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Is the OP for real?I mean what is this?

Posting people's picture and information online,did they steal from you? or are you the bitter husband?Even that does not justify this.Do the right thing jor.

btw,why call that cute boy "product of adultery" when you yourself is a product of a recycled trash. Yeye

Kx:
At poster.

Whatever u do, dont buy the divorce advice

Aside Johndoe(who by the way is a virus and should not be taken serious)   who else talked about divorce  

@Topic,Jenny's advise is good but do not attach threats to it.Put your feet down,be firm but don't give ultimatums of change bla bla else i'd leave for sometime.

Horny4you's advise is perfect too.

I wonder sometimes how most of us end up with men that do not fancy our company.A man wud leave all the goody goodies on the wife's body and stay glued in a dry,cold office   Na wao. While at it OP,you can step up your bedroom games . . .that man should be running home every night  to deal with all the sugars and orishirishi you have to offer !

No point in wasting time sitting down to talk,let your actions do the talking.Do what you are supposed to do(get his meal ready and warm) then try(might be hard) to make yourself sleep.Don't call him,If he calls fine.

As for the finances part,how was it when you guys were dating?did he just change?did you guys talk about finance(who brings in what) before marriage?

Goodluck.

No pity for her,just hope the new entrant baby Kenzo is well taken care of.

The dude never changed,did he?He displayed his reckless and I-don't-care attitude,was verbally abusive,shoved and slapped her,was insecured during the courtship days but she was praying,fasting and expecting a miracle. . .and she claimed she is illustrious plus educated.I dey laff oh.

My advise for her:Stay back in your parents house,continue with the prayers and when he do come back,take more shiit from him.Men like Chidi are rare,marriage is by force.

Yeye dey smell. 

She wan be wag by force when she no be beauty queen. Rofl .

Ferya:
@ Poster

I praise you for bringing your family, wife and yourself to the level you are now. Only determined man/woman can survive in your kind of situation. BTW nothing is as painful as crisis in the home but there is still hope. I will advise you to do the following:

1.  Talk seriously to your parents in privacy: Tell them how much you have worked hard to make them happy and will still do. You need to tell them that you can never get back on your feet if they fight the only joy in your life (wife).  Inform, them that they need to be praying for the family and not cause pain to your wife that did nothing to them.

2.  Talk with your wife also in the room privately: Praise her for supporting you in good times and ask her to be patient with you about your parents till you get a place for them to stay.    

3. Have a family meeting with the 3 of them and emphasis on peace in your house . As your father to call your mum to order.

4. Talk with your wife on the need for her to be busy with any trade you can afford to start for her. She can contribute to the family.
 
Finally, you need to start thinking seriously about moving your parents to were they lived before coming to your house? If your mummy continues abusing your wife and making life unbearable for the family.You do not please others and displease yourself. YOU NEED TO BE A MAN, YOUR PARENTS WILL NOT DIE IF THEY MOVE OUT. It will even help you concentrate in your business and make more money.
Please, never join your parents to believe that your wife pulled you down. Marriages is never a bed of roses, there are ups and downs and none is for ever. Introduce prayers in your house and God will help you. Goodluck!

Well Said.

Sangotedo/Lakowe!!!!!

Yes.Love him,warts,microbes,germs and all.

I don't understand the uproar

The person with the mark does not see it as injustice/wickedness so what gives?

We all know this is part of our culture,whether its good or bad,we leave that for another day.

@OP,Posting someones picture online without her consent just to prove a moot point.

Men that get thrashed daily in real life by their wives coming on here to act superman.Funny "internet Nigerians" and small "real Nigerian boiz".
Johndoe, wud you dare beat a career woman,making her own dough(assuming one makes the fatal error of living with you)?You go get some helpless lil'poor gurl straight off the villa,use her to feel better and massage dead ego then you come in here to yarn dust.

The man is most definitely enjoying the punches,could be what gets his groove on.No beating. . .no e.rec.tion.lolz

No pity or advise for anyone that refuses to remove him/herself from an abusive enviroment/relationship.

The day he slumps,his office another man would take.Life goes on after a couple of tears.

This is very disturbing,forceful anal sex

Is the man a jailbird?has he ever forced his wife or even had anals with her?

