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winetapper:
Done please let me know time and date
Thank you

I guess today is late, we can start informing or mobilising people tommorrow morning (aminat5 will come handy here)and execute in the evening. You please take the lead and fixed the time as i cant guarantee stability here. Remember its a thread already on fp as we cant risk creating a new thread then wait for it to hit fp for time's sake.

winetapper:
Done please let me know time and date
Thank you

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winetapper:
in others words space booking for front page

Nah! I thought you would understand as you've done it before. Just as you called people to be on the alert with your traffic thread. We will post things relevant to the fp topic and where necessary chat with each other on same fp topic but always end with the light must shine tag. Someone might want to know what the tag is about or even one of us can ask the question (its part of awareness) and refered to signature.

Some people already know about light or have done something before, some people dont know but most people dont know the lates. The news that we are almost there and there's a dead line might spur people to give or give again? am i clear?

Mindfulness:
I am wondering why this man has not yet noticed that she is not that much into him.

As it is with most women who love blindly, when a man truly loves, he hardly gives much weight to her shortcomings plus men are not as sensitive as women to details not forgetting she has been in school for the most part or he is living in denial hoping marriage will improve things.

Still i dont think all hope is lost yet.

Mindfulness:
Very likely scenario.

The truth is that a man and a woman NATURALLY come together for reasons of procreation and the dynamics of procreation and mating behavior are VERY MUCH based on the biochemical reactions, which help people, and also animals, select the mate with the best genes. These biochemical reactions make people feel attracted to one person and not another, create feelings of euphoria and excitement, a strong desire to be with someone and not someone else. Some people call these feelings love and others infatuation. Whatever we may call it, it is indisputable that such biochemical reactions are naturally given to ensure some degree of pair-bonding, which is NATURALLY temporal and not permanent, to ensure the survival of the offspring and with it that of the human species.

Consequently, if you tell people to select their partners based on pure reason, you pretty much violate natural laws and this explains the high level of irritation in such scenarios as you described above.

Well posited. In addition, if she goes for the guy's perfection, what does he get in return for his expectation from her? What if his major expectation is love returned? Then again the man needs a favourable or comfortable atmosphere from her to continue being good to her.

People who marry for other reasons reach a mutual agreement both can offer eg money and beauty.

winetapper:

How about you tag people to get ready and at say 8pm or 9pm from today till sunday we call people's attention to the latest on this thread by posting on an fp topic?
You will choose the topic or link the topic to this thread. The topic should be top or recent on the fp board and must be in its 1st or 2nd page. What say you??

ayolight:
tnks sir. its a good observation.
we ve #2.5m nw, ll still be needing abt 500k-800k

To God be the glory who has brought us this far and who will will make us exceed our good expectations. I believe God will give you more than the 800k to comfortably take care of things.

Go and post an appeal in the family thread as an attache to how much have been raised and how much is left...it is almost weekend/month end/pay day.

Remember we are exploring all avenues..

frisby:
@ TV01 and mindfulness
... I think it might just be the burning-hot sun and insane traffic jam, because it's taking all of the intelligence I can muster to still manage to clutch on to this discussion, something must really be messing with my comprehension


Well so far, these are what I've learned :

1. There is no manual for love and marriage

2. The "right" person so to marry ultimately should be dependent on what matters the most to a person in a marriage, as people marry for various reasons.

3. There's a chance my friend will never grow to love "good man" but this doesn't stop them from having a good marriage, as marriage entails more than just feelings of affection....?

4. My friend is naive and misguided, and needs to redefine her priorities.

5. I'm not nearly as bright as I have always thought married people are on a totally different league.


Thanks everyone for your inputs.
They're very much appreciated.

That somebody is perfect doesnt mean you must like him and it doesnt make you bad if you dont like the person.

You accepted him for pressure's sake and have tolerated him like one cant say no because you neither have the balls nor do you want to hurt him...how long can you go with this?
You know how much you do not enjoy his presence yet you managed it for 3years as there were more apart than together moments. Have you consider how you will survive in marriage with him close to your skin always? You prolly will be irritated by him and anything he does, deny him sex, make both lives miserable and by then exit might be more damaging.

People who marry for reasons other love, lost it somewhere or do so for greed. Take away that condition and the marriage is gone. Love is the only selfless and most noble condition.

Nonetheless, i noticed a tiny ray of hope in your relationship, i wanted to explore with you. If that hope yield nothing, its also for your good you let him go.

Caracta:
This ^^^^

@ayolight, please before you sell any property, let us know how much you've got and how much you need to make it up. Selling of property should be a last resort...when nothing is forthcoming...when we have all left you to your fate...which I don't see the possibility.

Think of life after the successful surgery.

Well said.

Ayolight, God's presence be with you and favour you in every way.

iamkingzlee:
hahaha True!!

Can you explain more, do you add the spoon as one of the accesories for the day? I know you dont wash it after use sometimes before putting it into your pocket..

