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 Politics › Re: Ojota: Police Warn Yoruba Nation Agitators; Release Photos Of Bullet Ridden Cars by GenderMix: 6:42pm On Jan 09, 2023 |
The politicians are definitely behind this. Lagosians should not allow this sort of agitation to thrive. It's still early to start exposing those connected to this. If the once peaceful east can be overturned by violence then Lagos will not be an exception This is not a laughing matter or child's play 1 Like |
| Politics › 2023 Nigerian Election- Potential Results by GenderMix(op): 10:19am On Jan 04, 2023 |
This is based on observations. The 2023 election may likely surprise Nigerians Peter Obi has more potential to win but I think alot of political gurus are underrating the situation on ground and the impact of the BVAS that will make rigging almost impossible. No doubt, the SE and SS are going to vote massively for Peter Obi. We just have to watch out for the impact of the distabilzation going on there and how that will affect the outcome The SW will go to Tinubu but let's note that the elites in the SW don't like Tinubu that much. A lot of educated and exposed folks are rooting for Obi. Infact, I am surprised that many Yoruba folks are also supporting Obi. Don't take my word for it, just make your findings The North Central will also contribute a huge chunk to Obi The NE , NW will be shared between Tinubu, kwakwanso and Atiku. This will be a huge advantage for Obi. Also note that the Christian community in the North will be voting massively for Obi. This is a known fact. News coming from kaduna indicates that Obi is seriously getting to the hearts of the people there. I hope whoever wins will be committed to making life better for the common man. |
| Travel › Re: LASTMA Officer Spotted Dancing While Controlling Traffic (Video, Pictures) by GenderMix: 8:49am On Jan 04, 2023 |
Atarakpa:Such people hardly arrest , rather they'll caution you and give you proper direction. The man has always been stationed on awolowo way/Allen junction and it's fun watching him. Very healthy lifestyle 1 Like 1 Share |
| Business › Re: FIRS Introduces Instant Tax Clearance System by GenderMix: 8:44am On Jan 04, 2023 |
How is the link address related to the news above?..... Kindly share the correct link |
| Phones › Buying A Good Phone Of 60/70k by GenderMix(op): 6:41pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Good day all, Please I need your recommendations on a phone that has the following: 1. high resolution camera( can take sharp images even at night..) 2. Long lasting battery 2. Large storage 3. Sleek (handy) Budget is 60/70k naira. Appreciate |
| Family › Re: A Honest Advice To All Married Ladies by GenderMix: 1:00pm On Aug 26, 2022 |
Financial doors doesn't open because you paid TITHE... You received financial prosperity because you give. It is a universal law and has nothing to do with religion. The OP is pot on. Save, invest and spend responsibly. 1 Like |
| Family › Nairaland; A Case Study Of Abuse Of Privileges And Rights by GenderMix(op): 12:45pm On Aug 26, 2022 |
Nairaland has been very helpful over the years in terms of connecting people, informing people and sharing of ideas. I must give kudos to active and reasonable members with wealth of experience who have taken time to make positive contributions that are quite impactful. However, Nairaland has also had its fair share from trolls and ill-mannered individuals. The users of Nairaland especially Nigerians need to think deeply before making use of social media platforms especially a faceless forum like Nairaland. Here are some of my observations using Nairaland; 1. MOST USERS ASSUME THEY CANT BE TRACED SINCE IT’S A FACELESS FORUM You are highly mistaken if you think so. I am not going to get into details but be very sure you are not 100% anonymous here. This is one of the reasons, many people here think they can just insult the next person and nothing can happen. Don’t claim who you are not and be cordial with everyone here because you never know. 2. SOME PEOPLE ARE BECOMING TIRED OF SEEING OTHERS ASK QUESTIONS OR BRING THEIR PROBLEMS TO THE FORUM FOR SOLUTION. Sometimes, people may wonder, why not just use the search button on Google. My dear friend, google relies on input from humans. So it is not out of place if a search result is directed to nairaland. In fact, the more issues are brought here, the wider the insights. Sometimes, it allows one to see various dynamics to issues and make individuals more knowledgeable. So, let’s be free to explore our opinions and contribute to the solutions because by doing so we are adding to the knowledge base of the internet. You never know who will need it. 3. UNCOUTH PEOPLE EXIST HERE I am not sure why some people resort to insults so easily. If someone asks a question that you consider ‘’foolish’’, why not just keep mute instead of insulting the person, at worse, you could ask for clarification. I can understand when people are trying to be sarcastic or ‘’catch cruise’’. That in itself is not bad but you can be subtle in doing these while you make your point but outright insult doesn’t speak well of us. The truth is that all humans have some level of ‘’violence’’ in them. The fact that some people choose to maintain decorum does not mean they are foolish. Let us reduce shaming or belittling people because they have a different perspective to issues. 