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Deafndumb:
The family made my life miserable for asking the daughter who is responsible for the child. They are cooling off gradually.
The girl's family probably wants me to marry her when she's of age from the way things are going

Please rephrase that.
Have you informed your folks?
Dawg,do you need a slap on the nape to get you thinking smart?
Lawd!!!
Just let me know when you tell your folks,cos without your folks..boy,misery is your soul mate.

Marxxx,you want help but you already served yourself a bowl full of help by being too smart...

Pay attention brother,that's how to get help.

Now,you say you guys are good with the break up,right?

Give yourself time.

I say time cos each time I loose a loved one,I give it time.

Time heals physical wounds,it sure heals emotional wounds.
Time is what you need.

Work on your attitude too...
You sound egocentric...I could be wrong and please correct me if I am.
no offence.

Yo deafie,waddup? What's the situation report from minor-baby-mama-drama-shinanigans? Stay positive bro!

kelechi50:
Please tell me why a man that the wife denied s.x ,food and nags at every time,Wouldn't think of cheating on her e.g you returned home from work by 8pm that's the time she will ask your son to go to the kitchen and prepare food for the husband if you ask her why preparing it now she will flare up.please kindly advise the way out of this situation, will the man cheat or not

Eat out and come home to sleep.




Cheating solves no problem,nothing good ever comes out of it mehn!

@op much ado about nothing.

But you write well...well done!

MrMcJay:
This reminds of back in the day when there was no TSA. I remember those days I used to withdraw some heavy sums at GTB Abeokuta. I swear, once I'm leaving the bank and going to the office with the money, no Jupiter can stop me o! Even if trailer jam me, I no go die until I reach office with the money.

This guy sef!

Deafie,on a serious note,your parents needs to be aware of this issue.
This is beyond you now.
Your solution lies in this.
Her parents will dehumanise you until an elderly person from your side shows up.
They know you are scared and probably a good guy,so they are using it against you.
Whatever won't take your life is a phase that is meant to gear you forward.
Call you folks into this...This situation is one why we have parents.
Do not defend your self,let the blames fall like pebbles,take them all in.
If that child is yours,take it in good faith but do not be cajoled into marrying the girl except you have such intentions.
Am with you in prayers.
May the odds forever be in your favour.

Deafndumb:
The mum is already pushing that I play the role of the hubby if u grab.
Outrightly Refusing it would arouse suspicions which may result to confrontation. How do I go about that?

Play daddy on the side lines.Feign busy for 3 days,drop in on the fourth day looking very concerned,apologise and do busy for four days,show on the fifth and wail busy terribly,do busy bee again for five days and go sapped of all blood and water on the 6th.
You feel me brada?
Yo! That way,they will be analysing you,pitying you and confused cos you showing up atleast but busy.
But bro,truth be told,why you doing sheathes off in this era of zika and lassa and them relatives?
Lessons learnt huh?
You will get through this...
Trust me!
Don't forget to buy fruits and beverages when you show up acting busy bee!
Those are the ingridents for "daddy on the side lines delicacy".
(I play alot,pardon me,but I mean everyword)

Goodluck brother...
Act 1;Scene 3...
Again...I play too much...

taiwo05:
pray to it and discovered we ain't compatible.....base on the Will of God

Brother,please change that grammar...Prayed about it...
sorry and thanks!

Brother stop panicking.
There is a lesson to learn,that is the most important aspect of this situation.
The less you talk to her parents the better for you because so much of what you say will be used against you in anywhere.
Agree to whatever they say and save towards getting a DNA after baby is born.
That is when you can stand up for yourself,for now...melo..melo!
Again,do not tell them of your DNA intentions...do not.
Do not also buy every buy buy they tell you,buy the necessary,otherwise you will become their First bank,especially if you have a car and a job.
Looking on the brighter side,you may fall in love with this new cutie on the way (I love them babies)

You are not the first to experience this,you won't be the last.
Many have being through worst.
Please,crying and worrying solves nothing.
This is time to pull yourself together and find a solution.
My advice,DO NOT ABORT THAT CHILD.
The hope and messiah of your family and your lifetime.
Go and look for something to do.
IN four months,you will be due.
Send me your account details if you don't mind.
I may have a little something to get the baby kicking you more(I love them kicks).
Whatever you do,keep that child.
And learn from this experience,it only makes you wiser.

rbjimoh:
what are the questions like?

Random questions;there was one about the location of the first petroleum plant in nigeria.
There was another about the country that is not a member of OPEC,with options though.
Then this passage titled "Abike".
6 girls going to a store buying 6 items each.
Two leaving the elevator on the sixth floor,one leaving on the third floor...
Abeg..that kain gmat question.
Probability.
Graph.
Every - every bros!

Same here in Enugu, we logged in,answered the GIT2,I was on the third question of LR3,the server stopped responding.
After some trials,the WAEC staff apologised and asked us to go.
God bless Nigeria.
The WAEC staff tried their best...
The first four rows were asked to stay back of (32),we tried some more but...
man proposes;God disposes...
Safe journey to my new friends from p.h,bayelsa,calabar!

I submitted mine in Enugu and doing the cbt in Enugu.
I went to check out foretrust digital today,is close to new artisan by dunamis church.
The place is a very new building.
As for being prepared...I don't know buddy!
WAEC staff are supervising the test.
Some of them are also writing.
Goodluck to you guys.

Yes,I believe timing will be short.
Gmat was also specified by some of my friends in the office.
I hope we are all ready...With our VALID ID,not forgetting to put down the candidates's number?
Goodluck friends.

opj21:
Wat abt ple wen never receiv at all.......can will stroll there to check too?

