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Ralaji:
Please I was introduced to this forum by a brother.
Please kindly read my story and drop your advise.
I met this lady 6 years ago immediately I broke up with my last girl friend, she agreed to visit me after a month and we began to have intimacy on her 2nd or 3rd visit. By 4th month she started disturbing me that her parents want to meet me meanwhile she was a free giver whenever she visited,atimes she sleeps over in my place. There is this cool headed girl I was about sealing her deal then that she spoilt for me. On my first plan visit to her place she was not around I guessed she had a date with one of her guys which I got to know through our conversation over the phone, the guy actually camped her for 3 days but she lied to me that she was with her brother. Eventually I went to her place and I met with her mum and dad her dad had health challenge while her sister is staying in their house on the excuse that her husband works in another town but later got to know that she's having issues with her marriage. On that day its as if I was jazzed because I started doing anything herself and her mum ask me to do. While visiting she used to tell me about getting car that it would be nice and being someone that is so trusting and believing that she will do same to me, she also asked whether I have landed property which I said no. At my place of work there some cars that were place for auction then I applied for one and I was granted.
She complained about my apartment she said the area is bushy I had to look for another apartment I even run to my mum for financial assistance over this.
While preparing for our wedding I funded most of the expenses they were able to do all these because my people do not stay in the city where we are.
After the wedding I was already in debt and she lost her job when it was like 2 weeks to our wedding.
After the wedding she told me that she had bought a car and that it was with her brother.
I began to spend on the car immediately her brother brought the car starting form number.
Some months after the wedding there was an occasion in their family and they share money I carried the highest being that her elder ones are jobless except 2 of them that are managing, she is the last among them.
Six months after our marriage we had our son. She stood on my neck with her mum that we should do all the shopping for the baby being the first born I eventually spent around #250k on this still in debt. Some of those things are useless today.
Around the time we had our baby she said her colleagues in school have started paying for school fees I said she should defer it till following year but her mum started begging eventually I put up my car for sale I never knew that her car is problem on its own which is sold to her by one of her boyfriends. The car is actually a used Nigeria car package for her like new at #600k being fanciful at that time and very presentable than my own we put mine for sale and his brother stylishly bought it from us to clear her school fees.
When she went for exams she came back with some new clothes which I knew were bought for her by her boyfriend.
She got some money from her uncle like 2 years ago she said she wants to travel abroad she spent all the money on the processing which eventually failed.
Around this time I lost my job too, but was able to get some money which I gave to her to go and get her result in school.
She help me get one temporary job which I did for 3 months but before I left ihelped her secure another job this is after 4 years of our marriage I also helped one of her brothers to get job too.
I got another too but lost it around may this year it is a deposit mobilization job so we were all asked to leave when we could not meet up with the target.
Around June my wife started misbehaving I started noticing that she's sleeping around I felt so bad I had to turn to God for serious prayer still hunting for job but God has been faithful in settling some bills.
I got a financial assistance from someone recently through her to pay for rent and children bills when she said she cannot help with the bill.
I feel so cheated and I even think divorce will be the best when I eventually get my life back on track but I don't want my kids to pass through what I went through because I'm a product of a polygamous settings.
Please don't mind my grammar kindly advise me, the did is done already.
Meanwhile the men of God have told me repeatedly that God says I should not revenge.

Please advise. Thanks.

During courtship, she was showing you all the signs of not being prudent but you neglected it

Seat her down and tell her how disappointed you are over her and her attitude

See if she has any remorse towards your discussions with her

If she doesn't change, because it's likely she might get worst, just neglect her and face those kids

If you suspect she is messing around you too start getting someone that you will be close with

Life is too shot for one person to determine the joy of another

Gradually, things will fix it self either you separate or you live with it

My dear, I am not happy with you

Does it mean that you don't have senior sisters or aunties whom you could have confided in when all his gimmick started?

For your own interest and for peace sake, forget that money getting it back is as difficult as searching for a pin in a hay sack

Keep the pregnancy if you wishes

You soo much love this guy and you couldn't see those signals that he has been using you, probably because of your family background or because you are weak

Separate your account from that stupid joint account and start planning for your self

That guy will keep milkiing you and if you ran out if milk, he will start sucking your blood

Don't be scared of being a single parent those that are single parents didn't wish for that either

That guy have no plans and no sense of responsibility

Don't be suprise if he leaves you for another victim

I wonder what took him there initially

hahn:
At least you agree you are a lunatic

Is the same thing

Lunatics knows their members

This guy looks unkept,

He will still commit more crime because looking at him you will agree that there is no remorse on his face

Ugly and useless idiot, terrorising those struggling to survive

Peterabaekpe:
If dis one grow up .Hmmmm

He will become a terror

JBoss25:
See face

Looking horrible and dejected

tiger28:
NICE ONEKIDS all over NL!

