₦airaland Forum

Jobia:
I love this boy

BUSHHUNTER:
Chai! see as Dortmund spoil my 342k ticket....after 2wks

soberdrunk:
How many of you can swear with your village gods but known and unknown that you knew Mr Bens wife's name or any other relevant information about her before now? If truly she is by his side as he claims we for don know a lot about her because we all know say Uncle Ben nah noisemaker

Sibrah:
This man black oh.

Contact17:
Can't relate. I don't really care about football.

Blue3k:
Zombies will call her a wailer.

PaulKillerman:
When I write that blacks are next to devil, people start accusing me of being a racist.. But again it has come to play... How will a group of people be stealing from those IDP's? How If u see those children and malnourishment following them your heart will bleed, and yet people will go to steal from Them,people that have no homes or shelter to stay, what kind of inhumanity to man could be more than this?

Blacks are devils, Animals living in human cloak. Kai!!!

And yet they go to church to pay tithe as proceeds from this criminality... Wickesness!!! I spit on the black race!!!!

Tufiakwa!!!!'

mrk74:
I do feel that I’m a very lucky man to have a very compatible lady as my wife. We love each other so well and I strongly believe we were meant for each other. However, I have one issue. When she has issue with a suggestion, request or complain she may agree without stating or discussing her objections but will simply not take the suggestion. Sometimes she will out rightly disobey me. The result will be me complaining severally and eventually getting upset. We hardly have issues, but when we do it’s usually because of something like this. We had dated for about 3 years before marriage. We had no issue in our 1st two years. Not that there was no complain at all but we easily made adjustments to accommodate each other. But there were several instances of this kind of issues in our 3rd year and I was seriously bothered. We had a very serious misunderstanding still from this kind of issue few months before we got married. At a point I asked her if I’m difficult and she told me that I nag. It was very embarrassing but when I the dictionary definition of nagging again which states that “(of a person) constantly harassing someone to do something”, then I agreed that I did nag. Then I realized how easy a partner’s action/inaction could make the other to nag.

Just before we began the process towards marriage I had to extract commitments from her for us to avoid this kind of issues in the future. I had explained how we could have handled situations like this better and the fact that she shouldn’t make it a big deal to apologise and she agreed with me. We got married on 30th December 2015 and we have not had issues since then till few days ago. I told her to stop using an item for cooking due to the health challenge I have with the item when it much in the food. I had previously asked for her to avoid putting too much of it which she agreed but she will fail on about 2 out of 9 meals. It was when I realized she can’t moderate it appropriately I asked her to stop and add it when she eats. She agreed but still won’t stop. I then told her not to have the item in the house at all. She agreed but will still buy it and hide. Even though I had noticed the presence of the item on meals for a while but I got to find some that she had recently bought and hidden in a locker. When I confronted her on it she only argued and asked if I had noticed it being overused recently. Even when I pointed out how bad I felt about her disobeying me she will not see it as a big deal.

I’ve been cold with her for about 2 days now (We talk, but not with the typical high spirit when we are both happy). Yesterday she told me that I have been behaving abnormally and I have not told her what is wrong. Then I used the opportunity to remind her of how she has been disobeying me including that of another incident that I had just refused to be upset about. All she said was that she had agreed to stop which I’m not sure I remembered her saying so. But even if she did, how is it different from the previous instance she accepted but began to hide the item. I believe she should apologize for disobeying me but this is something that she won’t do. As far as she is concerned, she had told me she will stop and expects us to move on and there is nothing to be addressed any further.

Fellow nairalanders, what do you think about this? Is an apology for disobeying me out of place?

We had agreed before marriage not to take our issues to friends or family which I strongly uphold. But at this point, I think we should get opinion of a 3rd party hopefully we can get an objective view on this and either of us can have make necessary adjustment for us to avoid this in the future. She reads selected items that lalasticlala pushes to the front page and I hope she gets to read this too. She will definitely know it’s about us. If I don’t hear her mention seeing it on nairaland, I will deliberately lead her to the thread.

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I notice some comments are being directed on the food incidence as if that really is the issue. Please the issue has not always been about food. It's just these last issues that have been about food. There had been an issue with her using bleaching creams, one about her refusing to apply for a sponsorship of her project by an International organization which I pushed for mainly because of the exposure she could get. There had been one about applying for her MSc in a nearby University. Except for the bleaching that she just didn't seem to believe the level of risk involved with the bleaching creams the others she simply won't express her reservation or make objections but just won't act till it becomes annoying then you will know she was not comfortable with it. Meanwhile she had given the impression that she is act or was acting on it. Till date she still regrets where she is having her about to be concluded MSc which could have been avoided if she had opened up on time about her reservation on where I had initially suggested.

