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She finally don dey enter limelight.

At least it is for something good.

She know too dey misbehave unlike some rich people daughters.

Imagine say dangote na toke, jamena, and okeke father.

We for know rest for nairaland (the likes of toke, jamena, okeke - awon ashewo kobo kobo crew).

EVILFOREST:
He has said it all.
I have always advised teaming BACHELORS to marry a LADY that has some resourceful QUALITIES to offer.

GIRL FINE, GIRL FINE na when marriage start ooo
I have witnessed severally the way some JOBLESS LADIES rain insults on their hardworking husbands.

Guys after I saw that, I resolved to marry and take insults from a highly resourceful lady from a self-sustainable well-to-do home than a wretched SLAY PRETTY SIT at HOME lady from an overtly dependent home.....
U WILL DIE QUICK mark my words.
FINALLY, when experienced married men are advising you, don’t ever take them for GRANTED.

Gbam I learnt this ordinary when dating that most ladies tend to insult a man when you are financially down or hustling.

These same ladies are looking for a rich, serious and ready to marry guy but they have nothing to offer.
These girls ain't ready to support or build themselves.

I told one of my friend planning to marry not to marry a jobless lazy girl thinking he is superman saving her.

If money go low na insult (like you should have left me in my parents house) + our naija uncle /brother/friend go they FVCk your wife since money dey for their hand.
After She will claim tired at night then insult you again.

If you want to see a lady's true nature. Form broke. Hide your car, tell her you moved to a slum in your area and things are hard. Then give her 6month to see how she behaves.( her true nature go commot).

eventsmallchops:
I can relate, its a terrible thing but people will be shouting marriage will bring goodluck, when it happen, they will run away, they just want to see us suffer and suffer with no means to cater for your family, my uncle who pushed me into it has turned his back. true story

Na so e dey happen

This is madness.

Why would some one or group of individuals decide to create such a broom.

It is so useless it can't even sweep.

Well we can call it the most expensive broom in Africa.

Hmm the truth is bitter.

You see ladies don't know you can't have a man with all these requirements:

A rich
A serious
And ready for marriage.

You can only have one of the requirement at a time then work on it to have others.

But all just at once just because you have a golden vagina?

Not possible.

Do your survey or study, look around you.

Most rich men are never serious and they play around a lot. Na them be ultimate player for the game. Cause they have what most ladies think sustain a relationship (money).

Most serious men are never ready for marriage or relationship. They are too focus on their goals or purpose in life.

Most men ready for marriage in most case never have the two qualities mentioned above.

Might sound funny. But that is situation in most cases.

Wish u na luck in finding a ' a rich, serious, responsible man ready for marriage' .

Hm

Dinho20:
PONDER ON THIS...
LADIES,
Don't think having sex with a guy will make him love you. You will only get confused with your feelings. Learn to draw the line between love and sex. A man's emotion is not connected with sex but yours is associated with your feelings. Men can have sex with many ladies without having any feelings for any of them. But a woman finds it difficult to let go of a man who disvirgined her or whom she enjoys sex with.
GENTLEMEN,
Don't pressure ladies for sex when you are not ready to take up its responsibility. Being a man is not about how many ladies you have slept with, it is more of how many ladies you've helped to become better. Not by making them a mother by circumstance, abort a pregnancy or delaying their progress in life. But by bringing out the best in their career, ambitions or virtues in life

The first part you were right.
The second you are wrong. All that entails being a man is to empower and make life better for a lady.

Why didn't you advise ladies to encourage and make life better for men too.

Your advice is purely hypergamous and selfish in nature.

Kalapizim:
immaturity ! Distance will always come at one point of your lives except you both aspire to stay in one city all through without seeking advancement.

Thats the way I see it.

What you stated above is clearly the truth.

But most people find it hard to accept.

Hmm hypergamy of the highest order. Lol

Sorry na true love.

Don't qoute me oo.

Hmm just my observations since I have been on nairaland.

Igbo: illegal business/ drugs/ prostitution to make money

Yoruba: Ritual killing/yahoo (scam) ( both for money and evil) and incest at times.

Hausa: Paedophile, religious bigotry and political position ( fix themselves well in government)power to gain money.

Weird country we are living in.

