₦airaland Forum

Goke7:
Kindly contest for an elective position and try out these your policies make we see 😂 let me see how you will find wives and husbands for all unmarried people and dash them children join

That is why I cannot be a politician, as someone like Lee Kuan Yew would not thrive in today's world. The pension system will collapse; it is only a matter of time. AI and robotics are mentioned as solutions to low birth rates, but robots don't consume goods and services. So companies will be taxed higher, but in a world where tax bases can be domiciled in a tax haven, I want to see how policymakers will navigate through it. But the tax aspect is fair enough. If you must receive pension, born pikin. No pikin? No pension. It is the fairest thing to do.

jedisco:
Interesting post you quoted. Things have now matured.

True the two issues you mention and the pursuit of low migration are what I call the three conundrums most developed nations are dealing with today. The fact is that none knows how to marry these three. Most were looking to Japan to learn but their struggle has become increasingly apparent.

So far, no nation has reliably been able to significantly reverse low birth rates. I think it'd ultimately get to a stage when having kids becomes more fashionable but that'd be decades/centuries away- time which many can't afford. Take the winter fuel payments that did this government the most havoc and its subsequent reversal or the U.S debt issue. Everyone wants freebies with someone else paying for it

The pension system can be revamped in the following ways:

- Citizens handle their pensions
- Retirement ages should be increased to 75
- At a certain age, people should receive less pension.
- Unmarried people should be taxed THRICE as married people. Married people with no children should be taxed twice. Married persons with children should be taxed far less than any other group.

The core issue about low birth rates is not necessarily the costs (Niger Republic has a high birth rate), but modern day women who have deliberately refused to have more children or even marry at all. In East Asia, women are not marrying, and culturally, marriage comes before bearing children. The government should tax unmarried persons very high.

RodgersAkpafu:
@Gerrard59

Let's talk about the Plaza Accord

On a final note, it is very easy to say that the plaza accord was this. "weapon' used by the weat to cripple Japan, but again ask yourself, did the Japanese really think that this will go on forever? i.e continued weakening of the currency plus trade restrictions via violating NT?]

Well thought out explanation. I do agree that China controls its currency. However, certain policies by the US-led West point to fear and anger that the Chinese are surpassing them in new technologies such as electric vehicles/batteries, solar panels/wind blades, ownership of mines, etc. It is not the Chinese's fault that they developed their manufacturing industry to be so efficient. It is not their fault that they unlike Westerners move out to far-flung countries to open new markets. The West is just jealous. The tale of IP theft is platitudinous. Many of the top class researchers in the West are ethnic Chinese. So, why is it surprising that the country which churns out more engineering graduates than any other cannot replicate the same thing? The home of those top class ethnic Chinese in Western laboratories?

emmaodet:
Which lane are you actually Gerrard?
You always support women being financially independent and mostly don't need men again nowadays since their is intimacy gadget and they can finance their own lifestyle. You also support not shamming women for sexual liberation because it is their body and they can use it how they feel without men breeding down on them.

I support women in earning their own money, as it brings them respect and dignity. Men, by default, have to earn money whether they like it or not. To be clear, though, I have always espoused sexual liberation, but with caution. The issue of sex to.ys is that as women who can stay off sex for a long time, have their own money, it makes the sexual use of men in their lives to be unimportant, aka useless. So, yes, women earning their own money kinda of makes the usefulness of men in their lives nonexistent. It is why modern-day women have much higher sieving standards for men these days, unlike, say, the 1980s and 1990s.

Then, somehow you are worried the same men shouldn't go the babymama way because kids raised under this condition are mostly social misfit and such men are dead-beat dads.

Yes, because if one is to have properly raised children, the chances are higher in a two-parent household than otherwise. This is a global phenomenon. Fun fact: when I was much younger, I entertained the idea of baby-mama largely because of pop culture (Tuface na eim cause this thing), but after reading numerous scientific studies and articles and comparing the results, I realised that the two-parent household is the best setting to have a family. Even within my immediate family, there is a stark difference between families who have a father figure and those without one.

In my opinion, it is much better to remain child-free or not marry at all than indulge in baby-mama and baby-papa. See the recent news from Port-harcourt where a baby-mama frolicks with seven other men other than her baby-daddy, who has four other baby mamas. Recently, I was reading about crime rates in the Caribbean islands and came to realise that Jamaica has a high crime rate, way higher than other Caribbean nations. The unifying reason amongst the commentators is: fatherless homes. Children, especially males, who grew up without fathers or a father figure. So the effects of baby-daddy go beyond the family and spill into the society. It is the reason I support polygamy, as it provides a father figure for children who otherwise would lack one. Both genders (male and female) are needed to raise children.

