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Jennylov:
I don't have anything to say to u.u can say what ever u want.every blame is on me.so no need to battled words with u at all.you have every right to say what u want my dear.I'm not stopping u at all.u funny if I read all your response.but in everything thanks yo be God.I'm overcoming all d challenges.you have every right to do whatever u like oo.I won't say no dont do it.is only God that knows our mind.I'm not perfect but u also are not.so stop drawing more attention to itself.. d pple that suppport u will still talk back at u.that's life for u.

No wonder you rushed here to call her daft when you are the daft one. Do you think you are talking to kids. When she was crying and begging you were here doing business because you knew she does not have a nl account to state her case in the first place. You have been collecting money and giving people bales from where you couldnt give her, now you know you can give her rags. It was important for you to protect your image at the expense of her tears by blocking her. You lost her contact but couldnt come to nl where you met her to give her your new one, suddenly you remembered you have it somewhere. I put it to you that you are a scammer who scam people you think you can ride over and i know she is not the first you have treated like this.
Your cup is full to overflowing with the measure you have been serving. You think all these your lies will stop people from coming after you. You are only seeing the shoes you made her walked in and you are shouting God like you are his first daughter. You must walk in her shoes because the God you are calling has answered to make you feel 10times what you made her passed through till you will confess the devil whose child you are pushed you to it.
You are advising her now? So you can be scared?

You are truly suffering from misplaced priority, ok now that he has toss land priority your way, land is your next until another is tossed your way.
One would have thought you were saving to get your own accomodation, invest in any of the financial options open to have good savings for your marriage and marital life, to expand your income source with a business option or something but you saved to live perhaps bigger than the main owner of your accomodation, to buy a liability that you will be spending the rest of your tiny savings on.
You may not sell the car but you can consider using it for transportation on the side. Perhaps you should move to your own accomodation to have a feel of being responsible and learn prioritizing because you are still having similarities with one of 'em students that uses Iphone6 while their parents use nokia 3310.

If there was no property would you be seeing your job as tiring?
80k is quite okay, but i advice you work some more targeted time frame living only on 80k or less, then use the accrued salary to open a business that you can do with your wife as you wait for another job or better still do full time.
If you really are the laid back type i'm sensing, you may not stress yourself to join a more tiring hustle for another job especially with your 80k comfort zone. As you continously stay at home, you may make everything your tenants do your job, you may irritate them, they may irritate you easily and you may possibly lose their respect. When your needs become bigger, your eyes will be on your tenants, you may helplessly find yourself increasing rent outrageously or eyeing that tenant living larger than the landlord (it may sound "unyou", dont be too sure till you wear the shoe). How about savings? What about when more kids come? Property maintenance? You dont want to teach you child to only to sit back and depend on property, you are still a young man dont retire yet.
I know you are thinking it is just for now, but have you alternatives if now extends into 5years or more given the country's position. Get something to fall on immediately aside the 80k property before quiting your job.

mutter:
A woman that is submissive to her husband is hopefully more submissive to the will of God.
If your husband asks you to sin are you helping him by sinning. ? No you are condemning both of you.
She could have involved the family.

She should, she could, she... If the man asked her to sin and she did, she is the one that condemns them both.
When you were advised submit in all things you didnt tell her some are sins, now you turn to blame her for irresponsibility. When you also blamed that girl her to be mil told not to sleep together with her fiance under her roof for not being discreet with her fornication, it was not sin, now submission has gone sour you remembered something called sin. My ish with you is absolving the man of any blame.
I just exhausted the time i have to waste.

mutter:
Take your finger and remove the log from both your eyes before you face me.
Irresponsible is a mild way of putting it. Aborting is puting an abrobt end to a life.
And sorry I wasn't laying low...just too busy.

