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biolabee: You are right greatgod but how does this explain cases like the actress who is young and wants to still date a married man

Some of these ladies that date married men are mid 30s, working class ladies and don't need financial boost yet they persist with this act

i will call it inferiority complex, they feel the younger guys look at them as "oniranu", hence running after married men, who they think is man enough not to mention or notice their wayward lifestyle.
On the other hand, it can also be related to pride, thinking those younger guys are too young to handle them, since they usually see themselves as already made ladies or ladies who have "arrived" (big girls).
My opinion anyway!

Its even better to marry late and enjoy d marriage than to marry early and regret ever getting married.
So to me, no late marriage, i only know about good(enviable) and bad(regretful) marriage.
May God help us all.

Personally, i want to believe there is more to what we read here.

Personally, i will suggest that the two of them go for a break.........let your friend tell d guy that she wants a break, and if after a while, your friend discover that she feels like seeing d guy, then it means she has a feeling for him, and if however, during d break, she feels relieved, doesnt miss him, then, she should run, they are not meant to be together.
Warning..........in doing this, your friend mustnt be sentimental, she shouldnt think how nice d guy is to her(marriage is more than this anyway)....she shouldnt deceive herself, if shes sincere with it, she will definately know what to do, during or after d break.
However, warn your friend not to rush into marriage, because she is of age, its better to marry late and enjoy d marriage than rushing into it, only to rush out(if it doesnt even take her life).
As CC use to say, d quality of married years is better than its quantity.
Goodluck to her.
May God help us all.

@ 11 months, you should have introduced her to solid foods like amala, very soft prepared semolina with drawing soup prepared with fish, preferably fresh titus fish, very rich in proteins, well cooked rice, well cooked beans,also you can match irish potatoes with boiled titus, very good and rich in proteins, also, you can prepare soya milk by yourself for her at home, also, beverages like milo, bounvita, ovaltine are also very good.......but all this bobo, etc, are all junks, they have very little or even no benefit to offer your angel, besides, if you dont introduce her to solids now, she may later be selective when shes older than this, and from experince, i tell you, that can be very provoking.
Wishing you goodluck and my regards to her.

Personally, any woman who decided to become a second fiddle is obviously suffering from longthroat...........they prefers a readymade man, instead of d man they would both start from d beggining, no wonder, many of them usualy end up miserable.

Abeg, tell me this is an expensive joke, two men can fight over d ownership of a kid, but its impssible for 2 women to fight over d ownership of a kid......may be its one of d nollywood stories.....im out!

@op, many factors could be responsible, for example, look at our case.......... Well, this is own o.......call me or hubby anything......i dont mind.
My hubby lived in his parents house, even after we got married. Their father is no more, and d compound consists of 2 buildings with 4 flats each, my hubby lived in one of d flats, while my MIL also lives in one of d flats, d remaining 6flats are on rentage, and did i forget to mention that my hubby is d only male child. So, when we were about to get married, i told my hubby that i cant live with him in his parents house, so we rented an appartment in d town, without informing anyone, we were about packing when we told one of my SILs, who was begging us not to leave mama alone in that compound, that mama is a very loving person, she cant give me any problem, i insisted that i cant, my MIL went to see my mum to beg me on her behalf, that he wouldnt want my hubby to leave that compound just like that, and when my mum begged me, i accepted, my MIL even returned d money we paid on d house we rented and that was how we lived there after our wedding for about 4yrs, b4 we moved to our own house and we took mama along, but since mama could not leave her husband and her house just like that, what she use to do now is to tour around, will stay for a while with us, stay a while in their family house, stay a while with each of my hubby's siblings, who are all in their respective husband houses. That our apartment is still there, each time we go there, we sleep in our own apartment, and not my MIL'S apartment.
So, op, move close to d person you talked about here and you will be enlightened more why he is still there and stop judging book by its cover.
May God help us all.

Now, i think, funke would have been silently, within herself, start regretting why she frustratedly married this guy, well, let her live with it, its her life, atleast, when she would be having her own children, d number of d man's children would have been going to or become 2digit numbers.
God will help them o and me too.

ileobatojo: Why is she so desperate to instill her loose morals into her son? How nasty!!

lol.....its because she thought her son is too slow, compared to her, hence, her approach towards "opening d boy's eyes"

ITbomb: So make teacher no dey send small pikin errand again?

YEEEEEES(Resounding yes).....the students are not in school to be sent on errands by teachers....they are in school to be taught by teachers.
Why couldnt he/she go on his/her own.

Once again, try to convince him that he doesnt have to be jealous over you..........say it with all humility, and let him also know that you are being hurt by him not trusting you, suspicion and jealousy is an indication that he doesnt trust you, you have to make it clear to him that you are trustworthy,let him also realise that being unnecessarily jealous is not even good for his health.
Remind him of your loyalty, honesty and openess in your marriage and that you will also appreciate it, if he can also treat you d way you treats him.
May God help us all.

jidegirl12: Rokiiiiii , get that shady thots off your mind

yes, its shady, but, remember, lots of pple have talked on several reasons for that man to be as jealous as such, no one mentioned something related to this, and you know that, my point is not impossibe, also remember that, we are looking for solution for a certain problem, and b4 we can actually solve a certain problem, we have to know d root cause, and that can make someone to think in different ways and from different angles, and if that is d case....."iwakiwa laa ma nwa nkan to sonu"
and even with that, i didnt only mentioned d likely problem, i also profer likely lasting solution.
Above all, remember that jealousy is dangerously dangerous.
May God help us all.

