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Lollll. I salute you Mehhhn!!

You are like woooooow. Its good that as a man you know this. Try telling that to all these yeye men out here. I have never experienced this ooo cos me no comment the word s and ending with x is a no go area.

But on behalf of my friends thank you for sharing this useful information to other men.

She looks beutiful.

You guys should leave her alone. The book is aimed to help other women who are in similar situations that she was in.

You guys are always finding ways to hate Celebrities for no reason. They are human beings just like us.

Well done Toke.

Benita27:
Cheating has nothing to do with profession, a faithful partner will remain as such no matter the nature of the job, while one with the inclination to cheat will always do so.

GBAM!!!!

Nuf said!!!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Dis story is too much oo.

Ehhn. But lets be serious, I think the woman may have a yeast infection or some type of Vaginal Disease which is causing that odour. They thought us this things in secondary/high school from Year 7 -11.

But please as her husband, the man should have told her or better still take her to a doctor to see if THEY can treat it.

Oh well. That is their own problem.

Hmmmmm. Na wa o.

OP you have a good point there. Well said. I am really fed up of seeing such things and they end up blaming the girl when at the time when he was enjoying it he never occured to him that he could father a child and that comes with responsibilities.

I pity the girl sha. May God guide her and the baby. I am sure she has learnt her lesson.

I am going to be even more shocked if they are still together in the enxt 5 years because with the way the OP told us this astory, I dont think they can last another day.

butanep:
Is this coming from a Nigerian lady?

Yes I am Half Nigerian half Jamaican (was born in Lagos, Nigeria but lived in Ja and now in the UK).

Ur suprised a nigerian lady can say that? Why?

Just send those girls over to the UK and I bet u £1,000,000 they wouldnt even ask u for money coz by then they would have upgraded.

Asking a guy for me is what we young girls here call desperation and being shallow. Its best to hustle and save and enjoy ur life than waiting for someone who has worked their hard earned money so they can give it to u for free to do what? Buy Brazillian/Maylasian hair?

Please ehhn, the girls over in Naija are not serious, just send them over to UK, we will train them for u.

Stay Blessed

Lovechyld101:
Babe use a guy picture on facebook and try to chat with five gurls there two will ask for card for subscription two will ask for money because she is broke and havnt eatin, its that bad.

Ahh is it that bad?

I dont understand why some girls do that. I mostly see Black Girls do those types of things but I didnt know it was this bad.

They are a disgrace to their parents. How can u be asking ur bf for money when you are supposed to be helping each other as in working like seriously?

Wooow. I am just so speechless that women are still doing this. I have been working from the age of 16 and here there are women who are so lazy.

Anyways, that is their own business.

Guy, take heart ehnnn? Just ignore those little girls joor. They are not serious.

ismart:
Why do I find it hard to believe you actually mean your words and would appreciate a guy like him?

Oga please, its ur choice if u dnt want to believe it, my bobo is just like the guy, he doesnt work but i shower him with gifts not because he is broke, but because I care and I am not one of those ladies who is big about money etc, money isnt important.

While I was growing up, my parents were financially stable but we were made to believe we werent so money has never been a burden or as important to me so I guess thats why I dont think it is important, maybe no?

There are still ladies like me out there, you just have to search and keep on looking. Even the lady that you see that doesnt smile a lot (me), we are actually kind, humble and caring, its just people just overlook this things when they see someone for the first time.

Just keep on searching, you will find her

Stay Blessed

nkemma54:
u clearly dnt knw a husband material even if he slaps u in d face .
dats d extent of d love he's gt. i do dat 4 my gal. she sucks with counting her period, so i keep track of it 4 her and prepare her once its close. one of the things i do is getting the 'very hard to find wingless pad' she uses, nd making sure she dnt take too much sweet stuff (she's gt heavy, painful flow).

back to op. if the guy nd gal knw d relationship is serious, its just cute and caring of d guy to do that.

QueenSuccubus, i meant no disrespect. i guess nt all girls r d same. but my bae loves d clingy nd caring me so much she keeps sending photos like this....(dnt ask y she sent dat particular 1)

Awwww I can see you are one of those rare Mature guys that knows how to treat a lady.

Any girl that think its weird that a guy buys Pad for her is very stupid and naive and has not grown yet.

Keep it up bro, you have a good heart and you do not just think of yourself. Well done

Please other guys, learn from this Bobo here, he knows the real deal.

A guy doesnt have to buy a car or Ferari for him to win our hearts, you just need to show us you care with things like the above. If the girl ur dating wants a car or expensive gift, you are with the wrong girl.

