with some of the ladies in our office when I company got bought and also I found out he had a girlfriend outside of work as well and that he was going to propose to her. U know how God works, one day we were supposed to go out coz I had taken a day off to spend with him coz I hv a busy life with school etc and I remember I called him sverally and he wouldnt pick but when I messaged him he did read it so I found it rather odd but anyways, my day was spent with a guy I met on that day who is now my current bf but lets just say my ex was still with his ex who he said was a psycho and had dumped her and also she tried calling me severally to tell me to lay off her man and that I should tell him to come and back his bags from her house that she is done with his cheating ways and i WAS SO MADDDD like u cant even imagine. Anyways the next day I saw him in the office and obvs we sit on the same row so it was easy to tell we were arguing coz even one of friends who hangs out with us knew something was up but I didnt say anything to him then the mumu sent me a letter saying I should come and say to him what I said to his ex coz I told her she can have him that I dnt dea with two time cheats and i literally slapped him while we were outside coz he was trying to cause trouble and slapped him again and again and told him never to even utter a word to me and he was there telling me he was at his ex house and he was fast asleep and she had taken his phone to check his messages and I was like why the hell would u be at ur ex house? Who does that?

Just to cut the story short, he was forced to resign from our company coz I found out he was borrowing money from all our colleagues and had also borrowed money from me as well and no be small money ooo nd this guy is not one of those guys that look like they play games, he was one of those dudes are genuinely nice and friendly but like to dress smart, wear expensive things and even got a house and a car. Chai. with all our money and even he had a friend called Andre who would call asking to speak to him and I remember back when my ex started in Febraury, his friend would call saying he owes hima huge some of money and wants to talk to him and my ex would deny it. Mannnnn the guy thought he was slick and now I know better. He was just there for show and to borrow money and cheat people.

That is one experience I would never forget. If someone would have told me a handsome, hardworking, young man who was also friendly with everyone would do such a thing I would say the person is a liar.

Anyways, OP u better forget that thing joor. It always goes three ways, you either end up getting married but you have to move or resign or you end up breaking up and it would be awkward seeing that person u were kissing and making up with every day and it would kill u so noooo OPP. Just forget this love ting and find someone outside of the office or better still one of u should resign.

Hmmm. Op, I think you should wait a little but also ask her the day before her birthday because even me I don't like it when a guy rushes things and wants a relationship like one week or two weeks after getting to know me. I literally hate that. It might be she is just not sure yet about you, you know how you Boyz are nowadays.

Anyways, OP there are some girls like her who like to take things really slow. My current boyfriend it took him 5 months before I said yes I would be his girl. Its just I was still in a relationship when me and him became friends so I was still trying to get over my previous relationship and wasnt ready for another one so soon so it might be that.

Just try and talk to her so she can open up, at least that is what I did with my bf.

Just dont rush her otherwise you will loose her.

Lool dnt u realise ur bobo was in the mood thats why he proposed.

This girl is a big fool.

Lilimax:
Many modern women are not in a hurry to get into marriage I agree!
But of what benefit is it to rush into marriage and rush out?.
You get to say I do when you're fully prepared mentally and psychologically

Don;t rush into marriage because all your mates are getting married....
Life na turn by turn...

GBAM!!!

My sister please help me tell this people.

This is why our society is so messed up. They think marriage is Gold or something. What I have seen my mum and dad go through after so many infidelities, trust issues and other issues, like I said to myself at a young age why the raaaasss would I waste my time worrying about marriage when it just seems miserable and everyone is unhappy?

For those saying when she reaches 29/35 she will start rushing. Why do Nigerians do that a lot? Like seriously? Why is it when it comes to woman over the age of 26 or above you guys start calling them old cargo and say their youthful and marriage days has expired? Why? What about men?

I am so confused that I cant even be arsed anymore. I am just wondering how life would be like for both Men and Women in this new year and the years to come coz from what I am seeing, it looks bleak and I am very worried not for myself but for everyone.

God help us all!!