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2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

Hmm this is going to be long though so sit tight

I read it and I am going to give you the scenarios of what might eventually happen.

Let start with the typical option that almost every one is going to say. That she should quit. Hmm
Don't forget they will advise you but they are not going to be there with her when the shit get real.

Do you know how hard it is to train a child alone not to talk of two. Hmm I hope she is working well and earns well cause she will eventually end up being in the position of the other lady.

She might eventually leave and the husband will be sending her money like the other lady and still be sleeping with her. She will do it for her children like most ladies claim. She will loose her home and still do the duties of a married woman.

Her chances of getting another husband is 5% and that is even if she is lucky. She will now understand what life really entails. Don't forget paying for a child monthly allowance does not include her own rent, clothing, feeding, health and even stress of two children alone is mad.

Marriage is for better for worst. I Will advice you not to even get involve and let her decide and take accountability of her actions. Or else na new problem for you.

Don't get me wrong the husband bleeped up. But this is one of th most stupid sadistic double standards in life that favours men at times.

I can't guarantee you the other lady is either praying for her to leave so that she can enter and swap role and position with your sister. She probably is giving your sisters husband sex just for that purpose or the purpose of survival for her children as we men most often don't think and only think with uncle Johnny or our third leg.


My brother this is where I will fem on this matter. Best of luck to her and you better stay mute on the decision making of your sister.

Simple.

Toks2008:
I have lived for decades and i have had several friends .... I have had friends with very annoying manners but with an amazing heart of gold.

I have met ladies who are demonically stubborn but are loyal to the core, ladies who told me they can't date me but had stood by me come rain or shine...

I have met friends who act so arrogant but will always have my back whenever it is necessary ...people who do not have any money to give to me whenever I'm in need but their words of encouragement is worth millions.

The simple fact of life is that there is no need cutting off anyone from your life or consider them irrelevant to you at any point in time cos that person that drives you crazy might be the same person that will come through for you when you least expect...that person you feel is too poor to give you money might be the one that will link you with a life changing opportunity that will be worth more than all the money you have ever seen in your life...and the ex you are so angry with might still have a great impact in your life.

Appreciate everybody and be nice to them because there is something good and valuable in everyone we come across no matter how terrible we may think they are, even that tout you avoid so much might be the one that will save you from hoodlums tomorrow.

True talk oo. I know they cut anybody off oo. I dey put people for pause and then replay again ooo

Ooe33:
Oga go hustle

As in you no need tell me . I dey hustle like mad oo.

That is why I talk for the end say make I go face my life ooo. It is easier for most other genders but for you as a man or guy . Hmm you go suffer . God gone talk am say you go sweat and tile the land before you go get to chop ooo.

Deep

Now the truth at times is most billionaires or billionaires uncle's or inlaw are practically self centered and stingy.

Most think they have to treat their families or relations as workers. In most case they are control freak and love monopoly of everything. They feel like mini gods among men. They try to control your destiny.

I know a lot from family, friends , inlaw who are millionaires but they can't help you. They see you as a worker.

Don't get me wrong. I don't blame them the society we live in creates such humans. Their kids suffer psychologically and families or relatives are in abject poverty.

That is why I always say to people, pray Almighty God or Allah creates and pave your own path and way to success. That is the best way. Even if you have 50 million, you might live a fulfilled life better than these billionaires. As long you give praise to your wealth creator and cut your coat according to your size. You will never need to beg or have any psychological trauma that will lead to depression or suicide.

What do I know self. Abeg make I go focus on my life and path.

Lol he is definitely cashing out on the people and the state.

Seriously those funds are badly managed. Read between the lines, his project are too huge or money intensive.

Imagine 15 billion, just for one project, 10 billion for re-innovation of airport etc. So 25 billion gone just like that. Is the airport new ? Is the road new? Even if you had to build a new airport, that amount is way too much.

Considering the state needs other visible infrastructure that he could build. He devoted 25 Percent of the total budget on two project . Aaaah this life people no get heart and joy.

Now someone will come here and say he is rich and doesn't need the state money. Lol audio story.

