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Bukato3: Latifat I'm serious oo. I need to talk to u for real.

Truckpusher: Nowhere in particular sha!

how you dey na and your assistant boyfriend ?

deavicky: i'm sure u will not be a good wife, because of pride
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cusehcuseh: Mtchwww... dis 1 na talk? No cook thn marry urslf. who evn snd ur formin. imagine blackberry babe, na wetin u go teach ur kids...l

Wislet: Don't talk ignorantly.

Our mothers did not go living with or cooking daily in their husbands' houses. As soon as it was determined she was wife material (especially by the man's mother or sisters), a visit was paid to her parents' house and her dowry paid. She was made a WIFE without much ado... And not the warped mentality of the men of today who think a woman should sleep with them or reside in their house with them or be their cook. To prove WHAT? Is that the way to prove it? And after all that is done, what next? Isn't it the same men that will see a girl that refused to do all that/refused to give them the time of day and quickly dumped the 'maid' who they successfully deceived(as they are deceiving some girls here) and married the new one? And later you will hear funny tales of "my boyfriend dumped me after I did everything for him"...bla bla bla...

In this time and age, any lady that thinks doing all that will land her a husband is not being sincere with herself. You wash, sweep, cook for, sleep with a man who hasn't seen it fit to visit your father's house and put paid to your services for life, and you are not ashamed? Yet it is your 'mates' who did far less who keep sending you their wedding invitations every other week. And he keeps deceiving you with "When I am settled/financially 100% I'll go the next step".

My dear, if he says he's not ready yet, why don't you make him want to speed it up and work harder so he can come to your place faster? If you wait AT YOUR FATHER's HOUSE he will be hungry enough for you to want to pay your bride price quicker before he loses you. Won't that result to working harder? Then you will have value in his eyes. Sleeping with him everyday, cooking, washing, etc are all a WIFE's duties. If you are doing all those for him, why would he remember you aren't his wife yet? Why would he want to work hard for you?

There is a law governing everything in this life. As long as you keep breaking the rules for any, the more its fulfilment eludes you.
(That is why your churches keep filling up with husband seekers, don't you think?)

Not doing all those things will not make him think you aren't wife material. But, should he think you aren't 'serious' because you don't sleep with him etc, please dust your clothes and move on! He is the one who is not husband material. When your man comes, from his character and attitude toward you, you will offer a thanksgiving to God for being wise enough to run away from that one you almost made the mistake of your life with.

Do not deceive yourself, and do not be deceived.

You can get more wisdom from your elderly mothers (Elderly because even some young mothers of today deceive their children to pursue men to their detriment).

Hardheolar: Peepz still dey on top diz gentlemimi matter.

asab0234: Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh! Oyibo! abeg see my head o

JellyBean190: Why do i keep on having the feeling d OP is a bad cook

JellyBean190: Why do i keep on having the feeling d OP is a bad cook

raficki87: but a bf does everything a husband does na. i dont get NL chics. Anyway i bliv all this na forming like man wey dey reason when you reach the bridge of 28-30yrs single,you go know!!!!!!!

raficki87: but a bf does everything a husband does na. i dont get NL chics. Anyway i bliv all this na forming like man wey dey reason when you reach the bridge of 28-30yrs single,you go know!!!!!!!

thoniann: Hmmmmm..... Applied Lesbo Tinz!

Truckpusher: Them ban you?

good news sha

KPboy: Good day ladies and gentlemen. Am commenting on this kind of social discuss forum for the first time. This is because, having read through the thread, I find it imperative to clear the air.
Many persons have aired their views which epitomizes their definition of 'love' and 'relationship'. Each is entiled to their views and they were quite interesting to say the least. This essentially should not be an issue for the following reason;
1. If cooking for your boyfriend does not gaurantee marriage or makes him disrespect you. But is it REALLY NOT cooking for him that guarantees marriage or would make him regard you? Well the answer is not readily deciphable!
2. If cooking for your 'ideal man' is fine by you and you have been meeting the 'wrong guys', does it make cooking for 'ANY MAN' wrong? Of course, any man may make your ideal man, which only trial and Gods favour may bring. And so, one does not stop doing what she feels right because she dealt with the worng one.
And so I tell you solemnly, the PRINCIPLE is fairly constant, but there are NO hard and fast RULES.
The principle is: Do not give in too much while the other party gives in nothing if he's in capacity(Each party perception of this 'principle' is highly subjective).
For the rule of cooking or not cooking, its highly misleading, vague and inconclusive. It depends on a lot other factors like; COHABITING TOGETHER, COMMITMENT LEVEL(DATING STAGE), PERSONAL ATTRIBUTE and "PERCEPTION OF WHAT IS IDEAL".
And so each to what works for her...for the rule is circumstantial and hence forms no BASIS for arguement nor cousel.
I must commend all contributions so far especially those that have highligted a part of what I have said. These is my humble opinion. Thank you.

Sacluxpaint: How did this get to frontpage?

Iaz93: That user doesn't know the meaning of "courtship".

Mujah1deen: YOU don't cook ,another girl will be happy and glad to take your place and cook for him. Anyway I'm against dating,courtship etc .a girl has nothing to in a male house if she's not his wife or relative .period

BodyKiss: Can't believe people are really answering this st.up.id question.

caseless: I nor get energy to do anything tonight, come back tomorrow.

caseless: breas'st comes to mind here.....

Idowuogbo: Bleep or no bleep, cater to your man.

It's 2013 for fevk sake! Kini big deal?!

alutacontinua: I am not a fan of it!
I can only do it once in a blue-moon, by dt I min lyk once in a year!
I am not his wife, he needs to understand that! If he wants to know how good my culinary skills are, i'll gladly entertain him if he comes to my house!

Dt's all!

caseless: *jumps at her , dances skelewu like that old hag and his daughter above.....rocks her wella*

caseless: *jumps at her , dances skelewu like that old hag and his daughter above.....rocks her wella*

spikes C:

lertee: Lol,good for them.
I am good babe and you?