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BigSarah:
Don't just protect loan debtors , also protect the creditors...
Pay the loan owed by defaulters to the loan companies...

And moreover before loan are disbursed, the debtors accepted terms and conditions as well permission to breach data

The bone of contention here is .....invasion of privacy and threat to people that knew nothing about this loan.

I received msg from them stating someone use me as a guarantor and most times I don't even no this people......honestly is very annoying wen u get threatening msg for something you knew nothing about.

They should go after the defaulter solely and stop sending random threat msg to people they presume are close to them.

Romanoff:
So that woman speaks for everyone? Or you didn't see where I said "some women"?

If his wife was not like that before, isn't it obvious it's the pregnancy messing with her sex drive?

Some women have sore nipples from when they conceive to when they give birth, small touch, na serious pain. The nipples go be like say trailer jam am. Na that same nipple man wan dey suck? Make the woman dey cry sake of say you wan suck brezz?

For that woman whose baby can't suck, she should go to the hospital, she probably has inverted nipples, nurses can use big string to pull it out for her.

Wahala for who no marry man wey get sense o.
Big wahala.

Well I don't know why you agitated........it doesn't warrant all this mannerless talk.

You can actually make your point without lousy talks.

Romanoff:
Which doctor?

The one that is not aware that women can experience low libido and might get turned off by sex during pregnancy?

Or you mean the one that will tell you to force your wife go have sex with you for "safe delivery"?

She can only ask him to bare with her.......the way you shouting and talking about low libido doesn't count.

I know a woman who is begging her husband to help suck her breast due to the fact her baby isn't sucking much and breast is full of milk but oga refused.....he claimed she didn't allow him touch her through out the pregnancy due to being tired and now he also tired can't suck her breast.

Diplomacy is required in situations like this.

Hmmm.....Anger.

The problem is most women act first and think later in most situations.....

God didn't make them deep thinkers......look at were she poured the hot water....pure wickedness.

ImaIma1:
You don't need to like her. Just don't tag all of us and put us all in the same box because of her. Treat each case individually with it's own variables. For instance, I have been threatened with death by my BIL. Is it the same as your case? No.

As for your point, men also have problems with inlaws. But most of them handle it better than women do. Besides, the wife's family generally behave themselves around the man of the house. Almost all my siblings are older than my husband, but they take permission from him for the littlest things.

And you hardly see the woman's family coming to challenge him that it is their sister's house the way the husband's family are always singing that it is their brother's house.

As I said in an earlier post, this matter is a robust one. Everyone should just learn to accept each other and respect themselves.

See which ever way you decide to see it i don't care......you can decide to be naive about the fact MOST women don’t always want their husband relate around.

Wen brother case happened and my mum wanted to react I told her to her face she also guilty of this so she has no right to complain.

Don't we have some women say they wish there mother inlaw isnt alive when they marry??

IN 2021 someone is still fighting over kitchen usage......how shallow.

ImaIma1:
You don't need to like her. Just don't tag all of us and put us all in the same box because of her. Treat each case individually with it's own variables. For instance, I have been threatened with death by my BIL. Is it the same as your case? No.

As for your point, men also have problems with inlaws. But most of them handle it better than women do. Besides, the wife's family generally behave themselves around the man of the house. Almost all my siblings are older than my husband, but they take permission from him for the littlest things.

And you hardly see the woman's family coming to challenge him that it is their sister's house the way the husband's family are always singing that it is their brother's house.

As I said in an earlier post, this matter is a robust one. Everyone should just learn to accept each other and respect themselves.

See which ever way you decide to see it i don't care......you can decide to be naive about the fact MOST women don’t always want their husband relate around.

Wen brother case happened and my mum wanted to react I told her to her face she also guilty of this so she has no right to complain.

Don't we have some women say they dont want there mother to be alive when they marry??

IN 2021 someone is still fighting over kitchen usage......how shallow.

ImaIma1:
You see why I said you are commenting from the POV of a bitter inlaw. You cannot see above your pain.

You didn't see where I said I tried to get close but had to maintain my lane. No. You are still stuck on your SIL.

You didn't see the part where I said my sister has great inlaws. You can hardly differentiate btw we and them. No. You are still stuck on your SIL.

Contrary to your hasty conclusion, I even ask my husband if he has sent his mum money, especially as his dad is late and he is first son. Despite what she has done to me, I'm not a troublemaker. Soon they will realize that.

So what your point exactly

We left them alone to live there life without interfering you saying we are bitter inlaws.

Or you expect me to be singing praises of a woman who rained insult on my lil sis because of table water....

Nothing as change between me and my brother but if you expect me to like someone who obviously doesn't like me/lil sis then you are really joking.

This my own point incase you don't get it.....why is it always you woman that have problems with the husband family and not the other way round.