Lmao

Omo that one deep oo.

Seriously we men at times do some stuff wey dey shock me.

This one I agree. It is too discriminatory. This what feminist suppose they fight for say make them end.

Not all this other stuff wey no make sense. I thank God say them done end am. It is really bad at times.

Like we men seriously we always believe in this hymen crap. We need to stop all this old things. Especially when it is for work or equality or gender stuff.

We need to evolve and really start taking women more accountable for real stuff not virginity test in the army.

I weak small Sha.

webizone:
Thanks. Gonna save this.
Still one question, I had tried a lot to find and ask girls out for a long time as I had planned on bonding with one and getting married early enough, but without success. I am just in my early thirties, and some of my friends are already married. Nowadays, I don't try as much or bother again. I am now more interested in my business. Since, in society, it's required for guys to ask girls out and I don't feel the excitement about it anymore, is it true that it gets to a point you get asked out by them?

You are already going into MGTOW mode ( men going their own way) like me.

Don't get it wrong. I have my rotation of girls who come in to do the needful. I don't chase or pay girls like some men think. Paying or trying to please a woman is the most simpish way.

Now most people think MGTOW men don't have ladies or are incel. On the contrary . Na we understand female and their nature more. I don't expect loyalty from any of them like most men do. And that is most men downfall.

MGTOW brothers focus more on their self improvement. Going your own way allows you to focus more on your self. You devote your energy, attention, time and money on yourself. You work on your mental, financial, physical and phycological growth.

The fact you are going on your own way means you have started practising stoicism without knowing. The ability to walk away from women, humans, problem, stress or anything that might bother or hinder your peace of mind is blissful. In other words the ability not to give free fvcks is blissful. If you feel like taking yourself to a wonderful restaurant or travel or just be indoors and Netflix and chill without worrying about the outside world is blissful.

You see most people have problems like bicycle. When you let them into your world means they bring in their own baggage and try to attach it to you.

Now for your married friends, they mostly entered without adequate plan and just did it based on age , time, got a little job ( small finance) etc. Then they marry feeling they are prepared. Most ladies marry for provisioning or age is not on their side any more. Some marry for fairytale delusional love which we both know doesn't exist and is conditional. These put them not even at ease with themselves. Most of my married friends are unhappy. They don't like going home. They complain of been sex starved by their wives.

They think getting married make them responsible. Being responsible is not something you attain automatically by marrying. It is something you practice when you are single. When you are single you should be accountable for your actions. You should have a long-term plan and evaluate your possible outcome even in the future.

I had to explain the above before I answer your question to give you an insight of where am coming from.

Now most ladies are like cats. Men are like dogs. Cats are fickle creatures. They get close to those who don't need or neither give them attention. Meaning once smart lady sees you as a confident man ( who confidence is not built on money or material things - like other men who's confidence and leverage is based on provisioning ( money).

They will definitely come to you. Once you don't flaunt it or show off . But they see your composure and know you have it. They know a man who is focus on is business and mental well being will not devote most of his time chasing them around. Women read men more then we read them. It is only men who have no purpose in life that will be chasing and woeing women up and down like a job.

This same theory above applies to women. It only an unambitious woman with no goal or purpose in life chase after men. Cause they believe they really need to leech or secure a man for provisioning. Simple

It is only gold diggers that will solely want you because of money. But in as much as you don't spend it based on their request or exorbitantly, they will know you have a long term goal for yourself.

The smart ones will make themselves available to you. They will give you choosing signals and approach you on their own. They know you are the prize. They will try everything to please you . Even manipulate you to see them as the unicorn you have been looking for.

My brother ( or sister Incase your monicker is showing the wrong gender) focus on yourself. Spend more time alone and you will start enjoying your own company. Even if you accept few ladies like I do. I enjoy my quality time more either at the gym, pool, restaurant or at home. Most of the ladies on my rotation understand it.

I care less what they do when they are not around me. I am not bother cause I know what I am worth ( not being arrogant here.) Just continue focusing on all aspect of your self improvement and watch them Chase you as time pass by.

