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AutoChick4U:
indeed

make ur mind Dey sister.

AutoChick4U:
Dirty toilets can cause infection. Just get treated and try again, God will definitely give you guys your own kids.

Its possible the ladies he broke their hearts cursed him sha. People play with people's emotions without thinking about consequences

no be everybody una curse Dey work sister.Some of us are moving shrines

truthCoder:
then you are not strong. Work on becoming a better man. You will have kids and they will grow up. Don't let them see their dad as a weakling that runs from his problems

make their father Dey alive for them first.bro bp is a self inflicted ailment.anything when Dey stress me I Dey avoid am.being strong is how u see life.The easiest thgs for me to tell any woman na leave my house.I no get strength for drama.

truthCoder:
real men have the time.

All i wrote won't take more than one hour every evening and 2 hours on saturday...is that not a good investment for a happy home?

once woman don born for me Nthg really concern me o.I’m a very dangerous man.if I notice any dirty moves I’ll stop sleeping with her.bro this life na per head.I no get power for many fights.

truthCoder:
hnmmm.

first, stop reading blogs that define relationships.

lets go practical. I speak the truth and it might hurt.

your wife and you got married not because you are best of friends but because you both seem to meet certain societal requirements you both set for yourselves. You wanted a virgin and a church girl from a good home. She wants a good man with a good job who will love her.

This is where the problem starts. You and your wife might be married but you are not friends. She needs someone to be free with and currently you are not..the pastor is.

Here is what you should do.

First ball is you. Are you the kind of guy that is not easily approachable by the wife on petty things? If you are, you need to change. She must have access to you on everything. If she thinks about ABC, she must be able to gist about it with you. Be more open. As regards sex, she is a learner...teach her...Sex is not just the penetration. Learn about taking it sloowwwww....For the next few days, make love without penetrating her. make her relaxed, give her a good massage, help her clean her ear, arrange her hair, help her try on different clothes, just lie on the bed and gist, kiss and cuddle, give her head, cut her toenails, do everything that involves touching but no penetration. This will loosen her more.

Take the pastor's phone number. Call him and tell him you are XYZ's husband. Don't allow him to 'pastorize' you. Tell him you have seen the chats and you are disappointed. Tell him he should never contact your wife again or he is going to see hell on earth. Tell him you will come into the church during service to embarrass him if he doesn't stop contacting your wife. Tell him you will report him to Winners Headquarters in Ota and via social media then hang up the call.

Next ball park is your wife. Sit her down and have this conversation with her. Tel her the most important relationship she has is the one with you. Every other one is secondary. Tell her you would love her more if she can make you her friend. If she has any thing to discuss, She should be free to do so with you. Show her love. Show her that she matters. Gist with her.

You will win her back

the guy will abandone his job and start doing all this?tomorow when’s he’s broke the woman will have a reason to dump him?who has time for all this thgs u wrote?

JustNumb:
Hey guys I'll just be brief.

Straight to the point.

My wife is having an emotional affair.

Whats making it worse?

It's with a pastor with wife and children. Her pastor when she was in another state.

Now they're both in different states.

How did I know?

I saw her chat with him about 2+ years ago, and saw all the sweet name calling, the pet names and how they tell each other their activities of the day and even marital problems.

All the red flags and checklist of an emotional affair have been ticked by them.

The only thing remaining is the sexual part.

We've been married for some years now, she was a virgin when I married her though I'm 100% sure they have not met since we got married.

But the issue here is that this is causing serious friction in our marriage.

When I first saw it, I gave some time to be sure and I confronted her and she denied and said he's just her pastor (denial is one of the checklist).

Some months later they didn't stop the communication, I was about to tell her mum cos she visited. She pleaded and I let it slide.

Fast forward to 2021 they are still in communication. This time around the so called pastor is even always reminding her to clear chats so I won't see it.

Now emotional affair is actually worse than sexual affair
This pastor has a wife. I just pity the wife cos I can imagine how she would also be feeling.

I provide for the home, I also had to change from biz to the one that makes me travel to something that makes me work from home so she won't say it's cos I'm not always around.

We struggle with our sex life. What do I mean? She doesn't like sex. She doesn't mind if we stay 1 year without sex.

But me I'm a man with sexual needs.

Now when I see the way she doesn't like sex and I remember this emotional affair, it drives me crazy.


Those who have passed thru this, how did you overcome this challenge?
I don't want a broken home for my children cos sometimes I feel like calling her people and telling them to take their daughter back. Infact I'll dash them the bride price.

Do I go and get a side chick? But that won't solve my problem.

Guys come to my aid.

Cos if we discuss this again, this will be the 3rd time we're talking about same issue and same guy.

Sorry wasn't brief

men when no Dey cheat Dey quick die.try Dey cheat bros it helps.

saphiere:
Popular Nigerian skit actor and comedian, Abdulgafar Ahmad Oluwatoyin, professionally known as Cute Abiola has acquired a new house in an undisclosed area in Lagos State.