Drdreyy:
My guy, you are a weak man! Reason why i called you a sissy nigga! It's your type that ladies take and use as "maga" because you start acting like a "mumu" whenever you see a woman just because of that thing between their legs.

Women are not wiser nor mentally stronger according to your erroneous assertion. Let's face it practically, put a number of men and women through vigorous mental tests like coding, mathematical computations/analysis and logical reasoning and see who will come out on top.

How many women can you point out as pioneers in the field of Technology? What about Medicine? Can you even name any of their invention(s)?

On a normal day I will insult you and prove to you that you an asshole. But since I careless about your opinion I will let you enjoy your stupidity.

Wish you luck. You will learn the hardway.

Hmm

Follow toke 's advice at your own peril.

When them rape you,drug you, use you do juju or jazz you.

Don't now come online and be looking for a good husband.

RighteousI:
Shut up! why are you giving these girls good advice? don't you realize that you are doing them a favour by telling them to be humble? instead, why not encourage these girls to listen to people like the OP to wait for a man to find them. such bad advice like one the OP has given will fill young girls with lack of humility and false bravado which will chase away any good man.

one thing girls may or may not realize is that a good man considers himself as a prince as well and he won't chase any woman like that and he doesn't believe in a woman doing nothing but waiting to be found.

Omo you wicked. He bi like say your type want make that Bible verse wey talk say 7ladies to 1man come to pass.

Say women go beg men just to bare their name. We need to let them know.

If them follow OP advice. Na wait till eternity be that.
Ok oo

Drdreyy:
Sissy nigga

Strong Adam. You will learn the way Adam in the bible learnt. Eve wey chop apple( Knowledge) before your kind and no tell you till last minute when God dey come na him fit your type. Dey feel say you dey wise pass woman.

Or say you can play strong mental game pass them. They will humble you with their gimmicks.

Enjoy sir.

Man was created before a woman. ( she is a companion to support and make him better).

Women are actually stronger mentally and wiser than men.

They can endure pain and live longer in most cases.
So why the comparison. It is just to let you know there is no equality.

Both side( man and woman) have their advantage in various aspect of life which mean equality is impossible.

Hmm there is no formula or solution for finding a good spouse.

As a lady you just need to be humble, loyal and trustworthy. ( beauty is not a factor cause it will fade over time - drop one child and your beautiful curves will say bye bye).

Now the problem is most ladies find it hard to be humble. They are mostly humble when their livelihood depends on their boyfriend.

Once a lady feels independent of any sort (financially, socially,mentally etc). Their feminism or chimamda spirit comes out. They become extremely sauces and arrogant but they can't see it ( in their mind am independent and don't need you.)

They forgot this was the guy or husband that have been with them before ( their university, nysc, unemployed years when they had nothing etc) this independent. Then their hypergamous nature comes in ( I can find a better man).

This same principle apply for loyalty. My husband or boyfriend has nothing to offer anymore after independence comes in. So they start hopping from one dick to another looking for a new man to be up or above their level.

Trust is the hardest, most men can die and spend their last cash on a wife or girlfriend they trust. She is like their pride and jewelry. They will brag about her to their Friends to let them know they can't afford to loose her.

But it is hard for a lady to be trustworthy in this current era. Too much shit test, cunny altitude, manipulation and deceitful moves. All in the name of always looking for a better option. Even if he is cheating on his trustworthy girlfriend, he would never take her matter for granted. The girl go they control am like mumu. Because the trust too much.

Ladies are also impatient nowadays. They feel everything must be sweet no time to grow with their men. They feel that an already perfect well to do man is the best. But the bitter truth is a well made man can see through their acting and submissive mode to attract him. He knows she didn't build with him so to him she is just a pleasure object.

No matter how a lady tries. He will just play along cause when hunger and poverty dey blow am she was not their.

So work on the three (humbe, loyal and trustworthy) I mentioned above. Then you might find a good husband.

Nope men have tendency to cheat more. It is just an instinct to them. Even if a man has everything:

Wealth
Beautiful and God fearing wife.
Secure Job or Business
Well behaved kids or family.

He will still cheat. (Infact with the most ugliest or the least person you will ever aspect).

Unlike women they cheat because of their hypergamous nature ( wanting better). If a woman has all that she wants (which she can never have cause her needs increase over time) she won't cheat.

It takes the grace and help of God.

