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I say No bcoz there is the risk of passing it down to your children and then making them surfer all through life. Condom is no guarantee that you would not contact HIV or get pregnant, the thing is no matter how careful you are, you are bound to slip up by mistake, if i love you then i will be there for you but no to the point of marriage.

But at the end it depends on how he got HIV, if he cheated, then he should live with it, that is absolutely not my business. i am not discriminating against those with the disease, i truly sympathize with them, but i care about myself and my future and wouldn't like to jeopardize it for anyone.

I say don't waste your time trying to move to USA bcoz trust me you won't be able to make the kind of money you make in nigeria, forget about the hype that life is good in america, and when you come here you end up working from hand to mouth, i wish i had stayed in 9ja, i know i would have had a better life, which is why i am moving back permanently this year.

is he still married, last i heard is that he was having problems bcoz of his acting career.

No bcoz they still think with their head up their a s s

Dude the same way a man would claim they love someone and then stick their thing in another. so quit hating if she decided you were not good enough for her.

why would you waste someone's time for 2 and half years and then decide u don't want to marry her. dude you deserve to be kicked in the ballz.

Donzman:
Try wearing high heels bro., that should put you over the top.

LOL i agree 100%

i agree with Sayoh, you are just making excuses, i bet the newtwork was bad bcoz everyone was calling everyone, i know bcoz i called all my relatives to wish them happy new year. just stop making excuses to dump your gf bcoz they aren't even good ones.

ya, it felt like the right thing to do at the moment, and watching him go ooooo and fall on the ground was priceless

Just dump him there is no 2 way about it, he can't eat his cake n have it too,

oh n don't forget to kick him between his legs.

i would feel like kicking him in his nuts so he feels half of the pain i feel n i will make him pay 4 using me

i will say move on, Love is when you love someone and that person loves you back in a relationship love cannot be onesided.

Stay away from her, never let a woman come in between you guys, women come and go but friendship lasts a long time, put yourself in your friend's shoes, then maybe you would figure out what to do,

my point is she is with someone else, and your bestfriend for that matter, so please put your feeling aside and use your brain bcoz i would not blame your friend if he finds out and decides to kick your a s s.

How do you fall in love to the point that it messes up your mind, i dunno why guys pull stunts like that you fall and you can't think straight at work to the point that you might lose you job, that is just really messed up. i guess you should quit your job and stalking her, which is stupid, or you could get your mind or brain back and get back in the game,

anyway she can't just dump you for no reason, except if you became clingy, women hate that stuff you know.

davidylan:
my dear, quit the attitude. It wont get you very far. A lot of men including my humble self will not consider marrying a fulltime housewife because my own mum worked herself out to provide for us too.
But an attitude like yours coming into a marriage where compromise, patience, humility (i don't mean slavish submission!) and longsuffering are essential ingredients will not augur well.

Every man is going into a relationship fully aware of his financial responsibilities which is why naija men marry late. How do you pay school fees? what of a mortgage? How do you take collective financial decisions? By asking him to bring 50% while you do the same? What if one of the parties has a financial downturn for some reason or the other. Will you be borrowing him money?

I really don't have an attitude or anything of that matter, i understand everything the Bible says about marriage, and how you have to compromise and all that stuff, but like everyone else i have limits.
i mean i'm not stupid to just jump into a marriage without laying out issues that matter, like seperate accounts that way i don't have to keep asking you for everything, and me not being a fulltime housewife, and others. both parties have to be in agreement before it can work, and having seperate account doesn't mean i am disrespecting my husband.

davidylan:
@ ima1

i agree with you that a woman needs to protect her interests, but when she's married her husband's interests become hers too. Marriage is not two people struggling to contribute 50:50, its about two people becoming one and doing things as one regardless of who pulls the financial strings. What of women who are full time housewives? will their husbands also be justified to open separate bank accounts and keep the woman begging for money to buy toothpicks?

Now the thing there is that i am not gonna be a fulltime house wife, not after i have wasted six years in school and getting all those degrees, Marriage is about 50;50, i agree with that and respect that, but he should pull his own financial strings and i should pull mine.

@gbengaijot
you gave a perfect example, if you have a girlfriend then you come up with lies about how you spent the money, why not have your own money that way you don't have to lie or explain.

Lol, i agree with you dating for more than one year is always the best that way you get to know the guy. but a woman has to protect her interest

Surprisingly not all men run things through their wives before doing something stupid, or when they do and she says don't do it, they say are you the man of the house.

to me the advantages of having seperate account outweighs that of having just one, i will not want to explain why i need to use my money, when you keep asking he starts saying you are spending too much, now that is total bullshit.

As long as the Bible doesn't say share One account, i am not doing anything wrong but protecting my own interest.

lets say for example he does some bad investment with our money without telling me, and looses everything, what do we fall back on, now if my husband does some shit like that, don't expect me to sit down and be poor with you.

Meet her as the guy she said Good morning to at the Cafe, this is a whole new opportunity, get off your butt and say something, stop being a wimp.

davidylan:
@ coco29

If your mind is on divorce right from the wedding day then you're not likely to see any reason to share one bank account. However if you are determined to make your marriage work in good or bad times then having a joint account is just another good way to strengthen the bonds.

One's mind doesn't have to be on Divorce, i agree with Coco29, sharing account seems like a good idea until the man wants to leave you then everything becomes his own. My parents have seperate account even though my dad makes more than my mom, Trust me she does the entire work and they have been married for 26 years. The fact is that almost every man is stingy when it comes to money, why should i give you a reason to spend my own money, its my money i should use it how want.

even if he was making more than me, Trust me i will still want my own account.

As for me that is not happening, especially when i am making more than him, bcoz there is no way i am going to be begging give me some money to cook and then he goes out there and spends my money on booze and women.

yeah that totally sucks for you, geez why did she decide to lie like that, when she starts lieing like that then there is no need believing she still love you bcoz she doesn't and you are wasting your time worrying about her, i think its time to let go dude.

Yeah Britney's crossroads was just gross, i heard she got an award for worst actress, its just like that stupid film Madonna made with her husband Guy Ritche, it was nasty, n i don't even know the name of the movie,.

ya it will be good if there way a picture, i don't even like p-square that much so i don't think i should give a crap who he dates.

RMD will not change for me, i think the grey hair makes him more hotter and attractive

all i will say is, watch the new movie Girls Cot and then make your decision.

Ini Edo just have the booty thing over Genny but Genny kicks a s s with beauty

i have a huge crush on this guy Mark ruffalo, geez why do they have to be married.

He is just looking for his fair share of britney's money, hope she doesn't stupidly fall into this like she did with K-fed,
speaking of K-fed, i believe he is gonna get his a s s kicked by John Cena, what a sucky way to ring in the new year.

obedz:
@ima1

why wont u want to go for tat poorest man, the guy is sexy o plus e dey humble

Being sexy and humble will take you no where if you are the poorest man in the world, n why i go wan sentence myself to death, i will only marry an average poor guy, if i am rich becoz 1 poor+1 poor = death, love no dey even exist for that kind situation.

n i know wat it is to be poor, so God forbid bad thing.