If she had come here to complain the first time she was asked to abort you would have told her to be submissive and keep her marriage. She has been submissive like you, now you call her irresponsible so that you can live comfortably in your world where man is god and blameless. Abortion is killing, yet the man that took her to his doctor for abortion is blameless because by you, no man is silly.

aigjoey:
He wouldn't dear.. I may consider leaving the marriage. I think there is a motive to his behavior. He actually took me to the his doctor this last time for the baby to be aborted but I ran away.. To be candid with you I think my husband is a cultist.. am just thinking

Since your guts is telling you he is occultic, you better be steps ahead of him, be prepared for life without him and be prayerful because if he is really one as the signs around him says, he may make the pregnancy rough for you. If you abort this one, he may use it as an opportunity to strike seeing that you are getting wiser. The signs are all over and dont be decieved his silence means he has accepted defeat, save yourself now.

mutter:
You are a very irresponsible woman.
That you can abort a life six times is crazy. I have friends that have spent over 20 years praying for God to bless them.with just one. I have a friend in coma for 2 years from an op to enable her conceive. How can your husband tell you not to abort and not to take precautions. Those two are contradictory. You should have resolved it. Anyway I find this hard to believe because no man is that stupid. Unless he wanted to just kick you out or kill you.
The only advice I have for you is that you seek forgiveness from the giver of life.

You are beginning to churn out meaningless posts, life was better when you laid low.
It is very possible for her to be irresponsible yet impossible for any man to be stupid.

cherryice:
really
d bale iz in lag since?? dd u call her to explain all these go her before now? I guess you ddnt. u evn stopped pickin her calls. you now came here to explain shiit jus cos u see shes on d verge of tarnishin ur business.
U were supposed to keep in touch
Dont blame her if she or anyone here calls u scam. u exhibited the features of one

With all the lies she has been spewing, there is no bale in lagos. She may now go and gather rags not worth even 50,000 ngn for the Op. Since she claim to be a big girl that 115,000 ngn is nothing, let her return back the money. This should be moved to front page, she should come and say when she is paying back so that everyone will see the end of this because if this thread dies down she will run from Op again as her type of scaming is one that watches when the tide is weak or still to scam. Imagine, she also wanted to scam the Op's sister.
Cc: Lalasticlala.

Homorlayor20:
hello nairalanders,i travelled to warri yesterday to my family home,to prepare for the forth coming GCE,i was home alone because my mum went with my younger ones to visit my elder sis who just put to bed,others are married or in school,so i arrived warri about 4pm,collected key from a neighbour and she(the neighbour asked me to come back and spend the night with them . i accepted the ofer i took the keys and went home,i was eating on the sofa i dozed off only to awakened by feelings of touch on my lap,i opened my eyes only to see one notorious criminal,i screamed for help while struggling to be free from his grip,our next door neighbour came and he fled.The problem is that i am a virgin ,don't know if i was fingered,can one hymen be ruptured without pains?I am going thru serious emotional truama,cant even study.matured advice needed pls.

Relax he didnt rupture it, you would have seen a blood trace though not everybody bleeds. Dont go showing anybody, even you remove your mind from it back to your books.
You would have felt it in you had he succeded, so relax you are still intact.

annawhite:
madam we all have attitude problem,like someone did mentioned jennylove has attitude problem but she is no scammer#you have opened her up to verbal attacks from Nairalanders #isnt that enough??..in Business you get what u paid for and not the money..she will get yu the best female london bale so u will make extra money for the duration the money has stayed in her hands.. she is no scammer

The only sad thing here is the jenny spoiling business for others.
You really think jenny came here because she is not a scammer of some sort? Should preach go and die because jenny goods was seize? Even if she wanted preach to bear with her, is this the way to go about it?
Let me tell you if you dont know, jenny came here to protect her image because of others that will still fall for her. If really her goods was seized, i bet you she would have since settled other strong clients, then why preach's? She suddenly retrieved her number because preach cried out. I tell you, this jenny i'm seeing would have cut off from preach for as forever as she keeps quiet.

goldenruby:
Please please please!!!! Y'all should STOP giving Online stores bad names. Madam Jenny What happens to communication? What Stops would from narrating all this long talk you posted here to your buyer?? I understand the whole cotonu/togo cloth buying ordeal..Yes so many things have happened to you but a simple pleas and subtle talk would have gone a long way.
She claimed you werent picking her calls, blocked her on FB and sorts and couldn't even deny that. Ontop her MONEY?? For someone to pay over 100k for cloths she has not seen you think say na beans?
And you're here saying if she gets you upset she wouldn't see her money or cloths WTF! Since last year.

