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noakchukibadan:
Hello,
Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another. I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member,many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage, although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE
There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children does anything wrong, she always those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.
She can go for months without we talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, i have begged, cried prayed . I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should remember that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that their is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago the man said unfortunately he can not do anything . This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no contact with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dare not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in contact with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they supported her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years , she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never came bother to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May , and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.
This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.
I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of her blood pressure 2 years ago.

IF THIS WHOLE STORY IS TRUE, Then sir, you have tried. you need a clean break.

BAD CHARACTER is like TOOTHACHE... you may have to remove the tooth.

See, the pastor and family deceived you. This is why I hate how marriage is done in Africa, THEY LIE TO SINGLES CLAIMING AFTER MARRIAGE TILL WILL GET BETTER only to marry then they start preaching to you to MANAGE.

In NIGERIA, MARRIAGE = MANAGING.

So, I can not say it is a spiritual matter, but with all you have said I feel you should prayerfully divorce her. And move on with your life lest you die early of HBP.

Investorsci:
thanks
Do u have any to share with me

the blackpanthar guy gave you the best answer, if you were looking for something lifelong lasting and not hasty quick cash simply try the following that I have personally seen and learned here on nairaland.

WEBSITE DESIGN
ANIMATION AND LOGO DESIGN
FIVERR
UPWORK
DOMAIN FLIPPING
DROPSHIPPING
CPA
ADSENSE
DIGITAL MARKETING
MINI-IMPORTATION
CRYPTO/FOREXX/BINARRY TRADING
Android App building

Do your deep search on nairaland and learn them all on Nairaland mostly for FREE and stick with the one that suits you.... I did that long ago and today am earning, I even added to my skills during this lockdown.

Saneesk:
Please suggest books for me that if i read I'll improve my mentality on money please

yes, JOIN E-library on telegram...

search inside the group/channel for START-UPs and you will see many books.

Your site has great content, I hope it works for Nigerians. It would be nice if you gave full 100% hands-on tutorials that would help people to have free data and also to make steady income even if it is 500 naira daily

Investorsci:
Good day nairaianders.

i ve come to realize that there are no genuine business online anymore.

i only come across scammers that want to reap off your money.

is there anyone earning online with prooff sholud come and prove me wrong.

waiting for serious comment.

Sorry bro but there are few of us really making good money online but it was not an overnight stuff....
Bitter truth is...
Real internet businesses exist BUT those of us doing it CAN NOT DEVOTE OUR TIME TO TEACH ANYONE .....

REAL LEGIT GENUINE online businesses require SKILL, TIME and in some cases MONEY to start.

As for scammerrrss many of them who advertise fast earnings here, make their money from gullible people who pay them.

PONZI
ADMOBB
PAY-PER-ACTION FORUMS
SHORT-TERM INVESTMENT PLATFORMS
STEWPEED FIXED MATCHES
VIRTUAL FOOTBALL
etc

So learn a skill or dedicate the time to earn legitimately online, BUT it will take a miracle for someone who is making money online to leave what they do and teach you all they know when they have no relations with you from Adam. Hope you understand? This is how life is.

father must be a cultist to have such anger... and should be arrested.

GreatResearcher1:
Good morning my christian brothers and sisters. Please I need answers to the following questions.
my questions would be taken from the book of Genesis.

Genesis. 3:14 So the Lord God said to the serpent:
"Because you have done this,
You are cursed more than all cattle,
And more than every beast of the field;
On your belly you shall go,
And you shall eat dust
All the days of your life".

Questions:
1. Snake feed on rodents and not dust. Why?
2. Earthworm go on belly. Why? Because earthworm never offended God.
3. If it was Satan who passed through a snake to deceived Eve, why is snake punished to go on belly and eat dust instead of Satan?

The first verse already showed that the serpent by itself was naturally more cunning than any of God's own creation, so it had to be punished. Because it was more cunning, it was easy for Satan to use its nature against man. So both had to be punished.


Snakes feed on rodents not dust... I believe the DUST that God was referring to was not physical dust but MAN THAT WAS MADE OF DUST.

earthworm by their name you should have know they are meant to be worms of the earth... so you should not have asked this.

