₦airaland Forum

Cy4praise:
Then let the white(though I've not seen any man with a white skin before) also borrow our TM way

The whites don't have inferiority complex, we're the one who aint satisfied with ours and we copy everything they do. So, i doubt if the can copy our TM way of doing weddings.

fabulous660:
the white gown wore by the women signifies purity and also means the lady is still a virgin.


but now.... even the demon possessed women, Harlot and bitchs were white gown

you mean when our grandmothers and great grandmothers of old did their wedding and wore our traditional attires then, they weren't virgins. They were of course, but those western culture were not yet borrowed then. And it (our traditional wear) was respected then.

The reason you gave might actually be the reason for whites to introduce white dress for their brides, but you know, when we wanted to borrow the culture, i doubt if they even knew the purpose for the introduction of the said white bridal gown!

To me personally.
It's just a borrowed western culture!
That's how the whites have been doing it and we borrowed it.

Redoil:
so you believe the rubbi.sh the woman spew?
na
. Since time imemorial and since the days of eve Women are have always been caught pant down telling lies just to get sympathy from us men. E be lik say you follow afterall you be woman..

I just stated my own opinion, why don't you state your own without any attack?

@op, i get you!
But this is a very dicey situation!
Your dad need to be happy again. If getting remarried is what his happiness is attached to, please, let him, or else, you'll be termed selfish!
Your dad has to also consider making you happy as his children being responsible to you financially and emotionally.

But let me tell you this, you can't actually stop your dad if he wishes to remarry, but you can prepare yourself for the so called to-be-step-mum.
The preparation is in two folds..........
1. Prepare to take and treat her as you mum, be like a child to her, if she's naturally a nice person, she'll reciprocate, if she's not, that will lead you to.......
2. Prepare to stand for yourself and tell others to do same, you and your older siblings should be ready and prepare to take care of your younger ones. Such lessons are only meant to make you stronger in life and add to your life's experience.
Wishing you goodluck!

FLAWLES:
So whoz lying na?cuz the two stories from both parties carry weight

I tell you!
Heavy weight sef!

I wonder why it took them this long!
I also wonder why the woman refuse the divorce with all those heavy accusation against the man. I think she should be happier to live without the man with the way she narated how the man has been treating her and the children.


However, it seems the man has so much maltreated the woman to the extent that she wants a "return match" for the man by refusing the divorce, knowing fully well that the man can not legally remarry if the 1st marriage is not legally dissolved.

Marriage of 36 years



Who should we believe between the husband and wife now


The husband want divorce and the wife says he still love her husband that the marriage shouldn't be dissolved.

But, in my own honest opinion, if indeed the husband has been living alone for two solid years, i think the woman is punishing the man seriously and intends to continue suffering the man, hence, her refusal for the divorce.

Who is now a liar between the two of them



Don't trust any of them though!

jascon1:
Oh boy the brides maid worwor o

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!

The person who is worwor in your own eyes is a queen in another person's eyes!

There is no other reason except that you are tired of that marriage and most especially the man you're presently married to.

Some tips i think can help you include........
1. Stop touching your face at all time, infact, ignore the acnes, pretend as if they aint there at all.
2. Stop using all those chemicals in form of creams, acne remover, etc, most of them have bleaching substance which is not healthy for your skin, start trying local creams like coconut oil, sheabutter, olive oil or ordinary blue seal vaselin, if at all you wish to be using one.
3. Stop eating fatty and oil foods, as well as junks as most, if not all contains fatty and oily substance. Also, run away from any product that has artificial sweetner.
4. This is the most important, cultivate the habit of washing your face with soap always and towel dry. Do not use sponge n your face at all o, just soap and water, and do not cream your face at all, whether with local or orther types of creams. If you can try and wash your face for about 3-4 times a day continuosly for about 2weeks, you'll see a very significant change. If you can get your hand on that local black soap, it's the best.
Lastly, watch what you eat, take a lot of fruits and vegetables.
Wishing you goodluck!

@op, it's in your mind. You're probably tired and frustrated for not being pregnant yet after all you've been doing. Though, it's normal as a human, but truth be told, you still need to realise that it takes two to tango, if you keep saying you are no longer interesed, the effect is in two-folds, it might put your man out, and secondly, you might not get that which you really want from it. What you need to do now is to first forget about having s.ex for procreation and see it as something that excites and interest you, train your mind to believe that you need it as part of life's enjoyment tool.

And please, do yourself a favour, before your "dh" start to think you're getting it from somewhere, let him know how exactly you're feeling about the whole issue, and let him realise that this is the time you need him most, ask him to help you get your groove back that you're ready to cooperate with him. Once he start, and you feel like resisting him, that statement....."i'm ready to cooperate with you" will ring in your head and mind, and gradually, with your cooperation and his assistance, as well as his understanding, it will help you back on track.

Wishing you all the best!

raumdeuter:
People claim they have temper problems when dealing with their equals,

How come these people with temper problems dont display it when they see someone physically stronger than them, a soldier, their boss at work, Or governor Fashola, Agbero at bus stop etc

But they would see a weak wife, friend or househelp and decide to show that they have temper problems

I would think your problem should not discriminate on the personality

Temper problems is either a display of innate insecurity or just to flex your power

my brother, you are yet to see a real hot temper person o. I have once come across a lady who slapped her boss, the boss got her arrested, she was asked to write a statement, she wrote it down that, at that period, she was temporarily mad, which is a normal trait in every human. The boss was begged by the police to forgive her, she insisted she couldn't beg, that she would rather leave the job than to beg. She claimed the oga talked rudely to her which triggered her crazy veins into actions. Story cut short, she lefy the job o.
Being hot tempered is like being temporarily mad indeed, but self control (discipline)is what is needed to curtail it.