Stay safe man.

webizone:
I am interested in learning about age dynamics. Explain that one more.

The age dynamic is similar to smv ( sexual market value).

As a man, your prime officially start at 35yrs ( some 28 yrs) till death. Especially if you are one of the Top earners.

As a lady your prime start officially from 18 ( in some cases less 16yrs) and ends between 35-40 max.

As a man you should date ladies in their early age to form a bond and lead. Once you start dating them from 25- 27yrs upwards, get ready of lots of crap.

There drama, emotional abuse based on past relationships. They will mostly just want to outplay and manipulate you to settle down with them. After marriage comes more problem.

This which will be pretty annoying to you. That is why most men in marriage end getting frustrated and sex starved. They married a woman who age dynamic doesn't suit theirs.

You see as a man between the age of 16-22 yrs sex and relationship couldn't have been your priorities. You had pass jamb, get admission, graduate, get master, get a job and on top of that compete with other men.

But you are sure of babes in that age bracket on campus. From one uncle to another sugar daddy to another banker to senator to etc. They were in their prime. They gather experience with men who are way above you. They have seen it all. Deja Vu.

Now when you finally start earning and your building your wealth you can't settle with such an individual who have been used, traumatized, emotional messed with, ovaries are gone, mentally unstable, no logical and rational thinking. No accountability.

Even if you want to bond and build up with her, it will practically be impossible because of her past ideas from uncles, boyfriend, daddy,banker etc. She will never follow your lead. She will be a feminist with a messed up ideology. Once you try to accertain your position as the head she will call it slavery, torture master, abusive, etc

In other words or conclusion
The age dynamic between you and the lady you want to marry must be in sync with when you both start or enter your prime. It gives you both leverage to build and understand each other. You both will bond and grow together. That is if you want to marry or settle down.

If it is just for dating and putting them back to the street my brother you don't need all the above. Just smash and move. Simple

Hmm

Hmm he was making sense until he said they will come back home to him after playing around with other men.

Now that is were he lost it. So he is the backup plan. The retirement plan. The option T - Z ( literally their last option).

He is the one who bags the prize ( lol). I mean used up, emotional baggage and trauma prize. The keeper of the abused (knowingly or unknowingly). The caterer of their souls. The uncle beta simps.

He feels that he can bond or create anything tangible or worthwhile with them. He doesn't understand the sexual marketplace or value. He doesn't even knows is value. He doesn't understand the age dynamics.

So after years of focusing on your mental, physical and financial well being. You wait for a used , manipulative and self-centered creature whole didn't build with you to then come to you.

At times, I just pity my own gender our mumu too much. No wonder eve could put Adam out of God's grace.

Well I wish all men luck in there pursuit of happiness. I come in peace.

baby124:
All these gay men on NL. Insulting women won’t bring straight men to your side you know. The fact of the matter is FFK is not worth being anybody’s husband or father

The fact you didn't still get the message shows that you are one of those creatures that bleeds every month without dying. Well I never expected any logical comment from your type.

Gay? You couldn't come up with something better. Well shaming language isn't a form of argument. Come up with something tangible next time. Now if they say your gender is full of emotional decision and you all lack critical and logical reasoning . You futuristic female gender gets angry.

Let me Indulge you a little more. No one said it is ok to be with FFK or forced her to be with an abuser. She knew what the man was but still married him because as usual your gender is irrational and unlogical when it comes to reasoning.

She was forming love all throw PDP era. We didn't hear of any stories instead all people saw was delusional fantasy of a ride and die chick standing with her husband. She had her past trauma from abusers before FFK from her uncle and families. But she still insisted on marrying another abuser.

Ok she divorced and started claiming Miss independent ( another delusional grandeur - your gender exhibits once they have a little finance) But I guess that couldn't last long.

Now she is looking for money to milk from her abuser. She wants to ask for what her work or father can't even offer. She is greedy and self centered like every of her gender.

Any man still intending to marry any of your types in this generation and the next to come should expect more instability, drama and suffering. They should accept the pain and chaotic nature your gender exhibits.

