₦airaland Forum

sKeetz:
I'm dating an older woman. The difference in our ages is just 2 years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.

She's very supportive. Doesn't bother me and let's me do my thing. She doesn't boss me or anything of sorts. She's also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it's quite obvious cause i even look quite younger than my age and she's quite matured both physically and mentally.

Are there any cons to marrying a lady that is older? Guys who are married to older ladies, are there any traits i should look out for ?

Ps: we've been dating for 4 years now, so its not like i just met her. So I know everything about her and she knows everything about me.

So you didn't know her age for 4 years?

It is well.

AwesomeStormy00:
Bros sorry you got me there no vex i fell for it. But coconut head sound offensive imo. I am sorry i take everything back.

No problem.

AwesomeStormy00:
When u start paying you offering in pounds sterling come let us talk. You've been brainwashed with this anger attitude You've got i wonder if you'll make heaven. Seriously calling me coconut head? Wow your village people are using your destiny smh.

It was just a joke oga. Where is your sense of humor?

Godada:
I appreciate your conjecture.

When you have nothing else to say.

There is nothing more emasculating for a man than for his girlfriend to propose to him publicly. Civilization has destroyed the little respect accorded to the woman and her family in the past when men had to woe the lady with all sorts of bushmeat and farm produce before he could even comfortably say that's the girl I want to marry without even seeing the colour of her under skirt


The next thing, she will pay her bride price and change his surname to hers.

Godada:






While He went overboard with his assertions, the points he raised still remains valid. In life, the powers at the disposal of a woman is verse. A woman is born but a man is made. A man has to work for favors, privileges and wealth. A woman by looking good can bypass the process and still attain these luxuries.

A man remains primarily a boy till he decides to grow. Truth is women who have made the decision to grow and compete with men are termed feminists. They usually are a different set of individuals. They are goal oriented and very much in control of their lives but sadly their relationships suffer. They usually emasculate their men.

Story. Go and ask these slay queens what they go through to even buy cars from the so called kpekus and to keep up then you'll thank God for being born a man. Ask them the juju houses they've visited and the fake prophets that have laid hands on them. Ask them how these men treat them.

A man can look good with 2 t shirts and a trouser for a year no one will talk. The other day, we saw on CCTV how a lady was caught stealing bone straight just to feel among. 90% of runs girls spend 95% their money on rent, hairs and clothes and have no solid investment due to the pressure to keep up and look clean or else no man will look at them.


If you think prostitution is easy encourage your daughters to go into it when you have them. All this pity party you men throw around like the life of a woman is easier....

Ask some jobless house wives what they go through at the hands of their husbands then they'll tell you why every woman must work hard. Some jobs women can't do. There are some businesses women have to forgo due to fear of travelling alone or with a group of men. There are higher cases of trafficking for girls and women compared to men.
The anna banner you are using as an example was just dragged last week for sleeping with someone else husband as a side chick. What kind of life is that?

Like I said, don't send your girls to school or encourage them to work, tell them to sell their bodies as life is easier that way.

AwesomeStormy00:
You can contribute with your service eg cleaning church vineyards, helping with other things voluntarily, praying for members it is not about money. I don't see it like that

And it's not like you don't have the money since you give beggars, you just have coconut head. Like I said, if everybody wanted to only contribute their services, you won't have chairs to sit on, speakers to listen to and even a building to stay in.


Google the story of the widows oil. When the disciples kicked against the oil being POURED ON JESUS FEET, and the money instead GIVEN TO BEGGARS, what did he say?

DropsMic:
That's cowardice..

I can't remember the last time i gave the church my offering money.. I usually sit back and press my phone when it's time for offering...

Y'all can give your pastors your money but I prefer giving it to beggars.

You can't contribute to the support of the church even #10 but you can sit your ass down on chairs bought with other people's money and use amenities other contribute for? Or you think all those amenities are paid for with the pastors teeth?

omodaamola:
Dear Nairalanders! What's your take on this?

Dropping empty offering envelops in Church, is it bad? I can say that, it is not a crime that you go to a place of worship on Sunday (Church) without offerings (money you drop in offering baskets).

Modern Churches now use branded envelops to take their offerings, once they give you, you must drop it....It is even written on it 'Do not take it home'. Some churches even go as far as giving more than one envelops (regular service, not on a Thanksgiving Sunday).

Nairalanders, if you worship in a Church that you dance forward to drop these offering envelops, and you are probably on a budget to give once or you don't even have at all. What would you do? Drop an empty envelop? Is this bad?

You people worry too much about things you shouldn't. If it bothers your conscience, stop if it doesn't bother your conscience, you can. These are the least problems in a Christian's life.

@perfectsouth stop calling her your wife, she's our wife, general commodity.

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

I no dey like give people like this advice because their case is deeper than what meets the eye. Most of them have low self esteem which needy and manipulative women know how to take advantage of. They love needy women because it boosts their self esteem. They are many in Nigeria. Even if the end up with an independent babe, they will still look for a financially, emotionally needy woman to feel self worth. You can't advise their type. They are the same with women who like aggressive men who emotionally and physically abuse them. You can't give them advice.

Later they will come here to bash girls because of their experience with one.

pozehnani:
She said she had a premonition and didn't want to go. Her instinct kept telling her not to go. That was why she called her friends to accompany her.

Hmmm... Friends can't defend you when rituals appear na. All of you might become victims. May God save us.

pocohantas:
Even without weapon. I fear that gender pass LION. Everything on their body is a weapon.

My dear, one wouldn't know until you for whatever reason get into a physical struggle with a man. This is why I still support men not beating women because the fight won't be on fairgrounds. Just find some other way to deal with her if wrong.

InvertedHammer:
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It doesn't even make sense.

You are supposed to meet a client at point A for business discussion. Simple.

