₦airaland Forum

ZIMDRILL:
my respond was that he see the world with a tunnel vision based on his age, whereas me i see it beyond my age, meaning no matter what age a person is (18 and above) they deserve love and marriage aka even a 30 year old who is not yet married

Well, what you said is not wisdom.

Nobody, man or woman, "deserves" anything.

You get what you can get with what you have (Physically and Mentally). You don't "deserve" nada!

Some will not get anything because what they can get is not what they want; and they don't "deserve" what they want that does not want them.

Please stop using that feminine term of "deserve".

I too can sit my ass down and say "I deserve to be rich", "I deserve to have 16 wives". I deserve nothing! I get whatever I can get with what I have to offer.

What has this got to do with police?

What stupppid laws have these monkeys in legislative chamber created to say police can get involved in civil matters?

Darkestking:
I am 30 but i see 30 years old as being far too old for a woman. You are 47 so a 30 year old woman would be ideal for you, just as an 18 year old would be for me.

If my sister was 30 am someone were to find my sister too old to marry, i would be sad for her because of course i want her to be happy but i would understand where the man was coming from. Think about it from this perspective. If a man is too short, too unattractive or too broke would we tell a woman that she should marry him anyway because her brother or father may be short, broke and/or unattractive?

You speak with wisdom above your age.

@ZIMDRILL, what is your response?

SweetyZinta:
You should be worried. Improve on your game or loose her to a romantic GenZ guy. E.g start taking her on dates, movies at the cinemas, lovely and Feminine gifts. Good luck

Yes, he could lose her to another guy.

But she should be more worried if that happened. She would probably lose any chance of any man giving her loyalty and commitment till she dies alone. Different men would only enjoy giving her the D for the next max 15 years until she becomes totally invisible to most men of any value.

snthesis:
so i got her phone last nyt past bedtime only to discover her password has changed, i'll take it as a sign not to pry further

Has she frequently changed passwords in the past?

JustcallmeFavou:
Normal

Just in case you were curious.

Skinny: Roberta Narciso

Lepa: Kelly Rowland

Normal: Kenya Moore

Thick: Megan the stallion

Phat: Tacarra Williams

Obese: Lizzo

frozen70:
Since you married her at age 20yrs,you didn't even allow her experience real love and she is requesting for it now because the vacuum is still there

If you don't create time to prove love to her and give her attention

It woo get to a point her attitude will change

Now she is requesting for tattoo and waist beeds

She want to experience those things she was never given access to

She has already given birth and she no send a y body again

So you have to start being loving and romantic before she goes over board

@snythesis

Can you see the "Victim" mentality, no "accountability" and "it is your fault" I was alluding to?

"You married her at age 20yrs"; she didn't marry you o! Because women are never accountable for their own actions. You married her!!!

They are always just victims when their own decisions don't work for them. they just frame it as a man doing something wrong to affect them.

Now, this woman has framed it as "your fault", she is now telling you that you are now accountable for correcting it, since your wife has no accountability for her own decisions, hence no fault and never at fault.

Welcome to the way women's brains work.

[quote author= post=122200522]If you do the crime, get ready to do the time.

Dem MANNA don drop quote.


We Rise [/quote]What time are they doing?

They are not doing anytime. Don't be gullible.

These are stupid headlines.

The correct headline is "Two Chinese nationals fined N10m each for bribery".

Someone able to bribe people with N50m will not be going to jail if he has an option of a fine of N20m not to. Stop deceiving people with headlines and clickbaits.

The judge himself has been bribed by the Chinese to give these sentences. He was now giving foolish, meaningless tough words in his final note statement.

Criminal judges: Justice Abubakar Mahmud Talba of the Court of Appeal, Sokoto Division

JustcallmeFavou:
Normal

Nice.

JustcallmeFavou:
Very good! I get compliments from both my fellow women and responsible men as well.

Skinny, lepa, normal, thick, phat or obese?

