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Civilisation!
Child dragging parents to court, well, at least, im happy she didnt abort d baby sha.

Very sad indeed!
May their souls rest in peace.

[quote author=baby_123]These are the kinds of things you should tell your wife. Make sure next time she decides to comeyour wife is around to receive her. Truusssst me, that is the last time you will hear from her.[/quote]this is d most viable solution for now.

[quote author=$25 million]You have spoken well. Physical and verbal abuse is a capital NO NO. Pick one of these that most suits you in this example. A woman is edgy, nags, intolerant, rants and tough on any slight mistake her hubby makes. What will be your expected reaction from him. 1. Physical abuse 2. Verbal abuse 3. Ignoring by keeping a lenghty malice. 4. Constantly apologise in public and in private regardless. Just pick one without modifying I'm trying to analyse sumtin[/quote]sorry dude, my answer is not in any of your collections.
Did you see a part in my post where i said "when a party refuse to play his/her roles as expected"
did u also see it takes two to tango..........all these depicts that the two parties must know what they are doing, one party mustnt be indulged, a woman who is edgy, who rants, nags, intolerant.....etc, may as well be referred to as a girl who doesnt know or understand what marriage is all about.
To answer your question, effective communication is d key, let d husband feel free to let his wife knows, each time she errs, and vice-versa, without shouting on each other, without being defensive.
It is only when both parties respect d oath btwn them, and they both perform their roles as expected of them that they can both enjoy d best of their marriage.
May God help us all.

@op, you are funny o........talking about oath........didnt d man also take oath, and why must it be only women that must keep to their oath?
Prayer! Prayer! Prayer!
Prayer is good, but can men pray for their cheating wives? If not, why must it be women who must always pray for their cheating husbands.
"Can two walk together, except they agree"?
"Do unto others what you want them do unto you".
"It takes two to tangle".
"Respect is reciprocal".
"Action and reaction are equal and opposite".
Op, Do you understand all these words in a marriage, it means two pple are involved and not one person.
Marriage is a relationship btwn a man and a woman.......op, d way you described man in this your write-up depicts a boy, who never knew anything about marriage b4 venturing into it, ie your description looks like a relationship between a woman and a boy.
Op, your write-up is an insults to the real men, who understand what marriage is to them b4 going into it and an indulgence for "boys" who accidentally found themselves in a marital union, i think you really need to say d truth here........it takes two to tangle, if a party is not perfoming as expected in a marriage, truth be told, it will have adverse effect on d marriage and even d family, so, instead of indulging d "boys", tell them d truth, men should stop abusing women emotionally and physically, they should stop running women mad. They should stop cheating on their wives, they should stop doing what they can not accept to their wives. They should behave like men that they are, they should accord d respect that is due to their women to them, only then the marital union can be sacred and sanity will remain in that marriage.



Thank God im in marriage with a man who understand what marriage is all about and not a boy who always want to be indulged.
May God help us all.

He was such a natural and wonderful actor.
Well, we came into this world one day, and we definately shall live one day.
May his soul rest in perfect peace!

Its a personal decision, if u dont feel like getting married, no one can force you to, if you stick to your decision, its even better to remain unmarried and be happpy than getting married to become miserable.
Goodluck.

waleadex: I agree with you but 'indiscipline' huh!

yes, slimyem is absolutely right, its indiscipline......how can a 13yrs old child still be bedwetting.........indiscipline on d part of d parent and on d part of d child.
There are two types of bedwetting.....
1. Primary or natural bedwetting.
2. Secondary bedwetting.
When its primary, it means d child has never for once stopped bedwetting, regardless of d age, so, if d subject of this thread has never stopped bedwetting before, then its natural/primary.
Its secondary if d subject has stopped bedwetting for at least 6months before, only to start bedwettimg again........this is what we "africans" or let me say "yorubas" usually called "afise" ie unnatural or problematic bedwetting.
In d first case, it means d brain of d subject is growing slowly, ie, d level of his maturity is relatively lower than that of his/her peers.....or as a result of small bladder capacity.....in that case, d parent has work to do to help d child stop bedwetting.......like monitoring d child of his intake of liquids, after 6pm, let d child have his dinner by 6pm, with little liquid, and anytime after 7pm, no more liquid again, and d part of d parent is to ensure that they wake him up consistently, may be every 12am, 2am and 5am everyday, so that, his body system will get used to d time, and will have to wake by himself to ease himself.
In d secondary bedwetting, a doctor need to be consulted.
May God help us all.

Goldie died of this or that cant wake her up again, how i wish she can talk for herself what really killed her, but not possible...........anyway.....may her soul rest in peace.

Billyonaire: Sometimes I wonder if religion is now a cover for madness.

and what is religious about d post?
FYI, Im not a religious bigot, these are my observations, why dont you ignore d post, when you think it doesnt make sense to you rather than showng your madness in public forum like this.....smh.

Ikocyztem: @GREATGOD2012,nowadays some especcially guys USE THEIRS in performing BJ if u know wat I mean

i definately know what u mean.......that is one of d things they chose to use their tongues for.

RIP!

Its that tongue that really touch me, no wonder we use our tongues differently.
Some use their tongue to encourage.
Some use theirs to discourage.
Some use theirs to edify.
Some use theirs to pull pple down.
Some use theirs to bless.
Some use theirs to curse.
Some use theirs to criticise constructively.
Some use theirs to criticise destructively.
Some use theirs to gossip.
Some use theirs to correct.
Some use theirs to praise.
Some use theirs to condemn.
Some use theirs to magnify God.
Some use theirs to blaspheme against God.
Some use theirs to ressurect d hopefully dead people.
Some use theirs to kill the hopefully living pple.
As from now, on, i wont be surprised at how pple use their tongues again, since its now confirmed that no two tongues are d same.
May God help us all.

