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The truth is that, you cannot accept what you do not believe in.
No one can live beyond what he/she believes in.
If you believe you can, then you can and you will accept that others can.
If you believe you cant, you wont and you will believe others cant too.
What we believe in often affects our reasoning and belief.
Generally, some pple often believe that a good marital relationship is often as a result of "juju", hence, no matter how happy you are, they will believe its all lies or pretence.
May God help us all.

Now that you know, let her be, or else, when its your own time, karma will visit.

First and most importantly, because i love my hubby and i want to remain married to him, making him happy d same way he makes me happy.
To be associated with my hubby.
To cater, raise and ensure brighter future for our children together with their father.

Isolation works for me like magic.........."go and sleep in your room".......he/she will go, spend like 15-20 minutes there and come back on their own, well behaved.
However, if its a serious offence....."egba tinrin" comes into d matter, after which explaination why he/she was spanked is done to them, and why they shouldnt do such again, helps alot.
May God help us all.

Seems d man is no longer interested in d marriage again, perhaps, hes in another relationship which he prefer to this, hence, his attempt to frustrate this woman.
My concern now is how dis woman will single-handedly cater and train d four children they've got together, because i see d man as a "goner".
May God help her.

@ dayokanu, sincerity pays, even, if its just this once.
We all know and its very obvious that men benefit more in marriages than women.
Consider d following and be sincere.....
1st, in whose name do u just address married women?is it not in their hubby name, dont they have their maiden name,or have u seen men changing his surname to his wife's maiden name? One benefit for getting married,
2ndly, who is acclaimed d head in d marriage, even when its d woman that is d sole provider in d house, and d man has nothing to offer, except climbing d horse, can she be reffered to as d head? Another honour as a married man.
3rdly, who bring forth d children and create time 4 them most, definately women,and in whose name are the children addressed, even when some men do not have anything good to offer d children? Definately men. Another honour as a married man.
4thly, who is d cook at home, how many times have you seen women coming back from work, only for her hubby to have prepared and dished his wife's food on d table, instead, d reverse is always d case, its d wife that will come back from work and rush to d kitchen to prepare food for d family after d stress at work, and even, in some cases, d women's work may even be more stressful than that of d man, and at d end of d day still have to feed d man on d bed with another type of food that majority of men cant do without. Another benefit/honour as a married man.

D list can go on and on, but let me stop here, i just want u to do something, be sincere wth dis question. Thanks.
May God help us all.

Hhhhhmmmm.....op, are you sure you are ready for this war?
This issue have been tackled severally on this section of d forum and here u are, starting it all over again. O. K oo oo o, im watching ooo, but remember that no two marriages are d same.....each to his/her own.
May God help us all.

Wow!
Im appealing to d couple here o, so, i never knew couples can meet on a thread. From d 2nd post of iyawomide, i think this is how they wanted to sort things out.
Goodluck to you .

jidegirl12: Another spoilt trust fund boy. Disfather ko, unfriend ni. You need proper whacking to realize who the boss is mtcheew!

his username confirms d type of son/person he is.

Im happy he withdrew d resignatin, at least, for d benefit of Nigeria.

Congrats to them.
More power to their elbows.

@ jidegirl, sorry again for this............"nkan ti eniyan ko ba ni gba ni olowo, talaka lo ma ti ko. Even in relationships, whatever you know you will not accept in your marriage, do not accept while courting. If you truly love a person, you will not use a derogatory words on that person. That is how it usually starts, if she doesnt fight it now, it might be too late and difficult for her to fight it when she become married to her, so, I dont blame d lady in this case, she is trying to establish what she will not take in her marriage. Its not about having another person.....no, far from that, she is principled and exercising her principles.
Me, as well, cant take that from any man or anybody else, im allegic to any form of abuse and that is why i have never and will never initiate fight or any abusive scenario, and if anyone tries it with me, i will not hesitate to cut that person off.
I will rather move in d company of someone who will add value to my life rather d someone who will deregate me with abusive words.
May God help us all.

@ jidegirl..........she should remove that crying part, is crying and pretending a praise? I dont like that part. I would rather think about solution or accept my fate, if its something that cant be changed rather than resorting to crying like babies. It is a sign of weakness not of strenght.



Sorry for argueing with you, i dont do it, but i just have to reply this.
Thanks.

Val! Val! Val!

Hopefully, some pple' life will be spoilt that day!
Smh in advance!

Too much noise on val.
After val, be expecting another spring of threads on heartbreak from their partners. Hhhhmmmm, kids in action.

Sahara reporters and their news sha.............. Always with negative reports/news about d FG, d presido and his wife, his cabinets......haba!
Hope these sahara reporters are not working for d opposition sha!



Just my observation sha!

Very simple, but takes humility to achieve..........
Accept his headship..........contact him b4 taking any decision.



Submit to him...........when you submit to a man, there is nothing too good or too big you cant do for him.


Appreciate him..........never compare him to/with any other man, appreciate every little and great thing he does for you, i.e, never assume anything is his duty, see every good things he does as good gestures and thank him for them.


Dont turn yourself to a liability on him.
May God help us all

ifyalways: Uhmmm.

All this meaningless BB copy and paste that confuse our girls. Now, why would a woman cry all night

abeg, help me ask ooooo

as for me, i dont think i have any reason to cry for d past 20 years, except when i lost a dear sister, but may be d op is a perpetual night crier sha, i dont know.......that point alone made d post disgusting to me.
Well, kudos to women and our responsible and lovely men too.

dayokanu: OP

I think you are the victim here because in Biology class you were never told when a grown man phocks a grown woman without protection, Pregnancy is one of the best things that can come out of it

Sorry I blame your teacher

probably, he forgot what his teacher taught him, so dont blame his teacher, blame him for forgetting such an interesting topic too soon and very easily.


