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ChristoBam:
Not when her lawyer was present when she signed the deal.

Shebi you said her own lawyer.Is he a psychiatrist to know her mental state?

DisGuy:
Just to balance things out a bit..

There are stories aplenty of Men bringing women from Nigeria and elsewhere, who 'cook' them up well well, get them signed up for all the care training, RN courses and other lucrative easy entry roles with bucks coming. Then sit back and reap their investment, hop into Naija frequently to celebrate their accomplishment by getting hooked to Fresh/Fresher Naija girls who won't mind have a far away hubby sending salary for her and new baby's upkeep

Once these imported women wisen up,cash stream stops then that's where trouble begins and we start hearing of killings.

BenNash:
Those men sef no really smart. If I want to bring a wife directly from Nigeria, na better prenup I go prepare.
This back stabbing stuff by women sef is not only common among Nigerians. It happens to citizens that also bring wives from Ukraine, Bulgaria, Philippines, e.t.c

She can claim she was pressured into signing a prenup ,mental state was not okay when she signed it so prenup may become null and void.

Everyone should be careful dazall

Geetrix:
Wailing like Eboue

Is like you don't know the story!!!
A world class footballer, who went bankrupt and homeless on the streets, everything he had given to the wife.

Geetrix,
The court would ensure money is split in a not too bad way.Whoever has the kids generally gets house etc and whoever earns more must make sure the same standard of living is maintained be it female or male.
Plus lost income being a stay at home parent enabling the main earner concentrate on furthering their career.

A lot is considered.

Choose your partner wisely, whether African or Caucasian it's still the same outcome if court enters.

Naija men that marry Caucasians generally tend to have a brain reset naturally.

Come and see them cooking ,cleaning,burping their children without complaint.
Its mostly when they see Naija women they try to flex muscle.
Here, relationships have expectations..you are expected to do your own bit.
I still don't understand the going back to Nigeria to poach a wife,once she gets here and understands the system she becomes wiser and stops being intimidated by the egoistic man.

Every Mallam to his kettle.Marry who you love ,someone who you are passionate about and a person who is on a similar standing or at least close to you so that even if it ends and the assets are split in two,no one will be wailing like Eboue.

Geetrix:
Had issues with my SJT, will be trying again in April. Otherwise, i'll just go into A&E

I'm sorry about that.
I used pastest.What did you use?
The questions were so hard.
I don't know what I scored yet.
Is it GP you still tried for?
Don't worry ,you will get in round 2.They are desperate.
Cheers!

Geetrix,
How was the exam? Have you attended any interviews?

Op,it's shocking to hear his sort of thing in 2018.
Have you ever heard of any guy worrying about the course he should study because he doesn't want to turn girls off
Let me ask o,so if the response on this thread is that medicine is a turn off what will you do?Change course?
You are still too young to allow your mind to start revolving around what a man wants or doesn't want.
Your focus should be on YOU,what YOU want,YOUR goals and ambitions.Where do you see yourself in 5 years career wise?What specialty?

That is what a sensible girl should be thinking,being a BOSS lady.Setting a standard,making her own money so that she can buy what she wants,she can live the life she wants without being dependent.

A man who is worthy of you will come along..a man who is your equal not the type that marry based on career not the human being they want to spend their lives with.

Medicine is a long winded road,filled with twists and turns..I suggest you start setting your priorities right and focus.

I'm assuming you are below 18,if you are older..

Good luck

tuscani:
Your likes will fight their daughter in law to standstill if she does not respect her husband, in this case your son. go and learn from women that grew up in a proper family setting. It is clear you are raised by a single mother . Quote me wrongly at your peril

I'm so scared of you,yes afraid of the peril from the internet
Yes,I wasn't raised well,it's single cat that brought me up
Will you adopt me and teach me how to respect men?

Xisnin:
So you live in a society where government take care of mad people but you want Nigerian
citizens most of whom are struggling to cater for mad men.
How can random citizens give meds to a mentally challenged person?

Good luck with your twisting of my words..Where did I ask a random citizen to give meds.
This discussion is over.

Xisnin:
How many mad men are you accommodating in your house?

A person is not mad,it's called mental illness.
I do not live in Nigeria ,I live in a sane society where the needs of people like this are attended to.
They live in homes/ are institutionalised and are attended to by the Community mental health team which I am a part of.
By the way,I did not ask for you to accommodate them,all they need is meds and common human kindness

Its actually 'normal' people like you who roam around nak ed when drunk/ high on drugs and are taken in by police

Instead of helping him,people are focusing on apron.
This man of given the right cocktail of meds &rehabilitation may be able to function as a member of society.
People who have mental illness should not be roaming the streets in 2018,they shouldn't be photographed just to be made fun of.

Very insensitive & unkind.

I think one of the reasons for frustration in this marriage is that the OP brought in naija style of marriage,the type where duties are relegated to woman type and man type.