NinaNigeria:
My darling poster, how is this thread relevant to the romance section? Plz do tell my little darling

After all this darling you romantically shared, you still cant find romance in any of the things your darling said.

Fynestboi:
Ok ma

Also help push it to fp, thanks.

Brb.

Ayolight its okay.

How about you drop by at Kanu Heart Foundation when you are done with the visa? intimate them of progress made to see if they will support now.

wonyi:
@ GHOJES, thanks. I couldn't take her home because of my legs . currently I don't even drive. So called on Friday told them I may not b around for some time n she can't stay alone. So someone came to pick her on saturday. I was also thinking of picking her again n will introduce all that before picking her. Nevertheless when I resume church will discuss with her mum, n I will make her testify in my presence. I got a return call of gratitude from her dad.

Its alright and good, before you take her again, see if she missed being around you not just the niceties you offer and if she is eager to come back.

Delay the taking her back a bit so they will worry and sense there was problem, then you still get to spill it to them before she thinks she can continue as before not knowing you are hurting. This time be fully involved in her school, all other areas of her life, dont be scared to have the major and i dare say final say in them. Please stop giving her money apart from tp to school, i dont think she will handle it well at this late stage. Let her take food to school as she does in her parent's besides the home food reeks of better training than everyday 'mama-put'. You can occasionally dash her money and encourage her to save. Lest i forget let her know she is going finally if she doesnt amend. As long the discipline is that you can give your child dont bother about her or people's reaction, trust me, it wont make her love or hate you less.

You are welcome!

I thought i read somewhere you said you returned her to her parent without telling them anything, i think you should say something to them yourself as some parent will see it as disrespect or that you are a bad person because you spoke to them when you wanted to collect her only to return her without a word. Also she can add some lies to what happened in other to save her face.

She didnt do it because she is not biologically related. It is you who didnt set the track for a mum/daughter relation. She saw you as her nice church aunty whilst you treated her kindly as a mum but too relaxed with punishment like a mum, then expected mum loyalty. A well trained child is a product of love and discipline. You would have discipline her like your own. If you treat her as a daughter she owe you the mum favour. When you were sick, you would have asked your child to skip school or forgo extra lesson to care for you atleast for few days, thats what you should have done with her. Btw, i think she trekked as usual to arrived at 6pm and pocketed the TP.
It is human nature to be pushed to do right plus she is a child, in case of next time or child. Lastly the chores you gave her, were simple, normal and okay.

Hmmm so much for not annoying a bobo.
Lamdec you said it all.
Op you think her children dont already know who their mother is?
If you love your man enough to accept his shame as yours, you will join him to curtail his mother's fault.
Btw, you think you are the only one outside her family she is begging? She did it to your mum, she is doing same to strangers. When you start working, you will still tell her you dont have? When she walks into your home tommorrow and pick stuff in the name of borrowing and tell you not to tell your husband, you will comply so you wont be the enermy or you will speak when you've had enuff? Then your husband ask you how long has it been for and you give him the answer that provoke actions from him that will leave you wondering why he is more angry with you for witholding a stabbing secret than his faulting mum he can never love less.
If you like follow your heart and tell him to handle it like he stumbled into your msg or conversation with his mum or keep quiet because your role models said so.

You are a nice soul. The parent may beg you to take her back, if you feel you can give her a second chance, try once more but change somethings.

On her dirty nature, her background has a lot on it. You have to be patient with her on this but i'm quite disappointed at her not taking instructions, its either her parent didnt train her well or its in her blood, though i think its the former.
No child is all good though its easier to overlook or correct when its your own. There are many other things to worry on the girl child not your own at teen years.
This is where you got it wrong though you meant good. From experience except where the person appreciate goodness, people tend to take your kindness for weakness. You gave her too much free hand at the begining. Remember she is a child, folly is bound to their heart and you should not seperate discipline. You let her have her way too much which is not good for a child. You should say something and mean it whether she likes it or not then she will master your yes and no. Give her food only to school, no money. Be strict first then relapse at her improvement rate. You gave her privileges too overwhelming for her.

If you decide to take her back, watch how sober she is for sundays first.

ayolight how are you?

Happy Born Day Bukatyn!

May you recieve tonight that which you desire in this your celebration time..

ayolight:
someone sent us 1k dis morning, another person 2k , another 2k, another 4k, another 5k and another person 1k. I want to appreciate u. God bless u real good sirs and mas. u wnt lack good things in ur life. tnks.
winetapper tnks for this brilliant idea. God bless u too sir.
I know I have wonderful families here who wnt forget or hesitate to join winetapper come 4pm.
Cc
GHojes
blessedtwins pls re u d one dat called Mr as regards city of David nd Dr Olukoya. pls I ll pm u nw. pls reply. tnks ma.

Sorry i couldnt come to nl till now. Have you been able to achieve majority of your lagos mission?