The issue is actually more about her not expressing her reservation on a matter and not apologizing when she realizes that she didn't do well. Instead of showing remorse she will simply say we should move on sometimes without even wanting to address the issue.

For those who think I'm controlling. I do let her make her decisions. But I do wish she can share her objections where I make suggestions that she is not comfortable with. When I asked her to get registered for her MSc I had asked her to do so in the Federal University that is about 3mins drive from our house. But that is where she had a BSc and she was not comfortable going there for her MSc. But instead of opening up on her reservation she was just lazy about getting the form and was making enquiry about it from wrong sources till I lost my patience and insisted she go by herself. The school is very close but she didn't even need to trek down. When she got there it was already late entry but I didn't mind. It was when she should have gone to pay that she now raised her reservation but initially hanged it on someone else opinion. I didn't insist. I even tried to assisted her in finding an alternative. But by this time it was only one school that still sold forms for MSc and that is where she is schooling now.

TwoBottles:
‘servicing’ the married woman for long now.



what the Bleep, Is he a mechanic?

4reala:
yeah I knw they are the wisest tribe in Nigeria. But I expect flat heads to be able to answer such a simple qst nah

otukpo:
Dr Maduka, please come and adopt me.

opeyemiieblog:
A bag snatcher was this morning nabbed in Ondo State. He was arrested at Valentino Estate and was stripped naked by angry mob.


Source :: http://www.praizeblog.com/2016/10/photos-bag-snatcher-nabbed-in-ondo.html?m=0

nedu2000:
After waiting 32yrs? With this I know that arsenal will soon win the uefa champions' league

itsmine:
You call it publicity stunt 'cos u don't know d religious north. Pray, a fatwah isn't issued for her murder!

Kingsley1000:
Okorocha/ngige the greatest igbo men.........most of us hate him simply because he is in apc.....


and we embrace and worship a stranger GEJ

asuustrike2009:
Would you say this if it man that cheated?

hardeniji02:
mtcheew OMO kekere shi ni man yi sha

LuvU2:
If a woman forgives and takes back her partner for same, we applaud her for being good.

I think this one deserves a standing Ov Thats a real man right there

Mekanus:
There is no atom of unity in Igbo land, we all know it

Mattex001:
Awww! Very cute snake !

Imagine having a snake as pet

Gabbywatch10:
The north has a long way to go, their elites are so unfair to their talakawas

Iamhatey:

We love pillow fight
We love kissing
We love holding hands
Don't cheat on us
Be caring.

Be good in bed

And watch us give you the happiness you deserve



I'm talking about real girls oo not olosho that you carry upandan.

2odd:
Well said , this politicians should stop thinking with their butt, but i disagrees with soludo that it will take two years to sell any asset ,those politicians don already steal the money they will use to buy those assets , they will hide under proxy companies to buy those assets afterwards they will share the money again.

InvertedHammer:
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Buhari failed once and knew that he ain't got it upstairs and joined the army. He rose through the ranks and became a General.

Well, your buddy Albert Einstein here couldn't figure it out the first time. Like they say, third time is the charm. What did he do thereafter? He joined a gym to lift iron. Wow! What a smart dude. I don't have to call him names. WAEC already proved it.
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InvertedHammer:
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His action supports my theory that folks who spend a lot of time in the gym to look good are LOSERS. Failed WAEC three times? Confirmed olodo!

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NeduLuiZ:
After failing waec trice depression and anger set into my life. Had to channel my anger to something productive... The gym became my saviour.

ExAngel007:
Aliens already exist

Yorubamafia:
Shame on anambra for reducing themselves to ugwu hawkers. How will they survive if they have biafra? How much will ugwu generate? The Igbo's are better in nigeria than having a stupid Biafra

AntiIPOOP:
But my flat head brothers from the red mud republic won't see this. They hate anything Hausa/ Muslim.

bentlywills:
Which 1 is off pant again?
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Pant dn dy get switch?

mrvitalis:
If am yoruba let me never know peace and if am igbo may u never know peace.. . Oya say amen