Lol

Now am about to address men. If you feel the future is female please move to the future and ignore my comments.

This is what await most of you men planning to marry.

Drama upon drama. Either now or later down the years.

From wife cheating to trying to steal or attain your wealth one way or the other.

You men, believe in the delusional fairytale fantasy called love. You will only suffer and get accustomed to one form of pain or the other.

This lady's case is similar. When the going was good always praising the abuser. Now he is out of power she needs to find away to extort money from him while returning back to the street.

Well he could have avoided all this problem but he decided to fall in the so called delusional state . Now he is going to suffer for it.

Vyolet:
The OP, a married man has cheated severally and no one is calling him out, cos he is a man. Let a woman confess such now, all the mails on nl will descend on the thread to bash her entire existence, words like hoe, cutlass, axe will start flying around.

Well because it is not the same.

If a married high value man cheats. He is exercising his options.

If a married woman cheats it means she want to return back to the street where she belongs.

Switch the role for once. Try being man with so much societal pressure and expectations of how you have to be a provider, protector and successful.

Then when you achieve success, marry a man. Pay all most all the bills and responsibilities. Protect and keep the family running. Be the head of the house, fix and repair. Be rational and logical in all the decisions you make to ensure your husband and children are safe. Devote attention, time and money to this your husband. Knowing fully aware that all you have worked for is still for the husband and children. Knowing you will die before him. And everything will still end up been for him even if you will it to your children. Cause the end game is that he will still have all your years of hard work and hard earning after you are gone.

He will own your house in some civilised country. He will collect family and child support from you even if he divorces you. Practically you are a slave to him all because of his reproductive system and legacy.

Then expect him to cheat and see if you can accept it.

I come in peace.

Lol sex and attention starved pastor

ChiefSosa:
Some people never grow up, they just grow old. His white hair would've fooled people into thinking he's sensible. If you respect yourself, your marriage, your wife and possibly kids, why would you go about having a side chick? This is not about being an "Alpha male", this is just about COMMON SENSE. If you met your wife with her Side guy in public, would you be quiet?

Oga please do and Marry. Then you would understand.

And if you are already married. I don't want to tell you the probability and ratio at which wives are disloyal.

You will figure it out over time sir.

Have a wonderful married life . Hmm

Femzaremz:
i remember when one nairalander, Fisher007 made a topic on this issue! Mehn so many negative energy on that thread! This guy was insulted by so many ladies and some foolish white knight simps! Now d truth is that many women are hypocrites!they know dat marriage is ultimately just a retirement plan from their hoeing days to any foolish simp gullible enough to wife dem up!but they dont want u to have access to dis obvious knowledge!so it is up to we men to use our numba 6 to know dat in these debased times, marriage simply does not cut it any longer!thanks!

My fellow redpill brother, they will learn. You see marriage is a scam no matter how you want to see or sell it to any logical and reasonable person.

The lady knows time is clicking . She senses the undefeated wall even if she can't understand what exactly is the wall. Her mum knows too that the attention and charades around her daughter is going down.

In Asia most women over 25 are leftovers women. Men don't care about them. In Pakistan you don't even exist at that age. Even the Muslim men here in Nigeria literally just marry the old one just to have an haram of ladies. In the US guys now pump and dump girls above that age. In Saudi Arabia/ UAE they just use them for fetish potty potty party. The reality is women brought this upon themselves.

Why marry? When you literally take responsibility of an entitled creature without rationale thinking. You pay for everything in most cases, you must provide and protect, you are basically growing a pet ( invincible- Omni man reference lol). All they do is form love to you after all their past years of riding the cock carousel. Then they bring more trauma and emotional baggage to your life.

I am happy for those Marrying Sha. There must be Adam ( the provider/ husband) and there must be the serpent ( the Uncle, ex boyfriend, just a friend, colleague, gym buddy, driver and red pill brothers). No wonder everyone especially the male attendee at the wedding says our wife. Lol

Fisher007:
Hmm is it just me or this type of the news from the south especially south east (igbo land) is becoming too common?

