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Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

Dpharisee:
See them feeling like local champions

Catch them and they will tell you they were on their way to church like these ones

nuelsam:
Its simple man.......... The very moment u told her "i love you, can u be my girlfriend?"................. That was the moment u lost her, why?.....you've been conquered already, you've handed ur life to her hence no need doing poo with u anymore................. She wants a new CHALLENGE................. Gyal love chasing what they can't have man, ignore here....... Don't call nor text her anymore................. Meet other girls more classy than she is, flirt with em and have your fun......... Don't ever make the mistake of asking a girl out anymore, they misinterpret it.

StrikeBack:
Count down 4years

Modified:
No be Miralem Pjanic I dey see so

stupidity:
No advice here can help you. Only you can help yourself.



But to be honest, e go hard I swear. Especially that moment when you see her walking with her new guy and the guy is grabbing her asx, your heart will sink and your GP will drop instantly.

Hermione88:
I`m typing this with regret and tears. I don't know what to do again and I seriously need your advice. I've been dating this guy for 2 years. We met at a time when everything was really tough for him. He had just lost his job as a General Manager of a company and couldn't even afford his rent. I met him at a wedding my friend invited me to, we exchanged numbers and we hit it off from there. We became so close that we couldn't go a whole day without talking to each other. We were not seeing each other as we were supposed to because of my work schedule, which he always complained about.
I stood by this guy even though he had no job at the time. Most times, I split my salary in two just to make sure he wasn't completely stranded.There was a time I had to make a contribution at my work place just to meet up with his rent as his landlady already threatened to send him packing. By this time, I had met his family and they all loved me. His mom loved me the most and was always thanking me for taking care of her son and in her words, for “covering his secret”.
For like a whole year, I was the one footing the bills and I was not complaining because I was in love. He gave me all the attention a girl could ever ask for and this was what I needed most because ( I forgot to mention earlier) I’m an Orphan. I didn’t grow up with so much love and my past relationships had always been with Yoruba demons. That was the reason I even decided to date an Igbo guy this time around. Long story short, he got a job about the 11th month of our relationship. We were so happy, we celebrated and our relationship was smooth…Or so I thought.
He got a new apartment and asked me to move in with him because paying a rent together seems better than paying rents separately. At this point, my rent was due in 4 months, so I packed few of my stuff to his house and left the major ones because, as a lady I didn't want him and every other person to think I was moving into a guy's house. After 2 months, he told me 2 of his brothers were coming to stay with us for a while. I wasn't too happy with this, but for the fact that we weren't even married, I couldn't object. At this time, my company was having issues and had to let some staff go. Luckily, I wasn't affected, but my commissions were cut off and I was happy that I had moved in with my boyfriend if not, I would have been really broke.
With the help of a friend who introduced me to www.shipusnow.com I was able to pick from a list of good logistics providers that helped move my stuff from my other apartment to my boyfriend`s house. My boyfriend saw my luggages (my chairs, mattress, Dining set and all) and started complaining. He said they were too much and he has no space in the house because his brothers would be staying for a very long time. He said I can`t expect him to send his brothers away just because he has a girlfriend. At this point, I was really confused because he knew I had all these stuff in my former apartment and he had asked me to move them in. I thought he was just bluffing just to get back home from work one day to see all my things outside his gate.
I was dumbfounded, confused and angry at the same time. I was seriously hoping it was a mix up or there could be an explanation for what was happening. I walked in to meet him in the sitting room with his brothers playing a video game. I was blind with rage but calmly asked him why my stuffs were outside. He completely ignored me. At this point, I was so furious, and angrily turned off the game they were playing. He got up angrily and threatened to hit me. He said I was trying to push responsibilities down his throat by bringing my load to his house even after informing me that his brothers would be staying with him. We started shouting at each other and he said what I've been dreading. He asked me to get out of his house and his life. I started crying. I didn't know what to do. His brothers seemed happy I was leaving. He sent me out of the house that day.
That was Months ago. I`m still squatting with a friend. Some of my things are still outside in his compound. I have nowhere to move them to. I cannot afford a rent at this stage. I feel used and empty and have made up my mind to be single forever. Now, the question I ask myself everyday is: Could my luggages have been the main reason he dumped me?

CharlesNneji1:
*WARNING: Lazy readers, this might be too long for you. don't bother reading it.
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Some days ago I saw this girl at the mall; very pretty girl. She was holding her phone close to her eyes & the smile on her face was something else – as in, the smile was so broad I was scared her face was going to tear.

