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AmazonTopaz:
Why didn't you think about the children before you agreed to shag her.
Since you love her marry her.

Marrying her wouldn't have been an issue cos i liked her to that point. The lady in question is brilliant and that's my kinda woman(but not without fault). The major issue I'm having now is that my Dad was actually planning to get me to marry one of his colleague's(tite friend)daughter. He called me like two weeks ago to remind me that it's gonna be latest year end that i should save up and do the needful. I just don't know how to break the news to him in this situation.

phelonrays:
Here you were a gentleman minding his business......

But here you were overcome with LUST.....cause I won't acknowledge that the sex part was out of LOVE ...........
You might be feeling so complicated now... I know.... but please.... planning otherwise [as men in this situation usually do ] won't add a pill of tablets to the injury now..... what's her present feeling since the misfortune poops up?? if positive..... then accept to play a fatherly role that await thee [either as a baby daddy or a husband].... Please don't have a second thought about her situation[by adding more to her burden]...accept life the way it's present itself for you....

Welcome to DADDY WORLD.......

#BestOfLuck

Well as for her, in my opinion o she feels unbothered. To be frank i'm the one who's bothered. As she was doing well in her own space before we started.

Zielle:
Ok. Whether u marry her or not is up to u. If you've to ask then u don't love her and was just there for the sex. It wasn't wise to have had unprotected sex with her knowing u don't want to marry a woman who already has two kids. But the deed has been done, now you've a child on the way. Good thing you're not denying the paternity. Happy fathering.

We were protecting, but at some point we stopped

Zielle:
You didn't need advice before you started sleeping with her.

Is she still legally married to her husband?

Nope

ecstasy357:
FINALLY, THE TRUTH.

OP, HERE IS THE TRUTH.

SHE'S NOT YA WIFE. PLS DO THE NEEDFUL, CARE FOR YA BABY BUT NEVER AGAIN GIVE INTO AN ADULTEROUS WOMAN

Nice suggestions, but I want to be clear, is it still adultery now that she ain't into any marriage?

bethyz:
One thing the lady wants to eat her cake and have it same time.whatever that means .

She left you years ago got married and got divorced with two kids then she found her way back into your life and you two had it till she got pregnant for you.

She just wants to retrace her step and feel all will be as she wants. Maybe get you to marry her then her plan is complet. She would feel she has corrected the mistake she made long ago. But what she doesnt know is you may not be her husband. The mistake has been done. But going back to you and getting pregnant is wrong. I just hope she is financially stable and capable or the father of the two kid.

But if she feels you are the good and perfect husband she made mistake of leaving and she came back its fine by her.

Back to what you will do.
1. Do you love her and want to be with her despite all odds. Everything may be good now but marriage is different.
2. What happens to the kids she has even if you marry her they come to stay with you or with their father?
3. If you want to be with her talk to your parents about it and see there reaction first. They may say its up to you.
4. Be ready for anything that comes out after it. The children's father may or will always be in the picture.

Goodluck

One nice and mature advice. Thank you

nuelsam:
U were in a relationship then suddenly she started acting funny and dumped ya ass not minding the emotional trauma she has caused u,no remorse whatsoever and jumped into another relationship barely a while after break up for a richer guy i suppose . When she realised the fact that u have a job now, she wanna come back and judging from ur grammars, u are willing to take he"r back if there aint no hindrances....... Op, to knack ur head just dey hungry ME!........ U and thousands of sissy men out there are the reasons why women see men as toys they could control anyhow, she got ur mumu botton........ ........ U had better wake up from that illusion u called love...... There aint no love anywhere man, where was she when u had nothing ? Where was she when u was struggling ? Do u even know the genuine reason she divorced her husband ?........ Oh oh, uve even impregnated her, abeg abeg abeg carry ur cross........ Be looking for advice when uve already made up ya mind!

She leaving me then wasn't a matter of concern for me, cos i needed a lil more focus with studies, when she left, it actually made me buckle up(Like doubled my reading habbit), like it was a spur to move up and succeed. I felt she at a point felt she was falling her hands then and wanted to "act up" a little to test my reliance...which didn't come so she sustained her move. She's not a poor girl/lady, she's employed and from a well to do family.

pocohantas:
Good thinking,
Good product.

I love that babe.

The said lady ain't jobless, she too got a nice job and from a well to do family, just incase you feel she needs somebody to claw to.

SageMK:
The first 10secs after ejaculation, what do you feel when you look at her? This is very paramount to your decision because it's at that moment you know if it's love or lust.

Anyway, she's pregnant already. Start saving.
You can't add to her burden and run away.

Whether you accept her as your wife is up to what you feel for her. Sooner or later, your parents will be aware.

You know this babe was the kinda girl everyman would want as theirs, i felt lucky back then school days cos she accepted me while the rush on her was way beyond her. I was like a king back then too cos every nigga den saw me like i was Leonardo Dicaprio with Kate Winslet. It brought me so much reps then. She loved too well then too. I got some genuine love for her. She was stubborn then sha, but her sturbborness wasn't when i was with her, she summits all to me. We had minor issues and the sturv we had got sour and she moved. Even after she left, i knew she wouldn't be an easy person to handle by anybody she ended up with cos i knw how i managed to control her(She needs High level of intelligence to control). When we "re-engaged", she actually told me, i have been the only person she loved genuinely all her life. I kinda loved her too cos she got all a woman should have(Brilliant, shapely, and smart). I would have loved to marry her, but the issue is just the Kids.

