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Sagamite: Now back to the tory before the ugly hoodrat with diseased & smelly ish interrupted.

The reason she wants to "come and pick up her stuff" is because you are ignoring her. Now she feels you have some control and you are dumping her without as much sweat as her ego needed. She wanted you to beg while she dumped you so she can carry her head high and tell all her friends.

I can guarantee you 1000% when she comes to pick her stuff, she would either start an argument or do something physically/attitudinally to provoke you into an argument just to get the satisfaction that you are upset about the break-up. Not because she gives a hoot about you or the relationship, just to massage her ego. Note: When a woman stops loving you, you are worse than her shyt!

I have said this a few times on NL:

https://www.nairaland.com/293032/taking-50-wealth/1#4168241

Either:

1) Ask her what are the stuff and then tell her you will drop it for her.

2) Or let her come and get it.

For (1), what you should do if she agrees is get all her stuff and then don't even take it to her house. Take it to one of her friends and tell her to help you hand it over. Don't warn her or her friend in advance that is what you are going to do. Just drive up to the friend's house and say you are traveling and X told you to pass it over to her to help her keep till she picks it up. Then text your ex (don't call, that is too polite) that you dropped it with her friend and she should go there and pick it up.

That would avoid the argument, is sufficiently rude to a rude cun*, would let her know you have no respect or regards for her, and would make it difficult for her to boast to her friends that she dumped you while you were crawling and begging. She would be pissed but ignore her phone calls and her angry texts. Don't show emotions whether anger or ridicule.

For approach (2), tell her to let you know when she is coming so you would be at home. If she does not, do not open the door for at least 15 mins. It she does, pack her stuff and as she knocks, open the door and hand it to her and close the door without saying a world apart from "here they are". Don't let her come in.

It is important you do not take the argument bait. When you refuse to fall for the argument/shouting bait, she would play the emotional card because she can't leave you feeling you dumped her and you do not give a hoot. She would start crying and trying to tell you that you are a bad person for the way you are treating her. Waiting for you to be dumb and start petting her. The temptation is to complain about "What about how she has treated you?", but you are wasting your time arguing with someone that is definitely not interested in logic, fairness or respect. She would never agree with you, all she is interested in is an argument and manipulating you. Ignore her and tell her, in a moderate tone, the door/gate is still open for her to exit. Don't say it angrily, don't say it rudely, don't say it with passion, don't say it mockingly. Just say it stoically.

Watch how it would bite her for months and years to come that you can cut her off in a second permanently.

oh boy badder men dey this nl oh

its cos guys are serious homophobes and its may not be seen as masculine to say such

[quote author=Expensivem][/quote]at the end of the day, its you who is going into a marriage contract and not ur family. that's what people should endeavour to understand

kudos to the guys who commented before me but I dear say that y'all didn't ask the right question. @op what did u say to people about her. cos she made mention of you dealing with situations. it seems like she left you and you went to town tarnishing her name and image. or you even posted on her wall too. come out clean.

Enegod: You dated someone at one time or
another it ended and you moved on.
Keep the details to yourself....

I always look forward to seeing u comment on issues cos you always display a level of maturity that others should emulate.

@op, your friend can choose to tell her husband or not but the fact still remains that even he has a few skeletons in his cupboard and she should not feel that she knows everything about him just cos he's going to marry her. her past is her past and should have no bearing on her future with her fiance. if he does not understand that then he has no reason being in a relationship talk less of getting married

made her a promise that there's nothing she'd do to me that I would not forgive. she cheated and still I forgave but I'll never forget. such life lessons should never be forgotten cos through them we know not to make certain mistakes

nasonaso: I have dated some who is hiv positive.ds 1 she showed me her drugs her fruitss is always in her fridge she is beautiful chubby her shape nor b here her name is rasheedat no MAN NOR GO LOOK AM 2 TIMES.she is from serraleone. I left d relationship though not easy because my spiritual life was dying. when i meet her i have at least 5 rounds with her. she has lived with it for about 5yrs. she is older than me with 7yrs but u can never no. she has 3 kids husband is late.she has been truthful to me. her viral load is low. n i can tell u am negative. am not advising u to date some1 who is hiv positive u may not b fortunate like me. when i wanted 2 do my test msweat de come out from inside my ear to tell u d tension. i dont tink throughout my life time till when i meet my father in heaven .I WOULD MAKE LOVE THE NUMBER OF TIMES I MADE LOVE TO HER.