I really want God to tell me the honest truth as to why Men (dont even bring women into this matter like seriously u dey craze?) cheat.

He really has to answer that question for me because the amount of men wey my young sef don see that are cheating is just unbelieveable.

Dey want to chop two cake at once abi?

Now when the woman cheat dey say she is an Ashawo now please tell me, who b the ashamo? Men are just ojukokoro. Greedy men.

If you no longer love ur wife just tell her simply, am no longer interested in you and am not feeling you anymore or better still tell her what the other WOMEN you like are doing or things you would like her to do and if she doesnt compromise and if what ur asking for is reasonable then yh file for a divorce, stop cheating and stop giving us an excuse that Men are Hunters and are made to re-produce, Nibo?

Please o, God come and answer me o, I really want to know why, because e b like sey us women are just there to accept this foolishness abi?

Is okay...

ehie:
She really went tru hell,may God save us from these types of husbands

Thank you my Sister.

Na this type of men women need to watch out for. I have one at home (Baba mi) that is doing exactly the same thing this Toke's ex husband was doing. Those type of men are heartless and dont fear God at all (even when they pray sef, you have to go to Heaven to confirm if God heard them).

Anyways as they say karma is a Bi**h.

I really feel for Toke, to have been in a relationship with a man for that long, it will be very hard for you to move on, even Therapy is not enough. I hope one day she finds a good guy who will treat her like a Queen she is and likewise.

Please Baba God, I reject any good for nothing Man, any cheater, any lazy, dishonest and untrsu worthy, money hungry Guy that comes my way in Jesus name. I have seen these type of things to many times in my young 22 years and I am just fed up of seeing women get hurt and also same thing for men as well.

We just need to continue praying.

You guys are not serious.

Op there are still some virgins left on this earth so just ignore these lot Jare. They dont have nothing better to do than to teach people English.

If people still believe there are no Virgins on earth you guys are still sleeping and need to wake up. Not everyone sleeps around with every guy they meet. There are still girls who have morals and standards and who might be old fashioned. Virginity doesnt determine anything though, character comes first. We are no longer in the AD/BC. So wake up!!

OP she might be telling the truth you might never know as the other users said, she may have broke her Hymen during sports/excercise as it is possible but dont think that there are no more Virgins, there still are (and I dont mean babies like ehnnn 12-15 years old although some girls loose it at a tender age).

Some guys on here saying women want Money abi wetin una call it?

Why una love generalise women so? Na all women love Money? Kilode?

Arent u guys tired of repeating the same old stereotype. If ur girl ask u for money all the time just tell her to go and Kick Rocks or u yourself are attracting the wrong sort of girl. Stop being flashy maybe next time they wont ask you for money.

If girls these days are still asking their guy for money in this 2016, they are not serious. Just sidown there and wait ehhn, when hunger kill una you go wake up.

Rubbish and nonsense.

greenermodels:
I'm sorry but i don't believe the woman, this is just a ploy to get custody of the children and collect monthly child support from the man, did she raise an alarm? who else is a witness otherwise, it's just her word against his.

Obviosuly you would think that as u think all women want is Money and Child Support. I know someone who did this to his own daughter and the dad is Catholic (prays every fucking day) and when the daughter confronted the guy and told her mum, he manipulated and twisted everyhing and made everyone (including the mother) turn against the young girl - she was about 11 at the time. The funny thing is the dad has been cheating on his wife for over 20 years now and the daughter found out recently and told the mum and since then it hasnt been the same.

Trust me on this one dude, these Shi*t happens and its real. Women and Men are no longer stupid, we see and hear things. Nobody is perfect but there are crazy, fu***d up people in this world (even the people closer to you).

So when you hear or see things like this, dont jump to conclusions and start to generalise things (not all women want Money and cHILD SUPPORT).

Their children comes first.

If u like, dont believe it, if you like believe, but know this, hopefully this does not happy to someone close to you or someone very very close to you as it hurts. The trauma after such things occur in that childs life destroys them and it takes years and years of Therapy to forget it. It might even affect that child's future relationship as she will find it hard to trust people (including men). I know a lot of these things and its real.

Stay Blessed

AlexCk:
Dunno what im suppose to see tho,

Doesn't seem that bad tho, maybe it looks abit big for her,

Her haircut is cool na,

Besides, Wetn concern them sha

Oi vey

Abeg, please help me ask this people that are just exagerrating this.

