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mrlaw93:
I'm not surprised. Italy has always being Ashaawo.. Now they spreading Corona up and down..

Them love toto die..

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Bervelyhillz:
This is a bit long but please bear with me.

I’ve been married to my amazingly beautiful wife for 3 years. The problem is she is very shy around me but at the same time seems to try to secretly please me constantly. It leaves me feeling guilty and I’m not sure of what to do next.

Backstory:

I met her through my mom. My MIL and my mom are childhood friends who grew up together. I never met her at the time since I lived in the US while She was in Nigeria. When I was 20 I saw her in a family friend’s wedding album. I was floored and my eyes were watering. She was the most attractive girl I had ever seen.

I figured out her FB and messaged her since I didn't want to initiate contact through our moms. I struck up a conversation. I soon realized that my mom fed info about me to my MIL which in turn got fed to her , so she already knew a fair bit about me. We chatted constantly, met up on my vacation to Nigeria , and hung out together every day. I learn she is still a virgin saving herself for marriage. I was still one too, mostly because A) I was chubby most of my life and didn't dare go near girls in that state and B) when I did start getting more fit, I already fell in love with her and it felt wrong dating at the same time. So yeah we had that in common.

Skipping ahead again to three years ago when I graduated from grad school. We met up a handful of times more, and things were awesome. She was outgoing with me, giggling over almost nothing and general silliness. We never did anything sexual, but we were intimate enough and honestly seeing her gave me goosebumps, so it wasn't on my mind. On one visit to Nigeria, she brought up the topic of marriage in a joking manner, something about how our mom's always planned it. I jokingly replied that I would be happy to marry her, then she got all serious and asked if I was for real. I said yes and, well, the rest is history.

The problem:

We had our wedding in Nigeria and, after the papers got sorted, she moved to the US to live with me. The first few months were interesting. She knows English pretty well and she majored in her native language, so she looked for translation jobs. She never got replies from employers, so I was getting a little suspicious, especially since she was an honors student at a pretty high ranking international university. I found out that she wasn't actually sending the applications out. I bring this up gently with her, and she starts tearing a bit telling me she wants to be a stay at home wife and that she didn't think I would be proud of her if she didn't get a real job. She says she was going to tell me soon, which I believe because I found a recent word document in our computer that was basically a draft of the speech she was going to give me. I don't mind her staying at home as I bring in enough money for the both of us and she is a really good cook.

This prompted me to sit down with her and figure out where our communication is breaking down. After a bunch of long discussions about this, I felt we were on the same page. She was still growing more timid around me and didn't start conversations easily with me, but she always seemed happy. I stepped up my displays of affection, showering her with compliments, hugs, and kisses. I would often catch her staring at me (usually while we ate), to which she would get red-faced and look away quickly. It’s been 3 years now and still does the smiling stare, except now she doesn’t look away when I catch her. The conversation starting has gotten a bit better, but nowhere near pre-marriage. While she always had this quiet peacefulness to her, I noticed she is intentionally not doing things that might get me worked up. Examples being: discussing politics (we have the same views), discussing my work problems, discussing anything philosophical in nature, etc. She will respond if I start, but she doesn’t take the initiative like before. I really miss that.

The sex is...interesting? As I said before, I didn't have any prior experience so I can't judge her, but she just lays on the bed and doesn’t move until I suggest to. She never initiates but never declines. I try to make it about her more often than not, but if I’m looking for feedback she quietly agrees with whatever I'm doing. After we finish, she lays in the same position looking at me, sometimes smiling, sometimes teary-eyed. I take it she likes it, but then again she never likes to talk about sex. From what I gather in our pre-marriage talks, she doesn't have any negative views on it and it wasn't shunned by her parents, it's just that she is shy. She doesn't like me seeing her naked even though I do (ha ha...:/ ). She is…shy very well proportioned…and I tell her how it is so she shouldn’t feel self-conscious. But she still covers up outside of sex.

Another issue is fitness: I work out constantly at home or in the park (calisthenics) and I invite her to join but she politely declines. She runs almost every morning so I thought maybe she gets enough from that. But I have noticed that my weight backpack at home is sometimes at a different weight than when I left it. I have also noticed She has made some serious butt/thigh gains which really stand out on her thin frame. When I ask if she is doing anything differently, she says “maybe it’s the running” then changes the subject. I don’t understand why she is working out in secret. This is most likely my fault though since I used to try and tease her into working out with me; I made a silly remark about how squatting/ham-raises will put more meat on her legs.

Conclusion:

Guys and gals, I need help. I love my wife dearly. She is funnier than any comedian, more disciplined than any soldier, and more beautiful than any celebrity. But she is making me feel weird by trying to secretly improve herself based on my preferences. Her shyness around me is awkward and I want a return to the easy-going pre-marriage . Has anyone had experience with this?

Also: she has made many friends here and still is in contact with a few back home. However she doesn't seem excited to be around them as much as when I offer to go out with her. She's always offers to cancel plans to stay in with me or go for a walk. I thought she might be depressed, but she is super cheerful even when she doesn't know I'm around.