And this is someone's parents.......hhhhmmmmm....smh

Definately, what d girl did was wrong and even evil, but where is d guy that put her in family way, is that one too not supposed to be sentenced......i mean a man who could sleep with a 15 yrs old girl, and put her in family way without looking back, he just used d opportunity that d girl is too young to take accurate and concrete decision, hence his action.

Im sorry to say this,.....may be hes into a shady relationship, i mean, may be hes seeing another woman behind you and may think you are also doing the same thing..... remember...."abenilori ko ni je ki won mu ida koja lori oun"(he who kills with cutlass will not allow another person to pass by him with cutlass).
Anyway, try to convince him that he doesnt have to be jealous over you..........say it with all seriousness, and let him also know that you are being hurt by him not trusting you, suspicion and jealousy is an indication that he doesnt trust you, you have to make it clear to him that you are trustwrthy,let him also realise that being unnecessarily jealous is not even good for his health
May God help us all.

Resting/sleeping.

Yeah! Thanks a lot, its called water therapy......i used it for slimmiimg down, and it worked like magic.
I have however relaxed now, i dont want to be slimmer than i am now.
And to start nko, na work o.
I just hope pple can do it, its very healthy.
Thanks again.

Instead of sitting idly,.......an idle hand/mind is d devil's workshop........i may rather go for selling of akara or puff-puff. I tell you, these make money.

I wont talk but

Hhhhhhmmmm, im a positive person, in everything, i try to focus on d positive side, but in this, well, as usual, may God help us all.

Its something i wont encourage, even though, there are so many who had practised it without any OBVIOUS prblems, but what about d HIDDEN ones and also, what is their %age.
As regards d children, who do children follow........division, it even baffles me, when i hear...."some follow me to church, while others follow my partner to mosque.....etc.
A very close friend of mine who is a xtian, married a muslim.....very wonderful man, i tell you, d wife continues to practise her religion, and d hubby too, with his religion, each time they have baby, d alfas perfoms d naming procedure, you need to see how she(my friend) will dress like someone who just came frm Mecca, what about during d Ramadan, she must wake up in d midnight at least to prepare food for her fasting hubby, and d most annoying part is d children part, they have only two boys, one claim he can never step a church, d other claim he can never step a mosque....see division.
I think, if one of d couple can sacrifice giving up his/her religion, just like what Jidegirl did, it will be better for d two of them, (and even on that, i was just contemplating opening a thread on it, i think its now necessary) but for couples to practise different religion, that i dont support.
Therefore, in MY opinion, inter-religious marriage need to be properly evaluated before going into one.
May God help us all.

I agree with her, lets start appreciating ourselves.

Shes definately looking for something, and shes obvioisly desperate to get it........goodluck to her.

No!
Its d type of person involved that really matters, not necessarily d tribe.
Wishing you all d best.

Im happy for you for been so involved in your child's care.
There is no problem/harm with feeding your baby with infant formular, i can almost swear that d aunty that did it, did it with good intention, however, your wife can still continue with d exclusive breastfeeding.
When i had my firsy baby, about 6 weeks after, i had to sit for a promotional examination, which i couldnt afford to miss, i left dbaby with my MIL, and she told me that after my baby exhausted d bosom milk i extracted for him, and was still crying, she had to buy infant formular for him, i thanked her, even though, i didnt expect it to be that way, d next day, i continued with my exclusive breastfeeding for my baby and there was no problem, d boy is here now asking me what i always typing. So let your mind be at rest, it is well with you, it is well with your baby, it is well with your wife and all your loved ones.
As regards your inlaw, who is troublesome.......give her her space.....simple.
May God help us all.

[quote author=lola.luv]If anything, I have gained everything by walking out. I can count about 5 major achievements that have been added to my person, while he was busy with his million girls.

Won't be on yahoo, the box doesn't open.

For me personally, there are better uses for my prayers. Like praying for my family who know the true meaning of love etc.

And I'm with a guy who knows he is responsible for his own actions and who everyday strives to live right and to do right by me. A man of integrity who doesn't drink or smoke or womanise.
Who doesn't hurt his partner intentionally, expecting to be forgiven as the man.

Who holds dear values that most men have thrown away.
I will say it again. I have gained everything![/quote]thank God for you, its because you know your worth......im so happy for you......eni to ba moyi wura lan ta fun.....God bless you more.

Guitarlife: Thanks. But just like you said , "Nor be beans o ." M.ENG sef na die we dey o.

i tell you,...... so, i think you now know why i said its no beans, but when there is a wish, there is always a way.
Godluck.

You are already obsessed about d PHD thing it is good, very good, but be prepared, nothing good comes easily, to get Phd in engineering, especially in Nigeria is not beans, i tell you, but with proper preparation and God's guidance, you shall get there.
As per going for lecturing so that it will give you time to pursue your musical passion, you are right on line, unless you want to constantly engage in contract lecturing in some other institutions, which may be at d expense of your musical calling.
I wish you all d best in all your endeavours.

I dont and wont believe this, can an 8yrs old boy take a vital decision as this..........its all game.

I dont and wont believe this, can an 8yrs old boy take a vital decision as this..........its all game.