My dear, they are not kids

They are adults making fun and mockery of everything

They have turned this prestigious nairaland to premature land

tiger28:
NICE ONEKIDS all over NL!

My dear, they are not kids

They are adults making fun and mockery of everything

They have turned this prestigious nairaland to premature land

She was happy that it didn't occur when she was busy in that shop

Whether the car owner will repair and restock her shop wasn't the reason she is thanking God

Safety of life first

She was happy that it didn't occur when she was busy in that shop

Whether the car owner will repair and restock her shop wasn't the reason she is thanking God

Whatever rocks their boat, they have the right to be happy

holysaint1:
Dont generalize... This ur position can go both ways.. A friends ex called off their relationship and was still the one calling to know how he was faring and was stylishly complaining why he had not even called her in 3 months.

That word stylishly is the same thing I explained

hahn:
Lol. It would be expected that a lunatic, like yourself, will see it that way.



Wisdom is always foolish to fools. Like yourself

Only a fool can detect one

Lucifer66:
Exactly what I expected from a dullard for a CHIRSTIAN.
Silence

I don't argue with fools I make them realize their stupidity and you are one of them

ehix89:
evening newspaper spotted

One customer spotted

SEXYBILLIONAIRE:
whats his fucking number so i will call him cos there are too many questions for him to answer. i also wanna ask him why he hasnt sent heavy rain to california and stop the fire that is claiming innocent lives there

You have not shown sympathy for fellow citizens that bokoharams are dealing with

Na california wey far you dey sympathise for?

jattopeter:
Y it come pain u like this?

E no pain we, na discussion time we dey

As far as him get the same 4pm newspaper for their family

Lucifer66:
Answer the question na.
Instead of you answering me you're insulting me, As if I were the one who gave you this stupidity.
Who created GOD??!

I can see that your case is not a psychiatric case

It's not a drug abuse case

It's not even a spiritual case

But a case of what you did to yourself

And you know where it normally end?

Frustration and Suicide

hisexcellency34:
Namadi Sambo... Best Vice President Nigeria Ever Had. I enjoyed his combo with Goodluck Jonathan. I wish we have them back

For real that man was humble to a fault

Lucifer66:
That's all you can say?
Expected reply from a ignorant christain.
Tell me this, Who created GOD?
( I know you won't even reply)

Even your master, the devil is smarter than you

IamD18:
2face cannot stoop so low for an unmarried frustrated evening-newspaper at 34 who's only good at sleeping with married men[Festus] and posting of bra, pant and bag on social media from January to December.

Those evening newspapers in your family,

What do we call them?

Wrapping paper for suya?

Lucifer66:
1: Stopped believing everything is decided by some fake story.
2: My eyes were opened and saw how brain washed people are.
3: More knowledgable
These are the simple things an atheist gets, We don't depend on something that doesn't exist!
You can keep praying to your fairy tale of a God while we face facts and principles!

Wake up from your slumber,
its day break already

Lexusgs430:
Did she not call this spirit on her marriage? She needs to rebleach her knees ......

It takes the grace of God for any marriage to work out

When you get married you will understand better

We can't see God, but he sends his Holy spirit to direct out part

Good for her, it seems acting is her first choice

SIMPLYkush:
ugly bitch, stretch marks on tummy, probably was withdrawn for c0ck sucking

Who did this to you?

She is already a medical personel

And you are yet to find your bearing

Hmm some how for you oooh

SIMPLYkush:
ugly bitch, stretch marks on tummy, probably was withdrawn for c0ck sucking

Who did this to you?

She is already a medical personel

And you are yet to find your bearing

BigIyanga:
Nah.. Naija women master transactional relationship..ie their company in exchange for monetary benefits.. This Maga of a guy doesnt understand it

That is enh,

He doest even have an idea at all

Lucifer66:
So explain why God allows atheist populated nations are developing but shi-t holes like Nigeria are getting worse and worse even tho Nigeria has more than 10k churches.
Even the white that brought religion are throwing it away

What have you gained or benefited from being an atheist?

List them out for me

Vicdayz:

If you have worked for it, flaunt it

She is entitled to her opinion

We never handle family matters

Na to handle world matters

That means every single person Will be condemned, guilty or not guilty