His colleagues took turns on social media to congratulate him on his new achievement.

Timothy Obotuke, professionally known as Sirbalo wrote:

JubrilOladapo Gbadamosi, known professionally as Officer Woos wrote:

https://.com/skit-actor-cute-abiola-acquires-a-new-house/

all this una lekki house when no Dey get space.my palor is bigger than that entire building.How can u put car Porte in front of entrance .

Gbedulord:
Reno Omokiri called out FFK on his IG handle about his old tweets about bbnaija

He wrote
As bbnaija ends, Nigerians should be reminded that a year ago, Femi Fani- Kayodr was condemning Nigerian youths for not being patriotic enough to save their country from buhari, like colonel Assimi Goïta, the youthful Mali coup leader, and instead focusing on Big Brother Naija. Exactly a year after he made that statement, Big Brother Fani- Kayodr who condemned Nigerian youths, was himself Commending Buhari. No be JuJu be that?

To borrow his own words "truly pitiful"
https://www.facebook.com/104117775380344/posts/104119728713482/?app=fbl

ffk was very broke and was finding it hard to survive.

PrinceOfLagos:
Ethiopia is a poor country so it's expected that they will respect Nigerian president

what is ur definition of poor?because they are better than Nigeria .

Chukwute:
Popular social commentator/influencer, Onomuakpokpo OgheneOchuko a.k.a Brakin Face, is dead.

According to his friends, Brakin Face died in his sleep. He was said to have gone to bed healthy and by morning, he did not wake up.

His friends have taken to social.media to express sadness over his sudden demise.

May his soul rest in peace, Amen.

anybody when stl Dey take this life seioris na goat.I don remove my mind for life since.I no Dey pray again sef.

Paulajeigbe:
I know this may rock the table at various point with various reasons. Yet, I want to ask the women and the wife's, who may be in this at this time or who have done this before as a get back response to pepper their man just for offending them. Did this solve the matter? And then I am asking, please what lesson or point do you want your man to get or gain, when he offends you and he is asking to be intimate with you and you are carrying the gateway to his kingdom away?

Has this pepper him approach solved any thing? I don't think so.

I wish we know that sex in marriage is a powerful tool. And so to use it againt your husband is like using a weapon against yourself. It does not end well. It will affect your whole family. Because once your man is no longer focused at work,all he now sees are ladies in the mini's and the bikini's and the spaghettis and noodles, things he has been seeing but because he has a woman who is giving it to him well and with joy, na wahala dey knock o.

So what should you do woman?
Your bobo offended you, and one way or the other he hasn't apologize yet. He is forming and shurning and not even paying attention to you. So it looks as if the both of you are doing Tom and Jerry in your home.

Then 10pm he is coming close to you bringing his key. He want to enter Into the tabernacle and just be lost there. Abeg wife, woman, this is not the time to turn , then you look at him , and then you now hissed and cover yourself with the duvet. Noooo!!!
He has only come to resolve matters. Lol! Welcome him, calm him down and then take him to paradise gradually and steadily. Don't raise the matter of what he has done yet. While he is still worshipping and doing all of the different worship styles let him. When you have taken him there and then back, this is the time to open up your heart. Tell him his offense and how hurt you have been. Pour out everything.

I know some men are insensitive. Immediately they have stood up from the place of worship, and then dash out leaving the woman just their. Yet, for a majority this is the time they just want to listen and truly listen. When a man truly know what it means for him to have been taken to the tabernacle of worship and back by his wife whom he has offended, he will apologize. For someone like me, I won't only apologize alone, I ma take her shopping, I will make feel like the woman she is. I will kindly that light again. Sabi it was the tabernacle you she took you to, Kai !!! Wait until she takes you to paradise all because you triggered the girls and the beautiful woman in her.

We men have lost our wives because we weren't sensitive. And by the time we are realizing the damage has gone too deep and things done spoil far.

So in summary, and in conclusion, denying your husband sex because of offense isn't the way. There are better ways and approaches that brings the result you desire.

Kindly leave you comments I would be reading and replying. Peace.

u be dollar na.girls when Dey outside no Dey even let us see road.nobody can starve me with what I can buy

NigeriaIsGreat:
Congrats bro. I graciously tap in your grace

put eyes down dem Dey town though few.Don’t allow the dead ones like the babe quoting me make u give up.

JovialJune:
Okay, is she still a virgin? If yes, pls keep her like that till death do you part since it guarantees a successful marriage, the moment she becomes loose, your marriage will fail, you hear.

come no be tell u to use ur puci do giveaway o.Haba

JovialJune:
So what is the difference between you and her? Are you not Nigerian used?

lol I am.make una Dey close una legs small.I no no how my guy take go end up with such girl.girl when Dey swallow cum like smoothies

deavicky:
after sleeping with other girls, I hope u are not planning to marry a Virgin. Because karma exist. If have had slept with 10 girls, 10 men will definitely sleep with ur wife even if u like go to Israel to marry.

