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dangotesmummy:
even those girls that wear overall long gowns still get sexually harassed so sexual harassment isn't a function of what a lady wears.

I was surprised when I passed by that yaba market area and a woman in her late 40s was sexually bullied. This was a woman wearing iro and buba no make up on and tied her scarf anyhow. So any woman can be a victim irrespective of age or dressing. The worse victims of sexual harassment are teenage girls hawking pure water or oranges around that area. I usually pity them because they're not New to sexual bullying. Even elderly women hawking that look unattractive aren't excluded so find another thing talk

I agree. If this was a sane country, there would be laws protecting women from these sex predators. It's unfortunate that our society blatantly empowers madness so long as the offender has a pole between their legs.

ellacute45:
You two are plain stupid

Hmmmmmmph.....my dear girl, I meant to quote a poster who typed that, I can see I didn't capture that well. if u cool yourself enough and read the last sentence that states the poster is a self confessed rapist, maybe you would rein in your tongue. I am sure you didn't read to the end before blasting off

Buh girls too are the very cause of it
I remembered telling a girl in front of my house dat one day I eill snuup my long dick in to her tight pussy. She will just laugh

So one day I went to spy the girl without the knowledge dat the father if the Girl was watching mee too. Wen he walked up too me and said hey waht are u looking at .
Immediately I confessed dat I loved her daughter and will one to marry her
But he was now like looking at my Kanjiii
Since then I havent seen pelumi in the street she don carry am go back waterside.[/quote]There we have it!! A self confessed sex predator. God help you.

So sorry @ wifee. You met an opportunist who preyed on your good nature. I do hope you got custody of your kids. You will survive this.

There you go

I actually wanted to say something, but I will save myself the effort. * continues reading comments*

BuzyBrain:
Learn to Take correction

You are far more in need of your own advice and while you do that, also learn to pass your opinions across with politeness, it will earn you some measure of respect. I think we are quite done here, have yourself a good day.

jahsson:
nah wah for u sef... U wey dey read "down-side up... "akin=similar" d woman having a mental problem makes her similar to a toddler who can't defend her self,

It's akin to raping a toddler, they don't know what is being done to them, they can't fight back.
thats what the poster meant...

I really don't see how the meaning of an obvious statement was lost on him in his bid to claim superior knowledge. Thanks for further simplification sir. Goodnight

BuzyBrain:
Toddler keh! Do you read upside down? The lady in question is 24years old. She isn't a toddler but an adult

Mr, I don't remember addressing you. Next time, ask for clarification when you don't seem to comprehend a post. Goodnight.

This broke my heart . It's akin to raping a toddler, they don't know what is being done to them, they can't fight back. O God!!!! That rapist should have his penis stamped on by an elephant. I feel for the family.

[size=8pt][/size]. Oh wow!!!!! This dude just offered himself on a platter as target practice for our dear foul mouthed Nlanders.
@Strahovski1, my condolences, you just signed your death warrant. I hope to eat ladoo at your funeral.

The continental association of African witches and wizards have sworn Africa must remain backwards. This is the result of their meeting to that effect.

Madam,permit me to say that you are partly enabling the situation.
What exactly is confusing you in the matter? Since when did your niece begin commandeering your kitchen to the point of dishing your hubby's meals? Where are you then? You sit back to form madam?
So in the process of using your niece as your maid,you foolishly handed over power to her to become the wife of your house. And you even come here to cry that you are helpless? Good Lord!! You obviously have no grip on your home! I advise you drop that victim mentality you have adopted because your laxity is starting to cost you your home. Do you even realize your niece needs help which only you can give her right now?
You say you caught your hubby sniffing her panties and you did nothing?!! Why didn't you take the matter head-on there and then? You are waiting to gather more evidence? Will that be when you finally catch him bleeping her on your matrimonial bed and you come back to tell us your niece has snatched your hubby?
Pls,take the child home to her mother and explain to your sister what transpired. You can send the upkeep money to them when it is due.
If your husband protests,tell him point blank about the day you caught him sniffing like a goat and that you won't wait for more suprises before you step up to protect your niece.
Then its left for you to call your man to order!! If he can act like this to your sister under your very nose,then you won't like to hear what he's been up to outside the home. Goodluck

.LOL!!! Much as I don't believe the story, I find it tooo funny. Well, in the Nigerian context, if the wife was the one in the topic, she would be advised to swallow it all,stay humble and prove what a good wife she truly is. Hehehehehehehe!!!. My advice to the man is to borrow a leaf fron our Nigerian wives and do what they would do, stay humble to prove what a good son-inlaw he is!

Animal in human skin! He even has another wife with three more kids? At 35? What an all round irresponsible tout!!! He wants to have two women under his broke ass abusive self when he can't cater for them and still feels intimidated when his victim try to have a life absent him?
This man has nothing to offer the society. He should please be tried and locked up where the likes of him belong: in jail, away from sane people.

