Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 4:12pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
2buffagain: This is pessimistic. If you are in a highly sought field like Tech, there will be no problem.
It's if you are in some "general manager" or "generalist" type thing and you think levels is the same when you come here....that is when you will meet problem.
If you have a specific, targeted, specialized professional occupation that operates the same no matter where in the world you are, like tech/IT, you should not have a problem. And that is why I cautioned OP about ego. In a specialized field you can still have some ego tho, but on some generalist or "manager" thing, just zero your mind say you dey start from lower than you came in. But it's alright, play cards right and you will rise much higher than you came in in no time.
As to the other concern about "Nurse stories".... The most import thing to watch out for is bringing "Naija man" misbehavior to Yankee. If your wife is working and still handling house matters, your own is not to sit down and be looking at her. Make your presence felt. There is no thing like "only woman does that". That behavior os the primary thing I would say you watch out for, before you watch out for "nurse".
Unless the woman was sent by hell itself, of which the chances of that are low, if you treat her the way you would also like to be treated you will be fine. beautiful bro. I like your thought pattern. Thank you |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 4:09pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
Idonije8: [code][/code]People think life is all just about money, I need to ask you a question with your 400k every month can you go on vacation every 4 months to other countries.. you Have a golden opportunity to leave Nigeria and live the best life You have ever thought of..with time you become a US citizen you can go anywhere you want and you are here listening to advise of people who praying for This same opportunity you have... if this same people telling you not go! Give this same opportunity they won’t even waste time to grab it,I know 400k is lot of money but do you know you can make more that in America,you can pave way for your brothers and sisters to come chop life in America and live a quality life...you should understand something ehn! Opportunity like this are not easy to come by..alway Learn to take advantage of it to the fullest..grab your opportunity leave this fucking country[color=#000000][/color] thanks bro....i love this energy |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 4:07pm On Jul 11, 2020 |
2buffagain: No yawa. Where is she based? And what specific field of IT are you?
Feel free to DM me. Whatsapp 070six123two38one I can have urs if u don't mind |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 3:12pm On Jul 10, 2020 |
Thanks again. This certainly is a good advice 2buffagain: Bro, I suggest you drop high ego and title-seeking initially when you get here. Your major target is to learn, because you WILL have a lot to learn here.
Here, very few people in IT work for the same company for very long, and that's at the choice of the IT worker e.g better pay elsewhere. It's a good field to be.
For you, before burdening yourself with excessive work responsibility that comes with leadership, come in as a normal IT guy first and acclimatize yourself to *everything* first. It's a lot moving to a different country.
In very short time, If you truly are a leader, you will rise quick with whatever company you choose to settle in. These companies are always on the lookout for true leaders. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 9:02am On Jul 10, 2020 |
Like seriously?....I made a post and somebody decided to use it to draw traffic to his blog? Nigerians are truly difficult and desperate. The person even had the gut to say my story was fake, can you just imagine?. Whoever that person is he's got no conscience and his effort for life will be stolen and his future will always be bleak. All he worked for would vanish in the thin air like it was never suffered for. I pray Enugupikin: hesilo you've been boasted.. Many fake people on nairaland afterall |
Romance › Re: Should I Quit My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad by hesilo(m): 8:58am On Jul 10, 2020 |
You saw that too?....people are really desperate. He even came to my post to say it's a fake story and dropping link to his blog. SMH NerdyRudeGyal: You plagiarized someone's story for your blog, smdh. No conscience. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 2:33pm On Jul 09, 2020 |
Lols...baba na thesame o. I just dey fear say once person reach there, e go hard to get job and i no want make i commot from where i be king come go for were i go be servant. I'm a supervisor already here in 9ja with prospects to attain a cordinator position soon which means higher pay, going abroad might get me searching or back to a beginner position. This is just my fear GreatMage: Very true... And to top it all; He works in a reliable oil company! Package yourself, apply for a job in her city or closeby! If it's not enough improve yourself with some America online courses and refire back!!
Unless the IT he's talking about is not the same IT I know  |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 10:57am On Jul 09, 2020 |
Na small pikin still dey worry you man. I finally noticed. Goodbye sexylassie2: All these your rant shows that you are weak, you will become a house boy soon.
I have never seen any set of men that nag about everything like Nigeria men.
Politician this and that....bla, bla, bla
You are just irritating... God help all men like you..house boy, does not even believe in himself that he can do what he wants without the help or support of no one.
Why don't you save up to get things done instead of depending on one woman abroad that will destroy your self esteem and use you like a prawn.