Bros u sabi lie oh

Enegod: Women cheat the same reason men
cheat. Men are just less subtle about how
they cheat. The reasons people cheat are:
They're not getting what they want
emotionally from their partner.
They're not getting what they want
financially from their partner.
They're not getting what they want
sexually from their partner.
You can always tell when a man cheats on
his woman, because men are very bad
liars. And it's not that the lie is bad, it is
the exact opposite. The lie is "Too good".
We take too much precaution, that we
give ourselves away. Essentially the
absence of normalcy is what ultimately is
the undoing of men cheating. Because
we'll erase our call history, delete text
messages, go into other rooms to talk on
the phone, head out at odd hours without
a good reason or a "too rehearsed" finely
crafted reason, get other SPECIFIC people
to co-sign.
When a woman cheats, you would never
know she's cheating unless the dude
she's cheating on you with, slips up. She'll
talk to the dude in front of you on the cell
phone like she's talking to one of her girl
friends, and you wouldn't think any thing
of it. She'll head out the house and go
"I'm gonna go hang with home girls", but
won't give a specific person so you can't
call up and go "Hey, I need to speak with
my girl". She'll keep everything normal,
so there is nothing out of the ordinary or
out of place.......

I honestly can't grasp why a woman
would cheat on a man. I just can't wrap
my head around the idea of it. Such a
heartless act.

its just human nature

nne3870: @op I support you tell his mum, dad, sisters and his pastor also. Everybody should be involved in helping your BF stop the devilish act on himself.
I will help you pray!

why not tell her to take a megaphone and go from street to street announcing it to the whole world. you're giving an advice that you would not take if it was given to you. op e be like say to be aunty gbegbegbe dey hungry you. u go dey there dey form say masturbation no good and another lady that doesn't feel as strongly as u will even help ur man to be milking himself.

if you have regular sex with a guy I see no reason why the man would prefer his hands to the velvety interiors of ur cervix. a man who is accustomed to having regular sex will find an alternate means of satisfying his cravings when his needs are not being met. its either he masturbates or he has sex with other women or even prostitutes. so which would u prefer

my man, while its always nice to have the support and backing of ur family while taking a big leap as marriage, it is not compulsory. you are an adult and should be able to make decisions that concern your own life without the approval of other people. you're the only one who will either enjoy or suffer ur marriage. with the way Nigeria is now, I'm still astounded that people still think about tribe while on the subject of marriage.

if she is the woman u want to spend the rest of your life with, go on and don't look back.

confusion247: Please there is enough evidence to prove that Assad used chemical weapon on his people.
Israeli intelligence intercepted a phone conversation between Assad generals on how to cover the evidence by bombing the area and passed the conversation to CIA.
France have shown satellite images to show the origin of rocket attack that carried the chemical weapons.

was it not the same Israel that gave resounding evidence that Saddam had WMD and those same satellite images where whipped up and presented to the UN general assembly and up to this point not one shred of WMD has been found. don't believe everything cos phone conversation can be faked and satellite images photoshopped.

confusion247: And may be you love a country that uses chemical weapon on her citizens?

first of all there is no proof that Assad has gassed his own people and no sane president would resort to a means that would affect his own soldiers on the front lines when he is winning the war. its just like say that now that boko haram has been dislodged from its camps the air force should continue bombardment of the said camps when the ground troops are trying to flush out the remnants. up till next year no weapon of mass destruction has been uncovered in Iraq. people please stop believing in American propaganda, if the u.s wanted a quick resolution to the war in Syria it would not be funding the rebels

Pattey: America and its pack of ally dogs will be humbled very soon. Veeery soon!

So long as no one can show results of any referendum of some sort where Syrians decided Al-Assad should leave power, then those criticizing him need to shut up.

Its demeaning to use half the capabilities of your brain. Why not search beyond what ur local news and one-sided cable stations tell you?