Being hot tempered can be hereditary sometimes but self control is the key to many if not all ill manners.

Behind our tribal and religious differences, one thing i still love and admire about Nigeria is our love for one another. All those comments of tribalism we read in politics section ends at the press of our computer's keyboards. It doesn't go beyond that. A very good example is what we see here on NL whenever there is a need to help a fellw NLder who is in one need or the other. During this time and always, i'm always proud to be a Nigerian.

And beside NL, that's how we are, out of every 10 Nigerians, hardly can we find 2 who will do what the op descibed here, not even to a foreigner.


However, i still hope for a better Nigeria and better Nigerians.


God bless Nigeria!!!
God bless Nigerians!!!

babyosisi:
You made posts on my babyosisi marital thread and very shortly after deactivated
I was wondering if you had regrets about some things you wrote there and didn't want to be associated with it
I wondered maybe you decided to move on from nairaland only for you to reappear
It didn't make sense and your explanations still doesn't make sense to me
Not that you owe me an explanation but thanks for trying
It was shocking to see you leave
For someone who is well respected on the forum ,it was quite a shocker

With this post i'm quoting, is it wrong to assume that the purpose of this thread is mainly because of tearoses and his/her former moniker?

Can't believe this!

dodoniyi:
(D) If you were born on a THURSDAY:


• You are wise, optimistic and highly understanding; you are respected a lot and attract plenty of attention wherever you go.
• You have leadership qualities and are likely to end up in high positions wherever you work and in society as well.
• You work hard and carve your own path towards success. You like to lead an independent life.
• You are very stubborn and will have difficulty in having many true friends in life because of your inability to accept healthy criticism. Also, you are very straightforward and do not think much before speaking which may offend people.
• You are easily bored and always require something or the other to keep you occupied. You also love to travel a lot and cannot sit at one place for long.
• You are well behaved and treat people with respect, however if someone annoys you or mistreats you, you hold grudge and also think of taking revenge.
• Though you are intelligent and conscientious, you have a somewhat unusual character and an irritable temperament that makes you difficult for others to cope with.

SOURCE: http://www.dayofbirth.net/leftlinkmain.php?day=thu#.VUiPulVViko

75% true about me!
Thursday-born.........that's me!

k2039:
I think I will wait for her to grow up so that I can marry her (agbaya ni mi, mo mo be )

you? God forbid!
Where have you been all this while?

Congratulations!
Happy for you, for the mother, for the baby and all your well wishers.
The baby shall be greater and shall enjoy perfect health in his life time.

Using this as a point of contact for all pregnant and expectant parents.................shout of joy will soon be heard in your homes. Amen.

Naughtysite:
Can I have her hand in marriage ?

have her hand in marriage
Are you a paedophile?

Incline:
Wonderful! Give her a big hug from me.

Thanks and i've always been doing that. I promise to keep it up.

softysparky:
Awwwwwwwwwwww
Happy birthday to her, I wish her many great and happy years ahead.

Thanks and amen!

babyosisi:
You must be a very giving person yourself
She is modeling what she has seen
Keep it up

Happy birthday to the cutie

Thanks!

SAMBARRY:
Sign of good training. Omo to leko to de gbeko. Great god that's an obvious sign that she's going to be one hell of a generous person and probably a philanthropist. But did you ask her what motivated her to do such. Was it her Sunday school teacher who inspired her or her class teacher. Ask questions.probe her . You never can tell where all this kids pick all these things

i really didn't ask, but i'm a great giver too. She knows i give a lot but what humbled me is doing such at such a very tender age. The action just humbled me!

TrishaP:
She is coming up well.

Thanks!

faithfuldon7:
Ur daughter is an example for adults.

And that's why I said it humbled me.
Thanks!

edwife:
Greatgod happy Birthday to our little princess.

She is a star and I pray her good heart continues to grow and bring a smile to people.She is a blessing.

Thank you my sister!
Amen to your prayers!
How are you and yours ma!
<<hugs>>

chukwubuzor123:
wow, she is such a wonder am impressed. she is a role model to not just kids but to older ones as well. may God bless her and add more fruitful to her in JESUS NAME I prayed Amen.

Amen and thanks, my brother!

sholay2011:
Awwwww...God be with her. Longlife & Prosperity to your daughter.

God bless her parents too.

Nice one! I'm impressed

my brother, i'm more than impressed!
I'm humbled!
Thanks and Amen!

salsera:
She has a heart for others, don't ever stifle it.
She may see needs that others don't see.

Great kid you have there.

Thanks!
That's true, my sister. Anytime she ask for something and i said...go and take it, she'll first give to every other person around before taking her own.
Such a kind little angel!

semasir:
such a young chap with correct brain...... Wishing her more prosperous years ahead.

Thanks and amen!

Ladybianca:
Wow, u re sure bringing her up well.

It's God o!
What do i know.
I just dey thank Godfor her and others o.
Thanks!