Lol at "stroll"
If the office is "strollable",please do...
You never know brother...
cheers...

First hand information is that some WAEC staff are involved in this test...The assistant registrar(AR) position.
Some candidates are writing by 10.00am,some 12.00pm.
The questions to expect are quantitative,verbal and some current affairs.
A little of everything so I think we should spread our study net.

It is only shortlisted candidates that got the message not everyone and the cbt is holding on 13th February, 2016 nationwide.
I don't think gatecrashers will be entertained because the message has a candidate identification number but anybody who wishes to gatecrash can try it.
Afterall,you have nothing to loose.
Goodmorning pals.

As an aside,find a new interest,you know all that love you have for oga,carry am give this guy that I know...JESUS.
Overlook all these things.
Try and get involved with your kids more.
But do not disrespect him.
God will be the one to fight for you and when God be for a man,oh!
You don't need a human to fight for you.
God will,God will start by healing your heart,giving you a job,and every other good thing will just be at your feet and you will want to scream,dance like David, jump,pull your curtains...
Give this over to God and just watch...

Hey sister,"many have gone,drive safely"
Have you ever read that on high way?
Now,you better go and look for what will make you happy.
Watch carton with your kids if you have any, (I do looney tunes with mine...daffy is my favourite character)
Go out,find friends,make friends,laugh,breath in but don't walk away.
Most importantly,your husband's phone is like an underwear smeared with diarrhea infested stool,do not touch it,go near it and the sound of his ringtone for an incoming call should not cross your ear hole...if you want to live forever young.
Mind your business,take care of yourself and stop calling wahala that is not there.
Haba!you are not the only woman going through stress,but we pray and ask the good Lord to help us grind hard,GRIND hard baby.
Cheers!

I did too.Just this evening.

LEJJA

Please brother? This should be the least of any hustling brother's worry. #nooffence

Very nice.

I like to tell people not to judge a situation they have never been in.
Most of us here are condemning the poster,"he who has no sin...
Most of us do worst,done worst,still in worst.
Op,that you still have a healthy conscience is applaudable...if it doesn't feel right bae...It ain't right.
But if you can deal with the consequences...then who am I to say nay!
cheers doll!

Have you tried to find out how time consuming the 40k job is?
Because the way we see things is different from theirs.
This new job may interfere with his building contract job and as such he will loose his future contacts.
I think you should let him have his way on this one since you have something doing to support.
Chill a bit...something good may come.
Men reason differently from women.
God bless.

Wyttcat:
Great topic you have here, I was just discussing this with a cousin who celebrated Christmas with an orphanage. Government should make adoption easy after vigorous background checks and then unannounced monthly follow-up to the homes where the children live and schools they attend.

The orphanage run by the Catholic organisation I know has refused the adoption process.
They are rude about it.
They don't even allow you to get as far as the security post with such intentions.
#mooffencetothecatholics

Odenigbo,good question.


The last time I asked,the Reverend sister, said some of them have relatives though extended, whom they go to when they are older.

Some of them have their father but their mum may be late,so the man gives them to be cared for to claim them when they are older.

Others help them in the orphanage when they grow.
Others leave to fend for themselves.
I hope this was helpful.

Sometimes,I marvel at certain posts.
Well...when people quarrel,they say nasty things to each other,and you didn't tell us the things you said back. (You are buying sympathy...no offence)
Look at the name calling from the positive angle...be his LovePeddler.
Forget it and forge ahead.
And this is not an excuse to cheat for your sanity.
If you want to cheat,cheat for the right reasons,am sure this is not the first quarrel you guys are having.

This is a man's world,but it ain't nothing without a woman or a girl...Its a song though.
Cheers!

bidemi12:
This is what my professor friend calls 'suffer mentality'. Any man or woman who's been cheated on should divorce that spouse ASAP. The only reason Nigerian women take it is because of poverty and the unknown future. Try that shiit in a normal society, and that man or woman will be paying a heavy price for it.

"In a normal society"
Nigeria hard gan....
Better for the chic to sit down and enjoy the dividends of a cheating brother...
Harmattan deh outside...
Inside is a bit warm.

theodavid:
Man i will advice u 2 pray abt it first, then make a time take ur wife alone on a date 2 a very cool place make her happy edible tins she like den u can bring up d talk abt her physical changes in a cool lovely way allow her say her own view and den u both tink of wat bst solution 2 take bt no mata wat dont go against ur vow on the alter

Pray ke?Theo stop it na!
will prayers make the stretch marks go away?
Op Find somebody that she listens to who has "common sense".
But how do you know it's her looks that is causing wahala "yonder?"
Maybe there is more to the "get it up".
#nooffence.
Seriously,get somebody who she listens to and admires to talk to her.
You shouldn't be mentioned otherwise she would say you took your "yonder and fat" problems to someone.
I hope this helps.
Sorry oga.
It sure is well.

Oga OG,your last post ruined your pity party.
But bro,you didn't reason like you have been married for 15 years.
You would have asked her the type of job that is taking her Alllllllllll the way to the East.
But I get where you had your reservations.
Please listen to her pleas.
If she is sorry then let bygones be bygones.
Onwero ebe eji nsogbu eje inugo?
We all err.
Even you sef...I deh suspect you oooo (no offence).
But just let it slide.
15 years no be here ooo.

When did you notice this change? Is this particular to a kind of food? Are you still breast feeding her? Do you give her abidec? Is she weak due to this? Please answer the above questions. We take it from there.