₦airaland Forum

daretodiffer:
I have seen women who had children out of wedlocks become Alimahs, so I am not going to judge.

If we were in an islamic society, that would be possible but we are not. People will not abstain from sex. they will have sex. Some will be fortunate to get pregnant. Some will 'need' abortion and they will either try to have it or have it egardless of the laws in place. Would you rather they endanger their lives for a procedure that is relatively safe under normal circumstances? You cannot stop them from having sex but you can help save their lives and hopefully live a better life afterwards.

Not judging, just stating the fact.
Of course pple wld av sex, even 15yr olds are getting pregnant every day. But we always av to say the best thing wc is abstinence for unmarried pple (this is overlooking religion sef), if the person can't abstain then the person shld ensure she is using a contraceptive method (I used 'she' cos women are the ones who suffer the most when the consequences come up) and we tell them they ain't 100% safe but far better than unprotected sex.
I'm not making any stand on whether they abort or not, everyone shld make their own life choices, but when they want to abort most go to quacks furthering endangering their lives. Personally, I don't support abortion. But if someone decides to then go to qualified medical personnels.

mamaafrik:
hmmmmmmm,you tried iyawo, leme see how effective your mind is,kindly justify why such inscription should be written in arabic and not in english our official language on a badge of a cosmopolitan state like Nigeria?

lolz, iyawo, let my husband catch u o.
I wldn't know, none of us can say for sure since we weren't there when the symbol was being designed and made.
What I can say to this is Arabic is just what it is, a language also wc is even also used by Christian in the middle east, speaking Arabic doesn't make u a Muslim, cos that's wht seems to be getting Christians worked up.
From history Arabic was one of the earliest languages introduced to Nigeria esp the North from wc the Ajami lang was extracted.
This symbol has been there for decades but the OP only brought it up out of intolerance wc they most times accuse Muslims of, not cos he was curious to knw what it meant or why it's there but just the hatred for Muslims. I might be wrong but tht is what I feel. And from many of the comments u can see it's cos of the hatred and nothing more.
Personally I don't care what lang is there, never even noticed till when the OP brought it up. As if the language there will pay my sch fees or feed me. Wareva

Mtcheww, all these works of jinn sha.
Abeg make dem do miracle to exterminate BH, make boko boys lose d remaining minute sense they av and bomb themselves and their sponsors

mamaafrik:
you are biase,why is it always arabic?,why dont they just accidentally use jewish language.........

Lolz, so tht is what is paining u 'tolerant' guys, nw I understand

daretodiffer:
Fo.ol

Legally, foetus in the UK and the US is not seen separate of the woman. It has no rights whatsoever. However in the US, if you kill a pregnant human, you are killing one person except if there is a possibility of the foetus of living outside the carrier. For example, if there is forced conception and you killed the mother and the fetus. You will go to jail for killing the foetus unless it was carried out legally or if it is too late under the prescribed medical period for abortion like if you were 8 months pregnant and you abort or try to abort the preganancy, You will definitely go to jail if you go ahead with the abortion

Grab a book, will ya?

Why would you force your own moral judgements down people's throats with such st.upid reasons. If it had been something better like based on religious factors, I would agree but come on, you know how stupid those reasons sound, don't you?

This is the 21st century, only a fo.ol will believe that BS

By the way, I don't support Abortion unless it is acceptable under the Islamic jurisprudence but i wont sit back while you brainwash poor women. And I do not support fetal rights

It isn't allowed in Islam unless for medical reasons in wc the mother's life is endangered or the foetus has been noticed to av a condition not compatible wt life early in the pregnancy, but it must be done b4 4 months when it's blived the spirit is blown into the foetus, after then it wld be considered murder of a living being.
Apart from situations like rape, I don't know why someone wld av sex or worse still unprotected sex wtout being ready to bring a child into the World, that's y I don't pity those who find themselves wt unwanted pregnancies. Worse still when they want to av abortions most go to quacks who at d end of the day complicates matters. Many enterocutaneous fistula cases, and other complications out there, tht's if the woman survives it wt her womb and life. The money they are trying to avoid spending on taking care of the child wld be spent on the woman trying to save her life. Many cases of unsafe abortion complications.
If u knw u can't abstain then u av to be smart, and know ur smartness can't make u 100% safe

Although I agree wt what OP said , I don't understand why some women put their financial burdens on boyfriends, like asking for hair allowance, and the likes. But, hey, it's their life, once their boyfriend doesn't complain

mizzhoneey:
haneefah. you have not mailed me

Don't mind me sis, I will

greatguru22:
Tnks so much... I wil change.. Promise!

