₦airaland Forum

dingbang:
but it was well spelt, Did you have any challenges in comprehending? A machine that irons clothes! Try to google nne.

dingbang:
what Is the problem?

cococandy:
I think that’s a very optimistic impression you’ve gathered there. Probably from their NL rants about providing. “Eager to provide”

Where did all their derogatory terms for dependent women come from?

Brachaa:
Well said. Though most of your pounts there do not apply to Nigerian women as what drives 95% of them to work is the need to survive as a rsult of what many are facing in the home front and not really because of self-actualization (though it may be so for some, which is just a fraction of the whole). Otherwise how come we don't see the likes of Chioma actively engaged in any kind of biz or working to earn many? Not to mention but a few.

Like you rightly said, there's need and very importantly too for every woman to develop herself and maximize her potentials while still young and active (married or not). Hence the need for the Op and the likes of him to change their mentality and embrace this notion.

bukatyne:
Where is the misogyny in the OP's post?

How did he display hatred for women?

You can accuse the OP of being too 'traditional' or 'cultural'.

His premise of discussion is not new: I first encountered it on foreign forums.

Traditionally, a husband should win bread while a wife cares for the home.

If the husband has to compete with other women/wives for bread, how would he effectively win the bread and perform his financial duties?

Also keeping in mind that the wives getting the jobs are not using the resources to care for their families: so their husbands have to 'hustle' harder to maintain the 'financial' frame in the family.

If the wife who should care for the home is out winning bread (which would not be useful at a family level), who takes care of the some?

Some school of thought have further processed to say women shouldn't study some courses in college because it is a huge investment without returns at that end.

What everyone should bring to the table is the merits and demerits of the current/proposed system.

dingbang:
there is a machine for ironing now.

Liposure:
Women have the connections. Men work their way up

Biglittlelois:
1) The misogyny is stated where it says govt. should regulate the type of jobs women should get.

2) His prejudice reeks everywhere in his comments because he may be a job seeker who has been to so many interviews for him to notice the female friendly environment which is distasteful/ disgusts him enough to open a thread on it.

3) You see traditional and cultural, I see a misogynist, opinion differs, I'll accuse as I see fit, let Op quote me and convince otherwise, or are you the Op?

4) I'm happy for you.

5) No argument about that, why the need to state it?

6) A husband will not see the need to compete if it has been stated beforehand and agreed upon that it will be a 50/50 financial commitment from both parties, only an insecure man will see his wife as a fellow competitor with a goal post at the finish line.

7) Same way these husbands don't use their resources to care for the family, so the wives have to hustle harder to maintain the financial frame in the family, some of them would actually make people believe their husbands brings more financially, we cannot for a fact know what happens in these sets of families to conclude that women in Op's category are bad.

8.) @emboldened, I'll assume some means home right? There are men in Nigeria who take care of the home while the wife does finances, it is happening and will continue to happen, though codedly cos the society forbids such, the earlier we allow people to be and do what works for them without judgement, the better it is for humanity.

9) Some school of thought is exactly what it is, "thoughts" not facts, everyone is allowed to air out their mind process and thinking, it is allowed.


10) What everyone should bring to the table is what works for them, not what is comfortable/favourable to him/her due to selfishness/disdain/envy of a particular gender as stated in the Op.

Brachaa:
This is not a matter of governments intervention because it is a problem that started from the home front when men began to shy away from their responsibilities as the bread winner; leaving the women with no option but to take up the mantle and hit the labour market to be able to take it up from where you men left off. Now you want things to go back to the "drawing board". Ever heard
the word "change"? Times have changed.

It is also no fault of the female folk that they are given preference more than their male counterparts but mother nature favouring her own.

Also, it is not written any where that it's only the womans' responsibility to bring up good and godly children. It is a collective effort. So don't try to shift the blame of failed parenting to the women alone. If the children turn out well, everyone shares in the praise and if they turn out badly, everyone shares in the blame.

OP, my two cents. pray earnestly to God for yourself and the menfolk generally that God should restore back the headship of your homes back to you financially, occupationally and other aspects you feel the men are losing it.

Shalom.

Klass99:
I feel you on the loving a cleaning environment bit. I'll take a clean/tidy house over a kitchen without cooked food in it.

Klass99:
Best chores: Cleaning, keeping things neat, tidy and organized. I can do this, all day, every day

Worst chores: Ironing and cooking. I don't like ironing & cooking because they generate heat and cause me to sweat.