If not, do you know how many secrets people die with especially married couples. You go lose faith and hope in commitment/ Marriage.

It is just the truth we must all deal with.

Hmm. The misconception about wealth, fame, rich and instant gratification is really terrible in this part of the world.

Why put you daughter through media and social scrutiny at a very young age.

Well I guess in their mind they will make her famous by riding on daddy's wing?

Or I will try a PR stunt with a lot of Photoshopped image to see how people react.

But she might not be aware of what the father is trying to do ( create a media star out of nothing - e.g bambam, gifty. Davido's Chioma and co).

The end will tell.

Abeg let me come and be going. Before they will tag me as a hater.

The truth will always remain bitter.

You need to get to the point of no hope, no return at an early stage in life. Then you will realise this is vanity upon vanity to attract unnecessary attention.

That is one of the best advice I got from a friend. And truly I realised just live your life and avoid unnecessary objects(of instant gratification) that leads to unnecessary show off or attraction.

I totally understand you.
Just live life the way you want and never look back.

Because you were born alone and will die alone.
So don't listen to what people say about you. Just live your life the way you want.

truthsayer009:
Thank you Miss/Mrs. for your true enlightenment, very poor remuneration in this industry.

Yet people like Cococandy/Mizwisdom and the rest when I was making this point on how much actresses & OAP makes asper annual income & including taxed & non-taxed income. These Men & Women earn low wages, so how come they are living lavishly? Questions people tell me to kip Chut and Mind my business, I guess it's now a public business when one actress complains.

It has suddenly become Men vs Women fight on How Men hates progressive Women.

I can remember few days ago, I had arguments with these ladies you mentioned on nairaland over this same issues.

https://www.nairaland.com/4982144/fans-calls-actress-linda-osifo

Some saying, they pay them well. Another said na contract. I asked what type of contract and trust me,

https://www.nairaland.com/4982144/fans-calls-actress-linda-osifo/3

@hipsofagoddess - no reply till date. And am still waiting? Lol

The truth remains bitter no matter how hard they try to cover it.

youngest85:
See beauty

Some people are mentally fvcked up and You are one.

generationz:
I have no problem with your analysis but saying 99.9 % is an insult to daughters and all the women you will be an ancestor to

infact you have insulted yourself that you can't raise girls who can't create wealth without having sex for money

Ok I admit 99.9% might have been too harsh. That was just an exaggeration.

But seriously majority at least 90% . I don't blame anyone cause I know men have their flaws.

It is just nature and society we were born too.

My bad for exagerating on the percentage. Apology.

Have a great weekend.

Hipsofagoddess:
What kind of a dumb fellow are you biko? Please are you still writing WAEC? Should I begin to mention the various types of contract people can get in the world? Why are you like this now?

Please do enlighten me. Maybe there is something am missing.

Mention the so called various types of contract?
Cause I might be supposedly dumb in contracts aspects like you said above.

So enlighten me. I like to learn.

If not , the the truth remains the same - it is bitter.

Hipsofagoddess:
You see why I didn't want to waste my time correcting you? So an actress cannot have access to contracts? Someone will pick only being an actress for her entire career? I'm baffled! Please read on the life of Meghan Markle and stop disgracing your ancestors!

Please enlighten me what sort of contract?
If it is endorsement I might agree. But please how many endorsement have you seen in her name?

Ordinary davido's Chioma, (chef Chioma) we heard of her endorsement and the break down of it . And still if hypergamy (sleeping or dating davido to gain relevance) was not involved Chioma will be no where.

that why I said 99.9% of your type do it to gain favour.
It is called prostitution in civilized world.

But Naija na grass to grace, big god, uncommon favours.

Hipsofagoddess:
Mr, so you think you didn't start by insulting with the ridiculous percentage you put up there? You're so brainless there is no point correcting you. We leave your type to life experiences. But we will still bring to your attention the level of your stupidity.

Ok Madam enter the movie industry. It is not still late for you. You will get a contract too and build such edifice in 5 years.

It is painful but the truth still and will always remain bitter

Hipsofagoddess:
So in your life, you've never heard of contracts? Eeyah, I really pity you. It's obvious you've been swimming in poverty. If you can't make money at least associate with rich people so that you won't be disgracing your ancestors.

Why? Don't make me school you please.