@OP,your sis is waiting for you to be the next victim before she acts?She either help him to get help(if hes accepted hes got a problem and willing to be helped) or remove herself(and children) from the unhealthy enviroment.

I cant begin to imagine the pains the victims went through. . .anals itself is tortue,forced one wud be pure hell.

Gosh,what a beast.Your BIL.

Agbayas feeling funky  

Im in a wedding and giggling madly,thanks to this thread.Wud be back.

I do understand the poster's position.Its just plain awkward letting your BIL touch you all in the name of feeling your pulse,not to mention real body examination.
@OP,You need to talk with your husband.It won't help seeing a doctor you are uncomfortable with as you might be forced to hide some facts from him. . .which would turn out bad for you,your husband and everyone ultimately.

^Chai,that na semi-ukodo  

Unripe plantain pepper soup(Ukodo) makes a lot of sense when its prepared with fish as opposed to meats.When its done and ready to eat,remove and serve the plantains on a separate plate,sprinkle small red oil on top the plantain for [i]special effects.[/i]Then the pepper soup and fish on another plate.

Munch a plantain, Sip a little soup,break a little fish.Oil meets water.The best supper.  

Una don come again oh.

which Parade and levels be all dis one,make pesin open mouth sotaay fly go enter chop him tongue?

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Ify oooo

onye ma ebe Ify gara ugbua? Ya na onye nokwa now?
ifyyyyyyyyyy [/quote]Bia nwere ihe.
Bia nwuru ihe.
Bia nye m ihe.

Ano m ya Onye nke m Kedu kedu?

Ndi nile ji Feli ugwo ga kwuo ugwo ha ji buko,Feli a dighi happy and came with a loooong list to me. Unu ma onwe unu . . .

Ndi Igbo nma nma nu.

E chetara m some of us,i hope na akwukwo na aga nke oma?Chiogo,Onyinye,Amaka and co

jennykadry:
I agree.

Uju's wedding bu echi.

E jim train aga Awka with ite,spoon na empty drink bottles.  and iwe wem i'd post pictures.

seedord247:
what if your mum of 58 years old decide to further her drop out education of 40 years ago, what will you do to stop her

@Bolded . . .that's the keyword!

God knows I would support her to any level she wants to.If going to school and relating with the young at heart is her desires why should i stop her and probably make the woman live her last years with an unfulfilled desire ?

I would support her 100%.  

No one else aside your husband needs to know you are adopting a child [b]IF [/b]you are living in Nigeria.If you plan on telling even your mom,please forget the adoption.
Tell your husband you are thinking of adoption and hear what his views are and if he is skeptical,don't bug or nag.Keep believing God for a child and look out for other options.4 years wait is nothing,IMO

Where is the pics?I've never heard of him.

Was he drunk driving Very Unfortunate .

^I got Pepper soup there so Yes,she do have pepper soup now(free advert) lol
The main deal there was rice,dodo,beans though.

I had a Delicious trip.

LOL.
Sore loser.Any pictures of the said winner,Ms Angola ?

Freesia:
One of my closest friend was been battered for over three years by her husband and never told a soul.The last straw was when he beat her up over their crying toddler while she was expecting another baby.This man who is 6'1 punched her in the stomach,dragged her on the floor all while she was screaming and he calls himself a medical doctor!! Thank God for the neighbours they called the cops,she didn't want him to be arrested saying "the father of my kids." his reputation bla bla
This past June he was running late for work and she rushed to give him some stuff he forgot in the house,He verbally abused her snatched the documents from her hand.
He reversed his car,knowing very well she was still standing there aimed at her foot and drove over it!!! She fell down and he sped off,Her little boy was screaming for the dad to stop the car but he didn't.She now has a permanent limp
It's all very sad to think her mother says she has to persevere, her dad came to U.S to take his daughter and his grandkids back to Naija to think things over.My heart bleeds for her because I know she will go back to him :( despite her telling me that this man is out to kill her.May the lord deliver us and give us strength and courage to make intelligent decisions!!!

Spot on.

I have since stopped pitying or wasting any emotion for anyone that chose to stay in an abusive relationship for any reason.I cannot love anyone more than they love themselves.An adult sits,sees his/her death but prefer to(for any ridiculous or stoopid reason) stay back,hope for change,watch and pray has my blessings.