God's presence will go with you to favour and give you good success..

How did they discover the factory, snapped pictures in it and yet the location is unknown?

If it is fakeness they discover, we already know with the lizards, roaches etc we see inside coke. Without the location, it is the discovery that is yet to be made.

Okay on a serious note, a good cook usually have it in him or her so that any how they cook the food, the food is sweat.

Any woman can easily go for a cooking competition but it takes a really good male cook to participate. The sentimental trick is what happen when a child dances with an adult and he is as good or nearly as good as the adult, you just declare the child winner out of sentiment because it is not the typicality. Overall in terms of sustainability and other cooking parameters, the female cook supersedes.

taryour:
would have been better if you just let sleeping dogs rest. last time I checked these topic is history.

You think its history? Wait until weekend then you would know why i didnt want a repeat of what happened the last time i ignored the inkling.

ayolight:
gudaftnun o, I want to say tnk u to d woman dat sent us 2k, dis aftnun. God bless u real good ma. His provision shall not stop in ur life. eshe ma.
@kimoni, I ll check in d Evn, if I can still book in dat hotel. I tink Dey usually give details of how many rooms left.
@alakara we ll be travelling Tmrw.
House tnks for ur prayers nd support God bless u all.
I want to also plead wit everyone not to forget dat we re still praying for divine provisions, we ve not get dia, but wit God on our sides and U cheering us up, we ll get dia!!!
tnks

well done and God's strength and speed. The way you called on those people you havent hear from lately is nice, you should occasionally. Also try and be organised, i know you are going through lots, get a small book or jotter to write things like the detail of the woman you misplaced, keep it in your purse for easy accessibility.

When you need something, say it on time not waiting till its choking or you are stranded. Also intimate the house of your steps so help can be rendered where possible and it will also draw people to comment.

I think you should visit or call KHF again to know their plan and if necessary, wisely tell them how much you have raised to see if it will gear them to action.
You are always in my thoughts and prayers.

EfemenaXY:
I will respond to this later.

I knew you were coming 'indeed' but can you just dissapoint me and come in peace next time by ignoring.

Cut her slacks on the ground that she doesnt understand you. 'who understand you or do you even understand you?!'

Btw, the sight of two 'old mama tearing each others blouse and bra' is offensive to our sight as Africans.

tearoses:
It is well
Good morning house
Wishing us all a happy, favoured and fruitful week

Sis Idowu I went to the owambe
The gold and chocolate brown wasnt too bad afer all

Efe I stopped reading your post after the first few lines
Ive made a few points and its left for you to take what applys to you.
What you said about that couple was totlally uncalled for, whether you were talking to Sambarry or not. Do you know the couple? The irony is the woman doesnt even look 102 kg to me.

And for someone who has been persecuted herself on this forum and people stood shoulder to shoulder to support you, even though many of us knew the truth, I would have thought that you would show that same support to people in other situations. Lets just leave that there

And for the record dont you ever addtress me in that way again, I am not your walkover and you dont feed me. I can be quiet and peaceful but I wont take any nonsense from you.
You misyarned and I pointed it out to you. You are not a kid in the romance section and should know better. When adults talk, sense should come out of their mouth.
Its best that you just stay far far away from me but if you refuse to I will give it to you in any flavour you want.

On the contrary you are the one who misyarned and like you said, both of you are are not kids. Forget those likes from born followers and stop the dirty fight that is coming.

I have always suspected you dont understand Efe though you think she dosent understand you which was why you added the peace part. Agreed she has her bad side like everyone but you are wrong here. She analysed the picture as a random picture, playfully, continuing conversation not attacking the couple as you misinterpreted. Just apologise, let her do same or the fight will continue for no just course.

Op, i must commend your working conscience, you admitted your guilt and also used it as a yardstick to always forgive her. Some men would have painted themselves as saints or even ended the union the first time they suspected her.

If she abort, you become an accomplice with her, if anything go wrong during abortion you will become the bad one besides your son needs her. The bad part is after the abortion, you might still not move on with her as before not excluding the possibility of the child being yours.

Please for your son's sake still keep the matter within till she birth, then do DNA test but relate with her as though you wont forgive her, let her conscience flog her for the time being. Warn her of divorce if she abort, lest she does it behind you. If DNA says its your child afterall and you can forgive and continue, then forgive her as you are not also innocent. loneliness or friends could have caused it or she could have felt led on knowing you do same but you both need counseling. Also watch if she is truly repentant. If you cant forgive its up to you. If you can forgive but for the pregnancy, wait to be sure the baby is not yours. Deal with her because you are you not what african man would do, it could have been you who impregnated another woman.

Pidggin:
You guys are falling hand o. So how come all the finalist in that contest were guys? I am beginning to think it was just a fluke

You no well o, instead of you to ask the sentimental partial judges, you con dey ask me even after i say no ask.