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rasputinn:
A bride's wedding day is the most important day to her.

Not true for ALL.

rasputinn:
most ladies I know will NEVER allow anything disrupt that day,

She is not part of the MOST ladies u know.
I for one did not care much abt the wedding day itself.

rasputinn:
not even a useless NNPC test

NNPC test can ONLY be useless to someone gainfully employed.
An unemployed fresh graduate won't agree with you.

You lot are funny.
She should gamble away her future(though the test does not guarantee employment) cos she wanna play barbie on a white gown?When the owambe is all done and gone,Y'all wud go to ur respective homes and jobs while she keeps sweeping the streets of lagos in search of a Job.
As long as her Husband understands and let her go . . .every other opinion does NOT matter.
If you were in her shoes,wud u have done any better

Ok,First who is she

Anybody wey manage arrange 1 cd for Alaba don become Top queen/celebrity/star.

What could be the source of the fire?
Dis naija sef,na wao.

What she did was the best for[b] herself [/b] and her marriage.QED.
I believe she has fixed her wedding date before this interview date came up so what realistic options does she have?She killed 2 birds with a stone.

I only pray the end justifies the means ie she gets the job.

Blazay:
Definitely not for love. . .but for survival and 'residency permit'!
If the African men were born and raised in the 'white' societies. . .that is a different matter entirely as some kind of love is remotely possible.

BUT, if the Africa men are immigrants who arrived in their 20s-40s. . . mu he he he he he. . . .those are opportunistic relationships that end mostly in divorce. Not many African men stay with these white women after a few years. Lemme just say 100% divorce rate. The white women want to 's-experiment' too with a black 'manleeness'!

It is a good thing for African men to date/marry white women so they can learn some manners of course. . .which they seriously lack.
Any African man that has lived with a white woman for a given period of time develops a conscience and acts less like an animal from an African jungle too.

I think ALL Afrian men should get with white women.
Hopefully, they all will not end up like Papa Barrack Obama. . . back in Kenya to die miserable deaths.

They also learn how to eat 'poohsie' reaaaaaaaaaaal goooood by being with white women!!!

Chai . . .nwoke a/nwanyi a
They eat all the eatables with the whites but when they get back home to us they claim Sango/Amadioha forbids eatery . . .
@Topic,Love lives in strange places,wherever u find urs,flow with it.

mummy3:
Immediately after our misunderstanding, he'll put on his cloths and head to his mum's place for complain without me knowing. Any time we have misunderstanding, whether im wrong or right, im always the first person to apologies to him through text message or phone call, we dont keep Grudge till the next day because i dont want my kids to know that we are quarreling, and personally i dont know how to keep malice generally. . For sex i have never denied him sex, except if im having my monthly flow.

As for my sisters and brothers inlaws they like/support me, They like coming to my place, they like eating my food, they like my kids. They are always against the way their mum handles me & my husband's issue. Actually we dont have misunderstanding all the time, few time we have, he will go and table it to his mother. And he will act on any advise the mother gives him.  And he likes telling me, if he act on everything his mother advice him, that our marriage wouldn't have lasted to date.

Has he always been like this or he changed overnight?

The hard part and the truth is this:your husband is a huge part of the problem by running to mom instead of staying home and working out a problem when you argue. Your problem is not with your mother in law, but with your husband. The fact that he runs to her house when you get into an argument is very mama's boyish.
Once he begins to put the marriage in its proper place, he'll be able to put his mother in her proper place.

You need to talk with your hubby and get on the same page. He has to quit running home to mommy anytime there's a problem.You guys obviously has communication problem.
Communication and mutual respect is lacking,have u tried "teaching" him?Talking with him on a good day?
Some boys just won't become men,sadly. 

Whatever you do,don't involve ur MIL any more than this,don't cry to her or try to engage her in a discussion abt this problem.

Na today?
I bet she was the one that chose ur wedding dress,food,venue and even wrote ur vows,LOL.
Look,its between u and ur mama's-boy husband.You have to "show" him that u are the new mama,infact the mama that has come to stay.
Try as much as possible to avoid whatever that leads to the squabbles.
Misunderstandings are bound to occur but how do u handle it?Flare up and sulk,deny him of congo or try to corner him with ur feminine powers then gently make him bend?
I tell ya,that husband of urs is verrry easy to manipulate,u should be the one manipulating him,what has mama got on u?He is a grown agbaya,treat him as one;corner him with biscuit o jare!

Personal view,as much as It is possible . . . FORGIVE.

^^Amen!.

@MissyB when wud ur brother marry Genevieve?
This love don too much,me sef dey envy

miftaudeen:
@ify,i dont understand u, but let dem understand d stand of islam on their christain activities.e.g chrismas&newyear,

I asked IF you ever eat outside ur home and do u ever eat or buy from Christians?

miftaudeen:
food dedicated in the name of jesus,praying in the name of jesus are all haram etc.