Let me tell you something you don't know as a seller on a face less forum. 1 alleged scam and you have lost the entire clientele. If this thread use style smell frontpage body go tell you.
Abeg sort the Mess and clear your name.


Edited : I just went through your profile and saw the way you 'washed' a client that she is struggling to coff out 90k, that you'd deal with her, that you’re more than the money she paid blabla cos she requested her products. YUCK YOUR CUSTOMER CARE ATTITUDE IS DISGUSTING. continue this way and you won't last in 9ja market. Person wey get the whole Good attitude 100% sef dey find headway. Rubbish!

You couldnt have said it better and for her to come here to say she wont give preach's her goods or money means she had concluded on it hence her tarrying till 8months, blocking her line etc she actually took her long silence for "mumu", she must be shocked to see her capable of this. More will befall her if she doesnt pay preach's back her money on time.

I met him through someone. His type of laziness is one i couldnt help adding to the study list.
The story had it that his father was a very generous well to do man. His dad knowing who his son was wasted no time in marrying for him the first girl he brought from the school he also bought him certificate. With the little moment i spend with his mum, he didnt take me time to know he got it from her.
His wife! I never knew she was younger, preetier, more hardworking till she put to bed. The first time i saw her, i was held in awe by her jolly nature and it didnt take long before we became casual friends. She had that irresistable personality so that anyone who didnt get along with her should be the problem. She came for the money but fell in love to a fault or her situation made it so but certainly she had a faulty foundation, now she think its too late to amend. Her mistake? She saw a young man living on his fathers wealth and said yes without sparing a thought for his character. Her world cave in before her eyes not long after marriage as her father inlaw died without warning (girls mingling with penniless men because of their rich dads BE WARNED).

I knew he died the day his father died before i was told he fainted, was hospitalised on hearing his dad's exit. A man who wanted to repay his dad's kindness gave him a job but he did nothing aside sleeping at work till he got sacked. Another bought him a car yet he gives all manner of excuses why he cant use it for transportation in a city where transportation his big business instead he uses it to carry his lazy friends to nowhere. When he is done spending rents on inherited properties, he begs people his dad helped and when they get tired of handing him peanuts he curses them for being ungreatful. Even the properties are getting delapidated and people are getting scared of renting them, he just dont know how to manage them or do anything else than sleep. He has added insecurity to his laziness, he wouldnt let his wife work outside their house for fear of losing her, he wouldnt let friends come near her for fear of them talking sense into her. I fear the wife might become like him because the stronger force pulls. Laziness is best nipped in the bud.

I join you in thanking God.

freecocoa:
I'm sorry to anyone this may offend but just what does this God know for crying out loud eh? How he supposedly sits there letting people suffer when he is supposed to be able to do something about it is beyond annoying, mschew.

I'm also sorry if this offend you, perhaps i did it because "i'm yet to can't help loving you", also i may not reply further due to the air of the moment. You dont think bothering about a God you left if it kills all his own is the better definition of beyound annoying? If people that believe God exist blame him for their loss, people that says he doesnt exist also blame him for loss, he must be really big and compassionate to take it all.

Moca, threads led me here because of you, i pray you find comfort in the holyspirit that only trully comfort.

^^Do you see a man who speaks in haste? Theres is more hope for a fool than for him...29:20.

Life example loading..

The Profile of a Lazy man
~He is usually the last child to leave the parent's home.
~At over age 30, his parents still buy him the pen he used for filling form.
~He waits for a big break or stressless government jobs to move him, when unsuccessful, he waits for them to grow old so that he can be their eyes and legs, then he waits for them to die so that he can get their best property share for being the most faithful child.
~Considering all that has been invested on him, his parents marry him a wife to raise fresh hope oops grandkids or before he "past child bearing age".
~Technically he dies the day the parent dies.
~The wife continues from where the parents stopped or else she should return him to his parents the way she took him.
~You really dont want me to continue?!