Let me tell you a truth - The moment we accept women sexual liberation aka women can be shameless without been judged, the "dead-beat dad" statement too goes out of the window.
There are no more dead beat dads because you can't use a metric for a man while exonerating the woman.
There can't be a jailer, if there are no prisoners.
The same law that apply to a masquerade apply to a person using hijab because they are both covered.
Nature will always find it's balance irrespective of human's sentiment or biasness.
Lastly, no reasonable person invests where their interest is not protected. They did that out of the personal conviction that the women are their properties. It is the same way you will fight to the end the land you buy and someone wants to take it away from you.
But when you have properties that can be taken away from you easily without you saying love-vendor, that property becomes a risky investment to do.
If investing my sweat on a lady/relationship, sometimes send her to school, put her on monthly payment, take her abroad etc and she can just wake up to say she is not doing again or give me a bastard or just cheating on me without any repercussion, rather am been laughed at to move on, then it is only natural that survival instinct will kick-off relationship-wise. It will never be about what the kids will turn out to be or whatnot, my survival, sweat, investment is on the line and nothing else people say or gaslighting or emotional blackmailing will do.

You made strong points here. I think the solution would be to dial down on the sexual liberty for women and promote sexual chastity so that men are made to realise its importance. A situation where men can get the milk for free without owning the cow or tending to the ranch means cows wouldn't be well taken care of or regarded in the grand scheme of things, because hey, the milk is free. The court systems towards men, too, have to be reworked to make things much fairer. The problem, however, is that women have "tasted freedom", which would be hard to collect. The birth control and education are the greatest weapons they have. It gives them so much power. Na why birth rates dey fall everywhere aside Africa. I have thought about a severe and widespread economic depression (men by nature can withstand such conditions), but those weapons will always make women resist a return to the '50s.

The men of olden days were not just responsible (this is debated anyway), ready to die for their women and fight for the village to protect their women and kids.

The bold reminds me of a reddit thread (r/Singapore) where the young males stated that they won't fight for their women should Singapore face a war, after all, women are equal to men. They argue that since women say they are equal to men in job requirements, housing, education et al., then they (women) should be equal in going to war.

P.S. Singaporean males have to participate in a compulsory military exercise for two years, while the females don't have to. So, each man has offered two years to the country, yet the birth rate in Singapore is below 1 TFR. So, what are women offering the country despite all the education, freedom, safety, money and economic opportunities men offered them?

Every day I think through these topics, I realise why God and his prophets in the Bible did what they did.

The third fictitious thread on the front page. Seun can do better than this nau🙄

Unlimitedlucky:
Please I want to clarify something else...
Please people who are not doing research related courses, how will they go about applying... I tell you this Japan's system is just confusing as it goes....

You will attend classes and write term papers (citations and references). The concept of getting a professor to accept you as a prerequisite for admission still remains the same as those who are in science and engineering.

It's not confusing. You just aren't applying hard enough and broadly. If you complain about this, how much more the US where the competition is X10?

franchasng:
Nigerian business terrain is tough due to low purchasing power of Nigerians making Nigerians seekers of cheap articles and products, which most often means the business owners must compromise quality in order to get patronage and meet up with competition in Nigeria.


Aside that, as a Nigerian business owner, you battle staff theft whereby every of your employee is busy looking for Avenue to steal from your business; from managers to account departments (the worst of them all) to even security personnel.
Then comes the Nigerian government authorities with their never straightforward taxes, levies and whatnot.
Did I mention the banks and their ridiculous charges?

What about your business rivals and competitors looking for every means to bring your business down, they use all conventional and unconventional methods, including going spiritual diabolism, voodooism, witchcraft and thuggery. It's not easy owning a successful business in Nigeria.

Honestly if you see any business owner or company owner in Nigeria making it big and still operating after 10 years of startup, please respect that person

Exactly! I know wetin we don see running a successful hospitality business. Many Nigerians are into deep sorcery and Ogboni.. Forget the outwardly religious nature, they engage in witchcraft and demonism. Before being involved in the business, I never believed in such, but after experiences including fighting them spiritually, I came to believe in it. Too much Ogboni people dey Nigeria. Even when person no show body, they are out there looking for man pikin.