Is it possible for the rebels to use chemical weapons just so they can discredit Assad? Yes! I mean, those guys are demented! These are rebels eating organs of captured soldiers and recording it! Carrying suicide attacks and displaying all manner of desperation. Why would adding chemical stunts to their Drama series be a big deal to them?

Now let's for the sake of objectivity assume Assad used it, who is America to talk? Were they not the ones that started the use of those things? Don't they have far lethal stockpiles that they've refused to discard?

America says this people do this and automatically, y'al dogmatic peeps follow them. When it turns out America was wrong (with many examples so far and still counting) y'all the dogmatic brains still don't find anything wrong in the destruction those evil men would have created.

Who is a dictator? Who America calls one?

If its an American certified dictator; its suddenly cool with everyone, no matter hw much abuse he perpetrates in his country. If he's not channeling enuf resources towards American interests, he's suddenly a bad guy. Not because he's necessarily bad for his people, but because he's bad for American Business.

We call America a super power but for some reason, every single country they ever intervened is nothing to write home about. They have sponsored Coup D'etats in Africa and elsewhere, how have those countries ended up? They now sponsor insurgency e.g Rebels in lybia, syria and those we don't kno of. How is it turning out? What of Iraq, Afghanistan, even Vietnam of back then; how have they turned out?

Forget all those rhetorics that blood sucking Obama throws on TV, in the end, it all boils down to who plays better ball with them! Its called doing Business! #dassal

please educate those who are not in the know. they feel that anything the see on CNN is right and if and when a particular president is portrayed as a dictator then automatically he's one. when the torture that was perpetrated in Abu gharab and Guantanamo where uncovered no one called bush a dictator. he ordered the use of extra judicial means of extracting information. America has no permanent allies just permanent interests. a good example is the case of Saddam Hussein who in the 80s was a very strong ally and business partner to the then president Bush.

Princessmel: Ok thanks for that but I honestly don't believe there is any virgin out there above the age of 12, boy or girl. Impossible!

there are a lot of them who are even in their twenties and even nearing their thirties. met one a month ago, got head and bolted. the fact is that there are more virgins than we can imagine.

prettycentia: am nt amused cos u mite av had d orientation dat all relationship includes sex. Am nt saying am a virgin or nt bt i dnt blief in all sex relationship n if u read in btw my post i said d second n i parted ways cos of parental acceptance meaning his intention was marriage bt my parents declined. Abeg Make u no use ur regge spoil my blues, if u da vex no b me make u vex. Most of nairalanders luk for slightest opportunity to insult som1.

there's a reason y the word ex was created. its to classify something that used to be and is no more. those people are in ur past and there should be no future there. learn from ur experiences with them and use that to shape and better yourself cos u may also have your own faults and shortcomings. don't go back to any of them. at the end of the day the same thing that mitigated against your relationship working out in the first place will rear it head again.

you don't say!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

we see it as a bad thing and it doesn't only apply to girls who smoke but anyone who smokes in general is seen as a bad person in Nigeria. smoking is a foreign phenomenon that was introduced during the colonial periods and is seen as a tool of the imperialist to continue to subjugate us.

WackyJ1: OP start another thread like this for women and most likely none will admit to stringing him along and putting him in friendzone while enjoying the benefits of his friendship, his compliments and flattery, pampering her and his attempts to be her rock.

the ladies will never accept that they use such guys, they'll say that they never forced him to do any of those things and that he did them of his own volition. so having all the sexxx with any girl who's into me is also not a bad thing since I didn't force her and since she did it of her own volition; its all good.

the truth is gradually coming out. no guy go see awoof tidy say him no want.

stangely: u r a wicked devil's advocate.

dey there dey mumu yourself, if the tables were turned and u were the one doing all the loving and not getting any in return; she'll take you for all you have to offer and still fucccck your best friend if she fancies him. I'm just calling it as it is, you may not like it but its the truth

if a lady loves us and we don't feel the same way about her, we don't feel bad or pity her. we only take her for all she's got and move the fuccck on to the next one

Paroman: pls i need a download link for pesedit2013 patch. Surfed d net but can't seem to find anywhere to download it for my malfunctioning pes 2013 pc game

thepiratebay.sx that's where you'll find it. note its a torrent site

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