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melidee:
My friend is also married to a Nigerian man but recently they got into great difficulty as her husband was told to go home from a holiday cause the country said the Nigerian passport was no good i.e fraudulent. Anyway my friend travelled back to Britain and her husband back to Nigeria. She was pregnant at the time 6 months+. Well anyway this girl always praised her husbands Nigerian family for various reasons and mainly because she did not really know them . Although she has met them her husband never told her the truth about them and so she did not know that they would treat her and her husband the way they did when her husband ran into trouble. whilst she was in hospital just after giving birth alone to the child one of her husbands sisters called her and decided to shout at her saying she was not happy with her the wife as she did not call the other sister who was visiting London at the time to come and see the baby. My friend tried to explain that she was still in hospital and previous to this was dealing with her husbands absence which she describes like she is mourning for her husband. She did contact the other sister and explained that she did not have anywhere for her to stay really. (but it was mainly to do with finances as her husband was not there only getting maternity pay she could not feed an extra mouth). Later nobody has called her from the family to ask of the baby and also her husband complains that he has nobody to help him financially he is not in a good place no money no family. Now my friend dint understand shes like i thought his family would be there for him through thick and thin but unfortunately not. My friend does not have money to pay for the flight to go and see her husband just yet the baby is 5 months old and her husband Neva saw the baby. She cant understand why nobody has spoken to her or are not bothered that the husband did not see the babyont know what to say to her, what do you think? Please only articulate comments no slander.

Nigerians carry Fake Nigerian passport too?

@Thread,were the guys family against the relationship from the on-set?
Well,you have no one but urself.The economy is generally bad now,no one has hand-outs to give.The lady and guy ought to have thought of finances before deciding to have a child.Best she can do now is to concentrate on taking care of herself and the baby,the husband wud sort himself out.

As for the family,too bad but you cant force anyone to like or accept you.Ignore them and move on.

Hahahaha.
Agaba na u be dis?Since when?

190:
[color=deeppink]Shun SIR,

at-ease,

Gbosa!![/color]

ROFL.
@Topic,I find it veryyyy hard to believe the story.

Lagosboy:
In the name of Allah most gracious most merciful

Forgiveness in islam in terms of war is totally different from forgiveness in our daily affairs.

Islam is a practical religion and not an ultra idealistic superficial faith. In terms of war,war is war, when you are attacked you have to repel evil and oppression. In islam when your right is trampled upon or taken away from you , one has to fight for ones right and claim it back and this brings me to the issue of palestine. The palestinian lands have been illegally stolen and they have every right to fight for their rights. The occupied terriotories is deemed illegal by the UN and ICJ so there is no debate over that at all.

The doctor that forgave the killers of his children is a personal issue and does not mean anything in terms of a battle. If your people are killed you have to fight to save your children from being slaughtered and that is what Allah says in the quran. " . . . Why do you not fight in the cause of Allah and the weak among men, women and children whose call to their lord is our lord exit us from this town of which its inhabitants are opressors , , ," Q4 v 74-75

In our daily affairs it is different and all the verses at the begining of this thread applies and we have to forgive people of their faults as we beg Allah for forgiveness. However forgivenss does not stop resoration of ones rights as they are two different things entirely. Someone swindled me and I take him to court and tell the judge i have forgiven him but i want my money resotred to me and spare him from punishement. Same applies to a thief who stole someones money and begs Allah for forgiveness, Allah will forgive him but the forgivess does not replace the retribution of which he has to give the stolen goods back. This is a wide topic in islam and it is "forgiveness and expiation of sins". When one wrongs a fellow human being Allah will forgive him as long as the sinner begs the wronged person as well forgiveness and such is the justice of Allah.

It is better to to sin against oneself than to sin against other people, when one commits sin against oneself you can ask Allah for forgivenss and Allah can expiate your sins by whatever means he chooses but when you sin against others and you dont pay them back their rights or ask for their forgivenss, on day the day of judgement you will pay them back with your good deeds or if you dont have they will give you their bad deeds which brings me to the hadith of the prophet. ". . . The bankrupt of my ummah is he who comes on the day of judgement with lots of salah, fasting and good deeds but always slanders people, backbites, abusive or trampled on others rights e.t.c. he has to pay all this people back until his good deeds finishes and still indebted to people of which they will give him their bad deeds" We seek refuge from Allah from this!

This is just to show how important good character is in islam and when one is a muslim you have to treat people good and have a good character. You could have the longest hijab or beard and still be bankrupt on the day of judgement if you dont take care in your dealings with people.

I hope i havent confused anyone and please feel free to ask further questions if this is not clear.

And God indeed knows best.

Well said.
Jazaakallahu Khairan.

There are few things I don't quite right here.

Did they do traditional marriage proper?or it was just an engagement?
The first separation,did the girl inform her parents?If she did NOT,shes got no one but herself to blame for what she is going through now.Once a couple marries traditional and any of the party asks for separation,the first and right thing to do is to inform ur parents and IF in future you guys want to get back again,families wud be involved.