I am sorry your marriage is not what you wanted it to be dear,but its not the end of your world. You don't need to resign yourself to a state of perpetual misery. Let's look at it from another point of view: see this as a challenge and an opportunity to find yourself again.
Before you got married, WHO WERE YOU? Were you independent,what was your social circle like? How was your relationship with your family? Did you have esteem issues? Where you a happy woman? Or were you waiting for marriage/dream lover to make you happy? What were your hobbies? What were you passionate about?
Marriage is just a name.its the pple in it that gives it the meaning. Why in this short life would you CHOOSE to be unhappy because of another person? He's your husband,not your maker. You will fail if you keep making a man your source of living.
Its going to be difficult,but you need to remove focus from your hubby back to yourself. Practice self love. Work on gaining self esteem. You can't love another when you don't love yourself. Invest in yourself,your kids,join an NGO,learn a skill or vocation, aim at being an asset and a value adding individual.
Reorganize your life and time. When you get busy,you won't notice your hubby that much.
Get this, your husband is human and humans fail,humans are not perfect. He may have chosen not to regard you, its his choice,but if you choose to treat yourself in same manner,then its game over. So get up,dust yourself and start living.

@OP, na only u waka come?
Na wa o!! All these complaints and still lay claim to love? Nehii. Since what will make you happy is an Agbani Darego who will keep jumping all over you like a monkey high on sprite, then please,release this lady and give both yourselves another opportunity to find the love u feel you deserve and can give.
Your very own words have have nailed the situation. She's cool,but she's not up to your desired taste in looks,emotional expressions and family background. So why cheat both you and her of your deepest desires? I believe she have no idea how deeply your dissatisfaction goes and even if you end up marrying her, you will condemn her to a tortous marriage where she has to work endlessly to earn your attention,care and support without even knowing why.
Its better now than later,release her. Your call!!

Lord have mercy!!!! Animal in human skin. Ladies PLEASE,at the first sign of abuse from your man,RUN for your life!!!!!! It never gets better,abusers never change. A leopard has better hope of changing its spot than the abuser. I don talk my own o.

This story sef......
Well no matter how vindictive the lady in question feels, her actions has potrayed her state of mind. Because by opening up about being pregnant for another man,it shows she's at war with her conscience. Her conscience has already judged her that her actions are not really necessary or justified. The weight of her guilt is quite crushing for her to damn the risk of being exposed and confide in her hubby's family members because she knows she has messed up big time.
Well I don't know what advice to give here,only that she and her husband must be brave,own up to their infidelities,find a way to forgive themselves and propose constructive ways to grow together as a couple. Better still,they should seek the help of a professional marriage counselor. No one should hold the other in contempt or even try to justify the weight and extent of their offences to each other. Each has deeply hurt the other,but ultimately,the choice still lies with them whether to proceed with wisdom or destroy their home with foolish fingerpointings or unproductive feelings of entitlement to make errors and get away with it in total disregard of the feelings of the other person.
I wish them peace and all the best.
@ Emaprince... You are approaching this topic with far more aggression that its beginning to look personal. You have made valid points in the beginning which I believe has been noted by everyone. Your continued altercation with just about every lady with differing opinions doesn't do well to project a solid image for you. Know when to walk bro,it doesn't mean you lost the argument.

Who let d dog out?.......who whowhowho who?

And you just couldn't resist redirecting d topic!!

Election is yet to start and then this? I fear for my country. May God protect every single polling official nationwide and every single vote who stands in line to make a vote today. May they all be protected from untimely death and election violence. AMEN

U will never know what your partner is capable of until the fight.
How else will u know their level of patience,tolerance,respect and
most importantly,their capacity to forgive and accept the other's
shortcomings? Disagreements brings out the worst in other people.
Better to know what you are dealing with and be prepared before tying the knot
than to step into a world of suprises later on.

Wonderment! That mother really needs psychiatric assessment.
No sane woman will go thru labour only 2 hurt her baby this way.
Poor child!!

I just can't stop laffin at Mobuch's comments.
In as much as d behaviour is a phase for teenagers with ragin hormones, it has a psychological base and many times, becomes an abnormal sexual behaviour. The boy needs sound sex education and sound advice will do the trick. OP, don't judge him or freak out since he has opened up to you. Be a guide by having your bf or elder bro take him on.
@ Ladygemma, afraid is catching me. Your kid step bro is family, why in the world would u encourage him to smell/kiss/wear/lick ur panties? I bet u don't know the level of damage you are doing to him. 2moro,he might grow and think its ok to bleep his step-daughter. Pls stop. He is not your boyfriend and its neither ok or funny as you are trying to make it sound.

@ OP
So if you were the lady,what would you feel and then do?
That should be @ the back of your mind. So stop making it sound like your gf of 10yrs knows what your game plan is. Don't make your parting messy by employing heartbreaking self serving tactics to push her out. Give her her deserved dignity by talking to her about it. She will rave and curse and grieve, its all in her right,but be sure to let her know you would never tie her destiny in a loveless marriage that will be a source of unending heartache and misery for her.

Hahahah!!! Here's another: if he shuts down or picks a fight or claim cluelessness each time you try to communicate meaninfully or know what's on his mind 4 both of you, please run for your life. Destiny killers are out there looking 4 who 2 steal their lustre before moving on.....!! Hehehehehe