₦airaland Forum

Dinner:

Pounded yam with ofe onugbu.

Is this Morka man not someone's father? How is he perceived at home or does he have a totally different life than the one he portrays on the political front?

ufotunang:
..they normally say if you cannot beat them you join them... and you mean to stand out..if he stands out and does not reconcile and compromise..fubara will not resume office as a governor in September 2025..he will not be rivers state governor again.. Tinubu will extend the state of emergency again for another 6 months and keep on extending it till 2027 when they will get another govership candidate to replace fubara and contest for 2027 governorship election..so fubara will lose and will not resume office as governor in September 2025... Majority of politicians in Nigeria focus more about their own selfish interest than the interest of nigerians

You reinforced my position that it is about his own selfish interest. Good luck to him and the people of Rivers State.

floss:
Don’t be carried away by how someone carries a bag, many people that represent F, dem sabi book die, but they’re always stubborn and teachers advice them a lot because the students are always intelligent, some are not organised and don’t care about having any school post such as “head boy” or “senior prefect “

The baddest of them na A people, they’re the deadliest but look calm and doesn’t make noise, they’ can kill a person while coming to school, still come to school and pretend like nothing happened. Very wicked and calculating

Your opinion of F applies to me. I guess I have a carefree attitude on the outside towards school but deep within, it is something I love. I never cared about things that happen in class/school yet, I knew almost everything going on around me. I wasn't stubborn as I do not think I had the physical ability to but many of my friends feel people fear me. The reason is because if you cross my path, I'm not scared to tell you what you might not expect. I remember a time I had to raise my voice at my dissertation chair during my PhD. Most of the graduate students in my department were shocked except for those in my cohort because we shared office space and they knew I can be very assertive most times.
Today, I carry my laptop bag like the A picture. Partly because that is the most convenient way and I'm most comfortable with a backpack than any other style of bag.

ufotunang:
..how has he lost....you cannot fight wike and the federal government and win,...since a petition has been sent to the supreme court since March 2025 over the illegal suspension of Fubara by the federal government up till now the supreme court has not deliberated on the matter..and supreme court is quiet about it.

He could choose to stand out by not compromising if he was truly not about his own self ambition.

Still don't understand the rewards that make these people try to smuggle drugs. They know these drugs affect those who use them which means they lack human sympathy.

Breakfast:

Akara and oatmeal.

Friday's dinner:

Jollof rice, cucumber- onion- watermelon slaw topped with feta cheese crumbles, and oven baked crispy chicken.

Thursday's dinner:

Catfish watersouo with popover.

Wednesday dinner;

Rice and dodo with a side of vegetables.

He lost it already. He should live his selfish ambition and leave his supporters out of it.

Adolfnigeria:
@ Liazz, i logged in after a long while just to advice you. It is not how much you earn it is how much you keep. Your WIFE Knows this.

These are the steps you should take and remember that as you do so. DO NOT BEAT HER OUT OF ANGER, or act negatively to her - she is sure to react negatively to you.

1. Start with House rent - Ensure her name is on the contract. You are both adults living in the UK, so both of your names should be on the contract. THis might be more expensive because of council tax. But you must do so to RESET her brain.
2. Every shared BILL. gas/ Electricity should also have her name on it.
3. Create a shared account for all bills.
3. WHen both your names are on the bill and they fall due - ask her for her payment. In case she does not make a payment, let it go into default.

DO NOT FEAR divorse, at this stage it best it goes to court. According to UK law you both are responsible financially, particularly if she is working.

What proportion of your earnings do you use for bills ? You wife should spend proportionally for fairness.

Please reach out if you need more advice.

Would be surprised if both names are not in the lease/utility contracts. If she's not listed, then one can't blame the wife fully since it implies the man wants to be the Lord.

Liazz:
It's funny right?
Maybe I'm even understating my reality. I didn't even state that I borrow money from her when I run out of money to sort bills. I run some professional courses takes a lot from me and she's aware, yet no help whatsoever.
The thing is I earn like twice as she much as she does, so she believes she should keep her share. Also, because she does all cooking, she believes she owes no financial obligation.
That's why I'm asking maybe my demand is out of place.

At this point, you have to make her contribute whatever percentage of your income you are contributing. If she claims for that reason she cannot cook, so be it. You guys resolve to fast food and once she realizes it drains more from the joint funds, she will align. That way, it isn't necessarily 50:50 but it gives room for growth of both parties without one feeling s/he is doing too much.

@quantanalyst,
Stumbled on this thread and would like to read your success story.

Liazz:
I finance everything 100%, I give her money and she goes out to buy the food stuff.
We have 2 kids, 5 years and 3 months of age. That's why it's complicated, I can't make any drastic decision as my kids may suffer. Social workers in UK also don't tolerating suffering children, they will take your children away from u and u will never see them again.

Stop giving her money for foodstuff. Let her take care of that and other little bills while you handle the others. Is she isn't willing to contribute to daycare, tell her to sit at home with the kids. If one party works day and the other night to avoid daycare, tell her you cannot take care of the kids while she's at work as you need focus on making extra income to maintain the home.
Why did you agree to another child when she wasn't supporting financially?

Beremx:
It pays to be honest. He should be rest assured that the 440,000 Jehovah's witnesses that will go to heaven, he will be among them.

Congratulations to him

I thought it was 144000. When was the number increased? I need reach out to my JW friends for update.
It is good to be honest.

chidiokay:
lets me start by saying Being a Dad is not a Call or Gift, it is a natural features encoded in Males but there are factors that bring " defect" to it.

God command was clear, go n multiply that was directed at All not some males

when i see male or female that dont want to reproduce i consider it as "defect in nature" or they are possibly incapable

I agree people are evolving, however having your own child is not going to make anyone happier more than you .. think about it :

No vex, are you tilling the land? If your hustle isn't farming, then it negates your argument. Those who chose not to are not defect in nature, they just chose an option that gives them peace. I have met quite a number of people who chose not to have kids and some have been married for over two decades and they are very happy. I think it is about making choices you are most comfortable with.

Shoes, Peter went to school without.

This in my opinion is correct.

This is very wicked of him. How do some people conceive such wicked thoughts?

chidiokay:
thats like looking for a church in mecca ... a country like Nig. where family pressure is predominant, maybe men that know they have fertility issues sha.

Every man isn't call to be a dad. If he feels he isn't willing to, he will sure accept a woman who is also not willing to be a mom. Forget country, gone are the days people live to make others happy.

There's no need for deceit. Tell your boyfriend/fiance you don't want to have kids. There are men who are comfortable with such.

Dinner:

Oatmeal fufu with okra and vegetable soup.

Mistersolar:
how much

To cook dinner, all the ingredients used isn't up to 20 bucks however, electricity bill this period is irritating. If electricity is factored in, it will push the cost upward.

So true. The personal ambitions/interests are so glaring and makes it difficult to trust/believe in the coalition.

How is Tinubu different from Buhari? Aren't they birds of same feather?

tunjijones:
Why should I leave.

Nigeria is sweet o. Not all those countries that you will be working as a slave

I knew i was going to read a comment like this. The hustlers (too many to mention and majority of Nigerians falls into these category) in Nigeria are living as princes and princesses, right? That said, if you work for your money and you can pay your bills, I guess that is what you call slavery.

It is a personal choice and I have no problems with your choice but your narratives.

Xidget:
If na me, na one day I go finish the meat pie. that's why I stop making it at home

I do two per day. In the past, I could do more but now, I guess I have learned restraint.

Meatpies for breakfast for some days this week.

Sunday dinner:

Pounded yam with peanut soup.