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@vikin, congratulations my dear......you are welcome on board, as you know d beginning of this baby, you shall not know her end, you shall not regret being in d motherhood league, your joy shall not turn sour, many more children ahead, great provisions for you to take care of them, good health for you to be able to carry on, wisdom needed to train your children you shall not lack, strenght to go ahead without being tired, you shall get.
Abeg, my regards to her and pls no do yanga with your bobbi o, let her suckle weli-weli.
Once again, congratulations and HMD to you.
@jidegirl, thanks......love you!

Oh yeah! March 10 is d day...........
Happy Mother's day to my beloved mother.........colonial master funra e....... A woman that is stronger than most men, abi, b4 you could nickname a woman..."colonial master", you think say na beans . I love you maami! May you still live longer for you to enjoy us more and for us to enjoy you more.
@jidegirl..... Happy mothers day to you, mum of great angels, i love you!.......your labour shall not be in vain.
@all NL mums, HMD to you all, may we all live longer to enjoy d fruit of our labour.
To all intending mums, HMD to you too. Your time is come already.
To all single parent(mums).......HMD to you too....
Love you all.

Yes, its always good to have back-ups for important events, but have you pple forgtten that some pple can only afford just one videoman/one photographer. So, if such thing happen to me in that case, what am i going to do?
Well, as for me, life is too short to do any crazy thing in it, its either we put on ur wedding dresses again and have 2 or3 snaps and forget about it, and if its video, i just have to completely forget about it, or what am i going to do, kill him?, kill myself?, kill my hubby?.....no way to all this, life continues, afterall, d success of my marriage does not depend on d pictures or videos, and pple are aware that i got married, and if not having pictures disqualifies me as a good wife/husband, then, i have cause to worry, if not, life is to short joor!, life goes on......its d success and happiness of everyone in d marriage should be of optimost importace to d couple.
May God help us all.

Are you sure you are not also untrue to yourself, because, with d way i see what you wrote, you also seems to like her, why dont you call her and tell her how you feel instead of expecting her to be d one to make d first move, and even, with that, she had already taken d first move by calling to tell you that she loves and like you, so why dont you take it over from there, or you are waiting for her to come and beg you to marry her......wake up guy, you are d one that should stop being untrue to yourself............stop hiding your feelings..........
May God help us all.

We've all been there, but its your approach to life that determines how long one stays in such condition.
Forgive d other person and forgive yourself........this is very important for your health, failure to do this, you are drilling your grave gradually, because,, that bitterness is what will eventually kill you(God forbid).
Get busy..........an idle hand and mind is d devils workshop, if you are always engaged, you wont have enough time to think about d heartbrake.
Dont always be alone, and when you are alone, make sure you are listening to your favorite music or watching your favurite programme on tv, it helps to engage your mind.
Think positively, never wish d other peson or anyone else evil and surround yourself with positive oriented pple.
Read books that uplifts ones soul.
It may not be instantly, but with time, your heart will be healed, if you allow it, you are d only one who can do it foryourself, dont rely on someone comforting you.
May God help us all.

This cultism.......ehn.....
May d dead rest in peace, and may d remaing living learn from this and shun cultism!

Well, each to his own, its what you want and how you want it , may God help you.
However, by d time you are ready, you may have difficulty in knowing d woman who truly loves you, who is not really after your money, and it will require a lot of wisdom for you to know this.
2ndly, if you are close to 40 or above, b4 making up your mind, responsible and marriagable ladies may be running away from you thinking maybe, you are a widower or a divorcee or somebody who just want child because he is unable to have a child from his previous marriage, so, think about it very well, i think this thread will help you to understand my point better.
May God help us all.
https://www.nairaland.com/1210487/22-hez-38