I think she looks cool and the hair cut really suits her and am not sure what is terrible about this. This is why Nigeria is not moving forward.

Because all people want is for women to wear Brazilian hair and wear things that pleases other people. I like her taste of fashion and i think its looks gorgeous on her.

People living in 1940 still, have no sense of fashion.

Although with the shoes, she should have maybe gotten purprle sandals/shoes but everything else looks cool.

U cant please people these days. All the like to do is talk talk talk.

Mind ur own business and leave her to enjoy her life.

This is really sad. For those of you making a joke out of this, it aint' funny.

This is why humanity is f****d because there are heartless human beings out there.

How can a sane person impregnate someone and then when they found out she is pregnant dump her for another girl?

I just dont understand, am not suprised anyway, he is still a boy. Real men dont do sh*t like that.

She was naive and young and didnt know any better, but him, he is a fool and needs help. Wherever he is am sure Karma will bite him on the a*s when he least expects it. You dont treat people like that and think your gonna go scott free. There is a God out there and he has a plan for you.

RIP little one.

OGA ooooo. Ehhhhhhn ehhhhn.

This father wicked ooo. What the girl did was wrong but the father didnt have to go to that extreme.

He just just destroyed his daughters life.

Na waaa o.

OMG!!!! AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Is it only me that relates to every single one of them?

Looool. Wooow my childhood must have been really bad.

Damn!!!

DRISKLEF:
LOL. Dude!

That was extreme though? African women are beautiful people. I for one, wouldn't lay much of the blame on the women because it's expected they add more wieght considering the instantaneous love and care that's mometorily showered on them by both husband and relative immediately after marriage.

What's funny is that, as time went on, the much exhibited affections and care by families and friends will greatly start reducing and that's when she begins to get the exact opposite of the whole scenario.

Though that's not to dispute the fact that ladies in this side of the world are lazy when it comes to watching thier weight and making sure they eat responsibly.
But then again, maybe we should just cut Mrs Tonto some slack and besides, she's not looking so bad. Just a little bustier and fairer.

Na wa o....

Men!!! Chai.

So what about men who put on weight after Marriage nko? What is their excuse for not excersing.

Husband and Wife should both watch their weight not just the woman. Everytime unu dey dere dey complain about her been overweight after Marriage isnt it the Husband's fault?

Na wa for u naija men oo. God is watching u oo.

Na true o.

There are no real men out there anymore. Same way woman now has more than one man same way Men (as usual) have more than one woman.

As a kid I said there are still real and true men out there like Baba mi but after something happened recently, I have decided that there are NO REAL MEN out there. PERIOD!!

All men do is cheat and same goes for women (but there must have been a reason why she did it) but as for men when u ask them why they did it, its either the following:

1) Its in our nature to not stick to one woman (so what about us women nko)
2) Men are meant to mutliply (u dey craze for dere)
3) There are more woman out there than men so its best to share one man with multiple women (na wa oo)

When I then say what about women cheating, my papa come tell me say its wrong for women to cheat as if they cheat them go carry belle and woman should not cheat period.

Baba mi ahhhh God is watching u oo.

I rest my case.

Whether una like keep on thinking there are good men out there, non of them exist. Trust me on this on. NONE!!!

I DONT CARE!!

But I go continue they pray ooo. Make God give me a good husband o.. Ehhnnn. With the amount of divorce rate I dey see for my young life i no understand watin dey happen for our 21st century o...

Hmmm.

Guys and sex.....inseperable

Anyways, if the guy want sex he should just go and find an ashawo to do it with.

Our generation of men think about sex all the bloody time nothing else. No wonder baby mamas are on the rise.

Is okay ooo

Kennydoc:
Even though I don't approve of masturbation, I don't however see the reason why she should be crying. If he's a Christian, then probably he's weak willed. She will need to encourage and support him, to break out of the act, if it's a habit for him.
She should also know that masturbation is better than cheating, so if he did that as a way to prevent himself from cheating, then he should be corrected/advised in love.
People however should know that sex and all the activities directly connected to it are meant for the married. Masturbation is a way of personally inducing orgasm, and it's a sin before God, cos you can't induce orgasm without allowing your eyes and/or mind to be saturated with lust, which in itself is sin.
Young men and women, please abstain from premarital sexual activities. It pays.

GBAM!!!

Correct guy!!

Hmmmmmmmmm!!!

Look how our world has turned into.

Now its expected for couples who r not married to bleep one another

So pre-marital sex is now a common thing??

Ayyyyyyy!!!