Also, something that many haven't stated or wouldn't state is the Nigerian economy. I've been following Nairaland since 2010 and within the 2010 - 2014 period, there were few threads then about hookup unlike as it's now socially and societally ubiquitous. We surpassed 6% GDP growth rate under Jonathan and have never hit 5% ever since. So ten years of economic servitude.

The state of the economy has made almost everyone to be brutish. Blame those who campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015.

SuperOnyi:

I'm in the toilet and something just came up in my head, now this is not directed at the OP.

Despite my extensive knowledge of female psychology, I have avoided contributing to the rot in the society, I'm not perfect but at least I have done well compared to others.

Some men would waste their youth fúcking around, teaching and encouraging moral decadence amongst our women; and just like worn-out feminists, they begin to look for a "good fearing" partner when it's time to "settle down."

There's a heavy price for stupidity and if we do not pay for ours, someone else would — it could even be our children.

Thank you!

I've written it here countless times - Nigerian men created, nurtured and fueled the hookup industry. So blaming women entirely is pure falsehood and hypocrisy. We made our women believe there's so much money to be made and fun to be enjoyed while offering their bodies. Afterwards, you (the women) will still get married.

Women can stay long without sex and with the presence of sex t.oys, they don't necessarily need men to cater to their sexual needs. At the same time, they now earn their money. So technically, modern women don't necessarily need men to live comfortably. But if the demand for sex by men is so high, why not make some money on the side and enjoy their lives?

Nnamdipapa:
That is what I tell people. Save money and go on vacation to Ghana, Uganda, Kenya, Gambia and, mix up with other Africans. I will give everything to be in your shoes, na responsibilities go kill you if you marry most Nigerian ladies or African ladies.

Our men, especially Igbo men, spoilt our women. The entitlement by our women is powered by our men. Those African countries you listed, the native men are complaining of the antics of our men who believe geninue desire can be negotiated.

We fueled this anomaly and should either correct it or live with it.

emmaodet:
Which lane are you actually Gerrard?
You always support women being financially independent and mostly don't need men again nowadays since their is intimacy gadget and they can finance their own lifestyle. You also support not shamming women for sexual liberation because it is their body and they can use it how they feel without men breeding down on them.
Then, somehow you are worried the same men shouldn't go the babymama way because kids raised under this condition are mostly social misfit and such men are dead-beat dads.
Let me tell you a truth - The moment we accept women sexual liberation aka women can be shameless without been judged, the "dead-beat dad" statement too goes out of the window.
There are no more dead beat dads because you can't use a metric for a man while exonerating the woman.
There can't be a jailer, if there are no prisoners.
The same law that apply to a masquerade apply to a person using hijab because they are both covered.
Nature will always find it's balance irrespective of human's sentiment or biasness.
Lastly, no reasonable person invests where their interest is not protected. The men of olden days were not just responsible (this is debated anyway), ready to die for their women and fight for the village to protect their women and kids. They did that out of the personal conviction that the women are their properties. It is the same way you will fight to the end the land you buy and someone wants to take it away from you.
But when you have properties that can be taken away from you easily without you saying love-vendor, that property becomes a risky investment to do.
If investing my sweat on a lady/relationship, sometimes send her to school, put her on monthly payment, take her abroad etc and she can just wake up to say she is not doing again or give me a bastard or just cheating on me without any repercussion, rather am been laughed at to move on, then it is only natural that survival instinct will kick-off relationship-wise. It will never be about what the kids will turn out to be or whatnot, my survival, sweat, investment is on the line and nothing else people say or gaslighting or emotional blackmailing will do.

I will attend to this much later. Just had to note it make I no forget.

Hannania:
OP just settled down and typed nonsense. The most hilarious one is that of Germany

Interesting thing is that OP has studied, lived and worked in the UK for a long time. While there, he was able to raise funds that he now invests in Nigeria. So while the writeup is in order, the last paragraph is very hypocritical. Just like the one on TwitterNG who criticised high level Nigerians working at entry level roles at no-name companies in the UK when they could build $100m businesses in Nigeria. Only for him to be discovered to have pursued a PhD in the US and obtained a Green Card.

Whether that's is witchcraft or not is yet to be studied.

Interestingly, I live and work in the home of "Karoshi" and work only allotted hours (8 hours 45 minutes) per weekday. Overtime is applicable. In most job openings, overtime earnings is included in the expected salary.

P.S. Salaries are clearly stated in almost every job advert. So, applicants know how much to expect.