I want to sweat only when I'm working out and the thing about cooking is, if you forget to tie your hair with a scarf during the process, your whole hair and entire body for that matter smells of onions and whatever you are cooking.

Yes sure, you can take a shower afterwards but you can't always wash your hair if you have braids or a weave on. You can iron with the AC on too but it is a power draining something

Cleaning on the other hand (i.e sweeping, moping, washing the bathroom) is physical activity I enjoy, it is a lot of body movement and it feels like exercise. It causes me to sweat as well, but the heat is generated internally from my body not externally from an iron or hot pot.

OP, you brought back pleasant memories with this thread. When I lived with my siblings I always told them you do the cooking and leave the cleaning to me. I could go to the market, shop for things, do whatever they asked (as the youngest) but it would take an armoured tank to get me to cook or iron

Herdamorlar:
What do you think it will lead to if women take 80% of the available jobs

Herdamorlar:
Happy weekend,I have noticed this since last year that any office I enter it is only female that I encountered also any interview i went to we men are always plenty than women and at last we all know what we end it. I think this is why we don't have happy home these days because we all know that breadwinner wife will not be able to manage home with unemployed husband also unemployed men don't also want to get married which lead to many single ladies roaming the street and those men working also don't want to marry second wife because instead of promoting the male employee,most employers prefer to promote female counterpart especially in sales and marketing company.
Also our children nowadays lack home training because most of our wives these days doesn't stay at home to train them instead they are at their different offices closing late in the night. To solve this I think Government should be involve to regulate the job women can do e.g teachers,traders,marketers,newscaster etc not because of anything but our children and homes. What do you think?

Mindlog:
Survival of the "smartest'.

Prestonn:
The look is perfect, seems you don't like the water?

I hope you enjoyed it?

Prestonn:
Sometimes I just wanna see you upload this kind of photo.. Meat is everything

Sebastine1994:
Please schools should stop celebrating birthdays in school, please, biko. I use God beg you.

I sent my child to school to learn and not to celebrate birthdays, I came back from work one day and saw this play station 4 in a carton, I asked them who own. they said my daughter classmates celebrated her birthday and shared these gift to them.

I quickly ask them to reparkage the gift and take it back to the school, before I return from work the next day.

MY REASON IS THIS: all fingers are not equal, when it is my daughter's birthday they would be expecting a gift of equal amount.

The parent may be rich and I am not, they give my child what I can't afford for her which is a recipe for greed. she should be contented with what I can afford,

These her young mind should be moulded early to adapt to reality.

These private schools are encouraging these evil act, it may affect the child tommorow.

please push to front page to expose the dangers of school birthday.

Dyt:
Hanty and iresi

KevUnique:
Homemade Samosa
Homemade bread(using charcoal and pot, not an Oven)
Kulikuli
Only the meatpies were made by a neigbour

Akposy:
Breakfast O'CLOCK

Banana muffins
I made this with my last morsel of flour. Where's my Elijah? I want my triple portion blessings

Babadee1900:
This fish died a painful death

Nice meal bruh

AnonymousRebec:
My dear, I have actually moved on. I now roll with him based on his terms. I just reciprocate the vibe I get. But I am normally not like this. I think he is not that into me. If he was, I would have showered him with so much goodness. But for my peace and health, I decided to let him go. Now, I only give him the vibe he gives me.

illicit:
What's BS?

Klass99:
Lol , this reminds me of when I asked Ariza, why do you want to have children? And babe was rambling unable to give me a straight answer. I had a good laugh on that thread. To bring a child into the world is a HUGE decision. How many people actually think before doing it? They don't care. They reproduce first think later.

illicit:
So


It's not a competition for the smartest or the

most honest

it's just what it is

relax

illicit:
Do you self-service?

NeoWanZaeed:
of course.. you are lost.. I don't expect you to understand what am saying nitwit

NeoWanZaeed:
it's very sad that despite the fact that we youths are very educated.. we still subscribe to these science nonsense..


it's very clear that this nonsensetomy would sure have side effects with which the idiots won't discuss with you people..

besides, na your hard work dey feed your family or by the Lord's grace?

NeoWanZaeed:
you are so lost..

comparing rationale psychology health issue discussion validation with starting a sentence with capital letter..


I rest my case on your case

SmartProf:
Marriage is based on individual principles. The most important thing is to ensure you dont distub people when the outcome of your decision begins to bite back. When wealth becomes a major factor to cheating, reckless living, or marrying more wives, then such a person though materially rich, is mentally extremely poor.