Actually those dt i give harsh reply to are those asking unnecessary questions. They know themselves.
For d drama, it continues cos tomorrow i wil quote dt troublesome lady and d drama wil commence sharp sharp.. u guys are enjoying it.. I know

Dont let me be distracted, daddy G.O (Pst Adeboye) is currently preaching live at redemption camp.

Reserve my zobo, pls.

Lolz. Alryt, good

Hmmm, the Muslim haters av taken this to another level. Arab is a language like English. Some even av an headache with the Arabic translation of 'Allah' being 'God', na wa o
If it were Latin no one wld cry abt using a language tht has nothing to do wt Nigeria or our lingua Franca

What's wt the rumor making rounds of a session being cancelled? I hope these OAU peeps ain't chopping mad

So who do we blive nw?
And what's these Shiites ideology sef? What's wt trekking and walking about and celebrating Malud Nabiyy by trekking, this just reeks of bid'ah (innovation into religion).
Anyway the Nigerian army shld reduce their trigger happy nature lest they birth another BH

SylarsMcQuins:
#TeanForeigngirls

Lolz, face front joor

This blogger has a bug in his brain o, what's the big deal abt a husband shopping for his wife, even some responsible Nigerian men do it. Or is it cos the man is white? Cos u see ur wife as a slave u can't help wt anything related to domestic chores, doesn't mean every1 thinks tht way, u think white men don't go grocery shopping for their wives?
Later they'll come here and be shouting *teamforeigngirls* like foreign girls wld take ur bullshit, women are slaves who shld do all the domestic work mentality from u

Useless thieves. Birds of a feather, y wld we beg thieves to come back, we wld rather try other pple.

And I pray God gives the President the necessary aid to put this Country in order and shame these pple

GSteve001:
enh? If i hear? I have collect this one already *gulps it down my throat* "hmm...so sweet...hanny! I fit get one more?

Lolz, no worries, enjoy the life of ur head

greatguru22:
I no fit join u now cos i dey redemption camp now, can u come and give me my own chilled zobo in camp or u put it in fridge so dt wen i come back it wil stil remains chilled?

Lolz, no probs. Zobo dey anytime anyday, although it seems sweeter wt the drama, but it seems u guys av stopped the show tho, and I was beginning to enjoy it.
But on a serious note nw, u are at a redemption camp, I hope u're ready to change ur ways. Did u see the list compiled by ponpin? Yh, it's true and that's the kind of person most if nt all of us perceive u as - arrogant, insensitive (u think u're helping but while trying to help u hurt pple's feelings), u suck at giving advice -maybe cos u lack manner of putting thns across , it cld be ur version of being frank tho, but most times it comes off as harsh, the tracking ish is annoying too, then u talk to pple like they are kids even wtout knowing them, etc. I know u ain't tht bad tho, u just dnt see anything wrong wt them. But, I hope u'll work on all these traits

GSteve001:
me too nko? Its been long i last taste it

Lolz, grab a sit my brother. 'Mama Omo one more zobo is needed at this table o'
Hope u're enjoying the show?

greatguru22:
My name is greatguru. Ful stop!!

I dont even hv ur time cos i'm in redemption camp, daddy is about to preach..

U r in darkness, come to christ.

My last msg on nairaland for today, to be continued tomorrow.

Those guys sitting on d corridor wit Zobo watching drama, sit wel..

Lolz, u can join us if u want, there is enof zobo to go round, don't worry it's chilled

OBSEQUIOUS:
Yes, you get arrested for not using AC in sun

Lolz, or not having the document wt murtala's head on it

ponpin234:
loolx...pay ba...no worry...greatguru don JAM HIM SIZE

Lolz. But seriously someone shld support greatguru is his behavior tht bad? gosh!