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MONIKERREVEALER:
"We fought a civil war – it was an attempt to make the country a better place. We went from four regions to states but things seem to be getting worse politically." - Jemibewon

Afonjas can keep bringing up as many excuses as possible to convince themselves that they were right in joining the jihadists from the north to fight the christian biafrans who wanted to be free from the progrom loving shiithole they found themselves in during the war but payback is a biitch!!!

You guys MUST receive your due recompense soonest!!!

The north are just receiving the appetizer for their own wickedness, the main course is still on the way!!!

Hahahahahahahahahaha!!!

Zoo must fall!!!

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You no be girl.. That 1 sure me

Akanoaaa:
Remi Aluko was just a victim of circumstances.

What happened to Remi Aluko bro?

She’s got a pretty smile..

God dey sha!

tartar9:
I've never read of anytime an artifact was returned or asked to be returned to the South East.
Our white exploiters through the ages couldn't find anything worth stealing there.

People wey no sabi their Origin..

Today-They are from Jamaica
Tomorrow- Lebanese
Next- Isreal

Abfinest007:
i thought they little babies don see until 3 days

Things are changing bro..

That’s just life..

EmperorAce:
Hello everyone, please I need your opinion on an issue bothering me. I have a female friend who toke me as her bestie, we are good friends and she is in my department in school. She knows my girlfriend very well and she respects her a lot. The issue is that she has refused to date anyone since she resumed school, so I asked her to have a boyfriend which she did and then on Valentine’s Day which happens to be her birthday, the guy didn’t call or text to wish her happy birthday or valentine. She got heartbroken, she came to my place and cried a lot, I pet her and try to encourage her. She felt better when I faced a stand fan on her. She removed her pant and raised her gown facing the fan while laughing and moaning that it feels good, and she requested for alcoholic gin which I gave her after diluting it with sprite soft drink. I wanted her to drink a little and sleep so she’ll stop crying. She drank a little glass and then she started feeling better but a bit happy. She started dragging me close which I felt was normal because she does that even while sober, but then she pinned me down on bed and started saying things like why I didn’t call her on her birthday, she called me her boyfriend’s name , I thought she was drunk and I try to put her to sleep. She was not even weak or drowsy. Her words were accurate and not like who is drunk. She suddenly grabbed my d*ck and begged me to have sex with her. I declined, but she begged me almost in tears, then she said that she ought not to be begging me, that we ought to be doing it. We end up having a breathtaking sex which lasted for an hour. She washed up and I bathed. She went to bed and woke up an hour later, we talked while she went home. We chatted later and I asked her to take Postinor but she said “why” ? She has not had sex for 2 months and she doesn’t need to cus she never had sex! I was shocked, I told her we did but she laughed it off that I am joking. A week later, she came to me that she was pregnant and doesn’t know who. She said it’s not her boyfriend cus they had sex for the first time a day before. She is crying always in confusion that she can’t think of anyone and she doesn’t know what to do.

Is it really possible she doesn’t know? I’m really shocked.

Nah one movie be this Op ..

Can’t remember the title..

But from experience, it’s possible for a girl to have sex after getting high & she won’t know..

You said you gave her little Gin/sprite? Well, my own experience wasn’t from the Gin highness..

She discovered she was Preggy just after a week? Something wey be say the embryo go still dey form first few days after the knacking self..

This one nah Payo story but if true..God go deliver una

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Nomanlike:
Not all but most Yoruba guys are guilty of this

Anybody who have been in the midst of Yoruba guys must have noticed how loud and noisy they can be like TF can't y'all talk in low tones??

Back then in NYSC camp these yoruba guys that gathered themselves in a corner couldn't stop disturbing the whole building with there loud voice at 11/12pm everyday And the worst past is that they never converse with English.. Before you know it they will be shouting from end to end and if one tries to caution them they will start picking fights.. Anywhere Yoruha boys are gathered you must always notice them because they will be disturbing the whole place and are always talking on top of there voice. Thereby attracting unwarranted attention.
I see that as low self esteem issues though and joblessness because anyone who have something going for them can't be so uncivilised.
If you are among those guilty of this take note and correct yourself.
Nigeria is hell enough stop polluting the environment with noise
Before y'all tribalise this trade its nothing personal just some candid sayings
Peace

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It used to exist back then..

Not anymore..

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Juliusmalema:
I don't know how these guys used to think..

Davido as it stands now is not the rightful owner of that child.

How can you claim a child you've not done anything on the mothers' head.

Chioma's father has greate and 100 percent claim on the child than Davido...........Thats just the fact.

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Yes I think so..

If truly nothing last forever, then I believe marriage is getting extinct..

Things changes and that’s just the way it is-2pac..

He should park well..

And with not a single picture at the end of the fake report..

Angy55:
My advise for you is to stay back and invest that money in business.

I would suggest treasury bill for you. You make your cool cash every 3 months .