The mother thought she is protecting d child from external knowledge and gossips, whereas, she is behaving foolishly, because, since d culprit knows that if such thing happens again, the parent will still keep their mouth shut, d4 d act continues, and both d child and d mother continues to live in perpetual sorrow, misery and regret. It may even affect d girl's confidence and affection for others in d nearest future.
Personally, i always emphasise report of abuser, when an abuser is reported and dealt with accordingly, 1st, he would stop d act, 2ndly, it will serve as detterant to other potential abusers.
To d parent, if d noise is so much that its making both d abused and d parent worried, then, a change of enviroment is not a bad idea.
So, to all parents here, i advise, run from abusers and report d perpetrators accordingly, it will go a long way in reducing d number of abusers around us.
May God help us all.

byvan: At 38,he has never been married??he wants you to get pregnant before introduction?Do you really know this guy?Can you tell for certain that he isn't a married man whose marital union was fruitless hence he is seeking for a child outside his union?Am skeptical about this your guy,I smell a whole lot of fish.Please investigate this your guy,I know am going out of point but just investigate.

Sorry,I have issue with the age thing,Oldies comes with a lot of baggages.Can't you settle for a younger man??I really don't like the too much age difference thing,age aint just number like some will claim.After investigating this guy critically and decide he is clean,make sure he marries you in every way a woman should be married before you allow his seed to be planted in you.

seconded!

How to know a witch?..........this thread funny baje, well, me i no wan know witch o.

Sorry for your loss, may God give you d fortitude to bear d loss, and as regard d cause, always remember that death must come via any source or cause.
May God help us all.

Funny enough, d person that dropped him there might be among d crowd, waiting to know who will take d little boy with him/her.
Some pple sha.......na wa o!

Na wa o!
Only God knows who might have abandonned d innocent baby there, may be mother or father or d guardian, but, instead of this, why couldnt d person give d child up for adoption...........o ga o....strange things happening everyday......imagine!
May God help us.

May God comfort d parents.
The woman said something which i totally agree with.....

"Parents need to be more aware of what their children are doing online"
I totally agree with this.
May God help us all.

@ op, you can celebrate it in d last saturday/sunday of february or d first saturday/sunday of march.

Happy birthday madam Chaircover.
May your well of wisdom never dry and your source of strength never weak.
Happy birthday!
Hip! Hip!! Hip!!! Hurrah!!!!!!!
Send our e-cakeooo

Why dont you go into online business, i think madam CC is d one i can think about now that can educate you more on that
and as Jidegirl said, its not going to be sweet story if you want to set up buz in my naija without been present physically there.
I wish you goodluck.

Civilisation is good but as im looking at it now, d negatives that come along with civilisation is much more than its positives, therefore, i can say they were happier than us, d way we are going to be happier than many generations that would be coming after us, because.............we are just starting, in terms of civilisation.
May God help us all.

Hhhhmmmmm.......
Graduate?
Boyfriend of 3 months?
No condom?
No concrete discussion b4 flesh to flesh?
Pregnant?
Awaiting service?
What do you do?

Sincerely, i sympathise with you, im sure, even if your bf is rich, not planning to travel, he may not likely allow you to use your being pregnant to tie him to you, ie, may not really get married to you, it seems you sound too naive for him, hence, his refusal.
Well, we all make mistakes, and as others have said, d deed had already been done, may be this will make you smarter, so, buckle up, learn from this and carry your cross, it is well.
What to do....................tell your parents, how?..........do not go direct to them yourself, go thru an intermediary, probably, a highly respected and confidant family friend, he/she will know how to table d matter b4 your parents, and you can move forward from there.
Warning.........do not abort that baby, you never knew your destiny, and who knows tomorrow, that baby may later be your most source of joy, babies with controversies like this usually make it bigger in life and even in d life of d guy self.
So, my dear, do not wallow in selfpity, gather yourself together, move ahead, forgive yourself and learn from your mistake. Tell yourself, this aint going to debar me from reaching my goal in life, remember........there is always another day.
May God help us all.

What a cute family!
May God bless d family and mine too, as well as all nairalanders'

To me, its worth it.
Sometimes, when im moody and i log in......i will have cause to laugh.
Sometimes, here, i get advise useful for solving certain problem.
Sometimes, i help pple to solve their problems thru my and some other pple's post.
Sometimes, i get informed about d happening around d world.
Sometimes, i feel like knowing some members in real life.
Sometimes, i learn a lot.
Above all,family section and cartalk section makes me happy and informed.
God bless Nairaland.
God bless Nairalanders.