At a point in time, she threw back her head and laughed so loud then texted something on her phone and waited.

She laughed again, after she got a reply, and this time it was louder than the previous one. She kept laughing in this way, on and on and on. It was really sweet. And I was damn sure she was getting those texts from a guy.

Now here is the thing.

Girls chat all the time. Infact, they love it. And over the years it has increasingly become a shortcut to many girl’s heart.

But there are two types of guys – the guys that CAN make a girl laugh like this through texts (chats) and the ones that CAN’T

I will show you how to be the guy that uses texts(chats) to make a girl laugh. This tips I will show you will make a girl find you more appealing and interesting than other guys.

Come with me…

You see, getting a girl interested in you using chats can be super duper easy. Only if you know how.

The Number one cardinal rule of interesting chats is this; Never ever ask her strings of questions. It’s boring, very boring:

For instance; never do this –

GUY: How was your day.

GIRL: Fine.

GUY: Did you go out today.

GIRL: Yes

GUY: Where did you go today?

Never ever chat this way…it is making her see you as a nuisance. And you are too special to be seen that way. Keep on chatting this way with a girl and she start will start avoiding both you and your text.

So what is the best way to chat “interestingly?”

ONE STRATEGY THAT ALWAYS WORKS IS THIS: Be Funny, fun and witty as crazy.

See eh, the right way to chat with a girl is to bring fun into it. And how do you do this. There are three ways you can use to appear funnier during chats. What I’m about to show you is the almighty formula of being funny both during chats and in real life.

Here they are

– 1. Making possessive jokes

– 2. Turning what she says and PLAYFULLY making it look like she is wooing you..


I will take each of them and give you examples; come with me….

#1: TURNING WHAT SHE SAYS AND PLAYFULLY MAKING IT LOOK LIKE SHE IS WOOING YOU:

The heading is self explanatory, right?

But just in case you’ve not gotten it yet, here are practical examples on how to do it.

Let’s assume a girl puts up a profile picture on Bbm, you could send her something like:

YOU: “I dodge it joor, that picture will not work on me. I refuse to fall in love with you”.

HER: “Lol. What do you mean (or something else like that).”

YOU: “Now she is sending me love letters *tongue out* I’m married joor. Don’t destroy my marriage.”

You get the gist abi, turn the table around and make it look like she is chasing you.

Here are more examples

HER: “What do you do for a living?”

YOU: “Okay na, she wants to find out if I’m a boyfriend material. Sha, I work in a professional boyfriend company. *smiley face* You?”

Another example:

HER: “Hi.”

YOU: “*smiling icon* I won’t reply your messages now. I need to play hard to get. Send me another message in the next 20 years.”

Hope you are getting it?

This style of chatting makes you appear incredibly interesting. The reason why it works so well is that MOST guys don’t chat this way and when a girl meets a guy who does, she finds him DIFFERENT. Plus chatting this way is not boring and that releases all the chemicals in a girl’s brain that makes her view you as someone who has an attractive personality.

This is just plain elementary psychology.

Now, let’s check out strategy 2.

#2. MAKING POSSESIVE JOKES:


This strategy involves chatting with a girl like she is your wife. As in chatting with her like you two already have something going on between you two.

Very quickly, let me give you some examples of possessive jokes.

1. “Hey baby, how is our baby. Hope you are taking care of her. make sure you breastfeed her enough, I don’t want story.”

2. “I’m thinking of you having either 14 sons or 16 sons for me. How many can you handle?”

3. “Mehn, I want a divorce. You are not being a good wife again.”

4. “Leave that boy and come and date me while the offer lasts. After two days I will change my mind.”

5. “I heard Blackberry Passport is out. I want that for valentine, don’t go and buy me singlet and boxers”

You get it, right?
Occasionally drop husband jokes on her and let the jokes be possessive in a playfully way.

Here are more examples:

You could send her a night gown picture you downloaded online then say something like>

“I want to see you on that when I return. If you wear something else I will start cheating on you”

Now, think up yours…

WARNING

Don’t overdo these two strategies. The way to use it is to drop it from time to time and then reverse to having a normal conversation (i explained the art of conversation on my website. see my signature for the address).

If you overdo it you will start appearing like a clown and that’s not good. (You wouldn’t want that, trust me). And while you are using these strategies, be relaxed. Use it like you are having fun.

