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Cutehector:
oh thank u very much, God bless u.

Cutehector:
There is a bible passage dat describes these kind of husbands.. Am tryn to remember it.. It talks abt a man not bein able to provide for his family is worse than an unbeliever.

Ewuro4:
Brian how was it? I'm kinda nervous&excited for you

kennysteve77:
Concerned?

Onegai:
Good thread.

Onegai:
Good thread.

ayobase:
beautiful thread.

Cc: lalasticlala
front page material.

As much as you can always try to bring ur kids uprightly, always pray they make good friends out there.

Just as Parentship is an undisputed determining and essential factor, so is Friendship.

edwife:
There are things you can joke about and things you can't.Just because i can't abandon my kids and jump from one owambe to another on another continent does not mean i can not discipline my kids.

And no,this is not my daughter nor greatgod2012 son.Our kids will be useful to us by God's grace.

SAMBARRY:
End time children

the girl must be edwife daughter and greatgod son

they're the ones who are fond of overspoiling their children rotten

greatgod2012:
@lalasticlala, this priceless information deserves sharing.

bellong:
The first step is what you have done now, acknowledge there is a problem. It is good you realised this early and it is not too late.

Children shouldn't be scared of their parents because it kills creativity in them and bond with parents.

It is natural that parents get annoyed over their children's misbehaviour or truancy. It is this drive to make them of good behaviour that pushes most parents to act out of order in correcting their young ones.

One of the things that I consider in dealing with my son is how I would want to be corrected if I were in his situation. My experience with the boy since he was in the womb have proved to me that words calmly delivered is one of the best ways to handle them. They do hear when you talk to them.

Yet to read through the thread, I believe you must have been rightly advised.

Have a mother-child chat with your child, apologise to him/her for the ways you have been handling situation. Promise him that you will be more friendly than before and wouldn't yell at him at any slight provocation. Then tell him not to do things you have warned him not to do so you don't get angry. Trust me, they understand when we think they don't.

Don't make mistake some parents make like disciplining a child for an offence you never warned him about. Every parent must be able to give clear instructions to their children about everything at home and outside home, they need to know and understand the consequences of flouting the rules. It is no right to beat a child believing he/she should know what is right. There must be clear instructions/rules to follow.

Occasionally, reward your child for acts done right and let beating be your last resort in correcting him. Talk more to and with him.. Encourage him rather than condemning him if he doesn't get something right.

delishpot:
Exactly. My mom, bless her soul was the harsh type. She had 6 of us and raised us up alone (Dad traveled offten) and strictly plus she and dad were having problems from time to time and she frequently poured her anger on us. It affected us all. Some of us turned out cold, and easy to push around, not being able to say NO, some of us turned out strong headed and have the I dont care attitude. I learnt from my parents how not to treat a child. The feeling is different when you and your child are on same frequency. Its just different when your child does stuff cos the child respects you and knows what makes you happy unlike when they do it out of fear.

taryour:
You are MALE? Dint know o. All the same thanks for the point sir.

delishpot:
Yes o. God help us. Its not easy.
Just tonight I noticed some bruise on my daughters leg, she just turned 4 I asked her what happened, she said her brother pushed her. Their mom said be calm, let me talk to him. She went and talked to him.
When he came into the room, I asked him what happened. He saw the dissapointment in my face and wanted to cry. I said dont cry just tell me how she got hurt. He said you wont yell and get angry? I said no, I promise. I just want to know what happened so I can know how to care for her,
He said if I tell you we fought wressling, will you be mad at me?
I said no, I promised you already.
He said ok, I was wrestling with her anf she fell.
I said see? This is why you must not wrestle with your sister. She is too small for that.
He hugged her and said sorry. Now, if I was a yeller, he will never tell me the truth unless I flog him.
I told them anytime you spoil something or hurt yourselves, you must tell me immediately so that I can try to fix it. I wont yell at you.

Sweetlily2819:
Yes am always angry whenever he makes mistakes and sometimes spank he often times.pls,how do i stop,because its really affecting our relationship.

delishpot:
Self control my dear. I used to be like that with my kids.
You have to remver that a child is not a perfect being, are prone to mistakes, they have their own desires, wants and ideas, they people, alive and with free will.
You should talk to yourself, anytime you freak out at him, you must call him and hug him and in soft tone tell him you shouldnt have yelled and you will try to stop being angry at him.
You must work on yourself too. First thing in the morning tell yourself today you want to be calm and collected esp with the child. Before you scold him, close your eyes and ask if the action or deed is worth you yelling. Kids must do what kids do, ie break a cup, spill water or juice, pour sabd in their hair etc. Such things should not be made to look like disasters. Just caution the child to make him see your dissapointment and handle the situation calmly.
From time to time you may forget yourself and overreact, when that happens, just take a breath, caln down, sit and call your child. Hug him abd say mommy had a hard day today, how do you feel? Based on his response, talk confdence back into him. With time he and you will trust each other.
The bottom line is to be calm and handle situations with wisdom.

taryour:
Nice one egbon. Does yelling/shouting equal to over reacting/ being oo harsh

And instance is when you have kids playing rough, running around and jumping , struggling for items, rough plays which could lead to falling and injuries. And after trying to calm them down with the best possible calm voice and still go ahead to play rough. What do we do in such instance

efemenaslectura:
Thanks great god I'll note it and btw that your little son is a handsome bobo o.i mean the one on ya dp



I'll like to go out on a date with him

delishpot:
Nice one OP




Maybe you over react to the childs mistakes? Are you always angry? Do you always yell? These can make your child fear you cos he wont know what he may do wrong and you explode on him.

Pineapp:
If he's offered burger on a visit to a family friend and he looks and finds you smiling at him, he doesn't take it because in your eyes reads "we go meet for house"

Sweetlily2819:
Nice,my child is scared of me how can i make he closer to me.He is so quiet,i want him to be Active and smart in everything he does.please help.

moca:

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