I think there is a pattern and aim to this?

Destroy their security post or base to weaken the state. Then invade.

Cause before a virus or bacteria takes full effect on you, it weakens you immune system then take full control.

I might be wrong Sha

What do I know self.

Think and analyse the recent occuring well oo

There must be a bigger plan.

Hmm is it just me or this type of the news from the south especially south east (igbo land) is becoming too common?

I think there is a pattern and aim to this?

Destroy their security post or base to weaken the state. Then invade.

Cause before a virus or bacteria to takes full effect on you, it weakens your immune system, then take full control.

I might be wrong Sha

What do I know self.

Elixirsblog:
Really whats special about this. A woman is interested in you, you told her you don't like her that way she left you be, now you're bringing her to discuss on NL.
why you guys gotta be so dramatic about stuff.
she say she's moving on with her life. Move on with your life too. geeeeeezzzz

He needs to enlighten other brothers and he need to discuss with other to know if made the right decision.

You see she might never have been thst caring if she wasn't a single mother. That is the worst trap a single brother can fall into.

I am glad she is moving on to the next available. Like ladies say ( we move). Even most single ladies say that they move all through their prime( from one tom, to Harry, to ade etc) Now when the clock is ticking and the wall seems inevitable, then they want a serious relationship and want to settle down.

The reality is brothers discuss alot and learn from each other the way ladies discuss at salons. Brothers are eating the apple and they are getting woke from the delusion our fathers had. The stupid society construct on dating and relationship is been modified to suits individual needs.

Simple.

Hmm where do I start from .

Wait make I go chill first will comeback to comment. Lol

At least hope still dey for some men who dey find wife.

Cause naija ladies are too entitled. Lol

Gbam

Now where do we start from.

I have no problem with him buying or showing appreciation to someone ( mother, father, children close friends, siblings, relatives or wife) who deserves it, if it is really genuine.

Let me start with the man. You see it is clear that he is highly delusional. Most men think all these gifts and cars gets to the real soul or Coeur heart of a women. Error.

It only buys them for a while and their demands increases. If you have a woman or girlfriend that you keep giving and doesn't give even 20-40 percent in return then you must be a special simp.

When things change for you and you can't keep up. Please accept the pain and trauma alone. We have seen men who did way better than that na divorce finish am last last (e.g Jeff bezo who was a billionaire and who gave his wife 37 billion dollars). Last last she divorce am go dey date her child math teacher in school.
Thank God Jeff rose back and his wealth went into 200 billion dollars few month after.

Some people will come here and say she didn't ask for it . But a real woman who loves (If that exist) unconditionally will tell you that is not needed . That the future of you and your kids is what matters and needs to be secured. Leading to generational wealth and legacy from your child to their child and onward. Simple truth.

Now for the woman. If she really love you and as she claim to do ( which real men know that her love is conditional, provisional and in some case transactional). She won't even display or show off the gift you bought for her to the world. She will appreciate it and be cruising it on the low. Highest she will praise her almighty God and give testimony of what the Lord has of done for her with her God.

But nope, she wants to show off on social media to the entire world and indirectly put preying eyes on both you and your entire family. Before you know the world focus on you and your source of wealth. She wants her female friends to envy her and start questioning their own husband and relationship.

Too me this was not needed. But what do I know. I know nothing Fisher007.

drinoayo:
Actress Uche Ogbodo has revealed that getting pregnant has messed up her life in a rather beautiful way, Igbere TV reports.

In an Instagram post on Sunday, the actress shared a picture of her baby bump.

She wrote:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CMrX4XkpAo2/?igshid=1auj01wwvgvnm

Uche recently announced her pregnancy after previously denying the claims from a blogger.

The 34-year-old actress who has a daughter from a previous relationship says she is happy having as many children as possible as a single mother.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWlqbe2XCe8

Gbam

Let's start from the age she is 34. She is about to reach the moment when she realise the truth.

A woman's prime is between the age of 18-25 . A man's prime start from 35- till death. Argue all you want the truth is bitter.

