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I can drop my contact. But If you will wish for me to give you a call, pls drop yours.

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Expresswriter:
Nairaland is the worst place to seek for advice of this nature.

The last time I tried it, I saw shege.

Reading through some of the comments above, I am appalled.

See how majority of people are using condescending words on the OP.

Dear Pastor, I think your wife may be suffering from frigidity.

I may not be correct. I reiterate, I May Not Be Correct.

Google frigidity and find out more.

I will advise you consult a therapist. He or she will conduct a thorough series of tests and questionings to arrive at a perfect diagnosis.

She needs an independent counselor, apart from you her husband.

Her familiarity with you may hamper the effectiveness of your advice and explanations to her from the books you've read as you said.

I understand all you wrote.

You're concerned about love-making. It is proper for you to be.

Love-making ought to be mutual. When one of the partner doesn't respond properly it affects the performance and most importantly the psyche/esteem of the active partner.

Passivity in sex is frowned at.

Nobody would want to make love to a log-of-wood partner.

Your concerns are very much valid.

Don't allow some of the people commenting to make you second-guess yourself.

In summary, consult a therapist.

I am not one. If you need one, I can recommend for you.

God bless you.

Brother, I swore never to have any sexual relationship with anyone till the day am married.
And am not regretting I did that. Despite all the temptations in school and as a single guy working in a bank.

So, it's not about trying to please someone. It was about doing the right thing. Pleasing God.
Premarital sex is a six. Full stop

OKOATA:
If church finds out, will the church open your stomach or mouth to know you guys had sex? I think the problem with most people is that when they tend to be too holy and allow some form of people to have control over them they they start feeling that they can't do their own thinking without the higher authority calling the shots for them.

It's not sudden expectation bro.

It's something av been enduring for long.

Besides, when you have a situation that seems deteriorating with your lover, just for a day, it usually seems it has taken decades.

Kobojunkiee:
1. What exactly are you confused about ? What is it that you really expect your wife to do in this case?

2. You claim the marriage is dwindling but from your explanation, the problem is not the marriage but your sudden expectations that is the issue...

3. You claim you are a pastor but it seems you are suddenly letting your body pull the strings as far as your decision making. You married a virgin and it turns out she is not as enthused about sex as you are, what do you want? For her to turn into a porn star in bed after 9 years and 4 kids?

Time without number.
She doesn't even know what she desires or likes about sex.

If found out that there's pre marital sex, my Church will cancel the marriage and make it look very dishonorable.
So,I can't risk that.

From the first day, she was afraid of it.

Never showed any interest afterwards, despite spending our honeymoon at Obudu cattle ranch.

Our last babe is 2. We have closed childbearing.

We are supposed to be catching fun.

MrBrownJay1:
have you ever taken the time to ask her what she desires/likes in the bedroom?! did you guys dated before marriage? how was the sexual part then? was she ever enthusiastic about sex or was it always like that?

if you could manage for 9yrs then..... hang in there bro!

whatever goes through your mind, unless you wanna divorce the babe or get a second wife, anythging else isnt worthy!

Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Nobody is sure of what actually happened.

He should have listened to the advice of his friends.

Anyway, who knows why he was hell bent on travelling to Imo.

Some sources claimed he has an unfinished business with the state governor and was there to ask for his 2bn which was his own share for helping him become the governor.

Am not saying this story is true or false. But that's what we heard. I read it as well

How can I believe the Nigerian Police.

UGM came to Orji, set Police station ablaze. They ran away. These UGM finished operation and left, Police came back and arrested innocent passersby.

One of those arrested is a man that works with an oil servicing company in Bony island who returned for the burial of his in-law in Ogwa.
He was on his way to buy the coffin for the burial when he was arrested.
All of a sudden, he was named as being one of the UGM that came and destroyed police office in Orji.

Inexperienced and lieing Nigerian Prolice Force.

Every crime is not traced to IPOB. Before IPOB, was there no crimes in the country?

Please do.
Kill the Hope Uzodimma first.

linefyn:
We will avenge ur father's death.

Please this is not Owerri.

That keke colour is not in Owerri.

Besides, keke operation has long been banned in Owerri.

Please always verify your information before you use it to deceive the innocent public

A Chelsea Hater has been sighted.

A typical Manchester United fan.

But if you truly know the history of the rivalry between United and City, you'd pray that Chelsea wins come tomorrow.

Anyway, what am I even saying.
Do we even need your support? No.

Abraham is Abraham. And he's a Nigerian.
Shikina

Kinzo0917:
. Is only those ones playing for Nigeria that the glory will cover.Tammy and Tomori rejected Nigeria and God has rejected them aswell

It is because of this same police and their sister agencies that we'd actually sit home.


Because if you step out, and there's any issues, it is the same police that will pull the trigger and kill us.

Yesooo.

Next in line is Abraham Tammy, another Nigerian by birth

I'd become a Geologist.

But ended up studying Accountancy, working in some banks and now doing my own business

So, since these unknown gun men are now known, can we please stop addressing them as unknown gun men?

Why are you asking us this kind of question?

Obviously you don't love her.

Having sex with you is not her intention. She has sex with you just to make you happy and "greese the relationship". You know her reasons clearly. But you don't want to respect her own conscience.

I guess you are always happy seeing her feel guilty.

Selfish man like you.

Mtcheeeeeew

Honestly, every woman is beautiful.

Pls stop looking at other ladies, focus on your own, you can make her what you wished for.

