₦airaland Forum

LibertyRep:
No time to check time, as they say.

He should check his steps and ensure he is on the side of the law.

Otherwise those cheering him now won't be able to help him.

Emotions and sentiments won't do it

Kenneth4u205:
This man is lying.It is not possible for a Yahoo to go broke . Yahoo business doesn't need capital to start. You only need a good brain and mobile phone/laptop.
The true story is that he was not successful in yahoo business and decided to switch over to security job

HedgesTV:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFRpUVxp_TU

Nigerian Apostle Abel Damina has gone Viral for criticizing the Catholic Church while making very controversial statements like “ They are on their way to Hell “.

This clip got a lot of mixed reactions from people in the Christian community.

Full video above.

Mynd44:
I have heard Nigerians use "bride Price" and "Dowry" interchangeably and they seem to think they are the same. People just assume the bride price is the dowry or that they mean the same thing but this is a wrong assumption.

I knew this in Social Studies when I was in Primary 5 and it shocks me when people who I think went to school around the same time (not the current era where I don't understand the curriculum) make the same mistake. Perhaps people just think because they are both possessions and gifts exchanged around the time of a wedding they mean the same but nah. They are very distinct things.

So here is the major difference



From the definition above

1. Bride Price is given to the family of the bride by the groom and/or his family and this is mostly set by the Bride's Family.

2. Dowry is the property or money given to the bride by her family when she marries and she takes these things to her marital home.

In some cultures, Dowries cannot be sold by the couple as it is wealth that passes through only the female line so only the bride's daughter can inherit them. Thats why you see where some families have jewelry that their great grandmother used and a female descendant still wears it. It can even be shares of a company etc.

There has been cases in India and Northern Nigeria called "Dowry theft" in these cases, they grooms family (mostly committed by the groom's family) tries to convert the properties of the bride and steal them. I know India had to pass legislation against it. Sometimes, the husband himself tries to steal these possessions.

Note also that in a divorce, the husband cannot lay claim to the dowry as these are personal gifts and are mostly acquired before marriage so are outside the purview of shared items.

In Nigeria, dowries can include, Kitchenware, livestock, land, jewelry and in some parts of the north, the father actually buys furniture.

Note that Dowry is not wedding gifts given to the couple. These are gifts for the two of them.

RealLordZeus:
The more you look, the less you see. For a country with average of 1.5m barrel per day crude production and still struggling to feed 650,000 bpd refinery and others that their total feed requirement not up to 400k bpd...
and yet they are still mortgaging future crude production in the cannibalistic crude for loan deals

Islie:
https://punchng.com/why-are-foreign-women-rushing-nigerian-men/

trium:
So this is an annual ritual

Your last topic was December 2023 and now part 2 skipped December 2024 to enter the first day of January 2025. Hmmm


How old are you again? Maybe this is part of you growing but I refuse to hear a single-sided story. E get why. From time, we know that only a foolish elder hears one side and judges. Your story has looss ends. You are in the hospital for what? Were you sick, did you have an accident or was it due to the infection? Where is she now? Isn't your life more important to you than danger? What did the doctors say about your infection or are you just suspecting her without evidence? Can you marry another woman? Why is your mom so involved in your family/love life? You sound like you take orders and this is someone who has seen your weakness. You are not your own man.

I only see women here. Your mom and the lady. Be a man and take charge of your house. Men fix the house, they don't advertise the problems of the house. You decide how you want to see your house ran. Women like men who remind them of their fathers? You know why? They love security, structure and order so you need to tell yourself what you want to see in the mother of your children and Prime Minister of your house.

Bakrabas:
Remember @op if your car fell inside the drainage, it's not your Rich fellow that'll gather to help you. These same poor can die for you if you have a menial tasks to carry out.

You didn't become a Rich man because you're smart or because your business is triumph, remember there are others in the same line of business that are still struggling.

You don't know tomorrow

Toosure70:
You're not well raised, poverty is not contagious man. Do you know tomorrow? I just hate this write up, please delete it mod

NoahHadNoArk:
All these bad belles above me 😒


Just wish them a happy union and walk away.


Someone is even speaking English of dependents and Independence Day 🙄

How that one take matter for two people who have sworn to be together till forever.


From their comments you will know people who have tried love times without number and have given up.

Then feel bitter when two people hit it and get it right.


You will be fine las las


Get a dog, learn a new language and find a hobby.

You will be fine



My peace I leave you

guobe:
My secondary school mate got married to his secondary school girlfriend and they were classmates.
They both proceeded to the same University and got married after NYSC .
It's quite rare for such occurrence but it does happen.
I think this is a definition of real ❤️ love.
Happy for them.

KnowAll:
A reverend father Governor opening a beer factory

excanny:
This is not Kenya. They won't give him over to Nigeria. They are just wasting their paper writing nonsense request.

Wizardslayer:
Why is Nigeria always having orgasm whenever it has to do with Igbo and related to the Igbos??

If nnamdi kanu and Simon epka where fulani or Yoruba I bet their case would have been overlooked long time ago.

9jawazobia:
Until all his decisions start to yield positive results we have the right to criticise and complain

gasparpisciotta:
Rufai Oseni will have HBP today 🤪

Nexttpage:
Lol you be baby when it comes to man and woman matter. Na real fact the guy dey yarn o

lailo:
U advice seems u really don't know woman. There is no love in woman's dictionary. So she doesnt love any of them. Take that one first. Women are unstable and also love to explore just like men. She is just only tired of the new man and long to experience the old love. If she goes there, she will soon be tired and would want to return to OP. And the cycle continues. Women love new experience and easily tired of monotony. Money is another motivation. And another law that is trying to play out there is Okafor's law: once de be, always de be . Love has no place in their heart, it is men who love.

datola:
Osinbajo should have stepped down. I didn't like the way he was humiliated.