Casemiro:
So there's this this shy chick I used to meet in one shop like that, and I developed interest in Her.



We exchanged contacts and all that and we've been flowing well on whatsapp.
She is this church type and have been refusing to visit, but I was shocked when she agreed during this lockdown.


Since no work for sometime now, she agreed and she has been in my flat for two days now.



If it's others we'll get down to business even if they're reluctant a bit.
This girl is something different, I mean why did she come? To discuss telemundo?



I have tried everything in my head but she just won't release the cookie. like WTF!!
I am a kinda guy that won't use force on a lady and I have limits to persuading a girl and even after resisting, with my sweet words and other tactics they give in.

She doesn't want to leave and I am confused


please what practical ways do you suggest to get this skinny fair Bae laid?


I don't want tomorrow now she'll say I raped her

You are the one that is the victim here. I tell you, pls RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.

Silasloaded:
It is a major step in the
relationship, hence, the first
impression can be a lasting
impression, potentially a lot
riding on it.
How you ensure you don’t
come off like some mannerless
person during this first
encounter is important.
Here are some five things you
should not do when meeting
your partner’s parents for the
first time
1. Glued to your phone
Avoid being on your phone,
texting, checking your email or
browsing social media. Your
spouse's parents might feel
dismissed and think that you
are not interested in getting to
know them.
2. Lie to make yourself look
good
Being fake instead of who you
truly are is a mistake that will
upset your partner’s parents.
You’re also likely to be found
out at some point and possibly
when it could really hurt your
relationship.
If your partner has accepted
the kind of person you are,
then his/ her parents should be
able to accept you too.
3. Publicly display affection
Although public displays of
affection can be a wonderful
thing, there is an appropriate
time and place for it.
This does not mean you have
to become cold, distant and
robotic, but it does mean you
need to know the audience you
are in front of.
4. Spark controversial topics for
discussion
Bringing up controversial topics
like religion, politics or sex is a
no go area.
Even if you definitely know
that your beliefs are in line
with your partner's parents,
some people still consider it to
be in poor taste to bring it up.
Better get to know them more
before raising such topics.
5. Talk only about yourself
Despite the fact that your
partner's parents are probably
very interested in getting to
know you, they also do not
want to spend the entire time
listening to your life story.
Try to find a balance in the
conversation by also asking
them questions to show
interest in getting to know
them as well.

PLS NEXT TIME, take time to make your post very neat and arranged.... its hectic trying to read this o

solite3:
excuse me? You say Jeeus does not know the human nature?

John 2:24
But Jesus did not commit himself unto them, because he knew all men,

John 2:25
And needed not that any should testify of man: for he knew what was in man.

Did you drop out from BIBLE SCHOOL?

see that verse 24? it means more than what you know.... HE DID NOT COMMIT HIMSELF TO THEM.... does that not show you why he did not want to commit himself to die for them... READ MY COMMENT WELL BEFORE YOU JAM TALK.

STOP JUMPING. I clearly said it.... but you are adding what I never said and quoting me. Oga be careful o.

UNCLEOKORO:
Hello guys .
I got a contract to develop a site 7 days ago for an ICT company in SA.
This site is just all about GUEST POSTING; you post your content on any Niche on their website and they paay you $1/post.

I just submitted the work and I believe they are yet to launch the site.
The reason for this post is to notify all interested NL to go check it out. (www.giversland.com) because I don't know how long the show will last.

boss there is nothing there for payment. NO HELP SECTION.... so how do we verify what you are saying

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HELLO? Pls how much is your price.

This is because she was not properly informed about relationship and love... THAT NO ONE IS WORTH DYING FOR...... NO ONE.

Even JESUS chose to die because he had assurance that he would come back.... just 33 years on earth, after seeing how human nature can be, he was almost changing his mind.... I SAY IT AGAIN, NO ONE IS WORTH DYING FOR.

darealez:
Here's a chance for investment trainers to get a word across to the public. All you need do is present a trustworthy investment training article, something people can learn from. Your article will be published on a free gospel E-MAGAZINE alongside your bio.

Forward article and bio to:
rccgkogyaya@gmail.com before May 15th to feature in the next release.

Only verified investment please.