Why pick Uber to drop you at point B so that the client will drive you to point A? Story for the gods!

Your church member (which happens to be you) was on runs. You were asked to bring some friends for his friends. You thought it was a date and it turned out to be robbery. You changed the narrative to curry sympathy. That's all.

Someone whom you turned down his overtures many times suddenly came with a business proposal that will get two of you together and you accepted? You cannot be this dumb.
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The story makes no logical sense, tbh. I was wondering how it went from business deal to "she and two of her friends".

Not supporting robbery but ladies really have to be careful.

I'm sure it was the sound of her making big money that made your friends lose her sense 9f reasoning. As a young single lady, if you don't have an office always meet at a public place or an eatery. It doesn't matter if you have 10 friends following you. 3 men with weapons can overpower 15 girls.

Tell your friend she should glorify God she wasn't used for rituals this december or raped.


It seems like some people haven't realized there is serious hunger in the land especially after lockdown. Humans have become wild animals. You gat to stay safe by all means.

SkyRicks:
She is way older than I am and am sure she must have married by now and have kids by now.
Like I said she is older that me that is why she sends me errands and allow me keep the change

Thanks alot yours was useful, I will re-establish contact and talk things through but I may awake hidden emotions

This your experience is very common with men who were either deflowered by older women or at a young naive age slept with older women. They practically become sexual deviants. I don't know how deeply spiritual it is, but I know the spirit of lust is strong in a woman who finds a small child sexually attractive and it is not good for a virgin or someone pure in spirit to be joined together with a sexually/spirituality filthy person like that. The difference will be obvious in your life.

Try and do more research outside nairaland, find some new endeavors to focus on, and pray for God to give you the wisdom and self-control to overcome it. Prayer might be slow, it might take years but it breaks chains.

SkyRicks:
Hmmm
Even after marriage ?

Married men are sleeping around. Many of these men raping girls every week are either married or have girlfriends. The spirit of perversionis everywhere now that both men and women have an insatiable appetite for sex and more sex.

Truvel:
What Advice Do U Want Again 4 Godsake? Get A Lady Or A Wife. I'm Even Astonished Dat U Posted Dis Here. Haba!!

So if you someone comes to take your daughter's hand in marriage just to satisfy your sexual urge, you'll be happy?

What if when he's away from wife, the urge returns?

pretydiva:
If only the person that bought it for her can do same for his mother and sisters.
This will be trending among the so called celebs. Misplaced priority every where

Lol, Farouk treats his mom like a god. The way he praises her on the gram, I suspect she's his source

lefulefu2:
cee c that guys are dying for and killing themselves for her attention on social media is finding it hard to get husby?
na wa for this life
its so easy to choose a husband among ur teeming male admirers nau

Ceecee is just catching cruise with everybody.

Babe might even be in a serious relationship but watch most men talk thrash here like they have better character than her.

pocohantas:
Where them see the hair cut kwanu? With the growing demand.

I would never understand the hype for these things. I love good weaves, especially curls- but you see this bone straight, I no buy am. I don’t even bother myself, I have a budget for such and I don’t exceed it.

That's all. Slay on a budget and be contented.

pocohantas:
The hair is hideous to me. Too fake and unattractive. I don’t understand the hype, but I have gotten to understand that for many ladies, peer pressure (on fashion trends) is a thing. So they buy it to feel among.

98% of "human hairs" made these days are heavily mixed with synthetic and chemicals. They have discovered a new way to mix it up with chemicals and make it look luxurious and last a few years. Some won't even last for a few years.

How many Asian people's heads do they want to cut hair from? How long does it take for a full length of hair to grow back?

I was going through pictures of Sylvia Nduka's opening ceremony of her hair store at surulere and there is a big difference between what she was wearing then and what they sell for over 100k now. The one she wore wasn't as shiny as what they all sell now.

Nothing like 100% human hair even the overpriced bone straight. People just buy the hype and pressure to feel among.

INSTANTCASH345:
You can get it from the East Asia@ $20

On Fiverr or another site?

Nazgul:
Like I always say, never date any girl who doesn't have any visible source of income...na olosho she be.

When you ask a girl what she does and she tells you I'm into online stuff...

I sell hairs and other ladies stuff online...

I'm running a blog my dream is to be like Linda ikeji

I'm currently working 6 hours a day with an online company...they pay in dollars.

All those stories are just an excuse to make you feel she's quite busy...truth is she's marketing herself online to the highest bidder.

Only girls in this category visit native doctors for potent charms in caging rich guys.

If you want a girl, look for a working class lady. She won't have the time for all those bullshit.

Merry Christmas in advance.

E go shock you.

Only God alone knows the heart and him alone should you seek when seeking for partners or even friends with good hearts.

INSTANTCASH345:
Don't mind him,he has eaten enough.

Let him remain while those Pakistan will do it for $20 sef

What if i want a 10min animation video, how much will it cost me?

Nikone:
Nobody will do a 3D animation video for $30

What's the average cost?

This is why i avoid even alcohol. I don't even want to get a little tipsy. I don't want anything to make me lose full control of my self at any point in time. So one has to avoid drugs, psychedelics, alcohol and pray for protection and strength before you sleep because that's the only time they can try you.

CHANNELStv2020:
How to use it in Nigeria requires connection

There are online platforms where you can teach people language for a fee

Elmuhammadi:
majority of the workers there are from south

the work is not about north or south

Lol, i asked a simple question and you are giving me story.

Elmuhammadi:
Monthly Salary here in Nigeria

You are from the North abi?

chinchonglee:
Access bank no longer uses contract staffs but the permanent staffs salary is below that.

You mean their salary is below 80k?

InfernoNig:
His hand writing is as ugly as his heart. Some people are not humans at all. Mtchew

And his face