In my small helmet sha,Once the traditional marriage proper is done,You guys become husband and wife.White/church wedding is formality/Oyibo follow-follow mentality/religious "must-do" while a court wedding is a legal proof for security reasons.

I blame ur girlfriend for not securing herself,getting a legal paper proof of their marriage,not saying that wud have stopped the man but its a measure that sometimes control and keep the beast in men in check.

There is more to this couple than what we have heard,4 years of staying together and no child?4 years and they could not have their so-called white wedding?They obviously have bigger issues which either both parties assumed they could sort out or/and one or both of them was selfish and not ready to change.

How on earth wud someone come to ur parents house,marry you then wake up one day,ask for separation and u leave without at least informing ur parents only for you to still go back to service him,do his laundry blah blah ?the girl well so ?  

IMO,what they just had is a divorce and not BF/GF dumping or heartbreak.I hope she learns from this.

This is so emotional for me as a woman,I mean she was sincere enough to hint that she was open for talks,waiting and praying that they both wud come together again and make it work . . . .*sighs*
I pray she gets[b] a man that deserve [/b]her.

Apologies for my ignorance but Is Femi married to any of the baby momma's?

Dundee united u had to quote me twice cos ?,and your point really was
He he he,so it took u 3 mins to Google up lobotomy?.
Pointless ko,Pointmore ni . . miss air head high school graduate,you obviously are one of 'em Google and Wikipedia graduates
Goodluck on the brain-filling thingy. . .hope u come out with atleast a dead rats medulla.
Much love,from me to toi.
Lol

sadboy:
shaking bus cannot kill baby. i ve seen pregnant women pounding dancing even fall from up steps yet they deliver bouncing babies it make the babies more stronger and adventural

Not so true.
Some of us are fragile while others are khaki,made of sterner stuff.

@Topic,IMO,the first step to a healthy pregnancy and child birthing is a loving and caring husband.Some women have been able to do it alone . . .I respect such women but I cannot do without feet-massage,extra TLC,shoulder and body rub down,breakfast in bed,happy and loving atmosphere that comes with pregnancy.

Next is health personnel.Please,no advice,drug,mood or exercise [b]fits for all.[/b]Pick and use a tested and trusted Gyn/Obn and listen to him/her,be very open and truthful to him/her.Do not try drug without his/her knowledge and consent.It worked for Mrs A does not mean it wud work for you.

Don't under-estimate your ante-natal . . . .even if its your 9th baby.There is nothing like [i]experience [/i]in pregnancy. Most abnormalities can be easily detected and treated during ante-natal.

Diet and rest.

Middleman:
yes it is atleast for about 500, he is having his rally tomoro at some locations in lagos, but this is going to be his first stop. and he is going to be there for only 2hrs after which he continues to other much larger locations.

500 seating capacity?not too small?

Lagosboy:
I guess the venue should be able to accommodate the large amount of people that might troop in.

Hey bros.
How go dey go?Salams.

NLDers and 'em fake ar.ses. 
You hit someone with your car and he picks a stone,gbosa on your glass  ,what next?Drive off?Cos u did Chivita advert or u are an actor?

There is no gentleman in Lagos.what he did ie getting angry and out of his car is what every normal person that rightfully earned his money/ride wud do . . . the rest of the action ie fight or exchange of words is cause and effect.

[quote author=ondo_boi link=topic=635369.msg8021855#msg8021855 date=1301542990]Is it advisable for a man to drive his father in-law to a social function, please am juSt so confused, my wife's parent are to go to an important ceremony and their driver was absent from duty, unfortunately for me, i was at their place with my family members(wife and children). Is it advisable to offer help or i should also look for a way to excuse myself(which was what i did anyway).This has caused a great debate among my friends[b], and also my wife is angry with me[/b], please I need your advice, incase of next time.[/quote]Have you apologized yet  Im sure your wife is angry cos she KNOWS the excuse you gave her Parents were lies.She deserves a sort of explanation and apology,not because you are wrong but because you are a real MAN.
Why or what prompted you to lie,fabricate an excuse?You don't just feel like driving,you are not very free with your PIL ?

There is no rules that says you should become your PIL's driver however little things matters alot.You could have done it,it won't take anything off you.

You said your PIL's have got a driver so this is more like an emergency so what are the chances of a re-occurrence?Taxi,No?

dayokanu:
The number of times she made him sleep on the couch away from the bed he bought.

Hilarious.

dayokanu:
Cost of respect she earns from her womenfolk as one of the few women who is able to get a man in this season of scarcity of men

Pathetic.

@Topic,When people marry for the wrong reasons they should be ready to[i] pay-up[/i] for wrong and ridiculous reasons.
Marriage is NOT by force sha,stay single and enjoy ur money alone.I believe most family lawyers give that advice several times a year these days.

