Well i to be honet, lies with guys or not. It largely depends on what you as a lady is looking out for. If your values are clearly defined and you know what you really want in a man (note not the material stuff which is what catches the attention of almost 95% of our modern ladies) it shouldn't be much of a problem to get the real guys you ladies are always looking for.

Real guys are everywhere just like fakers. But you must understand a principle, what is worth value is not easily seen, sand is everywhere cause its not worth anything, but gold is scarce.

But just incase you could not still find the mr. right, just holla me on 08034981232. I would be pleased to respond to ya,

Wadda ***?!!!!
Please i think all these self-advertisements should be placed else where, the rate at which desperados dey drop phone numbas and email addys is alarming. Oga o!

@whitelexi
I know sey no be ur fault o jare, (sobs), i just feel so lost with my love not returned, (sobs), i'm so jealous of guys like u that av everything, (sobs)_{blows his nose}

@muki
Would u be mine out of pity now? at least u don talk sey e go hard for u to really love a guy,

Hehen!!! muki! So u're still afta whitelexi, koburu!!!

@whitelexi
You're really a great guy from all i've seen from your posts but i hope u know the smell of concentrated acid,  Muki is mine, mine, mine, hahahahaha (wicked laugh)

Just a lil observation, all the gurls r into 'God-fearing' abi!!!, hmmm, interesting

Lets bone the arguements,
Why do guys lie? Simple, Its the only way to woo a typical woman. Tell ha the whole truth about yourself and u'll be "talk(ing) to the hand".
Besides avn't u guys seen movies, perharps the most "romantic" way to hurt a woman is letting her discover you lied to get or keep her, from 'coming to america' to even the high school muchy stuffs,

Ladies, admit it, it makes u proud that your man lied to you with 'the best' intentions

hmmm, My first kiss happens to also be one of my most embarrassing times of my life. I'd always thot twas going to come naturally and easy but believe me twas far from it. First twas rubbing my sealed lips over hers, to slightly parted, to attemting to swallow her whole mouth, embarassing is an understatement!!!

I won't tell you how old i was then, thats even more embarrassing!

Kai!!!, i'm even hiding my face as i dey type this

Goood riddance to jerrymania, finally no competetion!!! Muki, i'm good for you.

abeg dont fall for that crap letter o!!! its means absolutely nothing aside showing that she's probably GENUINELY confused. My ex too went thru a similar stage but then still dumped me in the end.
Better still prepare your mind for the worst, it will most probably happen. Don't be in a hurry to meet ha parents yet too, cos this conditions dont add up. It questions your own intgrity more than hers if you meet ha parents and u guys still breaak-up, Our society tends to always be sympathetic with the female gender, be careful o!!!!

Now, now, now, if na joke make una stop am o!!! the girl is mine o (even if i neva tell am)!
Muki don't mind all those distractions o jare who be jerrymania, whitelexi talk sey ehn no do but me i'm an original MUKIMANIAC.

I can face the Alhajis and dont mind if they cut of my *** so long as you'll still love me without it!

i dont entirely blame you for ur prejudice, i guess its something the society somehow worked into ur head. Even in the business world, the company where i work is so open and responsive to foreign partners but once its nigerian, we've been taught to have our ears up,

On the light side, go try other guys preferably togolese, kenyans of folks from malawi, maybe u'll appreciate us beta then

oga o!!!!
All this rules and principles sha, una no go kill person!!! Today its 165 questions to a[/b]sk, tomorrow [b]7keys to a great relationship, 101 ways to keep your man, Singles 101, marriage 202!!! Which one sef person wan follow

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you, a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals, look for someone complimentary, not

i've heard so many people say otherwise and it makes sense but this one na new rule!!!

Here's my personal ultimate rule:
THERE ARE NO GENERALLY APPLICABLE RULES (EVEN IF U CALL THEM HINTS) TO THESE THINGS, JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART (all the better for you if you have a relationship with God, sorry 4 the religious touch bt cant help it), then hope and live for the best. chikenah!!!

@whitelexi
I feel u my guy, the whole marriage thing looks scary from outside, i know many pple though who av it great, unfortunately i know others who dont, many others too.
I'm still pretty sure that i'm going to take a long run-away drive for hours after i get the news of the birth of my first child . the whole idea of avin a life in your hands to shape makes tremble @times
So i guess u just gotta start working on what u want it to be not by hoping the other person is "right" but by working on yourself and making sure you are "right"

dats right! salt n pepper, plus the right kitchen too , if u know wat i mean.
Since u guys av been friends, u can talk about it, as TALK about it. leave wat ur friends are saying aside and talk to ha.

@osmen
Sorry to ask but i'm pretty sure u're not so fat on age or experience abi?