18- 25, if she is lucky it will reach 28. Once it is 30 her ability to give birth diminishes. She will need all this IVF, drama to have one.

Now beauty and attention is a woman's currency. The smart ones use it at that age to attain what they want ( wealth, connection, business and settle down with a (so called husband ) good husband if that still exist in this modern time.

Now she wants to have as many Children. Lol when the options were given to her in the past. she dey form beauty queen, slaying around abi. She is highly delusional. I pity men that will want to marry her now.

No matter all her rants the pregnancy has lowered her sexual market value. Let call a spade a spade. It is only men who are weak and not in their own purpose that will value her.

I believe she is learning. She remained a beautification object till 34 and now claiming another thing.

Abeg make I dey go work ( work which is an illusion by the way). That is another subject I have to talk on another day.

Quote me at your own peril.

Stay safe my brothers from another mother reading this

Ghostty:
Hello guys
Good morning to you all.

Remember this thread I created sometime last year?

https://www.nairaland.com/5448693/accept-job-offer-continue-job

Well as God would have it, a Nairalander whose moniker is very popular on here(Wouldn't mention for obvious reasons) reached out to me and asked me to send my CV to his email address for review.

At first, I was reluctant and didn't want to send the CV considering he's always not serious with his posts and also a troll here or so I thought. But on a second thought I decided to give it a try. Few days later, he sent an email requesting that I meet him at a particular address the following day on the Island here in Lagos.

The following day I got to the address, it was actually an office complex with the company occupying about 6 floors in the entire building. I met with the Nairalander, we discussed at length and in the end he asked me when I would love to resume.

I later got to know he is the General Manager, Group Learning and Human Resources for the Company(A Privately owned Oil Firm) after resumption.

Fams, today I'm gainfully employed with a pay four times bigger than what the Chinese company had earlier offered me in my previous thread.

I want to use this medium to thank Seun Osewa and most especially God for sending an helper my way when I thought all hopes was lost. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

PS: Some Nairalanders are super rich and connected guys, believe me. Learn to respect people's opinion on here as you may not know who you're dealing with. For those who are still searching for jobs, please do not stop believing as your breakthrough is closer than you know. Thank you.



Modified:

I know you would most likely see this Sir. May God continually bless you, guide and protect you. I appreciate you from the bottom of my heart, God bless you. Amen!

I am happy for you man.

But you nearly fell into the trap of underestimating someone based on their ideology or comment.

But God gave you wisdom to forward your CV. I learnt my lesson the day I met one of this Anambra state men. So simple wears slippers and a t-shirt up and down. But his Rolex was mad.

I was first underestimating based on is way of talking and acting. A typical Igbo man until he pulled an impossible string for me in my presence. Guy I weak. I couldn't see it coming.

From that day henceforth, even if you are dressed like a shoemaker I will still give you the same respect I give others. Even if our opinion differs I will still respect you.

Cause trust me the real wealthy men don't show off. They live a low key life. That you will be shocked and choked on the shock ooo.

Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?

Hmm pelee am coming to give you a bitter truth make I chop finish

Now let start. You need to work out. That is all. All this complain you are making makes me feel you are too emotional.

He is even telling you the truth. However if oga too has belly. Tell him calmly that doesn't he think he should pay for both of you gym subscription so that you can both get in shape .

Most loved one don't like been compared to others. Except you have sigma or MGTOW mentality , then you won't give a fvck.

Madam work on yourself. Do squats, build your stomach walls. Madam at the end of the day. It is for your own well being. Simple truth.

milann:
You meet someone, got along well (you two almost dating). Next thing you found out, s/he is an atheist. What would you do? Would you quit? Would you go ahead? Would your belief in God hinder you from marrying a great person? Share your thoughts.

Hmm wait am coming to give you bitter undiluted truth.

Now lets start.

You said date not marriage. You see the best people to date are atheist. They are just themselves, no religious restrain or hypocrisy.

You will end up realising over time they are straight. The religious guy or girl most time use religion to cover their dirty truth. They hide under religion in most cases. Both Muslim and Christians.