JustcallmeFavou:
Okay! Thank God for blessing me with a good body.

Let's stop arguing, and hope OP and his wife resolve whatever that is trying to kill/come between 10years of peace, love, and what have you in their marriage.

How good is it?

Oyinbos and foreigners in general are already aware of and getting into:

- Suya
- Jollof rice with plantain
- Pounded yam with Egusi

JustcallmeFavou:
And who told you is all women who has given birth that have unhealthy weight gain?

She might also be doing anything else asides adding unnecessary weight. Moreover, don't most Nigerian men like women who are fleshy, rather than skin and bones?

Is there anywhere I said all women who has given birth that have unhealthy weight gain?

The reality is that most Nigerian women do.

Romantic gestures are mostly subconscious, spontaneous and spurred from a man being in lust. So, if he has stopped doing it and it is because she is not looking good enough to lust after her anymore, should he be telling her that?

And would you be telling her that she needs to ask him what weight loss level he wants? Or you would be hissing under your breath and saying he is a bastard that does not appreciate his wife.

Secondly, don't present me with false binary. Please qualify "flesh".

Nigerian men like women with flesh, does not mean Nigerian men like women with fat or flab.

Nigerian men like women with reasonable flesh that are highly shapely. That is why many Nigerian girls are doing surgery to attain these.

Nigerian men don't want obese and wobbly.

Nigerian men tend to get slimmer girls as side chics when theirs wives have "flesh" that is obese, shapeless and wobbly.

JustcallmeFavou:
Don't overly worry yourself! We as humans have different love languages. Perhaps that of your wife is Act of Service. Like the little things you did for her during courtship, and the early stages of the marriage. That you have stopped doing.

Maybe because you are carried away by work pressure, and other responsibilities that has made you loose the romantic side in your marriage.

Please, don't listen to the bitter comments here asking you to divorce her, or that she might be cheating, or has gone loose. Do you have proof that she is cheating? Can you prove that she has gone rogue simply because she wants to start wearing leg chain, waist beads, pierce her nose, etc?

So for the time being, ask your wife how you can improve and be better? And if there are things she's also doing you don't like, tell her as well.

For the waist beads, leg chains, piercing, etc. that she mentioned. If you are comfortable with them, allow her. And if not, you can tell her that you are only comfortable with one of these things she mentioned. So that peace can reign.

If after following this advice she still complains. Then you have to search deeper, there would surely be more to it.

You want him to tell her she is putting on weight?

How do you think that will go down with her?

If he told her that, and she comes to NL to ask for advice, will majority of you women also be saying she needs to ask him what weight he would like her to be? Or you women would be telling her "he is a bastard" for commenting on her weight when she has given him 3 kids?

snthesis:
deep. ive decided to ignore her, there is a deeper issue, that she isn't revealing, and trying to hide under me not being romantic

Definitely.

Saying you are not romantic is a subterfuge and a tactic of passing accountability to you, so she can claim "victim" when she wants to.

blaquebelle:
1. She feels she married you too early
2. She is comparing you to other husbands in her vicinity or on social media
3. She feels she missed out on exploring alot when she was younger and she wants to start now

Check the type of friends she's keeping.

Thank you.

Similar to what I said.

Albertone:
You can only please a woman that want to be pleased.

If a man earning 200k a month is giving his wife 100k out of it, she can still cheat on him with a man earning 1m monthly and giving her 300k out of it.

Very well said.

If Mr A does something for or to a woman, she might love it and be satisfied.

If Mr B does exactly the same thing for or to a woman, she would hate it and be unsatisfied.

Whether you are treated like Mr A or B depends on how much she likes and is attracted to you.

The woman wants to be pleased by anything Mr A does and will find a way to be pleased if she likes him and feels lucky he is entertaining her.

virginprincess:
Instead of you to look for a way to pls her by being romantic you are here complaining to bitter nairaland men that will gladly help you scatter your marriage with their negative comments.