@op, u already laid your bed d way you wanted, so, lie on it.
Goodluck.

Heeeee......LWKMD!



Hello sir, thank your star that you have a caring and a concerned father. Sincerely, i feel like bashing you with words, but i wont, because i assume you dont know what you are saying.
My dear, your dad loves you and he doesnt want you to go astray, hence, his impromptu visits, hes doing this in order to probably catch you with a bad habit/company/influence, so that he may know what exactly to talk with you about. It is a system that has been in use for long to check one's child/children/ward from becoming negatively influenced. Having that thought that dad may come visiting anytime, will always put you on hold/check when you are about misbehaving. So, dont see him as a problem, except you have what you are hiding, he has good intention towards you.
As regards calling police on you, he probably thought your questioning him d last time he came to visit you was an indication that you are into an awkward/negative/unacceptable influence, and thinks he may not by himself get d fact from you, hence, his calling d cops, knowimg fully well that they know how to get their facts right.
As regards not doing anything as regards your d finances at home, that is a topic for another day, but not a licence for you to be rude to him, he is still your father, instead, learn from him by trying not to be like that when you become a father too.

Apologise to him for your rude attitude and turn a new leaf. Also, let there be a prove that you have actuall changed for d better.
Always remember that obeying our parents is d only commandment with an attached blessings.
May God help us all.

but why? Why and why?



Me, wey just dey talk about one Nigeria, aouch! Wetin be this, but i think say i go support d man, when d ovation is still loud, b4 Nigerians start to rain insults on him if he ever lead super eagles to d path of loosing in d future.

See nollywood stories here o.
Abeg, when d movie is out, do not hesitate to come back here to advertise for us o.
But i have this for d main actress in d movie............
"Whatever a man/woman sows, he shall reap"

Why? Why? Why? Please, someone to tell us why?

Firstly, i want to talk about d suicidal aspect........if you commit suicide, its an opportunity for him to easily get rid of you and continue with his lifesytle. So, face it, fight it by sitting him down and let him realise that, that lifesytle of his is not d best, let him realise that you deserve to be respected, let him realise that whatever he sow, he would reap in due season and if he seems not to change, totally ignore him, make yourself happy, choose your own friends who will add value to your life,all this without him, as time goes on, he may change, and pple will know that he's d real liar and not you, u just be nice to pple around you to prove your innocence.
"igbeyin lo ma ye lku ada"
every marriage has its ups and downs, communication is an essential part of it, so, communicate well with him.
May God help us all.

This is a clarion and patriotic call on all of us.....we can make it, we can become one again.
May God help us all.

denzel2009: True talk...even boko harams were throwing bombs in the air to jubilate.

sincerely, how i wish d BH's will stop all these their fights and pursue love and unity, with what i saw pple doing since yesternight, i tell you, we can make it, we can do away with tribalism, we can say bye bye to religious intolerance, we can embrace peace, we can be ONE again....i tell you.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Really? interesting[/quote]very very interesting, come and see my area yesterday as pple dey jubilate, dey shake hands, nothing like, na hausa or ibo, everybody just dey shake hands, congratulating one another, shouting...."im proud to be a Nigerian, if we can do that, that time, why cant we do it always, sincerely im very happy, even though, im not a football fan, but mehn, i was carried away with d way pple are just jubilating...."in one accord",,,,,,mehn....very interesting indeed!

Looking at how Nigerians (home and abroad) are happy during and after our just concluded matches, im so enthusistic that we Nigerians can do without hatred or bitterness against oneanother.
Therefore, im using this opportunity to appeal to all of us to be united and make ourselves ONE, if we can make it during our matches, then, we can always make it.
ONE NIGERIA!
Lets be reunited again.
Enough of tribalism!
Enough of segregation!
Enough of hatred!
Enough of bitterness!
Enough of religious intolerance!
God bless Nigeria!
God bless Nigerians!
O N E N I G E R I A ! ! !

It depends on d relationship btw them.

Looking at how Nigerians (home and abroad) are happy during and after our just concluded matches, im so enthusistic that we Nigerians can do without hatred or bitterness against one another.
Therefore, im using this opportunity to appeal to all of us to be united and make ourselves ONE, if we can make it during our matches, then, we can always make it.
ONE NIGERIA!
Lets be reunited again.
Enough of tribalism!
Enough of segregation!
Enough of hatred!
Enough of bitterness!
Enough of religious intolerance!
God bless Nigeria!
God bless Nigerians!
O N E N I G E R I A ! ! !

ubong560: Ok its obvious u guys wanna hear from me 1st.

If i didnt fear God, then i would've been richer in N600k than i am now. My former boss (d same man described above) kept d abv sum in my custody and forgot about it. I kept d money for ova 3months without him asking me but instead was giving me more and be collecting those ones and never mentioned d former N600k in my possession. Dat showed he had actually forgot it. Later on, I on my own took d money to him and he was so grateful. If I didnt fear God, wat would have stopped my from spending that money. If i could do dat, it shows i could do better in church or as a minister of finance in Nigeria or as a central bank governor even as a state governor or president without any words like embezzlement or misappropriation or mismanagement or whatever words Nigerians looters are familiar with.

Tell us urs now. In what way have u feared God when money was involved?

i never stole anyone's money, not even my husband's money.

fellis: Later some people will come and claim that gay marriages last longer than hetero marriages.
Mtsheeeww.

it can never and it will never.
Did God make any mistake for designing it d way it is, since they have decided to rebel against God, then, let them be ready to face d music.

@op,why did you modify your original post, dont you want advice any longer, seems you are not sincere with yur post here, or truth hurts.
Well, anyhow sha, open up a communication link with your wifey and stop making her feel like the devil.
May God help you.