They will preach and form holy to you. But if you find out their past or a glimpse of it . The shock wey you go get go even choke you pass 1000 Walt volts.

The religious dater will be using their Scriptures in the Bible or Quran to cage you. Trust me why do you think most become Shiloh worshippers or mosques attendants.

They give you an illusion they are pure and virtuous. My brother or sister run . I repeat run.

I prefer to meet an atheist who is not constrained by religion. Who is open minded and willing to explore every part of life without limits.

Trust me dating religious people are boring. They become religious extremist and too predictable.

But what do I know.

Keep safe

Nicenancy:
Why do some men find other people's wives attractive?

Doesn't the Knowledge that another man (her husband) screws her alone disgust such unscrupulous men

When there are innumerable single women pretty out there?

Hold on. I will give you a bitter truth.

Ok let's start.

You see most men think they own woman after marriage. Lol wrong. She is not yours, it is just your turn. Lmao. You cannot hold a woman down from exhibiting her nature.

You can have the whole world, able to fvck for 1hr non stop without coming, be richer than Elon musk. Oga she will still be desired by another man and she will still piped down someone else if she wants.

A woman mind is way too complex for me to understand. Some men think providung for her will do it. She end up Fvcking a f-boy. Lol

Some think Fvcking her well will keep her and she will stikk fvck the one that can provide even if he can last for 2 mins

You might think you might be good in bed and provision but she will fvck the romantic one that gives her only attention. Lmao

Men think they have the ultimate freedom to fvck around like me. But don't forget too she wants to explore too. She is human too like you. Change is constant in everything in life

When she fell for the husband and she was in a delusional state called love. She married oga because of his lifestyle and trips oga was giving. Overtime oga will change and start giving a different vibes from the initial stage. But oga always forget of all his vibes intially at the early stage which attracted her.

Now she starts to look for the serpent instead of Adams ( the provider). Adams (oga) who is still giving the initial routine.

Ladies love to explore too. You think most women don't want to get double/ triple penetrated and want to explore their (dark femininity ) sexuality.

There is also something called the vortex . Which envelopes a woman at a certain age where she wants to fvck anything apart from her husband. She also cannot only
be eating the normal sausage alone. Some need the spicy, dark long, BBC fvck.

The Bible say pray you find a good wife.

Men I have learnt.

Simple.

Tizzz78:
We started dating last year December, we are cool with each other, we try as much as possible to avoid quarrels.. I noticed something about my girl, everytime she meets a new guy, she tells me about it whenever we chat or talk on phone..

Pls just kind of curious, what could b my girl motive to always tell me about every new guy that meets her and exchange contacts with her..

Any bashing is welcomed, na normal vibes for here as long as I get ur opinions..

Feel questions first?

What is your SMV ( sexual market value ) in relations to her own?

Are you financial, mentally stable without her?

Have you found happiness in your own self and doing your alone time?

Have you heard of female nature and hypergamy?

Do you have a plan for yourself ( goals) first of all in 5 years to come? Then what is your plan for the relationships?

Answer this. Then I can give you an answer cause the short description you gave above is too small to deduce an answer.

Although other people might be fast to jump and bash or rush into conclusion. Then start insulting you and your babe.
Not me.

Lol

Delusional simps meet entitled creatures.

Love only exist for the delusional simps cause he/she will provide, protect and die to an entitled creatures.

Whereas the entitled creatures only is bother about is own survival. The creature feeds on it counter part like a leech. Either financially, physically, emotionally and mentally.

For this story you all are typing above to work. Someone has to take the position of one.

It can either be male or the female that will assume one position. The feeling or smoke screen you all call love appears.

One of the party will either get woke and realize that it was all delusional from the start.

Well till then enjoy yourselves.

Pure bitter undiluted Redpill message. Always hard to swallow.

Lol This picture says a lot about females.

Look at the dress displayed by Annie's mother, Annie herself and her daughter.

You will get the message.

The wall is invisible and inevitable for all women. They must hit the wall.

May she find a simp or captain save a ( you know) to help her.

I walkaway from this, the power to walk away is the greatest power a man have .