Op you both failed to work together and support each other.You mentioned something about the children going hungry and I want to ask if you are handicapped?So you were busy marking time and waiting for hunger to finish your children because it's your wife's job to feed them? Both of you should have been able to work with and round each other.If She's in school ,you deal with home stuff,if you are in school she does home stuff.This is the only way to survive abroad especially for a couple who are still finding their feet.

You both can choose one thing after another esp with her own ambition..na turn by turn till you stabilise.A happy loving home situation with calm discussions would have taken care of this.After all,you love each other.

Its easy to see how she became cold towards you.Stress and thinking de kill am.She left Naija not really knowing what America is.You sef hustling and school stress would make things more tense at home.All you both need is understanding & working side by side.You must drop all your preconceived notions about marriage and forge your own style.

Its veey disappointing that at the smallest hint of trouble you went to a stripper and worst of all you were doing 69..no hiv test,you don't know if she has herpes,you carried your wide mouth and chooked inside stripper Kini..

Your wife was wrong ,very very wrong for the words she said,it was below the belt.Please forget Awaan,she CHOSE you,she CHOSE to be with you.People hurt each other and say horrible things sometimes when arguing especially as a semi newly married couple.She tried to atone by offering herself to you and she was humiliated by your rejection/ lack of erection..
She really had no choice but to leave and have some space.

This marriage is very young & can be salvaged.Its not too late.The time apart can help you both re evaluate & decide to help each other out.Ambition when supported within reason can yield massive fruits

Go and save your marriage,kpatakpata wear red pant..Good luck

You already know her family history, you know her history, it makes you uncomfortable.
Is she a runs girl? Trust your instincts, it's ringing alarm bells for you.
Move on & find peace.

And social media is the place to divulge that you are broke and cannot eat?
When they presented the list you could not open your wide mouth and protest?
Many families make that list the barest minimum nowadays & stand up for their prospective inlaws.I cannot wait for it to be banished completely so that we can all be on equal footing.
She is probably from a hungry family who sees her as a source of income.
As for her husband's friends who are protesting and saying they won't near Igbo women, did anyone beg them?
Love will come from anywhere.
Nonsense

biggie10:
Do you know what it feels like when you discover that a child you loved, cherished and took care of. Thinking he/she was your seed, but then find out that he/she belongs to someone else.

This is Way different from ordinary cheating. The man may have cheated but The woman cheated, got pregnant and bore the child to the man under the impression that the child was his.

How does showing the picture of the child help his case??How is it the fault of the child?? A child that has been calling you daddy from day one? It is only a heartless person that would throw that away.No child deserves it,no child begged to be born.
As long as they keep the innocent child out of their whoring,i'm ok.

Th

Serves him right..No pity here.

And he had to show the picture of the innocent child coupled with that disparaging message?
What is wrong with people!!!Why can't irresponsible adults leave children out of their nonsense??
Can he say his trouser has stayed zipped?He never climb another woman?
Abeg he should shift and go and work on his marriage like his mates are doing and leave this poor child out of it.
Stupid people

Geetrix:
buy 80,000 pounds bitcoin and watch it double double after 1 month

wicked human being

Ralphlauren:
you had better bind the devil quickly and ignore them.

erase any thought of investing your savings in bitcoins.

I bind the devil immediately.I no dey do again.
Thanks Mr Ralphlauren

Ligxy:
Honestly, I noticed that.
Investing a little in cryptocurrency (bitcoins and altcoins) is not a completely bad idea tho. It doesn't have to be much.

Bitcoins?? Ahh I'm very scared of it ..If I decide to venture,what platform do I get on to.buy?

Why is this on the Front page? This girl is nekkid and this might be a form of blackmail,how are we sure this guy isn't using this as a way to revenge?
NL mods should know better..

It is indeed shocking how this OP has made excuses for her failure of a boyfriend and heaped blame on the other lady.
I'm with your friend who thinks you can do better.You have been dealing with a man who refuses to be responsible,no career,no prospects,nothing.All he does is drink ,spend all his money on alcohol then proceeds to let you fund his lifestyle.

You both had a fight and his response was to invite a lady to his house to have unprotected se X,he didn't even think of his own health or STDs or the fact he has you? Your man owes loyalty to you,the other lady owes you NOTHING.He chose to go raw and must reap the consequences.Condoms are cheap and is a shared responsibility.Why should she have an abortion to please an irresponsible man,i wonder why she would even want to have a child by a loser.


Point is this man is a liability,the sooner you put him out of your life,the better.Ther are better well read hardworking young guys out there.You are better off with a man who isn't bringing in daily drama for you.

I understand that the self protective instinct is making you lash out,but if you think deep and properly you'll realise that you have been wasting your time on a no good fellow.

Meanwhile,no one trapped him..he made a decision to have se X.If you marry him,you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of pain..he will do worse I can bet on it.

You have no right to call a child a bastard.That is a wicked thing to say.It is people like your boyfriend that go about inseminating women and refusing to be responsible that creates fatherless children.The innocent child did not ask to be born..bastard ko bastard ni. Wicked people.