For me, once I hit 8 hours 45 minutes, I clock out. There's a foreigner privilege in that aspect and I take full advantage of it. That said, Black foreigners rarely get delivery jobs except the person speaks very good Japanese. Also, those roles don't pay well and even if they do, you have to be a permanent resident to be employed in such roles. Any Black foreigner who is a permanent resident has better career options or as in most cases, they start their enterprises. Factory jobs are good as long as the person has a standard work visa (Technology/Humanities/Int'l Services). Anything aside that work visa leads to poor work conditions. For a Black person to hold that visa status and work in a factory/laboratory, such a person works for a good company and is well paid with all perks that come with the job just as they apply to a Japanese citizen.

Nevertheless, I give it to them for being disciplined at work, extremely punctual, largely very honest and ruthlessly efficient.

dauntless15:
right, shey all the number of miscreants in Nigeria are raised in single parent households, this is baseless assumption backed by sentiments cuz alot of people have deadbeats as dad's who are hardly there and they grew up as independent adults who always tackle problems on Thier own with radical and outside the box thinking.

While there are well raised/responsible children from single parent households, those from two-parent households surpass them. Most importantly, this is a global phenomenon - it cuts across all cultures, religions and racial/ethnic groups. That should mean something.

Then again:

It's hard to see a responsible man intentionally state he wants to have a baby-mama arrangement.

ediko5:
But it's okay for them to shame men with names like 'broke' right ?

I called her old cargo mainly due to her attitude of downgrading men when she is completely empty at older age

Well, fair game then. The alpha male crusade rose after a persistent and consistent smearing of men on social media aka men-are-scum and all men-are-rapists. They caused everything as they piled on men with all sorts of words. Now, men are revolting. May the best party win.

I can understand the agony behind your first statement, considering how our young women broke-shame their male counterparts as if making money is that easy.

One, you should avoid those ladies who christened themselves as "feminists", especially those who have "feminist witch" on their Twitter bios.

Two, it's not every lady you invite to your abode and certainly not every lady you have sex with.

Lastly, it's derogatory to call a lady "old cargo". You don't like her for her age? Let her go. The name calling is uncalled for.

He has come a long way, all the way from wearing an old tie preaching on CRBC abi CRTV to owning a five billion naira church complex in one of Nigeria's richest neighbourhood and being an officiating minister in one of Donald Trump's daughter's wedding.

BItt:
Chose women between 18 to 25 at most

But young men these days want ladies who are earning money. It takes time to earn money, so 18 - 25 is out of the equation.

dauntless15:
Na must to marry? Must you marry to achieve your purpose in life, Omo I don't prioritise marriage not with what I've seen, nothing kills faster than ending up with the wrong person, love fades, and there's no guarantee you'll find happiness after tying the knot, if your fear is procreation, baby mama is the way to go, you mustn't get married before you can kpai in peace.

Children raised in the two parent household have better prospects than those raised in single parent homes. That's the global result. So all these baby-mama comes across as irresponsibilty. It's hard to see a responsible man intentionally state he wants to have a baby-mama arrangement.

RichIgboBoy:
omo we plenty wey dey this table o
The ones wey dey hover around me I no like them, I just dey knack them
I dey find Phamarcist or nurse or babe wey get good handwork

There are many of such ladies. You need to find themselves in their circles. Literally go out to meet them.

eepeepook:
I never had a wild phase. I’m not settling down… yet. Things are expensive and children are hard to raise. Let me keep growing income and look for a partner ready for a DINK existence. Dodging adult females looking to hook a man with pregnancy is my constant battle these days.

I'm curious, what do you get out of the marriage since there are no children? I hardly come across Black men who desire a DINK relationship. Besides, many men in Nigeria aren't open to it.

mjuvey3:
My dear brother,I'm in your shoes

I'm 37,single with no kids but I keep meeting money hungry women....Even the decent ones who comes from good homes and have high paying jobs are money hungry and entitled.

There are still few good women out there but the problem is,they don't go out much and they don't reply DMs on Social media....You can only get them through connections or if you're lucky to meet them on the road or at a particular spot like eateries,malls, church,salon,markets etc

It is well

The hypergamy has gone on steroids! I still ask, what do these women use their money for?

Tomorrow, they expect some of us to despise South Africans, Elon Musk, Nigel Farage and Donald Trump? 🙄

zanshi:
Even guys who are financially stable don't want women who don't have nothing doing or come from very poor backgrounds.

Seems you don't how irritably classist Nigerian women can be, people wey fit look you head to toe, cap you say i don't talk to guys who use android or i can't talk to you if you don't have this and that meanwhile, her papa no guide or even she and her brothers no guide.