I bet you, if Simi finds herself in that lady's situation, she'll be more ugly than that lady.

Kudos to whosoever was a part of this transformation

So they took phones as well?

Pls brothers and sisters, call your loved ones in and around the state and advise them never to buy any fairly used phone, no matter how genuine it could appear.

Don't say I didn't warn you ooo.

SATANICALLY:
https://punchng.com/breaking-again-gunmen-attack-imo-police-station-kidnap-cop-injure-others/

It is wrong when you say, they're suspected to be members of the ESN, I think it's unfair to suspect them when it's not been proved.

Before now, prisons have been broken at various parts of the country.

It's not ESN that did those ones

I'd rather die standing than to live on my knees.

What nonsense.

Absolute power.

neoclassical:
You Now Prefer My Younger Sister To Me - SSA Tells Gov Umahi As He Resigns



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See letter below:

Ex CBN governor moving with policemen?

And the foolish not continues to release officer who are already in short supply in the country to protect these wicked men?

I have no pity for these eye service officers.
My only worry is their families that surely will be dumped by both NPF and Soludo.

Let the living learn from the dead

HonNL:
SOURCE

Greetings brothers and sisters.

Am currently registering my company on CAC using their website.

Now, I usually receive queries am asked to rectify and this can only be done from a computer or laptop.

But I always have to visit the business centre for this.


Now I ask, is there any app I can install in my phone to help me view these queries as if am using a computer or a laptop?

This will increase my speed on resolving the matter as I do not need to visit the business centre again.

Didn't you hear where he said he works?

Paramilitary.
Na dem de carry gun nah.
Human death is nothing to them. So I don't blame him. That's the orientation they have in their camp.

For me, I suspect that, since the boss was single, she could have fall in love with him.

Possibly, with an eye on the old man's properties.
Unfortunately, she couldn't make it.

Why would a maid give her kidney to her boss that just pay her salary, say, #50k monthly.

Besides, where is the Oga again in the picture?

You didn't say anything about him again. Or do you mean you now want to marry her, despite not being the one who lured her into giving her kidney?

Bro, you are not telling us the truth.

When you are ready to talk, you come and talk to us.

Ok.

veave:
Hmm. Hope no be African Magic series be this


Having read this story, I feel something fishy went down. I put it to you that you guys kept looking for naive and gullible house help until you got the perfect person who's kidneys matched. So you're trying to say that in all the 300million plus people in Nigeria, you just randomly picked one person as domestic staff and boom, you got a donor? Search yourself Mr man. What is even surprising me is that you sound so casual about a whole human life lost. All you're still thinking is yourself and what would happen to you if you do or do not perform the said rites.

How convinient for your Boss to run away and leave the mess for you to clean up.


Kai!!! God will punish poverty!!!
God punish poverty!!!
God punish poverty!!!

And he wants to be the president abi.


That was how Buhari denied all the statements he made, point blank.

He's already denying or refuting his words/ignorance now that he's not yet the parosident.

God forbid that the 69 man becomes our president.
Na only Parosident that he'll be oo

Infact, I blame the Nnamdi Kanu led IPOB for this killing

Only if they understand perfectly what they're going into.

Omuneizzy6:
A Soldier friend and his colleague proposed to their Girlfriends and they both said 'YES'

Congratulations Ovienadu and co.

No.
Av not seen him.

fatymore:
MISSING PERSON: His name is Babatunde Olarenwaju alias Candy , He left home on Saturday morning and hasn't returned home.

His phones are switched off.

Please if found contact me on 08166390577.

And her phone?

My prayer for them is a bandit free journey.

Cause I don't want to hear "Breaking news: Super Eagles players anf crew kidnapped by bandits"

I hope they are going with enough security?

Bro, definitely, she's seeing someone else.

But you don't have her to blame.

6years nobe 6 days. Besides, possibly she has not received that assurance from you. So she has to play her card in a way it will favour her.

It does not mean she's having sex with another man she's seeing. No. It's possibly a way to make you hasten up the process.

So, instead of getting angry at it, ofcourse what she said was right. Possibly, she has made the mistake of allowing you have sex with her in the past. Now, she wants to correct her mistake

You are not yet her husband. That's the gospel truth.

So, bro, if I were you, I'd let her be, then, work hard to get money and do the needful, if at all you are serious.

Besides, you must not wait till you are rich to bring her in bro.

Start little. She is a nurse. Save small money, go to her place, collect list. Start the wedding process.

Do it based on your capacity. You have no man to please.
Plan with her. Discuss what your plan is.

Remove your mind from sex for now.

Try this method bro.

Like the first picture you shared happend in Owerri, exactly at Cherubim junction by Wetheral Rd.

It was a prank.

The same MC did such a prank around November last year at Douglas rd

Omg!

Means I'd have to wait for the next two weeks for mine to be loaded.

Hopefully.

Am a bit anxious. It's actually my first time of importing.

knowyaself2:
Apapa traffic gridlock most likely: mine was shipped 18 Dec, arrived on 18 feb after two months, was cleared within 10 days, but loading and trucking didn't happen till yesterday

Personally, I don't understand.

My products left China on 31st December 2020.
I was told my container will reach to me by 2/3/21.
This was detailed in the manifest forwarded to me.

Today is 18th, nothing yet.
My agent continue to tell me to calm down, that he'll call me once goods are available.

Am a bit afraid. It's my first time of international business.

Why do you think there's such delay?
.

I was told ship takes a max of 60days to arrive here