4. TRIBALISM This issue is very common here especially in the politics section. ‘’out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks’’. In real life, most of us blend well irrespective of tribe or region, why do we now come to a faceless forum to show that our hearts are far from each other. I think we should look at issues from a more objective and logical approach. Our focus of discussions should be issue-based not on the region a particular fellow comes from. This can lead to very wrong assumptions and misunderstanding. The reality in some instance is that relationships on this platform can transcend to real life and cause serious breakthrough for some. Don’t underrate your position on this platform, use it wisely. 5. YOUTHFUL EXUBERANCE From some comments, you could tell there are lots of young people on this platform. The fact that you are a teenager or very young does not mean you should act childish- saying anything that comes to your mind without basis. This platform offers a variety of mature comments you can learn from. Watch your language; ask yourself questions before making any post. That way you are building yourself. There is the tendency to tow the line of some who derail topics and catch cruise, there is the tendency to join the bandwagon and support evil. Please refrain from such. Research more on reasonable contributions to enable you increase your knowledge base. That’s how you grow and become wise 6. GENEROSITY OF NIGERIANS Again this platform has proven over time that Nigerians are kind-hearted and generous when the need arises. This tells you who we are as a people. However, a lot of people are abusing this privilege and taking advantage of others. This is the reason many people try to scrutinize individuals soliciting for help or even shun them. I have seen a case when someone ( channah1) was genuinely soliciting for help but because no one is sure anymore, it made the lady sound like a scammer and she became really frustrated at that time. Some people just go about flooding threads with their account number. This is not wise as you are closing the door to genuine solicitors. 7. CARELESSNESS ABOUND HERE May people are very careless with their utterances een when they don’t mean it in reality like threatening to rape, owning up to taking hard drugs, some even post pictures of hard drugs they take, using cult languages and insignia, some people just throw their account numbers, phone numbers and emails into threads asking for help even when it’s absolutely not necessary etc. Don’t expose yourself to danger and unnecessary threats. The internet never forgets. In summary, there could be more, but what I’m driving at is that we can do better. I can understand there are people with various backgrounds here. I am sure by the time nobody pays heed to miscreants or topic-derailers, they’ll fade away naturally and make the atmosphere saner. The world can easily judge Nigerians through Nairaland. I am not saying ‘’don’t be yourself’’, I am saying let us be wise and focused. Let use this platform to create positive impact instead of abusing the privileges we have here. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Crime › Re: A strange request by IBEDC by GenderMix: 12:30pm On Aug 23, 2022*. Modified: 12:46pm On Aug 23, 2022 |
If cables , electric poles, transformer or any part thereof are stolen or worn-out, it is the responsibility of the the distribution company (IBEDC) to replace them. However, in our society, residents are sometime inpatient or the the distribution companies as usual, will delay forever to fix it so the residents are left to fate. You have bought new cables already, it is natural for the distribution company to buy them from you if they agree. So if they ask you to write a letter of donation, they just want to absolve themselves of any claim for refund in future. It is a mart approach from their end. The best bet would have been to hold on to your cables first while you escalate the issue to NERC, ICPC and EFCC about how it is taking forever for IBEDC to fix cables and how you guys have resolved to get new cables. Give IBEDC an ultimatum, after which you will replace the cables and request for a refund. Just email IBEDC with above, copy NERC, ICPC, EFCC and give it some time. Otherwise if you write a letter of donation, just know you have done them a favour and the money is gone. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: My Gas Cylinder Was Stolen Tonight by GenderMix: 7:57am On Aug 21, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:It is beyond hunger. It is sheer wickedness. I have heard of cases where people steal generators that are kept in public domain. Sometimes it could even be the scrap collectors or any regular thief. Motirayo , sorry for your loss. Be careful next time 58 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: Should Marriage End Up On The Ground Of Childlessness? by GenderMix: 5:39pm On Aug 20, 2022*. Modified: 7:42am On Aug 21, 2022 |
Sad Well it's easy to sit from a distance and judge the action of man without understanding the full details. It may actually not the best decision if it was only on the grounds of childlessness. Like Jovial June mentioned, I also think the clause of "for better for worse" should be taken off the marital vows. It's a psychological tool that keeps people unnecessarily in bondage even if their lives are threatened. If visions no longer align, then couples should be free to go their separate ways without any form of guilt-tripping. Having said that, I'll advise anyone to pray he/she is not be put in a situation where his/her faith and patience will be tested....lol. Forget all those people you see that are over 10, 15 , 20 or 25 years without children. If you understand what they've been through and what they have done out of frustration to get kids , many will be scared to get married..lol... Many have gone against their principles out of frustration. Many times you can only see the smiles on their faces during testimonies after IVF and they will never mention it's IVF especially in Nigeria. I'm just trying to say there's alot of cover-ups, so people should be guided. I think if one of them is engaging in acts that'll threaten the peace of the other out of frustration and all engagements leads nowhere, it would just be better they partway because not everyone will want to bend their principles because of childbirth. Courtship is just so important 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Is It Advisable To Marry A Man Earning 100k In This Present Economy. Ur Sincere by GenderMix: 4:13pm On Aug 19, 2022 |
No doubt money is very key to sustaining a marriage. Infact it's one of the key ingredients that can help grease love. The lack of money can make love go sour...lol... Having said that, marriage has an ultimate aim which is for companionship. As far as both of you have the drive to succeed and are not lazy and can cut you cloth according to your size then the amount may just be inconsequential. If the man earns 100k, he has the qualities you like and is focused then you can start with that. Just ensure he has common sense and listens to advise. It doesn't matter if as a lady you earn higher than him. You guys should have plans and execute them together. Just encourage him by supporting him financially. Just assist him but let him be the one to take care of the major bills. Plan around the money you earn. Don't live above your means. There are pragmatic means you can adopt to cut cost. Forget the pressure around, most of what you see are illusions. Just focus on your happiness. I wish you best of luck. 190 Likes 18 Shares |
| Family › Re: Re: My Daughter Invading The Privacy Of Me And Wife by GenderMix(op): 3:50pm On Aug 19, 2022 |
Blessedmercy8:You have a good point �. We are also blessed with a less than a year old boy. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Guys Please Is This Loan Worth Collecting Pics Attached by GenderMix: 10:05am On Aug 19, 2022 |
The issue is not just about collecting loan but how to repay. Good enough you are putting it into a reasonable investment. However, if the profit you'll make on that 60k is assured and greater than 17,700 by 2 or more within 3 months then it's worth collecting. My 2 cents 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Re: My Daughter Invading The Privacy Of Me And Wife by GenderMix(op): 7:33am On Aug 19, 2022 |
ahnie:Lol. Grandmothers overpamper kids. Although it is expected that they become wiser and more mature with grandparents. I wish you the best Ahnie 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Re: My Daughter Invading The Privacy Of Me And Wife by GenderMix(op): 7:30am On Aug 19, 2022 |
dawnomike:Diwnomike, Yes we were determined. A good take-home for me is that training kids needs some level of tactical and emotional intelligence. Once kids study you and Know your weakness, they capitalize on it and if care is not taken, they'll start dictating to you. This is how bad characters starts to develop. Firmness is very key especially when you are doing what's best for them. 14 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Re: My Daughter Invading The Privacy Of Me And Wife by GenderMix(op): 7:24am On Aug 19, 2022 |