Men who have put in the effort know that these babes are a walking liability and this in turn is going to affect dating prospects of a lot of women because modern day men dangerously know too much nowadays aren't willing to put up with rubbish unlike their fathers generation.

But bros, we have men right in this thread who say they aren't interested in women's money meanwhile we have men who say women must also be earners and contributors. So, which is which?

As for the bold, well, it plays alongside for both genders and why everybody dey guard themselves. Both genders now know too much.

bitbillionaire:
In today's world where most men are unreliable, unstable and struggling to survive it makes sense to me if a lady insists on being financially stable before having kids as long as she has not seen a wealthy, financially stable suitor yet. But once she has suitor who is already wealthy it no longer makes sense to me for her to insist on being financially stable before having kids.

Who says you can't pursue your dreams after having kids or even while being pregnant?

The way we throw the word "wealthy" in social discourse in Nigeria, one would think the country is Switzerland.

occfx:
Na lie... Sweet 16 is every man's dream... Ask Ned. Men go for suger mummies just for the dough. No big reasonable boy needs a womans money for anything. I don't need your financial stability, just give me the opueh as e dey hot. Later, I go stabilize you as you want like 30kva stabilizer.

lol
How many Nigerian men are like Ned Nwoko? If every man's dream is a sweet 16, how come many young men are arguing for women to come along with money and not be liabilities? Building one's career or a business takes time. Unfortunately, women's biology does not flow with that. Yes, it is biologically appropriate for women to bear children early in life and later focus on their craft (I had classmates who did such and I think they won it well enough). I would say the solution is to get married to a kind man who is doing something while playing the long game to economic stability. To add, have fewer children.

We cannot always win it in life. We win some and lose some.

IamMobisola:
Some of you talk out of sheer ignorance.

There are lots of ladies below 25years of age with fibroids. Go talk to a doctor you know and let them educate you properly.

If a lady in her 20s goes into marriage without being financially stable herself, you same lots will abuse such ladies saying they are gold diggers and liabilities.

Such ignorance

That is where I have a problem with dem alpha male ideology. You cannot expect women to bring finances to the table, yet expect them to be much younger. It does not work that way. At the same time, women should understand that the biological clock exists and should be mindful of it.

It is a global issue anyway, not entirely a Nigerian or an African one.

IbeOkehie:
Indeed, and when they arrive in the USA for instance, they're likely the highest earning immigrant nationality, definitely richer and wealthier than Nigerians. The CEO of Google is Nigerian, the CEO of Pepsi a few years back was an Indian immigrant. There's not ONE SINGLE Nigerian CEO of a Fortune 500 company in the USA despite our accolades as the most educated immigrant nationality. Proves that DEGREES don't mean ABILITY. Even in the oil & gas industry Nigerians can't point to one ground breaking industry achievement or invention or IP, na so so degree and PhD. Indian-Americans own 90% of all hotels in the USA rated 4 star and below.

Right there in Nigeria, Asians....most likely Indians....are the highest earning CEO's of quoted Nigerian companies. One of Dangote's CEOs, either cement or the refinery, is Asian, likely Indian. Much of the productivity of Kenya and East Africa in general is due to their citizens of Indian descent. The ONLY time Ajaokuta & Aladja Steel EVER produced anything, it was when Indians were running it, I was there first hand to see it. Pride without substance is sooooo Nigerian.

Good Luck to Nigeria.

Bros,

That claim isn't entirely true to begin with. Indians, not Nigerians, hold that position. I don't know why some of our people peddle it, whereas Indians and Chinese are in the same US.

lastkingsman:
I saw hopelessness, exhaustion, poverty and hunger. Although the experience was a bit different in Major cities (affluent neighbourhoods).

I was in Lagos, PHC and Abia

As for business, you can only invest in what's in high demand (i.e. what Nigerians can't do without: food, clothing, energy, communication and so on). It's capital intensive though so if you have cash, and you are ready to be on ground to dedicate your time and energy fully to the business, you are good to go.

Thanks for your perspective.

Just that at the bolded, every business started from scratch, and no new enterprise is built in absentia.

DextrousD:
correct question jare, no mind those guys wey dey shout Prostrate Cancer up and down.

How many reverend fathers we don see with Prostrate Cancer?

Satan can deceive sha.

How do you know that revered fathers don't have sex?

Black men are more likely to suffer from prostate cancer and a study showed that frequent ejaculation reduces the risk.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer

OP needs to have sex. Four years as a male adult without having sex is the result.

You cannot cheat nature. You need to fvck. That is the truth.