Its more honorable to die a Mrs(in the hands of a lousy man) than to be alive and bear Miss or divorcee.Rubbish

Finally Correct Amala with all the "oh,ah" factor

Started off with Amala and ewedu got from the place CC talked about.It was more than delish. See Orishirishi, eja wow

Left IB town this noon but not without touching Mama Ope at Sabo road,Mokola for a steaming hot pepper soup pushed down with eko.Was tempted to take Emu but the spirit was weak.

dokkyelele:
I knw this is not a new thin but if u found out dat your sister, your frnd or girl frnd is a lady-loving-lady, what r u goin do?

Are you a Mugu?Do you need an invitation as a man?Jump in and enjoy the threesomes.

Seriously,nothing.

ebonyvibe:
ifyalways: I am not from a polygamous home and currently not in one but ALL the people I know that have exprienced it say the same.

Are you from one or currently in one share your views.

And if it  is a bed of roses please advise your husband to take up a second wife THEN come back and share your views. And my thread did say in worst cases

Papal Bulls .Did I ask you about your home?why try to make it personal huh?My view is up there,read it if you can.
No time for back-forth,Im allergic to dizzy spells.Highly.

Real courtship is very important people.I just can't understand why folks still wake up and marry strangers . . .You'd end up quarreling,adjusting and studying each other in the early years of marriage that ought to be spent having real fun and exploring your bodies.I'm quite pissed cos recently a friend of mine went the old fashioned way against all the advises he got and 13 months later(infact since day 1) has been from one complain to the other . . .ofcourse my ears are blocked.He should carry his cross jejely 

OP needs a lively,outspoken and cheerful wife that wud also stand shoulder-to-shoulder with a LovePeddler in bed[b] fortunately[/b] the wife is a nun,addicted to Nollywood.

I have no advise for you.I hope your marriage works.

Sweetnecta:
i have to first laugh at the bold, before i express my opinion at the person who penned it and the message itself.

You seem to be living in an environment less aware of world view than a villager in this matter of 2nd wife.

There is nothing wrong in a 2nd or even higher number of wives, as long as the husband can financially and emotionally be responsible in the matter. If every eligible male is married to one eligible female, you will have some large number of eligible females without a husband. What should be the social solution except to marry, as a co wife to husband that has capability to handle such a condition.

Imagine a wealthy man who likes sex with a wife who can't keep up. If we remove jealousy out of it, there is a solution in taking a 2nd wife. And not all women are jealous.

@Bolded,Interesting.New one!
Any proves

Topic,NO way not even in my dreams can i encourage my spouse to take a 2nd wife but I cannot stop him if he decides to,neither can he stop me if I decide to walk out of his and the 2nd wife's lives.

@OP,did the wife suddenly develop low libido or the man's own grew overnight? Im curious,what is strange about his desires?what have we not heard?

Btw,OP I hope you are not Johndoe  

ebonyvibe:
@ Sweetnecta: It is a myth that there are more men than women in the would I would like anyone to provide me with some evidence of this. The fact that a man has lots of money doesnt give him the right to sart acquiring wives with is so found wealth.

If he doesnt know what to do with his money he should donate it to charity.

NLanders i have seen polygamy at work o and trust me it is soo not fun. You think it is all about sex and money (maybe), but that is not all it is about jealously, rivality, deviousness, prayers for things that can be avoided, in worst cases juju, poison and all your children must leave in a church abroad o.

mother inlaws telling you how to deal with your husbands wife, children envy, different vissions from lots of pastors. Abeg if he cant calm his intimacy drive and you cant give it to him more abeg divorce o at least the bible allows it on infidelity grounds.

And why cant he just cheat sensibily (with a condom)  like every other man does.

Stop viewing and judging the world from a hamlet.Not all Polygamy breeds those things you mentioned.

Good Girl:
^ ^ And she'd look much better without that fake hair. Girls her age shouldn't even be thinking about weaves and wigs!

True.

Don't understand the rush to 'grow up'

Who is this Olisa Guy,any picture?

@Topic,a man assaults a fellow man with bricks and all what not and the victim took it all in cos he wants to keep his job?lots of silly people in Naija sha.