Ryannn:
Nice thread I must say, motivating much. Plz @ukmigrant, or @iamconfused.. What are the prospects of emergency medicine in UK? I keep hearing it's promising . Ur replies ll be much welcomed..
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Emergency medicine needs people as they have very very serious staff shortages..The working hours and shift patterns are horrendous.They are begging for people ,jobs every corner.
You'll need to take plab first get registered and go from there.I believe the usual pathway is via core medical training then branch to emergency medicine?
Some also go the locum training way into consultancy,again I'm not sure about all these,when you come in there will be lots of people to guide you.

chukxy:
In addition to the suggestions given to you so far, I want to suggest if you already have basic IT knowledge; then, the best is to go into App development with regards to medical field. I think this does not actually required too much mathematics.

You can be developing App for android or/and ios phones. For Android platform, you will need to learn Java programming language. For iOS, you will need to learn Objective C, swift etc. There are some online courses at Coursera that can bring you up to speed if you want.

The good thing about this, is that you can be developing interesting apps with regards to medical field, for instance App to monitor diabetes patients, monitor stroke patient ,diagnose some common diseases etc.

This will help you remain focused in your medical field.

Thank you so much for.your input,I have learned a lot.

Aphrodite007:
Hi. Been reading this thread and I really like your input. Concerning your interest in IT, I will advise you to enrol for an ECDL class (European Computer(/ing) Drivers License, or so). It covers the basics of MS Office and would test you on what you’ve learned. This way you have your basics in check. Whether or not you want a career in Computing, this will give you an advantage at work. The Comptia trinity is meant for people that want to go in-depth into IT, it helps to have a passion for IT first.

A+ is for Computing architecture and covers knowledge of how to fix hardware problems (opening of your laptop/desktop and software/hardware diagnostics).

N+ is for basic networking. (It’s not as lucrative as it once was but the knowledge would still be good).

S+ Is for security (which is currently one of the most lucrative parts of Computing).

You must not learn a language, however having basic knowledge of one is good (it’s like a doctor having knowledge of first-aid application/procedure).

I hope this helps. Apologies for derailing the thread.

Thank you very much for this,very helpful.

Its a fantastic gift..wonder why he's complaining.
Definitely will spice up their se X life.
Will.help her discover herself,direct him accordingly and also give her powerful orga sms,cheii!!
What's not to love about it?I'm sure the wife is secretly praising God

fatima04:
Hmmmn. Think this will be part of my culture shock. How do one handle it really and raising the young ones in a westernised environment.

Is spanking without marks on the kids allowed?

I think adults and children should learn to respect people & be tolerant of others no matter what their se xual orientation is..
Coming from naija it may be hard but you will get to work with &mix with all sorts & will see that wonderful beautiful people come in all sorts of packages and have a right to love whomever they choose.
At first you will frown and hug your Bible but after a while you will learn that you can love people even if their lifestyle doesn't agree with you.I think it's important for kids to see that.

For spanking,my sister o you will have to learn to utilise your mouth and talk talk talk..you are permitted to smack as long as you leave no marks.. but in Scotland it's going to be a criminal offence soon.discipline at your own discretion.Some kids are remorseful if you shine your evil eye,others may need one moment of Jackie Chan.My babies are still toddlers so I'm doing trial and error.

I heard a story about someone who's daughter came back from school with homework ,she let her do it herself and didn't have energy to check it over.However the next morning something told her to look and check so she opened the book only for her to see that the homework was for her to make a sentence with the word 'slap'.
The child wrote my mum slaps my sister all the time or something along that line.
You can imagine what would have happened if she submitted it at school.Social services sharp sharp.
All in all one has to be careful as the teachers always pry and ask questions,some innocent some not so innocent.
Once you are on their radar,you are finished o.
So sofri sofri with naija method..its not like it's even effective all the time.

Cheers!

Bossman:
Yes, absolutely. You have to be dedicated of course. What IT skills are you looking at software development/programming? IT itself is broad - programming, DB admin, Networking. Of course, programming is the hottest right now. If you are looking to get into that, it advice you choose one of the major programming languages (I'd suggest Java, since I have been doing it for donkey years, and have had a great career out of doing it) out there and learn programming thoroughly. In general, people that find mathematics/problem solving easy, tend to be successful programmers. Not saying one can't be a programmer if they do not like math, however it will not be easy. Should not be an issue for you, since you are a Medical Doctor. S, you've done a lot of Math.

To be honest,me and maths are like chalk and cheese.
I just can't tolerate extra mathematics outside 1+1 and titration of meds..
I'll just watch and see what happens.
Thanks ...

Falzdbadtguy1:
Somebody reported me for posting "off topics", so the ID is banned and i have deactivated the account.
I will have to take a new monniker soon.

What usually follows is this one will get banned as well for another 50 years or so.
If she's serious, i posted my email address

I'm not desperate, but you never know where you meet REAL friends

Sorry about that,very odd about all this banning nonsense .I thought its usually tribalistic stuff and p orn that gets banned.NAwa o.
There's nothing bad about you and the lady networking, you could meet up and chat over coffee or even become travelling buddies.
Better to chat with her via pm,she was quite bold and it was refreshing to see.
Enjoy your evening sir.