Dangerous romance!

She is your wife, right? My brother, that is marriage, sometimes, you just have to accept d other party d way he/she is.......its called tolerance. In as much as she has other good qualities that you appreciate, and she doesnt deny you when conji becomes happy, then you have to tolerate and compromise, that is not to say, you should patronise adultery, but to accept her d way she is. Im sure there are some things she too expect you to be doing for her which you might not be doing, but she is tolerating you......that is love.
Then, understanding is another factor, you already know she doesnt like it, then understand her, meanwhile, change is d only permanent thing in life, she may later change, but for now, tolerate, understand and appreciate d other good qualities she have. Enjoy your marriage. Focus on d brighter side.
May God help us all.

onatisi: i understand ur concern for her , but u have to understand something here , that mother in law is somehow well to do , i am almost certain they all share teh same pot , the completion of that house will be determined by the mother in law , i can bet it with u , this is what happenes when ladies rush into marriage with well to do guys who are mommies boy

then, if that is d case, if d op can afford it, let her get a room apartment for herself and if d man really love his wife as he claims, then nobody will tell him b4 following her wife.
Sometimes, it takes a party to prove an issue to d other party thru action for d other party to really get d message.
Afterall, life is just too short for one to be continually living ones life like this, make she no come get hypertension, because of marriage.

Man proposes......God disposes.
I will advise they shouldnt make an attempt to try again, or else........only God knows

onatisi: he wont get an apartment , the guy must have been living in his moms house and sees no reason why he should leave the place , and whatever the lady tells him he will tell his mother , and the mother in law will look at the wife as if she wants to bring a division between she and her son, the wife should have sorted this issue out before marrying and moving into the mother in laws house

you are right sir, but let her try first, nothing wrong in trying, or is this how she will continue to live in continous misery and helplessness. Though, she shouldnt have concurred to the arrangement b4, but maybe, who knows, d MIL might not show this kind of wickedness to her b4 she tied d knot, hence, her approval, at least to help her hubby save money for d completion f their site, now that things have fallen apart now, i think she has d right to speak up with her hubby.
May God help us all.

There is absolutely nothing you can do than to hope for d best, if you are destined to be together, fate will find a way of connecting you back together.
May God help us all.

Just tell him, no offence in that, if hes even a matured guy, he will be grateful to you for not deceiving him and wasting his time as well as collecting his money, when you already know that you dont love him.

k2039: Hugs and kisses, I love your response.

@Op, it never occured to you he could be busy, his phone could be on silent, network issues etc. Your point is only reasonable after 24hrs.

By the way you had better work on your esteem and emotions before you kill yourself with unnecessary hypertension.

gbam!

Sometimes, i wonder how this love dey shark some pple to d extent of them almost loosing their sanity.
"omi ti eniyan ma mu ko ni san koja e"

Its OBVIOUSLY NOT RIGHT.

If its constantly, and without any reasonable excuse......delete his/her number

Mynd answered your question........remember individual differences......what you think you cant cry to get, someone else may weep to get it, so, it depends on who you want and d value/worth of d person to you.

And whoever think d presidency has any credibility b4 must be joking.

Why dont you talk with your hubby about this and probably ask him to get a room apartment for you pple to be managing till your site is completed. Life is too short to continually live in misery.

This pple are just fooling/deceiving the populace, they better come out and say d truth! Abi How can smeone be pregnant for 9months without her knowing..........smething is fishing!

This is his own weak point, no perfect person, and he may not even know that he is hurting you, so, communication is what you need, discuss it with him, tell him how bad you usually feel each time he opens dead wound........no perfect marriage anywhere, because, we are not perfect beings......all marriages have their ups and downs, but effective and meaningful communication is all we need to make our feelings known to whoever we are dealing with.
May God help us all.

Obviously not.

@op, ileobatojo just mentioned some things now which i really want you to critically think about;..........you dont need to bring another baby now, first of all, put things together and ensure that you are fit, emotionally and financially, b4 thinking of another baby.
Secondly, be empowered financially, get a job and be financially indepedent, so that you do not have to always depend on him for feeding and all sort.
Pls, do not get me wrong, im not saying its not his responsibilities, but im particularly concerned about d dramas that may be taking place when financial obligations are to be met, so that, when he gives, it will be an addition to what you already have and when he doesnt give, no drama btw d two of you, save yourself from unnecessary and annying drama.......i just hope you understand my points.
May God help us all.

Nice write up..........but a real man doesnt have to wait for his wife to be pregnant, b4 showing her all these............. I enjoy all these from my man always, whether pregnant or not pregnant. He always make me realise that i dont have to be pregnant b4 making me happy.

I love you my God chosen husband.
You are a real man!

During my own time, my mum used God to scare us with, "if we misbehave, God will take us to him and we wont be able to see her again", and since we couldnt afford not to see her, we fall back on track on hearing that.

For me, there is a man in 3rd building after our house who has very long bead and d wife "eleha" always in black gown with her face covered, my kids get scared on sighting any of d couple, so, anytime they misbehave, i scare them with taking them to this couple's house, and immediately, they fall back on track.



Kids sha, this couple are wonderful pple, but their appearances scare my kids die.

Na sure banker .........wetin i go dey do, wey i n go know my spouse' number?