I was lucky to marry a virgin.Grace found me.

henrybomb:
So if you were to choose between a virgin with bad and annoying character or a non virgin with a calm and amazing character which will you choose?

virgin oga.do u no how shameful it is that ur wife is Nigerian used?I attended my guys wedding three of us that drive down have slept with he’s wife.she couldn’t dance when we came to spray money.

chival:
Virginity is a virtue no doubt and young ladies should strive to go to their marriage beds with their virginity still intact. However, the truth is that virginity alone will not guarantee a successful marriage. I have been married for almost 13 years and I know marriage takes a lot of work and sacrifice on BOTH sides.

did u get married a virgin or dead.

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Wondermumsy:
No be small oooo.naija don tire us ooo.i will also like to add this.if you get 2 pikins hold break 4 now till Bihari come down.as pampers don cost. even baby food set na wah

lol u no get head �.laugh wan keee me here

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MunorAnne:
Lol. You are so pathetic and it's very unfortunate that your money can't buy you sense, because if you had sense, no matter how minute, you'll not spit trash like you just did.

I looked at u again u r even inside a keke.the cloths u wear my driver will not wear them.u r poor and u r talking to me.if u disclose ur identity now I can keep u permanently in a jail.

JackDaAlienz:
Mehnnnnnn
I remember when hot water burn my hands and the skin peel off
That was the most painful thing I felt
And it was only my hands ohh

Just imagine the level of hell this person is going through now.
His whole skin peeled off while alive

lol

Sufferingboy:
Just Ignore the girl,she might not even be an aniocha lady.Jim Ovia even made Emeifele the CBN governor by doing the necessary things from behind the scene.Even emeifele still acknowledges Jim as his Boss.....

I no d story bro.I have worked for emefiele.The girl na low life I stopped replying her when I saw her pics the cloths when she wear my house help no go gree wear am

Sufferingboy:
If you are close to Elumelu,then it is not late.Try to make him see reason why he should help his Aniocha brothers......Because one thing is this.One day Elumelu will die and if he refuse to push his people into world of business,no one to take his place....

Good afternoon sir...

yes na.Ovia is the architect of ika.U can’t talk of ika in generations to come without acknowledging ovia.That's how it should be.The foolish girl was defending elumelu saying what were my parents doing when elumelu was hustling she doesn’t even understand what grace means.life no be by struggle.elumelu sef don try ibe kachikwu is one of the worst ppl from that local govt.

Sufferingboy:
Jim Ovia na big boss,there is no zenith bank branch you will not see at least one Ika person as staff.Jim is a blessing to us.

Even the current CEO of zenith bank,Ebenizer Onyegwu is an Ika too from Agbor.He one of the disciples of Jim Ovia.

You mean Tony Elumelu and Ibe Kachichukwu nor dey employ their fellow Aniocha brothers? That is bad.

Even Gen Irabor done push many Ika people into the military with his connection,even before he became CDS......

em packaged one of my class mate into nda as lecturer.I Dey talk one mumu girl Dey follow me Dey argue.It’s not about me I have escaped poverty but I Dey see how other areas Dey arrange their people.The poverty stricken girl was talking as if I Dey find bank job or smthg.She does not understand what solidarity means.Funny enough I have benefited heavily from the Elumelu family but I shouldn’t be selfish they can help others.

Sparkle777:
Despite the fact that she foisted another man's kid on Nedu, it's just wrong to hand her kids to another woman. Of cos, she did wrong, but to take away her kids..a big no no.

u be animal.

PapaGfad:
I have done that...what else?

lol buyers will come this week in Jesus name bro.

MunorAnne:
Lol. You are so pathetic and it's very unfortunate that your money can't buy you sense, because if you had sense, no matter how minute, you'll not spit trash like you just did.

I just looked at ur pic my house help is even looking better than u?big man and poor mam no get anything to talk about.fuckkk off now

PapaGfad:
I no fit laugh finish.....
How is it dead? Oya explain biko Mr Highchief

make una go wash am first.

MunorAnne:
I keep wandering why some people have so much bile in them. He doesn't owe you anything for Christ's sake.
When Justice Oseji was working out his life, where was your father? Whether you're happy he died or not does not change the fact that he lived a good life. Even if he tried to ''help'' your kind, it still won't work out because the bitterness and wickedness in you won't let it. He lived. His works speak for him.
Go get yourself a life.

taaaa what life,u r a fool.there’s Nthg he achieved at his old age that I haven’t achieved.I am talking of our ppl helping ppl like u not me.I’m a Canadian even though I’m from anioma.Don’t rush to judge ppl u don’t no d money I have nobody in ur village has it

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