He married her. She should be eternally pleased and grateful and she should be consistently looking for ways to please and reward him for the marriage.

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

After 10 years is now she knows you are not romantic?

Oga, she has been on TV and social media too much (probably especially Instagram) and she has been comparing her life with other girls flashing flash lives.

She is probably also trying to get attention of men to feel good about herself after borning 3, and she is receiving it on the streets or online. Now she is thinking maybe it was not smart to have married early and she should have lived babygirl life for a while.

She is now just looking at, and reviewing, her life and wondering "Did she pick right? Was this the best she could do? Is this all there is to this fantasy called marriage she dreamt of?".

She will not tell you all these thoughts because she knows it will come across as unreasonable if other people hear this, and she will take the blame.

So, saying that you are not romantic is her strategy of placing accountability and blame with you, and not her emotions and greedy eyes, if things go wrong and she later decides to explore.

Now she can have a defence of "I told him and he did not change. So it is his fault anything I do!".

Women hate accountability!

He did not have Pneumonia and Cardiac Arrhythmia when he needed to campaign to be Senator and his useless people voted the crook as their Senator?

irumole1975:
Most of them don't believe some people are still doing fine in Nigeria. They think everything ends in America

This is not really about that. This is about someone whose brain is dead and he does not know it yet.

His life is finished before it even starts!

He cannot engage his brain for the most simple of tasks and we are going into a future of automation where mainly tasks that require complex cognitive functions would be the available as jobs to humans, while AI/ML and robots do simple tasks.

He is a waste on the planet!

Freshtruth:
What d source of his wealth we should be asking questions

He is definitely not an illiterate and low IQ individual like you.

If your IQ can increase by just 3 points to reach double digit, you will get sense to read before even posting something as daft as this.

Worse thing is that the answer is in the first line.

You really are not going anywhere in life. You are finished!

OKorowanta:
50 years jail term coming.
Oluwa you too much.

Your education fees was a waste.

Ofunaofu:
It doesn't change the fact that Bayo onanuga and others have committed war crimes through threats, incitement against a particular ethnic group

There is no different between the crimes committed by Bayo onanuga and others and the crimes of Omar al Bashir of Sudan who was tried and jailed by the International Criminal Court (ICC) for war crimes committed in Darfur

You need to go back to school to learn what a War Criminal is.

Your past education has obviously failed you.

panpan:
Africans should not accept any form of jurisdiction from the International Criminal Court (ICC).

African countries should withdraw their membership from the ICC.

African countries should not hand over their citizens to a supposedly international court.

What jurisdiction have you seen ICC get over the matter?

Ebierensima:
As a tired Nigerian youth, the issue of unemployment in Nigeria is not just a topic, but a harsh reality that affects my daily life.

Despite having a good education and skills, I struggle to find a job that matches my qualifications.

The high level of unemployment has left me and many other young Nigerians feeling hopeless and frustrated.

It seems like no matter how hard we try, the system is rigged against us, and opportunities are scarce.

The government's efforts to address the issue have been lacklustre at best, with policies and programs that have not produced tangible results.

It's time for the government to take real action and prioritise creating job opportunities for the youth.

Schools should change their academic curriculum to include more subjects in entrepreneurship so that in the event of not getting a job after spending years in school, one can still survive and make a living.

Until then, we will continue to be a generation stuck in a cycle of unemployment and poverty.

What skills will you say you have?

List them.

Redfield & Wilton Strategies ko, Wasiu & Giringori Amalalogies ni.

Only foooools will fall for this made up poll nonsense by fictional pollsters with funky names.

And there are many fooools on this thread!!!

checkmatez:
Make everybody gettat
Standards are nose diving in all directions so all this "sack and replaced with competent hands" don't move me again

Typical fooool that just knows how to complain, but never has a solution.

Low IQ, unemployable "yoots", they are getting rid of the teachers that produced you and destroyed your lives.

Black monkeys and their prayers!

Dumbest race!