ImaIma1:
Ok

You are speaking from the point of view of a bitter inlaw, so I understand. You won't be able to see from other perspectives because of your emotions.

We are speaking from different POVs.

Bitter inlaw

U are the one speaking from evil point of view........

They don't need to offend you before you hate them.....your own siblings will offend you many times will you hate them.

Is ladies like who will fight her husband for sending money to is mum without taking permission from you.

ImaIma1:
You don't know what you would tolerate till you get married.

I didn't know what kind of inlaws I would have till I got married. Me that I'm an orphan, I was glad I was getting a a new mum and siblings. I later had to accept that I'm not a member of the family and maintain my lane.

Meanwhile I have a sister who has the best inlaws. You can't even know between all of us who is her sister and who is her sister inlaw.

This wife-husband-inlaw matter is a robust one, and there are many factors involved: bad wife, bad inlaws(both sides), unsupportive husband, etc.

How to live in peace with all these factors is the main issue.

The best way to live in peace with al these factors is by treating both inlaws equally for me.QED

ImaIma1:
It may not be totally right from her part. But we are human beings. And we will gravitate more towards those who show us love.

And some of us don't know how to do eye-service. I don't know how to pretend that all is well when it's not. Hence, it would seem like they are giving their own family more access.

It would seem

See let call a spade a spade......stop being economical with the truth.

A good woman who loves her husband would put husband family first before her own likewise the husband doing same.

This problem is always instigated by the woman.....if is her family that is misbehaving if the husband complain the narrate will change to he doesn't like her people but if is the husband family the narrative will be he likes his family more than her......she expects her husband to tolerate her people but can't tolerate his own people.

The right word is " manipulation " I will never tolerate that in my house

stonemasonn:
Tinubu also insulted elders and traditional rulers...so?

What you people obsession with tinubu......like is he the only yoruba man on earth.

Any small thing tinubu this tinubu that.....don't worry I no your tribe already.

Beginning to sound ridiculous......we talking about igboho he is mentioning tinubu.

ImaIma1:
There should be an understanding. As long as my family can enter the kitchen, my husband's family can too.

However, wives who behave otherwise could be that her inlaws don't regard or respect her as their brother's wife. Meanwhile her own family is known to her. It's not rocket science. We know what animosity from inlaws can do.

So because she feel my family don't regard or respect her automatically her own should enjoy more benefits than mine

I get your point but am just saying the whatever rule she has for the kitchen must be applicable to both else there will be enemity.

Charity4real:
You and your little sister must be so bitter to be having grudges towards your brother for over Five years even when he is asking for forgiveness. That is witchcraft in disguise. He was not even the one that offended your sister, rather the the wife did. What a wicked and unforgiving heart.

Lol.......we are the one who is wicked not the person who made us feel unwelcome in her so called husband house.

Very funny sha........so after she rain insult on my lil sis because of table water we should still be one to go kneel and beg her bah

We don't have any issh with my elder brother but we can't come see him in a house we are obviously not welcome.

Mariangeles:
You’re angry with your brother. And for over 5 years over such a trivial issue.
Go make up with your brother.

Am not angry with him.......the wife don't want us around what should we do

Am cool with my bro but I can't go to a house am not welcomed.

Acidosis:
Lol. The point is that you're not in the right place to correct your brother's wife or tell her what to do or how to react to your behaviours. If your brother does not or cannot see the wrong in her actions, then do you all you can to accept your brother and his wife the way they are.

If after 5 years of staying away from your brother, his wife still hasn't changed to your idea of a perfect wife, it only means that your brother sees no wrong or has chosen to manage her behaviour.

Ofcourse that why we decided to let him and is wife be.

Clearly she doesn't want us coming around so is there business.

elantraceey:
Let me school you the difference. A woman grows up with her siblings and is already used to sharing the kitchen, cooking meals and everything with them so when they come to her house when she's married it won't be anything new because there's already familiarity but the woman's siblings cannot just pick up one of the husband's car keys to go out with out informing the husband but the husband's siblings could do that because there's already familiarity between them.


The solution to this things is just to build familiarity and with time it won't be any issue. You can't go to your brother's house, knowing very well your brother hardly enters the kitchen and do anything there and just go and do as you like without informing the wife but after a while when there's a build up of familiarity and the permission will no longer be needed.


Though this kind of issues should really stop coming up in this age. The kitchen is anyone's who knows how to eat responsibility and shouldn't be a big deal anymore what goes on there.

School me on what

Is not the woman fault.....is the weak men we have this days.

Acidosis:
Well, your father and mother raised your brother. Now that you're in your brother's house and not your father's house, it is only proper to act like your brother. When you have your own home, you then can act the way you want.

Abi ooo that why me nd my lil sis don't step is house anymore and I told him if he has any issh he should just call his wife siblings.