StPete:StPete, it's actually common and there's nothing more to it than the regular child's play. Don't think too far, they usually outgrow it. Lol However, I see your concern. it's important to dissuade the kid from such at that age. 4 Likes |
| Family › Re: Single Life Is A Scam!! by GenderMix: 6:43am On Aug 19, 2022 |
Klass99:Klass99, I appreciate the feedback. May we always receive grace to think deeply before acting. 5 Likes |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Invading The Privacy Of Me And Wife by GenderMix(op): 6:35am On Aug 19, 2022 |
Hello great people, Sometime in January this year 2022, I created a thread about my 4 year old daughter who always wants to sleep on same bed with me an wife. I was looking out for pragmatic solutions to the problem we had already created. Below is a link https://www.nairaland.com/6932145/daughter-4-years-not-allow There were coruscating feedbacks as I learnt alot. Thanks to all those who contributed to the thread. Ofcourse I applied some of the recommendations and the result is tremendously positive. We started with praising her that she's already a big girl and she deserves her space We had to do some rearrangements in her room. She slept with us for a week before she gave in The first 2 months were filled with excuses from her. Either she wants to use the toilet or she wants her light on etc...she comes knocking every night around 2am. Lol Sometimes , my wife goes over to sleep with her till morning. Sometimes when we're are tired we just let her in. During the 3rd month we became very firm and stopped giving in to her excuses. She realized we weren't joking so she started becoming used to her room. Although sometimes she'll stay in the lobby and cry alot and it almost became emotional, but thank goodness we didn't fall for that. Around the 4th month, she started playing a prank. Anytime I'm trying to watch a program in my room at night, she'll tell me she wants to keep me company and I'll oblige not knowing she's using that to catch sleep in our room...lol. However, we'll still have transfer her later. Beyond the 4th month, we didn't need to inform her before she goes on to bed. I just thought of reverting because it's the honorable thing to do. I sincerely appreciate the contributions. Recently she turned 5. 28 Likes 4 Shares |
| Family › Re: Single Life Is A Scam!! by GenderMix: 6:03am On Aug 19, 2022 |
Single life is not scam. However it depends on individuals. If you are not a good team player, marriage might just become a distraction for achieving alot. However, as humans companionship is a great tool if well utilized has lots of advantages. I have realized that everything we do In life is geared towards achieving HAPPINESS. Wether as singles or married, if you're not focused and self motivated, you might end up becoming unhappy. So marriage doesn't guarantee happiness. We have happy couples, we have happy singles and vice versa. Don't just let your happiness revolve around any individual including your spouse. Again you can't judge the character of married couples by mere outlook or disposition in public spaces. Some people are just good actors. Lol. Been married for over 11 years and I can tell you what constitutes a happy marriage- transparency and avoiding unnecessary high expectations of your spouse. There must be misunderstanding , there will be good days, there will be bad days. You will definitely get angry ...lol... The trick is not to allow misunderstanding last too long. Marriage is not for hot tempered people. Finally, just decide what's best for you. Singles have unrestricted opportunities and flexible schedules so it's a great advantage if you make use of time wisely. 18 Likes 10 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 11:14am On Jan 10, 2022 |
MISSCONGENIALITY:Thanks . I shall work on this 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 11:14am On Jan 10, 2022 |
Layormiii:Great. I did this when she was 2/3 just that when she wakes , she comes crying to my room. However, I will try to redecorate it. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 11:09am On Jan 10, 2022 |
Solsix:I consider it a problem. Not like I don't have a solution but to see how realistic mine is from inputs of experienced people. Many things find their way to nairaland because its a faceless forum that gives people freedom to put out their minds and err their views. It is a platform that demystifies simple and complex problems. Although I'm not a regular member but I have learnt very important lessons here even though some people try to distract. I don't underrate this platform because many members here have fantastic ideas. Finally, the reason I shared this is not just because of me but others who may have similar issues. I hope to give feedback from the inputs given here in some months time. 93 Likes 14 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 9:49am On Jan 10, 2022 |