How so?where is the love and the unity we preach?
You walk out of ur neighbors home cos he blessed his food in Jesus name?what wud stop you from blessing the food in Allah's (swt) name or any way u deem fit

queend:
I hope I am not being too dependent but I really need advice anonymously thats why I come here.

A friend visited us today. This friend is the one that the sister confessed to that she was in love with my husband and he told my husband but warned him not to tell me. And he knew about the affair when I wasn't around. He and my husband were about to leave to visit a friend of ours who is married and I asked to go along and my husband refused adamantly. I insisted and he agreed by the time I changed and came out, they said they weren't going again that the person isn't around anymore.

My husband said he would just go and drop his friend.

Seems the man is still bent on sowing wild oats.
Is this friend even married?
Insisting on going with them is not gonna work,how long wud u baby-sit and monitor him?

He should decide to live responsibly without you fussing over him.
I think its time you really confront him upfront and tell him exactly how u feel and what u think of his behavior,he just cant be treating u shabbily,disrespecting u and the vows u made.Now,i don't think u should be satisfied with his so called "coming out clean" . .  .its more of  informing you of the latest development so you won't be caught unawares,a wake up call; get used to it or walk 

Have u guys been having marital problems before now?Does he want out or wants to frustrate u out of the marriage?
The goalpost just shifted,he shifted it anyway.Play a spectator for sometime and see how it works.

bump.

It wud be on in a couple of days,Cenation si super charged.

Do y'all eat out once-in-a-while

We are saying lets put everything behind us for those that lost their loved ones one way or the other

Is that statement really necessary?Does it make sense or sound right?

usisky:
[b]Dear  MODERATORS,

How  have i ever offended u guyz?  Please  tell me so i can  apologize.
I  abide by all your rules, i have never been slanderous toward any person(s), i  never uttered any  derogatory  statements  against any  person(s). Why  then do  u guyz  resent me? 
Every  time  i  try to  contribute  on  the  technology  section  and  the programming section, my NL  account  gets  locked-up.  Mukina  seems to be the moderator there. Please i ask u this, why do  you  keep  blocking my  posts?  Do  u really  hate  me that much. What  has the programming section got  to do with  religion.  If  u do  not  like my  religious  ideology, then keep to what u know to be true for you.
I  have  nothing  against any  person  or group. In fact, i do what i do  out  of the love i have for humanity. If i didn’t care, i wouldn’t  share  with u what took  me countless  sleepless nights and  hours upon  hours of  research and suffering my soul just because i wanted to uncover the truth .in fact  such a knowledge would’ve been of little or no worth at all if i did not share. I  dont  hate  any group, i only admonish, cos i know how difficult it is to embark on the quest for truth. Only  the  fearless, and those who  truly contemplate  about  GOD  go  to where i have been. If  one  offers a contrary  opinion to what u  believe, the onus  on  you  is  to atleast  investigate  it  rather than  ridicule.
Please  try  to be fair,  u are to mederate and not concentrate on a single individual. if the idea  of  NL forum was for every body  to have the same opinion, i really don’t  think it would be what it is today.
Try  to  be  muslims  that u say u are.  Salaaam!!!
[/b]

Salams
If your posts at the technology and programming section gets locked have u tried complaining on that section?
Technology,phone and computer sections are some of the sections where the spam bot easily and often go overboard . . .and especially with long posts,have u thought abt that

No point in making a mountain out of a mole hill.

Dis semid4life no be correct pesin.
Dude was practically having fun on this thread amidst all the pleas for a streamlined version of the match.

Which of the eagles or eaglets played @thread?

charleslov:
hello am charles how are you doing today

Idondie?

Possible but avoidable.The girl could have done better,change into plain clothes or something.
Desperate situations calls for desperate measures,innit.She has her reasons,no matter how stuuupid it might look to others.

Is there any hope in sight for Nigeria?

udezue:
Among the Aro it was quite okay for like 3rd cousins to marry. I am sure most modern day Aros no longer do that.

And i so disliked that,not that my opinion matter anyway
It sort of forced me to give my male 2nd and 3rd cousins 10 meters,I no want story,Aro guys are cute and my cousins are no exceptions.LOL

chaircover:
The problem with many many relationships these days is that people get stuck in a time warp and are unable to move on.

Something happens; its done. Nothing can change that. What is done is done. So what do you do? do you keep on hammering on the why did you do this and why did you do that? or do you (assuming that you want to continue with the relationship) learn from the experience and find ways that it doesn't happen again & move on.