But right now he is the one begging us up and down.....only a foolish man will allow his wife create rules only applicable to his family.

Acidosis:
I will cope the same way my brother has been coping with his wife's inability to cook.

Abi ooo.......but her own siblings will come in and do whatever they like in your present while you and your brother keep coping.

My father and mother didn't raise a fool.

Acidosis:
How would you feel when someone you accommodate and feed everyday (even your own brother) enters your kitchen to cook for himself or herself ONLY without considering whether you're also hungry?

Lol.....read the thread again

If he is hungry and the wife refuse to cook.....what should he do??

What the Bleep is so special about the kitchen
The only special place in my house is our bedroom......once he didn't go behind her back to take anything inside her pot he can enter the kitchen to make his own meal.

The courtesy isn't applicable to her own family

Be deceiving yourself there with English.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Only fooolish and weak men see such as nothing.

Do you know that some husband's keep calm seeing their wives maltreat other people's child just because he or she is a maid or house boy.

Please you people should stop blaming these women doing such. Put the blames on the fool of a husband.

Thank you......infact on that thread it was evident we have lot of really foolish men on this forum.

My own blood won't be comfortable in my house because of my wife and her own will be having it al free.......not in this life.

Righteousness2:
If you are legally and really married, then you definitely lack Wisdom. There is no reasonable Man that will advice his brother accordingly.

So wisdom is letting your wife create enemity between you and your siblings??

I see alot of comments from you here is like you just a delusional being.

Righteousness2:
Men and Women are Different Species! And see and Handle things Differently!

Of Course there are things that Permission from the man Must be required.

So her own siblings don't need permission to use the kitchen but my own siblings need to take permission right....anyway my fiancee know me.

Them no born her great great great grand father well make she try such with me.

Righteousness2:
The Wrong move he made was not informing his brother's Wife.

Women are the Home managers and the Kitchen is her office. He should simply inform the madam of the house that he needs to cook something for himself.

Would her own siblings inform the husband before they on the TV or use the sitting room??

My question remains the same.....why is the rule only applicable to the husband family

Pls answer me.

https://www.nairaland.com/6842578/it-wrong-cook-married-brothers#107474802

I went through that thread and I have just one question for everyone who said the guy was wrong.

Why is it always a big deal if is the husband brother/sister that enter the kitchen but no one hear anything if is the wife brother/sister??

For instance in my elder bro case, me and my lil sis don't go to his house anymore for like 5yrs now infact he trying everything possible to get my lil sis to actually speak to him but she just distance herself totally and this exactly what caused it......she went there to see him and met his wife at home ,she was hungry this lady decided not to give her anything.....she went out to get food went into the kitchen to get water this woman rained insult on her for entering her kitchen to take water.

This the same woman her own siblings will spend weeks in this same house and do whatever they like, enter the kitchen anyhow and no one hear anything.

The wife family can cook in her kitchen,do whatever they like but her husband family mustn't near there Just shocking how some guys see nothing wrong in this not knowing they are actually allowing there wife create enemity.

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slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

These whole bombing and key boarding is not different from female style of billing

Naso ooo

How they feel you should/must help them still amaze me oooo......how person go think say because she get breast and virginal she have a right to ask for things from men is the new madness.

I rather help and sort my fellow guys than do it for any lady who isn't my family member.

Infact I think one need to stay off social media.

Ds weekend alone more than 6 ladies billed me.

One billed me 6k for hair......this is someone have never seen before in my life ooo.

Another asked me if I can take care of her....I said no because she is an adult only babies are meant to be taking care off..

Next thing another one I was linked to by a big uncle billed me 12k for one order she made.

Is like this girls just go about billing different guys online trying there luck because how you able to ask someone you have never met before for money still stun me.

Guys share your current billing experience.....let laff small con3 hard

greymiles:
We are talking about legalities here
What I’m saying is that one way or the other, we all do illegal stuffs in bringing food to our respective table

So going has far as killing people to bring food to your table should be see as normal bah??

Rydermaverick:
Op note you do not know anything about all these things you spoke of you are just speaking on assumptions..firstly not all boys are Yahoo boys..many are cryto traders..better not let religion blind your ability to reason properly..

Cryto traders who collect investor money and run away??

See this dude....you think what am saying is a secret ?? Better stop being deliberately naive

Biglittlelois:
You're joking right? You want to be smart by quarter? You want to act ignorant when you clearly know you were talking of Cele? You think everyone is a toddler like you?

Tell your olosho to stop making charms for yahoo boys.

Are you a yahoo boy gf/wife

Biglittlelois:
Your post below




Would you like me to add your "south west" shenanigans to it since you classified all south western girls as one

Is cele the same thing as celestial church
Are you a yahoo boy gf/wife

Because why are you so pained

Na only celestial they wear white garment