The fear of God is d beginning of wisdom...........so, its as result of lack of fear of God in pple, dont join them......d end justifies d means and as regards thinking evil, remember.....two wrongs can never make a right.
We see and know ourselves, so dont think pple are not seeing your good deeds, you will be surprised when you hear some pple saying,........"a morawa".....eagle eye?.....dont involve him....hes an upright man, but if you have already joined them in doing evil, such statement cannot be uttered/said about you, so no matter how things go wrong, God is watching, remember Noah in d bible, he was d only one who qualified to build an ark during his time, so God knows those that are his.
One with God is majority.
May God help us all.

You dont love him? but what initially attracted you to him to d extent of getting pregnant for him? Money?, influence?, affluence?, matchmaking by friends or relatives? Now, why are you not having d same feeling again, did he cheat on you, did he physically or emotioally or psychologically abuse you, did you hear something bad about him?why d sudden hatred, because i believe that you must have seen something about or in him before you could allow him to sleep with you, and i guess that thing you saw is no longer there.
Anyway, What initially attracted you to him to be pregnant for him can be developed,i mean love grows in marriage, if you allow it, but if you think you are trully done with him and that there is nothing he can do that can make you love him again, i will suggest you let him know, call him and discuss with him and let him know your decision, but no matter d decision you take, try as much as possible not to let it affect your child negatively, anything that you resolve to, make sure both of you go about it in such a mature way that it wont have adverse effect on your child, its better that way than trying to pretend that you love each other to d extent of one or both of you becoming abusive, which may lead to death or insanity of one of you.
However, i will like to suggest that you try and focus more on d positivities of d man, allow love to grow, communicate more with him, etc, but if you think there is no way there, and you have made up your mind, you can discuss with him as to what you really want.
But, i just hope you are not being deceived by someone else or friends sha.
I wish you goodluck.

Very insightful!

@Op, aadetoyin said my mind, sincerely, there is nothing wrong with it, but im telling you, your self-esteem is at stake, because each time your mind goes there that your gf/wife is older than you, you feel somehow, so as a poster have said, think about it thoroughly b4 embaking on it.
May God give you d required wisdom to take d right decision.

Your ex is a temptation to you.........avoid him and get rid of him.
May God help you.

D woman is dumb and d attendants were dumber!

realdon: What defines the word'less'?

Aiming too high is the genesis of all these problems. Ladies tends tend to b materialistic than realistic.

May God help us all

i completely agree with your post.............but why did you use my slogan?
May God help us all.

Has it has been advised, pls, stay with your man, since you are already aware of his condition b4 tying d knot with him, i've said it b4, i will say it again.....try adoption and secondly, you can try artificial dissemination, may God reward your stand of love and faith.
However, this should be an eye opener for those who usually think that women dont love genuinely and sincerely, that women only love guys because of their money, now, how many guys can do what d op did?.......settling down with an infertile man, can guys settle down with women who has medical problems just like d op did, im sure guys wont try it, and if they marry her, im sure they would have impregnated another woman, so, guys, can you now see that, ladies/women can love guys sincerely and stay to help him carry his cross.
This is food for thought for guys.
May God help us all.

staicey: Thank you, ma
but mum is outta town hoping to do that when she returns. Wow! read so many comments, some hilarious, some good, some bad but guess what? I picked out the best.

Yours was wonderful, never thought of that. What do i owe you if it works out? Lol!

it will definately work.........you owe me nothing, except your happiness.
I sincerely like you, you sounds/write like a good lady and i believe you are, so, your joy is my wish.
Once again, i wish you best of luck.
Love you!

@op, i guess by now, you should have resolved this slapping issue with your mum as i suggested.
Wishing you goodluck.

They are husband and wife for God's sake, therefore, what God has joined together, let no fasting put asunder!