The guy had an affair/fling whatever one wants to call it but the poster in her mind has decided to stay with him. She is understandably hurt and angry but she has decided to move on. What advise do we give her? Do we teach her to reach out to her husband and be his best friend in every way possible and to close all gaps or do we give her a stick to beat the husband with?

We can go on forever about the what if tables were turned etc but that wont solve anything but only cause more strife between them.

It is not every time you get a favorable answer from a partner the first time you approach a topic. You don't have to be on the same wave length with each other 365 days a year, but play your cards right and you will soon have him facing the same direction as you.

The guy is her husband and there are many ways & time for whipping his behind but right now the priority is to team up and get sister big bosoms out of the way. In cases like this being strategic wins over being emotional.

Well said.

No one is making choices for the OP.She was also given the option of doing it "why and what,gra-gra" way . . .and the possible outcomes.
It all boils down to what matters most to her now;her marriage intact or going on and on asking "why" rather than "what now?" .
She is the one wearing the shoe,shes made what she believes is the BEST choice for HERSELF.

@Op,are u by any chance a Ghanaian or Liberian?
Thread is hilarious.

. . .Just like u found their noise-making and car weird,same way they wud find ur ride and quiet disposition strange.
Funny post though,got me in stitches.

queend:
al hard. He called me from work the same day in the afternoon and asked me not to go. Well when he came back I tried to look happy and upbeat but later at night when he just said something that pissed me off, I burst out in anger and cried. He apologized and said he has told the lady that he won't contact her again and will not jeopardize our relationship with female friends.

He said he deserves anything I do to him. Now I have forgiven him and I am trying to trust again

I wish u the best in ur marriage.
Shine ur eyes,nose and ears . . .

I can only SMH.
Gawd,Y'all put urselves in prison because of man-made doctrines and religions?

Is ur God a catholic or Pentecostal?.

adamsrib:
Friendship
Communication
Determination
Patience
Forgiveness
A short memory
Sense of humor
Compatible sex drives
Love
God

lol . . .I so agree,a short memory and a wise head,u never wud be caught unawares.

In what looked like a show of shame, the entire arts community including the best of Nollywood stars threw caution to the wind on Monday, 21 March 2011 at Goodluck Jonathan’s presidential dinner with entertainment practitioners held in Lagos at the Eko hotel and Suites as they, shockingly, jostled to receive at least one carton of Jonathan’s branded biscuit and T-shirts.

Sculptors, movie producers, actors, authors, TV personalities, sports men, musicians among other creative artists all converged in high volumes as their representatives took turns on the podium to state their demands to the President whose table was surrounded by Senator Ita Giwa, Silverbird TV boss Ben Murray Bruce, Onyeka Onwenu and a few others.

With just two minutes accorded to each speaker TV presenter Mo’ Abudu challenged Goodluck, who’s seeking election to return to office under the umbrella of the People’s Democratic Party, on the sorry state of the Nigerian Television Authority (NTA), which she said is supposed to be a national pride and the one other TV stations should look up to as against what it is now.

‘What do we do about NTA? Mr. President can we make it work? All the station does is sell airtime; no programmes, nothing’, Abudu, an independent producer pointed.

Others like producer Amaka Igwe and comedian Ali Baba stressed that piracy is the major problem that is milking entertainers’ sweat, suggesting that a special anti-pirate squad should be formed within the Nigerian Police Force and equipped with necessary tools to enhance their effective delivery.

However, amid the cheer and merriment, it did not come as a surprise when Mr. Jonathan reiterated his basket of promises to Nigerian entertainers in his address, adding that he should have been closer to the industry before this time.

It’s not news that politicians come closer and get reasonable with the peoples’ demands only when election time is in sight. But Mr. President told them; ‘I’m not interacting with you because I need your votes’.

‘Entertainment is an area we don’t take serious, but it’s a key sector the Nigerian Government should look into. I need to be closer to you’.

Big Brother Africa host, IK Osakioduwa did a good job as the MC of the event as he pleaded decorum from the actors who almost strangled ushers sharing the ‘Goodluck Biscuits’ and souvenirs.

Disdain was apparent in the eyes of top-shot celebrities present (the likes of Genevieve Nnaji, Stephaine Okereke, D’banj, Ramsey Naoh, Olu Jacobs, Kanu Nwankwo, Jay Jay Okocha and a very few others) on seeing their colleagues guard cartons of biscuit and Jonathan’s branded T shirt under their arms with their last breathe as they exited the hall.

‘Oh my God, I can’t believe this. [b]Do this people know its biscuit inside that carton? [/b]This is a shame’, an A-list comedian tells NOLLYWOODGOSSIP.

@Bolded . . .LMAO.
It could be money in those cartons.lol

Never.

Kolomental

Barka Juma'ah