Cant believe what am reading ooo!!

And then the men say they want virgins nko??

If pre-marital sex is now accepted soon people will say walking naked is now accepted as well??

Is okay. That is Una own palaba.

If him like make him they masturbate from here to jerico. There is nothing wrong with a woman saving herself for marriage. What of if she becomes pregnant and the guys refuse it nko? Now u go say baby mama is now the new thing.

This world is just becoming too much nahh!!!

No more pride or morality anymore.

People r just selfish. Man has destroyed this earth with their wayward ways. Now everything is deemed acceptable.

Is okayyyy oo

dmcdad:
The dude is absolutely right! Given, not everyone of them are bad, but my padi, I fear our women die!

Walai, like we discussed some days ago, this is one of my greatest fears in getting married. I have not only heard about this, but I've seen with my own eyes where it happened.

Bro, after God na women I dey fear pass. Those set of creatures deadly die walai. And me for one, what I detest most and what I am most afraid of in the union called marriage is promiscuity. The thing about me is that, if I am having something in common with a girl, say we are dating and she is acting up (playing), I would definitely know. It's a gift a have, but sometimes I wonder if it's a blessing or a curse because I always know when something ain't right. But there are times you would wish not to know.

Like I always say, both parties (men and women) are guilty of promiscuity. Men cheat alot, and I would say maybe somewhat more than women. But honestly, women are far more dangerous with theirs. They go to lengths you can hardly live with. They go to such an unreasonable extent that would astonish you. The most a man would do is impregnate a woman outside his home. I am mot saying this is alright, but in almost all cases he comes out with the truth about it. Women on the other hand don't just involve in promiscuous acts, but go as far as deceiving a man to believing a child is his whereas the reverse is the case. Can you beat that?

Someone should tell me what is worse than that. A priest-friend of mine shared an experience sometime ago and it goes thus; there was a family where the man is already aging (should be in his 50s). He's got 3 children. One was a medical personnel, the other a lawyer and the third one was still very young (in secondary school). The medical doc was meant to travel outside the country and one thing led to another, he was asked for his father. And in such an instance, a DNA test was required to really verify the man was his father. Bros, lo and behold, after the test it was confirmed the man wasn't the father of the medical doc guy. Outta curiosity, he called for his second son for the same test ro be carried, and it follow thus that the second guy too wasn't his son. It was just the last one still in secondary school that was the man's only real child.

Guy, when I hear this matter, goose bumps wan finish me. As in ehn, afraid catch me like say tomorrow no dey. This story no be say them-say them-say. I know the family well. Aside this, I don hear of many of this kind story too. I don see many others too.

Sometimes I wonder if I would be able to summon courage to trust one woman again. I am not saying this because of just this occurrence. I am saying this because of what this world has metamorphosed into in terms of what people do (and are willing to do) in marriages.

People no longer have the fear of God. We now live in a world where moral-decadence is the order of the day. A world where no one wants to care about the rightness of things, but how to satisfy their selfish and alterior motives. A world where good ethics mean nothing to the average human out there. A world where people indulge in things that are contra-bonos-mores and have no form of remorse for it.

Someone out there might wonder why I fear so much for such. It's simple. I am not a party to divorce. It's just against my person. The more reason why I get scared whenever I think of possibilities like this. I sometimes ruminate; what if such should happen to you, what would you do? Taking into consideration I am not a party to divorce. It's really hard to figure out.

God help us bro.

My brother I agree with everything u said ooo

This life is not the same as how it was decades ago(I wasn't born at the time but my parents sit down to tell me about it)

I cant trust no man out there coz am not sure if he wants to sleep with me or if he is after something that he will benefit from and also cheating, marriage and divorce terrifies the sh-it out of me.

That's why I am still single I find it hard to trust anyone talkless of men sef.

The only man in my life that no one can beat in terms of loyalty and good qualities in a man is my father. He ticks all the right boxes but unfortunately I haven't met any man out there with those qualities so I never really pay men attention.

I just think am gonna adopt kids instead coz I can NEVER EVER trust any man out there.

I don't mind been alone and adopt kids but marry someone who will cheat on me or possibly give me HIV/aids nah dats sh-it ain't gonna happen.

Lai Lai.

Fourwinds:
what is d outcome of d woman cheating now . a legitimate child or a bastard child.. u think men cheating is equal to dat of woman...men don't get pregnant to produce bastard children

So its acceptable for men to cheat??