Remember we rise by lifting others.

how am I sure this is legit.

Ausrichie:
Concepts as in?

LANGUAGE needs CONCEPT before communication can have any VALUE.

for example... POEM is the concept of Language... So also SONGS, same with SPOKEN WORDS....

In programming, the concept is THE SOLUTION YOU ARE TRYING TO CREATE

If you are trying to create a software that picks anyone's HUMMING and searches for the corresponding songs+lyrics, then that is a great concept.... with this concept you can build a team that will code... but the you will be the OWNER of such solution, your coding skills will only help you when working with those who are doing the main coding.

DO YOU GET? All am saying is become the next MARK ZUKERBERG, facebook is a concept... many code writers are in it.

slimderek:
Hello,

Over the past few years, I’ve been able to come up with a reasonable sum to further my education.
My current dilemma is this, I’ve been offered admission in both a Canadian school(University of New Brunswick) and a Belgian School(Thomas More University)

Tm University offered me a degree in computer science In English for three years and NB University offered me an arts degree for 4 years(They said I do not qualify for a science degree).

With the current Nigerian scenario what do I do?
Is there any other recommendations I could take?
I just need to get back to school.

Thanks

I do not think anyone can advice you simply for the OBVIOUS reason that WE DO NOT KNOW YOU AT ALL!!


You came here for advice on the path of destiny that is before you BUT NO ONE CAN CHOOSE THAT FOR YOU, It is solely your choice.

ADVICE IS WHAT PEOPLE ASK FOR WHEN THEY ALREADY KNOW WHAT THEY WANNA DO

You want to go back to school then SIMPLY GO.... but to ask us for what you should be doing is school is very very much your choice not ours.... It is a person we know that we can even GUESS what he could be good at based on his habits, traits and skills

Skillzystick:
You can actually make some cool cash amidst this lockdown. it's absolutely free.

Will teach you how you can mine ethereum.
You just need your phone or laptop.
Drop your WhatsApp number to be added to the group. It's absolutely free.

bros, you seem to be a NOVICE on NL, pls DROP YOUR OWN NUMBER... you are the one who needs people... you are the one who wants to help. DROP YOUR NUMBER.

People will be exposing their private numbers here and you will not be able to protect them when scammers, hackers, spammers send them msgs. so it is wiser for you to drop yours

Ancientbeing:
Good day Nairalanders, am sorry for any disturbances i may be giving individuals on this forum but this my baggage have pass containment in my room so aff decided to pour part of it here .
I am able to share this issue here, (thanks to Seun for creating a faceless forum) due to my anonimity.
For somewhile now (abt 3yrs) i have been staying @ my elder brother's place. Sometime last yr, he informed me that he's fiancee was to spend sometime in his place, i was cool with it.
As a junior bro to him, i took it upon myself to do majority of the petty house hold chores which i dont see as anything but since his fiancee landed in the house, hell let loose!
I don't know if she does it on purpose, whatever i arrange , within minutes, its misplaced.
I still do all the cooking in my bro's place not minding that she's a girl but after cooking and cleaning up, she enters the kitchen and sprays heavy amounts of water all over(talk more of if she should cook).
Her room is a dump of clothes, she wears rumpled clothes to go out.
I'm tired of her.
So presently, i am confused .should i leave my bro's house or should i advice my bro against marrying her.
I have endured several annoying personalities in the past but a kind like hers , i have never seen. Help!!!

SIMPLY MIND YOUR BUSINESS. Never tell your brother such because you can not see what he sees.

IF YOU MUST, do it in a coded way for example give him books or films or posts that teaches who a real wife should be.

TheAk:
I got an Itel s13 as a temporary phone and it's specs (especially the camera) are quite good. It only has one glaring flaw; it's internal space is just 8gb and as consequence it gets full easily.
I use a plethora of apps on my phone so low storage isn't a con I can manage.
Luckily for me I had a 32gb memory card and inserted it with the hopes of moving my apps to the external storage but I got another dead end, the "move to SD card" option was nowhere to be found. I've been tinkering for days but the situation hasn't improved.

Below are screenshots of some of my apps and their interface.

DOWNLOAD move2SD apps, THERE ARE MANY OF THEM.