Ask for a date?!!! As in go out together to some place? if its dat one, def, paro lo!!! nothin dey happen
If you're talking about asking out as par a relationship beyond friendship, thats a tait and far from strait call. Most ladies consider it a betrayal wen a close guy friend "asks" them out. its like he's taking advantage of the friendship. Others are bent on the rule that the best person to hook up with is your longtime friend.
So, u just gotta knw the kinda person ur friend is, that truth however is, u neva really know until you ask.
So my guy, chop some liver and ask ha first. If she no be cannibal, no permanent damage expected!!!

muki, nice list, and u know wat, there are many guys like that, think i happen to be one.
But u 4got to add the last part of the list:
9. whose wallet is fat wen u enta the mall and doesn't mind not leaving the mall with the wallet sef.
10. Who you can walk-out on anyday of life for greener pastures and would still be waiting for you if you come back in 60 yrs lol

@Ghengis, Hmmm this your own story wahala na waaa ooo, sorry about what happened as for nemesis catching up with them, maybe it will maybe not, life isnt fair they say, we gotta roll with the punches and persevere. Stay cool

Thank you but i'm not as sad as it sounds. Like i said, i've moved on but it vexes me that smth so good just went off like that, it would av been over now if not for ha come-back moves. but its ok sha!!! My idea abt the majority of women still stands!!!

@Bolarge
Abeg u hit the bulls-eye point blank!!!
Lemme just add to mcgboye that cristian dating isn't about dating someone from ur church, haven't u heard the saying now that the devil goes to church?
Its about two people commited in their hearts to their faith (In God through Jesus Christ), seeking to live lives of fulfilment with integrity and loving each other in the true definition of love as God gives and not the movies/ soaps/society/or even culture

Congrats man!!! ure one of those that make me so addicted to nairaland. what does it feel like to kknow u're actually ageing?

the saddest part of this whole tale is that my own ex is trying to stage a come-back. Its sad cos as much as i love and want her back, i dont think i can cos i doubt i'll ever trust ha again. Thats part of my grouse with most females, they're just too emotional and for the moment. Cos of some moments with some guy she met during NYSC, she walkd out on an otherwise great relationship and now she wants to come back but i doubt we can ever have it that great again. sad right?

@iice
I hate to admit, u're right, life has to go on!!! thats what people like me and LOVECAT have to learn. Wish nemesis wld just catch up with such ladies (and maybe guys) but it just neva happens

@LOVECAT i feel u my guy, Its like 6months now since i got dumped and d pain lingers, Though i must admit i'm gradually getting beta.
@iice
d stats are overwhelmingly against women! If, I mean if dre are women dat are different, then they're in d minor minority. If its any consolation though, i feel women don't do it 'intentionally'. Most of dem are just victims of their naturally unstable personas. Dis thread isn't about d battle of sexes(maybe we should make one 4 dat) so I'l just stop before i trend too far!

Ask a typical girl what she wants in ha man, and off goes an unrealistic list probably got out of novel or some mushy movie clip, the guy's response is therefore simple, lie at first @least to catch your attention, then prove to you that there's more to him than you previous requirements.

I should say here sha that i DONT lie, i just exaggerate a little

just wrap him in a waste paper and dump him in a waste basket

Thanks Thonia Slim, thats the idea, thats more like a typical woman, Use like mad, suck him dry and when you're through, trash him like dirt.
You are the epitome of today's woman-hood!!!

Yeah! Love does exist, I've been there only once and had it thrown in my face, But dat doesn't change d fact dat what i had was true. Disappointments and betrayal notwithstandin, dre's true love. Just dat darin to get there is riskin incomparable hurt.

No insults, So don't take this as one! What on earth r u doin being 'in love' with someone in a stable rel, That fact alone should av been enough to tell u to back off. At times like dis i wonder where stuff like integrity av gone to. A guy like u wld most probably 'fall in love' wit a married woman. My guy, wat do u do?, Its simple, Back off! Let ha concentrate all ha time and strength on who she's wit now but if things don't work out fine. Abeg stop puttin any undue pressure on d poor girl! At least, put urself in d shoes of d current boyfriend! Integrity my friend, is worth a lot more dan desires, moni and many other things , Naija will be a beta country if we all lived like dat. No insults, right?! Just my own expression of truth!

hmmm, oga o!
The girl called me this morining to ask if she could come see me at work and i said no, but she still came to my office. Politely enough, i went down to see her at the lounge, but first thing she did was start babbling about the fact that she'd been trying to reach me without success weeklong and i've not returned ha calls, bla, bla, I was shell-shocked to say the least. Just told ha i'll be back, went back to my table and calld the receptionist to tell ha i cldn't make it back. dint like being that rude but i def had no choice.
what i dont understand is how the girl began assuming the girl-friend stance, now i'm starting to think she has some "issues". se dandan ni? egba mi o!

hmmm, oga o!
The girl called me this morining to ask if she could come see me at work and i said no, but she still came to my office. Politely enough, i went down to see her at the lounge, but first thing she did was start babbling about the fact that she'd been trying to reach me without success weeklong and i've not returned ha calls, bla, bla, I was shell-shocked to say the least. Just told ha i'll be back, went back to my table and call the receptionist to tell ha i cldn't make it back.
what i dont understand is how the girl began assuming the girl-friend stance, now i'm starting to think she has some "issues". se dandan ni? egba mi o!

abeg!!! which one be koko factor again? de kin new words wey i don hia since i enta N/R na wa!!

@Jess
Actually, no one is blaming the only the ladies, just that the stats say its more common with you guys.

Yep!, heart-shattered infact! Just go over the crap and most def not lookin forward to another in my life time.
By the way, anyone knows where to buy a heart, need one to replace the shattered one,