Vikky014:
God bless ur soul jare

Amen and u too

Vikky014:
yes dts true mydear. cheers.

bt i i think any lady dt wants to marry shld also b saving money. infact a jobless lady shld nt marry a struggling guy. d kids will suffer. common pampers is very costly nt to tlk of babys food

Yes o. Suffering upon suffering. A woman has to knw what she is doing

OBSEQUIOUS:
Come and take weapon in the station to face your Nemesis and if they are with ak47 press 1 ,if Na raffle press 2 .if they came with bomb abeg hang up!

Lolz, abeg no crack my ribs o. Our police men deserve award. 'The best police command in the World', ironically of course

ponpin234:
nooooooo..pay me 1st

pay u ko, thief manager. U're d one tht'll pay me nau, I want to help wt ur work ni.
Anyway, u're a nice commentator

Abstinence remains the best! Don't av sex if u know u ain't ready to face any consequences tht comes out of it. If u think condom is 100% safe, think again

Why don't I blive this? So the group of pple they opened fire on at the procession and the unfortunate one's tht died or got injured were all trying to assassinate Burantai?
The Nigerian army is already dabbling into attacking unarmed civilians, they are nw cooking up cock and bull stories. Are they nw using pple to practice how to tackle BH?

Vikky014:
u hv a point tho. hv seen such story on nairaland

My sister there are many stories like this outside there, and there are some (or few I knw), who had luck, I know a SAN tht even after the wife's death appreciates her so much becos he realized the goodness she did for him, the support she gave to him when he had nothing, he found it hard to marry a 2nd time cos he was scared of his children being maltreated by another woman and made sure all his children had the best, such men are few tho, many wld forget tht woman in a twinkling of an eye and start chasing everything in skirt, claiming to be enjoying their lives when money comes, they wld rather spend on mistresses than the wife. But let's just pray for the best man for us whether ready made or surulere, and women also av to knw what they are doing cos many men ain't trustworthy

daretodiffer:
A woman who reminds her husband of what she has done for you is not good woman/wife

However a husband who does the same has committed no crime. In fact, her other name is 'INGRATE'

Abi nau. The double standard is annoying really. I don't think either party shld make an habit of reminding themselves of favors done. Men usually bring tht up when they are doing something very wrong but expect the woman to keep quiet and be 'mature'. They can freely display immaturity but women av to be the perfect example of maturity, suck everything up wtout a word of complaint

Toks2008:
You see the eproblem..

The embolden says it all..which labor?because you followed your heart?or because you prayed for him to make it? Abeg i no fit shout.

U think it's easy coming from a home where u av plenty to come and be drinking garri, taking eba, not affording to buy new clothes, etc? Do u knw some women even establish their husbands or take up the financial burdens of the home cos the man is penniless or has little? But let the man get rich, or even averagely ok, the next thing wld be womanizing, some even maltreat their wives cos of mistresses outside. But I know this is normal for u, afterall the woman followed her heart, afterall he didn't force her to stay by and support him when the going was tough, what right does she av over him or anything he owns?

Toks2008:
You are still one of the myopic people who juxtapose write ups with the writer.What i wrote is a realistic observation and has nada to do with my life or personality so get that erroneous notion outta your brain..

You should as well attribute every story line of a film to the scriptwriter.

But it's true, most guys want the best, see them on the other thread all clamoring for well-endowed, pretty, some said intelligent and the likes. But wld want ladies to settle for less.
Everyone has the right to make his or her choice, whether she is ready to suffer wt a guy or not is her choice. I av no problem wt starting from scratch wt a man but men are most times lack appreciation for the woman tht suffered wt them, only few does. When small change starts getting in, that's when their womanizing spirit rises, when the woman shld be enjoying wht she labored wt him for, he'll rather spend it on girls outside. That's the reality. Not everyone wld marry made men but I don't fault ladies tht wld rather marry Olorunsogo than Surulere. I av many examples around tht never paid off for the women, some even get abandoned by the man when he makes it for another woman.

OBSEQUIOUS:
No Sheriff in the world can stand the man in black. I be Nigerian police, no shaking.

Lolz, indeed. Nigerian police that will never come when trouble is on, it's after the deed has been done they'll come blaring their useless sirens harassing and arresting innocent pple