Shebi, all your guys shout here is how the laws abroad favours women..but you want to jump that wargon, after she oppresses you, then you carry you security job gun to shoot her dead....nonsense.
Men like you are not long term thinkers....nonsense,hypocrite.
The woman is even giving you command that you must come or else...see how you want to wee on your pants because you heard America.
What sort of men are we creating in this country self.
Spit |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 9:52am On Jul 09, 2020 |
sexylassie2: I shame for Nigerian men that depend on women.
Is it not emasculating for you guys.
I bet she is with 4 kids. Anyway, Nigerian men will agree for anything as long as it is USA. You go just open your mouth waaaaaaaaaaaa Who tell you say Nigerian men are dying to go to the US. You that is living in Nigeria how head be you?. All your so called politicians have their families resident abroad you think they are stupid. Nigeria suppose good but anyways for people like you. I am comfortable here, but i would like to build a family and never in this country. Money isn't the thing, i am simply in a relationship with a lady who lives abroad and is doing well for herself. it has nothing to do with Nigerian men dying to stay with women abroad. If you no get better thing to talk keep quiet. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 7:28am On Jul 09, 2020 |
MisterMan123456: My friend those certifications will get you a very decent job. Thank you |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 7:27am On Jul 09, 2020 |
eagleeye259: It is not an easy decision to make. I will suggest you spend more time in knowing her before taking the big step. You can also have a backup plan like postgraduate admission in the US.
You should also research the IT industry in the US to find out what skills and certifications employers are looking for. Then, acquire the necessary skills and certifications before you head out there. In spite of your skills and experience, sometimes you may have to start from scratch. I'm starting from scratch myself.
Make an informed decision. It is risky not to take a risk. Anything worthwhile will cost you something.
All the best! Wow....one of the very best advice so far. Thank you. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 3:24pm On Jul 08, 2020 |
Thanks tho....bt she has no problem coming back to Nigeria to do so anyways. Just that she wouldn't wanna stay in Nija. My company is actually planning to send me abroad for a course, covid stalled it, so the thing is if they spend this much on me, leaving them might not be so easy. Originalsly: Hmmm.... can't stay away from mom?? ...hmmmmmmmmmm. You need to let her know you don't move alone. If it is your wish to have your kids grow up abroad... is this not a golden opportunity? She is not going to leave nursing abroad to live in Naija... she cannot function as a nurse back home. On marriage... why doesn't she marry in Nigeria?.... then file for you? Don't ever travel because of promise to marry... it may never materialize and you end up trapped. On jobs.... because of COVID-19.... things aren't the same as before... you will have to find out the current situation. Even marriage... these days you just don't walk in to get married. Look well before youbleap. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 3:12pm On Jul 08, 2020 |
Nah she isn't....she's barely 30 and i'm 33. Nothing like pressure tho austine4real: My brother
Don't check the deep of a water with both legs
Things are not always what they seems to be
Maybe the lady in particular is nearing menopause or she's being pressured.
U don't know what is on the other side of abroad oo |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 3:10pm On Jul 08, 2020 |
I have tho...CCNA, ITIL and ECDL. I feel these are not enough to get me job abroad. What do you think? MisterMan123456: If you have certifications in IT field, go to yankee. You won't regret it. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 3:08pm On Jul 08, 2020 |
No not really, in fact she's planning to come down to Nigeria this November for the purpose of marriage and being with me. All her fam reside abroad, but she just wants to come down for that sake. Ayemileto: If you're married to her, it's possible.
But from the write up, she wants you to come there before marriage. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 12:39pm On Jul 08, 2020 |
Ayemileto: It's Possible.
Interview can be done online.
Just tell her to keep sending you open opportunities there.