Once you download, just open the apps and do it.

Its simple

bsalawu:
Neatly used 2007 mitsubishi outlander for Sale.

Kindly find the attached pics useful.

Contact on 07052816794.

Location: Lagos.

PLS SIR, why not put the price... instead of putting RECOVERY.... we know you are trying to recover money... just put price abeg

nabiz:
To go straight to the point, this is the second time my five years old daughter is telling my wife that she loves me more than my wife. This is giving me a great concern. I have a wonderful family infact my wife is the best woman on earth. I don't really know why my daughter should be saying this. I love my wife and prefer my children to love her more. Pls do you think the five years old girl meant what she say. What should I do or what should my wife do. I have notice that my wife is not have about that. Pls advice me

you spend more time with them probably... SO SWITCH.

let your wife spend most of the time with them.... AND you will see a difference. The little girl does not understand what she says yet... ALSO watch whatever she watches and her little friends and her books.... keep her morally clean and you will raise a wonder little princess

Redomi:
People use to say corona virus have no respect for anybody but I have not see madman with the pandemic. You may do your research.

WE ALL OBSERVE SOCIAL DISTANCING WHEN WE SEE MAD MEN.... so they are not victims. CORONA is for SANE EDUCATED peeps.

If COVID-19 is spread by touching... sneezing, closure... AND THESE THINGS ARE NOT AVAILABLE TO MAD MEN.... why would you expect them to catch it.
ON A NORMAL DAY, would you allow a MAD MAN TOUCH YOU? If NO, then why bother asking such a question.

paul100:
While at house,a pastor closed to my house always tell her members that if she prays for any of her members and God bless the person.
Then the person maybe decide to change church or stop coming to see her.She will pray for the person to go back to his/her initial stage.Is that good.Will God answer that kind of prayer?

A twist narrative...


IF HEARING FROM GOD OR GETTING ANSWERS TO PRAYERS WERE EASY YAHOO BOYS WOULD BE PRAYER WARRIORS....

That lady pastor (IF SHE IS A LEGIT SERVANT OF GOD) has been hurt and pained and offended by many she trusted would remember her after she has helped them.... YET they forgot her. I remember feeding my puppies for 5 months and taking care of them daily before I resumed university, I stayed in school for one year plus, one day I came back to my house and the dogs didnt recognize me, they attacked me and I got bitten in 3 places.... I WAS HURT... but my the dog bite BUT that the dogs I took care of, could not recognize me and the one I loved so much was the fiercest to bite me.

NOW imagine the prayers and plenty fastings the woman may have done ONLY to be forgotten. IT IS LEGIT PASTORS that suffer most in this country while the FAKE ONES are the applauded ones that everyone hails.

So, pray for her, the devil has attacked her mind.


IF SHE IS FAKE... then she would not need to announce anything because she knows how to get powers to return those people back to zero.

Ausrichie:
What can I specially use lua for please? Feel like learning a new language.

Learn chinese, mandarin etc... COS THEY ARE HERE TO TAKE OVER AFRICA soon.

Advice from a Programmer to Another... STOP LEARNING LANGUAGES, LEARN CONCEPTS

Victoreeah:
Hi everyone,
During last year October.. I was sick and rushed to general hospital...

I was lying there alone since the doctor was not attending to me yet..a man came in and saw me crying.. I explained I was sick and in pains..so he went to the doctor and I was attended to...
I was asked to do some tests the next day...and he promised to come that next day...

My dad came to the hospital the next day cuz where he stays is far to where I live with my elder sister (my mum is late)and I told him what happened..

The man came as promised and took me to where I did the tests even though the line was long we were let in immediately they saw him..but he put on the same cloth from yesterday
He paid for my tests and bought me the required drugs, foods, drips,and drinks...
I was surprised cuz I didn't know him at all..
After I got better I called his line but it was switched off..

Until one day he called me and said he was coming to my sister area..he came and to my surprise he wore the same cloth again....
When I went back to the hospital...
He was not known there...
I got confused till date and his line isn't going through
I didn't even get to know his name...
Is it just a coincidence or normal..

Pls if this is real, maybe you should wait for his next call to ask him.

meanwhile, kindly drop the name of the movie here