THIS IS LONG BUT KINDLY BE PATIENT WITH ME

I once had a girlfriend during my University days, we vibed so well and became dat enviable duo, but at some point, she came up with some non challant attitude(you know women things na) and our relationship suffered little squabbles, and finally she left me. I wasn't mad she left but i was really in love with her though. All the while we were in this relationship, i never had sex with her though, we only had days we cuddled(smooching and kissing) and that was it. She got another boyfriend and moved on and i did too. Fews years later after our graduation in 2010, she went to serve in one of the states in the East and i was posted to the North, we missed path completely even though i was later redeployed to serve in one other state around the Eastern part of the country. We met couple of times and were just relating on casual bases. Just after service she got married and had 2kids with her husband, but currently they are divorced. It happened that i got to work in a state where she moved to. I am gainfully employed and she kinda got to contact me, ever since we had a date, it's been like she missed it in life, cos the kinda love she brings along is so much than i can even handle. We started having sex and it was like we are already married, cos she does attend me with so much love and respect and always had this look like she really made a mistake in the first instance by leaving me. Truth is she's currently pregnant and i don't know what to do. I just can't tell my family i want to marry a lady who's got two kids, they would actually disown me. I kinda love her but i'm stuck in btw the devil and the deep blue sea.

What's the best way to approach this situation...only good and mature contributions, cos ur contributions might be helpful with my decision. Thanks

No start wetin u no fit finish

LilMissFavvy:
I would rather be rich and live alone happily with my children, than be married living in hell with a scum

You see your life, after all said and done u want to have kids fathered by a scum and live ur life happily ever after with ur kids alone.
I'd call it a day here young lady, i am talking with a kid. When u grow up, u can always find me on NL, engage me we can talk better. Goodnyte

LilMissFavvy:
I don't need to comprehend somethings, except they make sense.

What i am saying now will not make sense, cos from ur pic u are still young with sharp mouth. With time your mouth will be blunt while men will continue to be worthless

LilMissFavvy:
Am trying to comprehend what you are talking about. Don't be bothered about me, be bothered about the woman in your life okay.

You will not comprehend cos u come to NL to fight for women's right by attacking and fighting men. But continue

cococandy:
Dummy

A whole adult na him u call dummy. Like a whole man, something that that lady is crying for. Una dey get mind o

LilMissFavvy:
you are wrong. Sorry I won't tell you about my private life. I mentioned worthless, cuz of the things we all read everyday, and the happenings around. Believe me, men ain't worth it. So a woman should be wise.

Sometimes you all cause your problems...men ain't worth it but u are low key looking/waiting for a man to marry. You will not cool down until it's l8

AmazonTopaz:
I agree are you ready for me to come and pay your groom price?
Hope your friends would not call you a weakling?

Come pay mine, but i would have to assess if u have what i need in a woman aside being a feminist. Call me

donbachi:
feminism is a woman that cannot stand and pee,challenging a man that can...can u spell girl with ur pee?

Boss you cracked me up with this. In fact you dey mad

mikron:
you are comparing ivory coast a country of about 24.29 million to Nigeria with almost 200m. the whole of ivory coast at 24.2m is not upto the population of lagos (17.5m) and kano (9.4m).
do u think if Nigeria was just lagos and kano we wouldnt have been at par with some European countries in terms of infrastructure and standard of living? agreed our leaders failed us but we will get it right sooner than later. but pls dont compare naija and ivory coast. its like comparing a 3 ft man with a 6 ft man. i reserve my comment.

Now you actually talked like a baby. That guy is saying the raw truth. 200m people isn't the reason we don't have24/7 electricity which is a major reason investors are leaving and relocating to other African countries irrespective of their population. Truth is there is no hope for Nigeria ever being better in a short time to come. He might not be totally right but the country deserves the venom that dude possesses against it.

Such a beautiful girl. In ph people steal the cover of manholes, hence endangering the lives of others. This country sha na madness dey be the ultimate character

Oluwasanmi18:
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hesilo94@gmail.com. thanks you so much

Cuteamigo1:
I was shortlisted too. Free past questions and answer contact me via what'sapp if you want it. Zero seven zero six eight one nine one four eight six

please i was shortlisted too, help a brother

To be frank the guy useless.

deltateam:
Unless you want to come back to Nigeria and follow us and be playing , O2.5, 1X etc

That's the empowerment our government gave us.

No steady power to run a business, no loan except few that were given #10000 during campaign.

kee me, just kee me

nairalanduseles:
U re not exposed ppl like u will always be at the bottom of the food chain begging......

Just kee me

They might not me marriage match medically. So if they aren't supposed to marry by genotype he should ignore that?

Onyekachi419:
Wait o
so a lady main reason in marriage is havin kids, She should jump to a random guy, get married to him and start producing kids in the name of age.
Lol this guy should wake up from his dreams.

Damn girl you pretty af

trevorhorace:
Thank God you mentioned 'as sports'. Definitely every sport has an arena. Cars have their own sport too but is every car a sport car. And do people drive just for sport?

I don't think you're getting my point so I'll give it to you.

YOU WIN

Na typical woman behavior be that. It's simple what you have been trying to let her know. But pride and ITK would never let her bulge. Her type would make a bad marriage she just doesn't want to lose this argument no matter what sense you make So myopic set of people. Kudos for schooling her. The country needs positive thinking heads like urs. I could relate to everything you said up there. Danke!

Are you kidney me?

I feel there is a conspiracy here. Maybe the head of prisons there might be doing business with these inmates or perhaps might have one of the top prison officials who impregnated her, they killed her cos there would be arising questions later on on how she got pregnant. The only means to end the potential drama is to end her life despite whose Or is gored.

The worst song of 2019. Even all those small booze when dey beg for sponsors songs better pass this rubbish
....mtcheeew. She too dey form like say she don land with just "Case". Nonsense and Buhari