How to Spot Lazy People Early
~IF you or your spouse have laziness trait, watch out for it among your kids.
~Even when one for the parents have it, watch out still, it could be recessive.
~For adults, watch out for laziness in their attitude to life, ambitions, conversations, attention to matters of urgency or seriousness, reactions to task, challenge or stress, even their sleeping and eating patterns exposes them.

How to Manage Them
For kids,
~push them to do things when you want not when they want even if you indulge the other kids.
~Their perfect working time is morning or immediately; so ensure they are up and doing what is to be done even if they have to go wait and when they rest after task, they will be greatful you made them useful. But if you let them rest a little before task, they will surely continue in their rest. They hardly get tired of resting, perhaps they never rested after their former life.
~lovingly make them realize that they are laid back which is why you focus on them more than the others, it will help them to continue watching out for themselves when you are not there.
~Be very industrious around them and dont stop echoing your disgust for lazy people, they will surely pick this as environmental influence.
For adults,
~Tough love is their surest redemption. Withdraw every form of support they lean on to rest while their mates are hustling.
After withdrawal of all supports, he still finds nothing attractive enough to lean on, then his ship has most likely long sailed.

Every now and again we hear women complaining of their lazy man but the lazy females goes unnoticed because the provisional role of the man in a family cant be easily ignored besides men with lazy wives have their ego to consider before crying about a lazy wife.
The fact is there are naturally lazy or laid back people. They are contented with little, lack zeal to push forward, dont enjoy being pushed. They are easy to spot when jobless or when on low pay jobs. However, some women have been unfortunate to notice their lazy hubby when he lost his job because they almost always dont have the drive to pick up their fallen self let alone hustle for another job.
These people exist and most times to no fault of theirs. They cant be killed but can be managed to look like their lucky ilks whose laziness goes unnoticed because they are not in situations that exposed their weaknesses or have been effectively managed from childhood.
From my pov, the parents especially mothers have a handful of task to do in such kids. Success rate at management is higher when the are very young. Where the mother has unmanaged laziness, her lazy kid usually turns out hopeless. Even the ones that are not naturally lazy can pick it from her.

freshvine:
Don't be emotional to your fellow woman.

Accept your mistake to enable us move on. Running circus on what is your making makes you look like a sycophant.

Your dossier?

bukatyne:
Hmmmmmmm
Thank God this is coming from someone else.
Again, classic and thank you.

Its a pleasure! Thanks too.

Phema:
@ GHoJes

Why do typical christians make everything about the bible and christianity as a whole, so complicated?

Now, holy spirit has to direct me to submit to my husband? But it's clearly written in the bible na. We know God's standards. We know what He wants us to do. Not doing them is a sin. Whether or not He decides to pardon us is His prerogative. That does not remove that fact that we sinned. He says submit in all things, if you don't, it is a sin. Bringing the "man must love his wife" isn't a condition. It invariably means, whther or not your husband loves you, submit.

There is no need to over analyse this issue. We all know what is expected of us. We either do them or agree we are not obeying God.

I had to bring the holyspirit to tell you that it is only him that can make you do things the God's way not just because you like to do them. It is easy for one to become a born again but it aint easy to remain a born again even if the person want to. You know there are some godly virtues you want to keep but you cant that your flesh is weak. If you like put all your effort to such thing, it is only a matter of time you go back to where you started or continues with serious struggle to no good yield. It is the spirit that can make it light and help you it easily. Without being too spiritual, i tell you it is same spirit that can make you understand what i'm saying.
There are levels of submission, it is not just the basics.
Submission does not mean literally all things otherwise if your man says sleep with his boss for money and you disobey, you have not sinned. Your first and supreme submission is to God, anything short of his commands to you is the sin. Do you know of a young prophet God told to do something in the bible but an older experienced prophet came and told him otherwise, in submission he obeyed the prophet instead and paid by losing his life because he submitted to prophet more than God as the rule was for him to submit to the prophet.
That submission took cognisance of the woman's safety in that the man who submit to God can't demand ungodly submission from is wife.