RedMac:Thanks for your input. Do you imply I should flog her if she refuses to go sleep in her room? Besides this, what other tactics would work? However, I punish her if she misbehaves, sometimes I whip her hands, not like I give her all the freedom in the world. 11 Likes 6 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 9:41am On Jan 10, 2022 |
Stevenbright:Thank you. We had tried this method for a while but at a point I felt it was a bit childish and we were loosing control of our responsibility of making her independent. Besides, its not sustainable. 58 Likes 13 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 9:38am On Jan 10, 2022 |
proff010:I see your point. However, How long can we continue doing this? I cant abandon my bed for hers, we are in charge not her. 53 Likes 12 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 9:36am On Jan 10, 2022 |
RedMac:I think flogging is too brutal and may cause another problem for her. However, i will try to be stern about it. I appreciate your response 56 Likes 9 Shares |
| Family › Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 9:34am On Jan 10, 2022 |
daddytime:I appreciate your response. i'll have to share and discuss this over. Many thanks 212 Likes 22 Shares |
| Family › My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by GenderMix(op): 9:09am On Jan 10, 2022 |
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room. We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids) 1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4? 2. Is it too late to force her to her room? 3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us? 4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth. 5. Is her jealousy normal? Thank you 105 Likes 16 Shares |
| Fashion › Re: Squirrel Teeth: Madness Or Fashion From Hell? (Pictures) by GenderMix: 6:54am On Nov 18, 2021 |
Nothing short of mental illness and side effects of drug abuse. They should take it easy on themselves and visit the rehab more frequently. Ndi ara 50 Likes 3 Shares |
| Crime › Re: Witch Caught Doing Strange Things At Night, See Video by GenderMix(op): 10:38pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Hard to believe. However, nothing is impossible. Ghost activities have been caught on cameras so this may not be out of place. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Crime › Re: Witch Caught Doing Strange Things At Night, See Video by GenderMix(op): 10:34pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
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| Crime › Witch Caught Doing Strange Things At Night, See Video by GenderMix(op): 10:23pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Witch caught on live camera doing strange things at night. A recent video surveillance system caught what a lot of South Africans believe is witchcraft activity and ritual. 11 November 2021, in-depth news reporter. Report : A unidentified person suddenly appeared on a live CCTV footage, seemingly out of thin air – clearly black magic is at work. This witch is then seen doing a strange 'dance' around their broom, while brushing the air above it. Unbothered, the witch continues her mini ritual infront of the camera showcasing her skills to which she disappears again after returning an unknown object to the house. “Checked the full clip on YouTube, it seem [sic] like she took something from inside came back and bewitched it looks like a baby then took it back” claims Zulu. Who thinks the witch took a baby and then returned it. “Unfortunately banks, are not alive they cannot do anything to them.. this is a spiritual attack and banks don't have spirit..” says Rose, coming up with the idea of using such powers to at least Rob banks instead of bewitching other people. “Same here futhi my dog is howling at something” says Thabang who seems scared for his life. Insight : Dogs are believed to sense or see spirits, so a howling or barking dog is a sign that an intruder is inside the premises. Both serve as indication that something is outside the house and that the dogs see it. However, this might be from a different cause. What would you do, if you spotted a ghost or witch around your home? Have you ever experienced a spiritual attack? How was the experience? And what would you suggest anyone who comes across this do? From our side, we'd throw a whole bucket of rough salt out the gate and inside the house. Link to full video : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MeKB92DO6h0 Source : — Sir Pitso Jingles (@PitsoRatsela) November 10, 2021 |