First someone said salary (500k) now contract?
Please how much contract. And I thought she was an actress?

And let's assume contract, you think there are no reliable companies out there that deserve the contract but an actress. And she got it because of what? Her acting deserves a huge contract. Lol

Seriously people like you give false image and impression to people.

Just like making 500k and turning into millions to build an edifice over 100million in just 5 years.
Aaaa AAA Nigerians.

The truth still remain bitter come up with a better reasonable answer

Hipsofagoddess:
The only thing I have to reply is that you are a brainless thing.

The truth hurts deal with it dumb goddess.

People like you never have anything or knowledge to offer than insults.

I guess you carry this altitude in your personal life (work, home , marriage, family etc) .

I clearly stated I am open to correction in my comment. I realised that most female nairalanders start off by insulting. Because your brains aint made for reasoning.

The truth is bitter deal with it or better still come up with a reasonable opinion .

Mizwisdom:
You're not making sense, if your mother or sister makes money will you insist that they are prostitutes? I know a lady working with one of our telecom companies and earning about N500,000 monthly, as in salary. Use your thinking faculty please this actress can use her status for different legit businesses, that's the reality and bitter truth

Firstly from your first sentence I knew you are angry and rude. So I will give you a piece of your medicine.

I blame your mother for not swallowing you or your father for swiping you off with tissue paper or pouring you on the floor.

Now let me answer your assumptions. I know a lady earning more than 500k a month too and she didn't build such structure or house in 2 to 10 years. Why?

Well because she had bills to handle (house rent, feeding, transportation, parents and other siblings) .

Less we forget, if you make 500k, you will pay P.A.Y.E as you earn tax which will reduce your income to like 400k or less.

Let's imagine she starts a business. With 200k out of the 400k left. So you believe she will be able to build such a magnificent house.

Please you are the one that should use your brain or thinking faculty. You are just angered I said the truth. That is just it.

I know and understand your kind.
The truth still remain bitter. Deal with it.

Mynd44:
Nigerians can't see a single woman succeed without assuming she is having sex for money.

Can we then assume that every man doing well is also into fraud or dealing drugs?

This attitude is irritating as women are hustling and a lot of them are doing so without any man yet they are insulted

Hmmm you see the problem is = the truth is bitter.

Let me analyse it. Please don't be biased and read carefully. You can call my attention to any where your opinion differs I will be glad to accept corrections.

Most ( not all ) ladies at least 99.9% got their money through what you ve assumed above.

A lady sleeps with a man (ladies call it date at that moment) for favours generally (Hypergamy - ladies call it love because he can provide for them). When he goes broke they move on to the next level just to keep up.

Now the man start giving gifts of all forms (moneys, houses, car etc). Gifts he has never or can never give his own family (mother and sibling).

Because of the ladies bedmatic skills or submissive skills which is deceiving and cracking is brain. In his head he thinks he has found love (whereas he is in self denial and destruction). Because he is investing in a place where nothing can come out apart of more investment (kids, marriage, children out of wedlock etc).

Now when most of these ladies have gotten money or houses from these sort of men. They come online and flaunt it saying it is God.

What business is she doing? An actress that ask 180 million nigerians who knows her, only 0.01 have heard of her.

So why are most ladies in self denial of the reality.

Even a girl you are dating you her give 100k and she will tell people, she worked had to pay her bills. She will not tell people she dated (bleeped ) you to pay her bills.

Although she might start a business with it and it flourishes. But the truth is the foundation of the business was not through hard work. It was ill gotten.

Haven't you noticed most of these ladies can't mentor young girls. They only talk of grass to grace. They can't guide nor mentor you.

They open business just to make an illusion that this is the source of their wealth but in reality the truth is bitter.

Uglymugg:
Guy Linda Ikeji is not an actress. Her wealth is believable. You can't fvck google adsense to give you money. People that got into blogging when it was new made millions cause back then Google wasn't as strict about traffic as it is today.

It's like Cryptocurrency. Anyone that got in when bitcon was $3 already made a killing.

I never said or insinuated she(linda ikeji) bleeped to fame or wealth.

But seriously you really thing na Google AdSense?
Hmm OK ooo. Lol


The truth is no one ever will tell you the main secret behind their wealth. They will just give you an illusion. Simple and that was the point I was trying to make