^^ 
Have u got Randy's body? I might consider you someday If you look 0.001% Randy[i]ish.[/i]
Sup with ma sister? 

azharuddin:
"Don't depend too much on anyone in this world because even your own shadow leaves you when you are in darkness."

[Ibn Taymiyyah]

Nice.

John is same height as The Rock ? 

swiss85:
Can someone tell me the meaning of
-Chukwurah

This is a conc. Onitsha name.
The full name is Chukwu rapu m,mu na onyezi soo?and it translates thus: If God leaves me/causes his grace to depart from me,who shall stand by/walk with Me?

Mai Suya:
I guess your description of your parents as 'reserved' is because they're insisting on the very best for their daughter. Surely you can't blame them for doing that, can you?

It's[b] natural to be a little nervous.[/b] Like the others have said just pray and by God's Grace everything will go well.

I feel ya.

embassyman:
The only painful thing is the great lloss from Misterio, i knew akready that Taker will win Triple H , that is no story, he cant lose to anyone in Wrestlemania, take or leave it

Eddy feels otherwise
BTW,have u seen the game?I believe is should be available online now for free.

OK,People WWE is moving on.I got this news from CeNation today:
The biggest story of 2011 , doesn't happen until 2012 at WWE WrestleMania XXVIII! The epic main event the WWE Universe has been waiting for, John Cena - WWE Universe vs. Dwayne The Rock Johnson, is set for April 1, 2012 in Miami!

John sells and WWE always factor on that to cheat and treat him as trash.Most annoying part is that John Never learns guess its all abt the benjamins

My twins took only SMA GOLD,the last one no send,he takes all and any,SMA GOld remains my first choice for him but when i run out of stock I give him Nan which is readily available.

jennykadry:
I have always believed in breastfeeding without additional water for 6months. Although our men have no patience and can't wait to claim the bosoms back.

LOL
That's the baby-friendly ish.I tried to try that  with my twins,we lasted a couple of weeks on it.haha

Ujujoan:
Ify kedu maka nwa ofuru

Okwa aru di unu?

Uju Dalu.
Anyi di nma.
Chinonso buzi big boi ugbu a .N'oge na adighi anya,m ga ebido nyewe ya akpu na ofe onugbo.
Kedu maka nwanne m na di gi Omo Ibo?A hubeghim ya for some time now,Infact ka m ga checki-a profile ya.

^^See this thing oooh 
Dirrrrrry unwashed douchebag with basic comprehension skills feeling funky,for real? 
You went to do [i]copy and paste [/i]for moi? How in the world wud u know the meaning of Arrow when u can't [i]grasp tenses [/i]used in a sentence ni?
ROFL.
Mu he he
Lobotomy for super duper 1diots like you is free now,grab it while its available.In a couple of years from now,after u must have had your thick air-filled skull arranged,you wud come back  to this very thread to thank ME. 

Run along dolt and Remain blessed in your profound mental reeeetardation. 

Chineyem,I could not even pronounce most of ur translations.
@Thread,Like has been pointed out,the translations wud largely depend on the context in which in the words are used.
Mutual respect . . .Nkwanyere Ugwu.

^
It was just a movie .Not saying it is done that way real life.

afam4eva:
Aname kene ndi Igbo nile no na Nairaland. Unu cheta maka election nke na bia bia.

A nam ajukwa,Ole ebe ndi Igbo na ebinye aka?
Na ncheanwu . . .Um[i]bro[/i]da
Na Mkpisi e ji ede ihe . . .pen
Ka o bu na anyi  no nkiri-nkiri levels?

youngies:


Unu ga egbu mmadu ooo!

Hmmm
Owu na udika ebe a ka a na ahu gi.
I jiri la oso bia zaa Present Ma. kedu ije? 

@Rubi,O di nma.Udo chi a. 

Ujujoan:
Which church does that

Uju,I was only kidding.
The only msg I was trying to pass across is,he should dissolve the marriage wherever the marriage was contracted.

deniyor:
In every relationship, couples quarrel. We all have friends we confide in and solicit advice from about on different aspects of our lives. When is it a bad idea(or a good idea) to involve a friend(s) in a fight you are having with your significant other?  What would you do if your partner tells (or involves) his or her friends about a fight you are having.

It depends on the individuals involved.
I personally,would NOT discuss my husband with any soul . . .Thank you,None of my friends/pals wud ever attain that status.
If Im having issues with him,I wud discuss it with him . . .don't care if im gonna talk abt same issue for donkey years,hes worth all the effort. 
Discuss it with trusted friends and have them discuss it with their own trusted friends?Gossip chain?  No,way.
Besides,what wud outsiders do for me when I complain/seek their counsel?Are they living with me?Wud I be 100% sincere to them and like wise them?They wud only tell you what they "think" which in most cases wud not be the same thing as your spouse's thoughts.

If na BF/GF then maybe Yes,to close and mutual friends.