Onegai:
You have restored my faith in Christians. Thank you for this. Thank you so much.

Thank you too. To God be the glory. I pray that that God will give me more knowledge of his revelation and utterances for times like this.
It is people who dont know the seriousness in the reverencing of God or how powerful he is that says anything from their mouth. When a person does not understand certain things about God, he should voice out in fear of God that he may open the eyes of his understanding. The truth is as long as this earth remains we cant understand it as paul said we know in part now but God reveal mistery on certain things sometimes even paul begged for more though he cant know it all.
My dear some people understanding has been blocked so that though seeing they cant really see. When i see some things i only hope and pray that some people i'm seeing does not belong to the category. It is only God that can make anyone to know him. If anyone like, let him study and know all literally, he cant know unless God permit, that is why he give grace to the humble.

Phema:
@GHoJes

Nice perspective.

The question remains; is a woman's unsubmissiveness pardonable by God if her husband does not love her as God commanded, biblically? Must there be an incentive before a woman wholeheartedly submits to her husband?

Remember we are looking at this from God's standards.

Sin is only pardonable by God and the yardstick he use for measuring is not for you and me to know. I know you must have seen two people commit same sin in your sight but paid differently by God. That part of the scripture is a very wise one which people overlook or abuse to their advantage. I think it must have ensued from men screaming submission without loving hence they gave them their needed submission with an attache because it is unlikely to find a loved woman not submitting. A man who does not love his wife christlikely (sinner) as no right to acuse his woman that doesnt submit (sinner) like the halot and the scribe cases in the bible.
A woman who disobey God in one or more levels and submit in all things to her husband is not better than a woman who does not submit at all to her man before God. My dear, the truth of the matter is, it is the holy spirit that can make anybody to submit to God or man the God's way. For sins that are not spelt outrightly in the bible like failure to submit in a particular thing that you feel is not right with God, the holy spirit will convict you. If you feel guilty it is sin from you but the spirit may not convict another in same shoe. Like paul said about those who eat idol meat and feel guilty, it is sin to them but it is not sin to those who eat it without feeling guilt. The conclusion of the matter is that you have no authority to lift that part of the bible for use without practising the rest lest the devil tell you paul i know, who are you?

There must not be incentive before submission, that is why the bible tell christain to marry only christains unless before the person became a christain so that there will be no issue with loving and submitting. Christain here mean practising one.

Phema:
Nice thread. But again, you are not defining submission in marriage according to the Bible.

The Bible says "wives submit to your husbands in all things". This means that you MUST do your husband's bidding ALWAYS, even when it really doesn't make sense.

And no. A husband and wife are not equal, biblically. You donot submit "in all things" to someone you are equal to. The way I see it, one is either a christian who lives by the Bible or an athiest/non practising christian who lives by common sense. No middle grounds. A real christian woman must submit to her husband always, hence not equal to him.

Now, my question is; what if my husband wants me to do something that is obviously a sin? At what point does one say no to submission without going against God's word?

From the christain view which you are looking at submission, it related it to a man being a true practising christain. If the act that brought the non submission is not christlike including treating the woman unjustly (certainly not christlike), then non submission is not totally out of place. Though not spelt out to the letter, it is same as children obey your parents in the lord otherwise people will force their children to obey them in all things because the bible said so. To confirm that it is meant for men that are truely christlike, it went further to tell the man to love like christ. The question therefore is, has the man screaming submission from his woman loved or is willing to love like christ? Does he even know what it means to love like christ? Does he know christ to start with? Some of the people screaming the "christain" submission as you put it, only go to church on new year's eve, only know that portion of the bible because their fellows said it is in the good book, are certified or uncertified atheist. Do you know that there's a reward/motivation for submission?

Firstly, submission is not forced, it is of freewill as in man to God. Secondly total submission can only be to God regardless of the situation because only him is perfect. Inspite of this, there is non righteous that totally submit at all times to a perfect God let alone to an imperfect man, one can only strive to be perfect.