But what makes her think the US embassy will give you VIsa self? Like is it not possible for me to get a VISA if i'm married to her inclusive of the fact she's also a citizen. |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 11:31am On Jul 08, 2020 |
stanliwise: Hook her on the neck too by telling her to get a ready job for you over there if it can't happen then omo run o Like is that even possible?....wouldn't i be interviewed?....how would it be achieved? |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 11:28am On Jul 08, 2020 |
Is anything wrong with that?....does boundaries hold relationships in today's world? In fact i actually met her while i was surfing the net in my office and we have been cool for the 8months now. So what's the heck? baralatie: you earn 400k per month in pH Nigeria and you are courting somebody who is lives across the Atlantic ocean! something is wrong somewhere |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 11:19am On Jul 08, 2020 |
Thank you i want to hear more of this kinda feedback so it would energize me. Thanks for sharing. boom99: A friend got married to his doc. Fiance. He left his good job and went to USA. They are doing well. If the girl is a good xtain u no go get issue |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 11:16am On Jul 08, 2020 |
I really don't think that's what she wants tho. She's actually is the person who wants me to come over and has more encouraging words that i would get a job quicker since I'm in IT. I still get your point tho my only fear is going there to get a job where i will have to put in more effort to count. I already have gotten to a supervisory position here and would be heading for a higher position in no time, otherwise i would be considering her advice without a second thought lefulefu: if u said u were quitting your job for further studies overseas then i might understand but for saying u quitting ur job in naija cos u want to get married to a woman who is based in yankee means u lack focus. guy u need to have priorities and know the things that are important in life u marry this woman and she will now turn u to houseboy.ur job will be of washing plates and cleaning her car in the mornings b4 she goes to work and while she comes in the evenings u will now service her in za oza room.is that the kind of life u want for urself? |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 11:14am On Jul 08, 2020 |
Bola146: As for me, it's very risky! Starting all over again there. Tell her to come and spend some days with you in Nigeria first, then follow your heart She would be coming this November...Her family is abroad tho, but she said she would wanna come to spend sometime in Nigeria and we perhaps use the opportunity to bond too. She's spending the stay in Nigeria with me tho |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 9:03pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
maxjax: me sef still dey wonder o Baba truth is that i have better opportunity in my current place of work and also kinda got a haunch to hit managerial position in time. Just wouldn't wanna go start serving white men perhaps have people I'm better than control me.  |
Romance › Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 8:57pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: Do you wanna b at the mercy of a woman? Anyways if you can get a job over there and you are sure she's a good woman, go for it. Remember na online things and I doubt you know her real character Yeah...don't know her character much but she seems to be a nice girl tho. So ur advice is a no? |
Romance › Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(op): 4:35pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back.
My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with.
What do you think guys?
Should i quit my job or the marriage idea? |
Romance › Re: Why Must Men still Use Ring To Prospose Instead Of Cars, Landed Properties? by hesilo(m): 9:07am On Jun 17, 2020 |
Wetin your papa use, how many gifts you don buy your boyfriend before Onyi22: Using Ring is an old fashion of proposing to a lady, Must men still use it up till date?
Can't they use Cars, Landed properties, Company shares, investment Portfolios to prospose marriage?
What's your take on this? |
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dozzybreezy: I can never forget the several hot sex I had with one short, busty, ebony girl that squirts hot creamy liquids while having an orgasm. Like play like play my d*ck no fit rise again. Confirm 2weeks, I never had an inch of a sexual urge! Arhhhh!!! Omo, LAS LAS one of my guys wey en popsi na herbal man package better ngborogu(roots) for me inside bottle. I poured ogogoro inside, leave am 2days begin dey take am shot by shot 3times in a day. Gradually my people, I regained sanity and my hardcore quality returned. Since then, I dey fear woman and after any sex(raw or not) I will take ampiclause.
Bro, try better ngborogu(roots) baba be like i get same symptoms o, no dey pick up sexual urge. Dick no dey be like wood again |
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More like the whole Nigeria following him |
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tensazangetsu20: Aren't there any car dealers around you? Why did you have to come all the way to Lagos to get a car. Well the deed has been done. He decided to go to lagos he felt there would be varieties and cars over there would even be cheaper as they said. This whole thing is so annoying and frustrating. It's not directly me but i get mad thinking about it cos the person in question is my Lil bro. When i bought mine i walked in a dealership and bought, why he never told me is still a wonder to me up till this minute  |
Car Talk › Re: Someone Help (car Issues) by hesilo(op): 9:35pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
pek: One question I keep asking, why can't you import the car yourself or look for someone who can to help you. If i had the money i wouldn't even bother sending somebody. I'd move around town and buy anything that pleases me. |
Car Talk › Re: Someone Help (car Issues) by hesilo(op): 2:05pm On Nov 18, 2019*. Modified: 5:24pm On Nov 20, 2019 |
Snowkel: Humans can be wicked sha, maybe you should check the VIN, you should be able to get some history about the car, but from all what you said, I ain't sure that car is direct tokunbo. I swear to God that car aint' direct tokumbo. It's a thing of changed parts and repaint. I am so mad at my brother that he did not involve me at this until it was this late. But i might send that dude to his early grave tho. |