Mind you treasury bill is not crypto.

Crypto is Berra..

sKeetz:
Dont listen to anybody telling you to stay back in nigeria and start a business. Most of them advising you to do so have never made 500k of their own.

If I were you I'll take quarter of the money and invest in bitcoin. Keep 10mil for your travel plans... use the rest and repackage yourself.

Confam..

This is what I been wantin to see..

It’s one of the best investments one can get into atm..

Undilutedme:
How does being a dog lover fit into your description Now in this sense??...

He has a good heart..

That’s the summary..

Olam09:
My regret is that some people are lying on this thread they are forming audio travel here mean while 87% those liar has never been to the Nigeria border for once

Lol..

You don get am bro..

Them go use lies spoil this thread..

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bigpriik:
Living a single life can be boring most times. You see, we humans are wired to need someone. There is always a vacuum in our lives that needs to be filled by someone special, that's the reason why people make a lot of unnecessary sacrifices just to be love.

Sometimes we go below our standard just to keep them even though they may not worth it. Well it's because life and love has no manual. We are left to learn the hard way.

Every guy needs a good girlfriend if not you can't be truly happy no matter how you try to cover up with friends, hustle, computer games e.t.c. Even if you can, you can't stand the test of time you will still be lonely it is just the law of nature. Nature knows we can die anytime so there is this pressure to find a mate and pass your genes before death occurs.

There are many ways having a good girlfriend will better your life

1)Determination to be successful

let's say you have a new pretty girlfriend, she loves you truly but as hustling guy you don't have an apartment of your own so you guys can have all privacy you need, suddenly you will notice you have this drive to work harder and get an apartment for yourself and most times it works out, you will discover you manage your finances and a step ahead better, a girl can be that powerful

2) Strife to be a better man

I remember 7 years back I used to be a very dirty boy with poor dress sense. I wore one boxer for three days. My first girlfriend was this very neat Akwa Ibom girl (those women are very neat) she always insulted me until I blended and improved with my neatness and dress sense and secondly my social life changed too. The way I interact with people, I became more civilised. This trait still live with me today.

3) Confidence boost and self esteem

Having a beautiful woman in your life will boost your confidence and self esteem better than when your were single. If she truly loves you, you always feel wanted, loved and wanted.

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Lubbish & ronsense..

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bigpriik:
Living a single life can be boring most times. You see, we humans are wired to need someone. There is always a vacuum in our lives that needs to be filled by someone special, that's the reason why people make a lot of unnecessary sacrifices just to be love.

Sometimes we go below our standard just to keep them even though they may not worth it. Well it's because life and love has no manual. We are left to learn the hard way.

Every guy needs a good girlfriend if not you can't be truly happy no matter how you try to cover up with friends, hustle, computer games e.t.c. Even if you can, you can't stand the test of time you will still be lonely it is just the law of nature. Nature knows we can die anytime so there is this pressure to find a mate and pass your genes before death occurs.

There are many ways having a good girlfriend will better your life

1)Determination to be successful

let's say you have a new pretty girlfriend, she loves you truly but as hustling guy you don't have an apartment of your own so you guys can have all privacy you need, suddenly you will notice you have this drive to work harder and get an apartment for yourself and most times it works out, you will discover you manage your finances and a step ahead better, a girl can be that powerful

2) Strife to be a better man

I remember 7 years back I used to be a very dirty boy with poor dress sense. I wore one boxer for three days. My first girlfriend was this very neat Akwa Ibom girl (those women are very neat) she always insulted me until I blended and improved with my neatness and dress sense and secondly my social life changed too. The way I interact with people, I became more civilised. This trait still live with me today.

3) Confidence boost and self esteem

Having a beautiful woman in your life will boost your confidence and self esteem better than when your were single. If she truly loves you, you always feel wanted, loved and wanted.

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Them wan use lies rope them boys..

Lol

themonk:
Most times when you talk about an event from the sideline it seems easier than when you actually experience it.

The ancestors of African Americans and their children were kidnapped, stripped of their name, language, culture, dignity, human rights, religion and self esteem.

The remaining black who were left in africa were forcefully colonized for economic benefits, their arts treasures where stolen, political structures were broken down and built to make the white man the primary beneficiary, they convinced them to hate themselves, introduced election rigging and corruption, concocted lies like (they sold their brothers to slavery and they are cannibals), said the black man was sub-human(3/5 of a normal human being) using propaganda.

This is a loan repayable but the invoice never got across because there is maybe no justice in history and might never be.



PS: I have two IPhone 7plus' for sale, check the first and second topic on my profile.

Hmmm

sylve11:
Those words are deep.

Honestly bro..

They became jealous of Africa and came to destroy us..

Read about the world ever wealthiest man..

Manza Musa..

They came to jeopardized everything and en-slaved us..

Auxtin85:
People have died under Mr. Integrity than during the military

Fake

Fake

Fake



The fakeness is too obvious..

Nah thieves them be..