As i hinted before, even God rewards those who submit to him by lifting them up as he said in Peters or motivates you to submit by lifting you up to acknowledge that it is grace that made it and thus humble yourself, where you ungreatfully does not recognises his grace, he can decide to bring you down. In same vein, the man is told to love his wife like christ love the church as the woman's return for submitting. It is only an ungreatful woman that will not submit to a loving man. In my Pov, it is actually difficult to love like christ than to submit. If many men give themselves to understanding aside doing the christ type of love, they will be too overwhelmed to scream submission because then they will see the bigger log is in their eyes.

Treating your fellow human unjustly is a sin before God. Basically if the act is not just or is a sin before God then the woman can decide not to submit.

Eeeeew Ojukwu finger! So its purely sugar. Paper can also be used to make the conical wrap.

peppyluv02:
I also liked your post. As for babyosisi,I have nothing with her being tribalistic because I am too but all in defense.I have told her when she was still registered on some threads that she and some people are not worth being counselors and never agreed with her on many issues. I got a link to this thread after the whole drama of her deactivation.As for your friend,she called you and some people out to attack me lol. Well,I wish her luck in her marriage. And wouldn't be pushed to say anything further no matter the mentions I get.Good morning.

Going by your definition of friend, i'm your friend because it was for you i came earlier to say watch out! You are beginning to reek too much of that you are pointing hands for, i mean attention. She and somebody first told you it was in the past but you wouldnt stop until you got my attention same way you got hers. Good morning too, friend.

peppyluv02:
Who cares if you've moved forward or backward...

You obviously care! That is why you and your ilks will never make progress in life because you belong to people' past. Shuoo, is it only her post that has fault abi was it only her that complained about the FP thing. Your coward self could not help showing its ugliness because you found a meek match.

Babyosisi was on this thread for months yet you could not come out to her face and say she was a self acclaimed counselor so that you and your cowardice allies can make snide remarks, now that the house is fallen you crawled out like the proverbial goat you are to stand on the roof so that you can feel like a hero.

Na wa o! Everywhere you go, is with your 14yrs old nl neighbour and friends' gist. Are you the first to see a 14yrs old on nl? Btw, what type of supposed adult mingle with 14yrs olds.

Dont worry ehn, herz is getting married soon, she will give birth also and the child will in no time turn 14yrs for you to roll with because the mother is too big for you.

halfrica:
I go wiv frnds cos i kno oda situation arises lecturers are all frnds just cos a lecturer over look u or ignore u doesnt mean he is nt reportin ur case to his frnds to try u?
Omo mehn i moved wiv elders in my school i try to be smarter
And nigga it helped i can waka pass any lecturee beat my chest and say i ddoonnntt fuuuccckkk wiv u ok

^^^Na like this?
Naim be say your own go tey.

halfrica:
So many reasons can bring it d dressin was wat i faced my sef diff situations arises d dress was to talk bou my own experience so who is d hopping grasshopper now?

Since the dressing was the big deal, why do you still have to go in company of others after correcting the dressing.
Now you admit different situations exist but you did not stop at giving your experience, you went further to use it as yardstick to measure the girl's.
I'm done with you, i pray in all your getting, you get wisdom.

halfrica:
Hmmmm before her fada wud av asked her to follow d man there wud av been a formal introduction to fix d day to go togeda her fada whud av showed d lecturer dat ok sir dis is my daughter o d lecturer wud mayb ask questions from her and all
Look there is more to dis type of stories trust me

You did not read the initial story before you were hopping about like grasshopper of a professor who has studied all unilag girls and lecturers to authoritatively say rape can only occur when the girl is indecently dressed yet you foolishly opened you mouth to tell another to read before concluding.

halfrica:
U dont read before u conclude d dresa part was for unilag students nt d 18yrs old girl
Bou d 18yrs old girl her convo wiv d man shd be released to like kno d true convo den u wud kno ow it started there cant be smoke wiv no fire

Last i checked, the girl has given her side of the story likewise the rapist. Which conversation is there to be released again apart from your own, the advocate of rapists?
Come o, how old are you again? Let us see whether there can be hope.