Don’t try hard to be funny or fun. It will show and it will make the girl you are communicating with to see you as someone who needs her attention so bad.

INFACT, don’t just go and start using the chatting strategies I explained in this article. Before you start using it, you need to learn THE BASICS of creating interests in girls.

And that is where my ebook comes in it. In it, I explained what to do and what not to do when it comes to making a girl interested in you.

To order for the ebook today; view my profile and you will see two numbers to contact - one is a number you can send a watsapp message to and the other is another you can call (if you wish).

watch out for my next articles here on Nairaland....(also view my profiles for more of my articles)

see you.

purem:
Dis guy is a cunt

So u saw hr face to face u can't woe her

It's online u want to do it

U'r 1 of d assholes da PM NL girls and make dem to b misbehaving

ceeejaytee:
Do you all think that if a guy has to meet a gIrl, he has to flash his money? Does he have to show the girl his expensive phones, expensive car and other things that could be expensive too?

Do you all also think that if a girl has to accept a guy, she has to find out if he has money, an expensive phone and an expensive car?

Does the relationship have to be started based on materialism?
Nah
Do you start liking or loving someone based on material things?

JARUSHUB:
Relationships aren’t supposed to be selfish, while considering yourself it is important and only fair that you take a step back and also consider your partner – consider how you might be hurting your partner and things you might be doing to turn your partner off. Jumia Travel shares 5 things you do that hurt your partner and kill your relationship in the process.

[b]Living Outside What the Two of You Can Afford

It is important to live within what the two of you can afford. Once you’ve decided to be in a relationship with someone, you have to learn to respect what the person is earning per time and adjust your expenses to align with it. Avoid belittling and insulting your partner for the inability to meet your expenses, rather learn to love and appreciate while adjusting your expenses to align, or work hard, alongside your partner, to increase earnings to be able to accommodate these expenses.

Constant Negativity

In relationships, you should learn to choose your battles. Even if your partner is doing something wrong, it’s not every wrong thing that you comment on, complain about or intend to change. Choose your battles. There are somethings you should just let go off completely or let go off in the mean-time to address later. You have to be wise about it. Negativity is draining and constant complaints are irritating, therefore it is important to learn to encourage, celebrate and appreciate your partner more.

Putting Everything Else First

Everyone likes to feel special and when in a relationship, it should be a priority to make your partner feel special as often and as much as you can. Your partner should always be your first priority. Even if you have to deal with something else before your partner, be courteous and let your partner know either before or after you’ve taken care of whatever it is. Remember, no one likes to feel unimportant, including you.

Forcing Your Partner to Conform To Your Ideals

Remember, your partner is not your doppelganger. As much as you two might have a lot in common, you can’t have everything in common. Therefore, there are certain things you will allow your partner do or believe out of respect for who they are, to make them feel comfortable and to make them feel loved. It might not make you feel comfortable at all, but if it matters to them or they are unable to change it (no matter how hard they have tried), you don’t force them, you learn to accept and accommodate them that way.

Being Unkind

Be kind to your partner in your words, in your thoughts, in your actions and in your deeds. Be kind. Always ask yourself before you do or say something to your partner, ‘Is this kind?’, ‘Can he or she bear this without falling apart?’. Kindness is simply the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. Remember to be kind.


source: http://www.opinions.ng/hurting-partner-killing-relationship/

cc: lalasticlala mynd44

Suspect33:
Mine: the reason i broke up with her is the same i cant find in any other lady, she too dey cry , i need someone to cry over me, let me feel special small joor ... Drop yours

wunmi590:
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SingleDad:
She got married 2014 to her supposed beloved husband, but recently she has being all over my life.


She has always being my friend, and we once had friendly intimacy most times. But when she got married, I had to distance myself from her. Recently, she has being calling, and trying to fix a get together meeting between us.

The disturbance was so much, I had to create out sometime to see her. She told me that , her husband couldn't function properly and they have done various medical evaluations, and realized that she could not produce babies, because her husband had a medical problem.


I gave her my humble advice, and told her to hope on God for the right time.

Okay!. So she told me that, we should resume our friendly intimacy, just the way it use to be back in the days!. She said, deep inside her, she couldn't seek for a better person, if not me....


I rebuked the ideology instantly, but she kept on persisting that I should please consider her lonely request. She really needs to feel like a woman!


Good people, what should i do? . She is married, and i don't wish to have anything to do with her. But her constant plea is getting me provoked.


What are your suggestions?