Oluromantic:
That woman is an example of women who enter marriage without knowing what marriage really means and entails.

It's a married woman's duty to set boundaries and know when to set them, not the man's duty on her behalf. If she doesn't know that, she should cover her face in shame.

Sapasenator:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am completely lost and need advice. My name is Olumide Adeyanju(Not my real name), and I’m a 42-year-old civil engineer based in Lagos. I’ve been married to my wife, Tola, for seven years. We have a son together, Jidenna, who is five years old. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, but I thought we had something solid—until recently.

When I met Tola, she was a divorcee. She told me her first marriage to a man named Dapo Olatunji ended after three years due to irreconcilable differences and I believed her. According to her, Dapo had anger issues and was overly controlling. She said she left the marriage to protect her mental health and focus on building a better life for herself. At the time, I admired her courage, and we built a beautiful relationship.

Last month, everything changed. Tola and I were invited to a wedding in Lekki. As fate would have it, Dapo was also at the wedding. It was the first time they were seeing each other in nearly 10 years. I noticed they exchanged pleasantries, and while it seemed cordial at first, something about the way they looked at each other didn’t sit well with me.

In the weeks that followed, I started noticing subtle changes in Tola’s behavior. She began acting distant and spending more time on her phone, often smiling at her screen like a teenager in love. When I asked her what was going on, she brushed it off, saying it was just "work stress."

Then, two weeks ago, I came home early from work and found her on a video call with Dapo. She didn’t realize I was home, so I overheard parts of their conversation. They were laughing and reminiscing about their past together—things like how they used to travel to Abuja for weekend getaways and the time he bought her a surprise gift for her birthday. It felt like I was intruding on a private moment between lovers.

When I confronted her, she admitted that she and Dapo had been talking regularly since the wedding. She claimed it was "nothing serious" and that they were just "catching up as friends." But I don’t believe her. Her behavior has changed so much. She’s more secretive, and I even found out she met up with him last Saturday without telling me. She said it was a "closure" meeting, but why does she need closure after all these years?

Now I’m stuck. I love Tola, but it feels like her heart is being drawn back to Dapo. I’ve spoken to my elder brother, Kunle, and he thinks I should stand my ground and fight for my marriage. But my best friend, Tunde, says I should let her go if she’s already emotionally checked out.

I don’t know what to do. Should I confront Dapo directly? Should I give Tola an ultimatum to stop talking to him? Or should I quietly walk away and let her decide who she really wants to be with?

Please, Nairalanders, I need your honest opinions. Have you experienced or heard of a situation like this? How do I handle it?

Sapasenator:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am completely lost and need advice. My name is Olumide Adeyanju(Not my real name), and I’m a 42-year-old civil engineer based in Lagos. I’ve been married to my wife, Tola, for seven years. We have a son together, Jidenna, who is five years old. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, but I thought we had something solid—until recently.

When I met Tola, she was a divorcee. She told me her first marriage to a man named Dapo Olatunji ended after three years due to irreconcilable differences and I believed her. According to her, Dapo had anger issues and was overly controlling. She said she left the marriage to protect her mental health and focus on building a better life for herself. At the time, I admired her courage, and we built a beautiful relationship.

Last month, everything changed. Tola and I were invited to a wedding in Lekki. As fate would have it, Dapo was also at the wedding. It was the first time they were seeing each other in nearly 10 years. I noticed they exchanged pleasantries, and while it seemed cordial at first, something about the way they looked at each other didn’t sit well with me.

In the weeks that followed, I started noticing subtle changes in Tola’s behavior. She began acting distant and spending more time on her phone, often smiling at her screen like a teenager in love. When I asked her what was going on, she brushed it off, saying it was just "work stress."

Then, two weeks ago, I came home early from work and found her on a video call with Dapo. She didn’t realize I was home, so I overheard parts of their conversation. They were laughing and reminiscing about their past together—things like how they used to travel to Abuja for weekend getaways and the time he bought her a surprise gift for her birthday. It felt like I was intruding on a private moment between lovers.

When I confronted her, she admitted that she and Dapo had been talking regularly since the wedding. She claimed it was "nothing serious" and that they were just "catching up as friends." But I don’t believe her. Her behavior has changed so much. She’s more secretive, and I even found out she met up with him last Saturday without telling me. She said it was a "closure" meeting, but why does she need closure after all these years?

Now I’m stuck. I love Tola, but it feels like her heart is being drawn back to Dapo. I’ve spoken to my elder brother, Kunle, and he thinks I should stand my ground and fight for my marriage. But my best friend, Tunde, says I should let her go if she’s already emotionally checked out.

I don’t know what to do. Should I confront Dapo directly? Should I give Tola an ultimatum to stop talking to him? Or should I quietly walk away and let her decide who she really wants to be with?

Please, Nairalanders, I need your honest opinions. Have you experienced or heard of a situation like this? How do I handle it?

Dilijingsly:
I've got a niece and I want to change her name to Muslim before she write WAEC but her first school certificate has Christian names. How do I do that??

Tokskob2008:
Lol.... these people are just too heartless, instead of working to make sure prices of foodstuffs drop he wants everyone to start planting potatoes along the highway or where else can one get a small piece of land for farming in a rented apartment