Its not right for men or women to cheat period!!!

niyi123:
The truth is that no sane man for no reason should trust any woman this days, they are all sluts especially those that have slept with diffferent guys before marriage. As for me no virgin no marriage

Hmmmmm!!!

Chaiiii!!!

Women have suffered!!!

Ehhhhnnnn!!!

Oga no vex oooo, r u a virgin

If u no be virgin u cant be expecting a virgin in return??

I can bet u a £1,000,000 u r not a virgin.

See men dey dem no one marry women if dem no be virgin.

U yeye naija men dnt deserve virgin sef.

Its very rare to find a virgin naija man so please ooo dnt wish for something u dnt have urself. That's not nice at all

searching4l0ve:
THIS IS WHY I WONT ADVICE ANYONE TO MARRY THESE DISLOYAL THINGS CALLED NIGERIAN WOMEN. THEY ARE SO RANDY AND PROMISCOUS WITHOUT ANY SENSE OF DIGNITY. MANY MEN HAVE FALLEN VICTIM OF THIS SCAM CALLED NIGERIAN WOMEN ALL IN THE DISGUISE OF FAKE LOVE. I KEEP SEEING MARRIAGE THREADS ON NAIRALAND WEEKLY AND I CANT BUT SHAKE MY HEAD FOR THE UNFORTUNATE GROOM WHO IS ABOUT TO BE HOOKED IN DELUSION OF MARRIAGE AFTER YEARS OF PROSTITUTING IN THE NAME OF RELATIONSHIP BY THE SO CALLED WIFE. MANY NIGERIAN MEN ARE RAISING BASTARD KIDS IN THEIR HOMES WITHOUT KNOWING DUE TO IGNORANCE ABOUT THE PROSTITUTES THEY CALL WIVES. A FOREIGN LADY IS BETTER THAN ALL THESE HYPERTENSIVE NIGERIAN WIVES BECAUSE THEY ARE MORE SINCERE AND KNOW WHAT TRUE LOVE & COMMITMENT REALLY MEANS.

I RATHER MARRY A DOLL THAN MARRY A NIGERIAN GIRL.
#Team foreign girls

Please stop generalising!!

There is no different between naija girls and foreign girls. Same way naija women can cheat same way foreign women can also cheat.

So it dnt make no sense. Here in London I have seen it even oyinbo girls sef dey cheat so brother if u think its a greener pasture on the other side u r wasting ur time.

Just pray to God you find a good woman out there otherwise bro, you will get so many disappointments on this greener side u dey seek.

I tire for threads like this one.

Everytime na so dem com again with their rubbish and nonsense about what women are doing wrong.

Haba Una no get heart ehhnnn?

It seems to me naija men will never be satisfied.

One minute u lot want virgins, the next u want experienced babe but u call her ashawo. U guys dnt deserve no women at all.

Out of all the men I have met nah naija men get mouth complain all the time.

Una no get work to do?

U guys might as well date men because with the way u lot always insulting naija women ehhhn I know one day u will just see naija women dey date other men from different countries and none of them go even look Una sef.

And another thing u lot complain about the reason y Una no wan marry gf of 7 years cause she give it to u for free. Any lady wey do that for a man ehhhnnn. Ahhhh she no get sense at all.

Naija men dnt deserve good things maybe the older generations some I say but not this new generation of men. Dnt even clean for him, dnt cook, dnt do nothing for him cause when he wants to marry u he will say he want fresh meat and u hv already given it to him for free.

I tire for naija men!!

Jesus of Nazareth!!!

Ahhhhhhh!!

Olorun mi oooo!!!

This pic is too much nahhh ehhhn!!!

Makes me want to cry for this girl

Chaii and she is pretty too!!

May her soul rest in peace amen!!!

As for the guy, please take him off that hospital bed right now and execute him straight away. Kill him the same way he killed her.

That's my verdict!!!

Arise....

artisticallyart:
You are 20 yrs. Nigerian girls and lies.

Sssssssshh my friend!!!!

And for ur information I turned 21 on Wednesday 11/11 so u can shut ur mouth yh?

Not all Nigerian ladies lie.

U naija men like to generalise all women into one category as if there are no good women out there.

Please if u dnt believe my age that's ur problem. The God I serve knows am telling the truth.

Rubbish!!

Some naija men think they know everything!!

Madam aaaahhhhh pls oo dnt that ooo.

Ehhhn in this hard times of ours u should not even try that ooo.

Pls dnt quit ur job.

R u even sure the relationship will lead to marriage?

Pls my sister continue working ehhhhn.