Clesiues:
Hi guys there is this company that is looking for a customer service representative
Interview date is 11am
5th july
If u are interested message me on facebook let me direct u to them
Note:if u finally get the job u go find something for me o https://facebook.com/mal.surg am online now

ajailer:
it's got to do with their religious beliefs. they don't want the pee splashing on their body when they pee and it's even why u see them wash the tip of their male organ after urinating

Familytalk9909:
Hi Nairalanders,

I had to create this account just so I can get the opinion of men and women and not just the married people on here if I can learn a thing or two from you all.

I am a young guy who has been married for over 6 years with 4 beautiful kids. I tend to leave my financial aspect with my wife(meaning I save most of my money with her till I need it for business or acquiring properties) because when we were dating she was more responsible financially than I am and she knows exactly how much I am worth and I still do that till today. I keep investment funds and savings that run up to millions in her account while I keep the fraction which is needed for our family day to day and shopping expenses.

While I think its not irresponsible of me because I trust my wife and she knowing how much I am worth, when I am rich and when I am broke, I am transparent with her and it saves me the trouble of requesting for things when she knows I can't afford them and she looks out for the best interest of the family.

My mother knows about this and my siblings and they have been complaining for years, saying this is wrong. My mom says it is irresponsible and its never safe to be too transparent with your spouse. I don't plan on changing how I run my family.

Over to you nairalanders, do you think this is right or or wrong and please give reasons.

aceman88:
Good day brothers and sisters.

Please, a cousin of mine has been treating a foot infection for the past two years without any improvement. Orthodox medicine didn't solve the problem neither did native (herbal) medicine.

I will appreciate if doctors in the house can tell me the name of the infection and the names of drugs that can cure it.

Thanks .

Mods,. Please, front page.

She was told that she stepped on poison.

Mywd:
I have reserved FOREX pdfs for you from A-Z..
Just drop your telegram contact.. Thank you

Mywd:
Just drop ur whatsapp contacts if you are fully ready

ayomikuolatunji:
How can retrieve or get money I sent to a wrong account back? From sterling to wema bank this night 44k to be precise
Lalastical

Freshbank:
Please moderator push it to front page

This is my first post and I'm writing from the comfort of my lodge celebrating my honeymoon but I'm not very happy. I truly want to know others opinion on the issue causing my unhappiness ( please for those of you who would say brought my marriage issues to the public, just try to be civil, I said I want to get your opinion if it where to be you how will you handle it).

Straight to the subject matter I just got married less than a week, the entire marriage plan was drawn by my spouse and I we both agreed on what to spend and how to go about it, during the whole planning process my wify was super supportive (I have to acknowledge her before I throw in the complain). I trusted her judgements that I entrusted the execution of the marriage plans to and her families while I provide the funds, of which she was also covering some of the expenses I forget to cover. From caterers, mc, live band, renting of canopies, chairs, deco, make-up etc everything was left for her to handle since we were doing it in her home town the only service I brought someone to cover was the coverage (cameraman). I had to send the cameraman there the previous day before the event because she said she needed the cooking process to be covered and other stuffs before our arrival.

Fast forward to the main day, it was about 3:30 mins drive to her home, we (I and my kinsmen) arrived five minutes to 12pm it was during that time some chairs were carried in, the arrangement was not very organized, by 2pm MC was no where to be found, the couple's stage and the cake design was like the expression "what I ordered for vs what I got". In preparation she traveled to Onitsha to buy stuff including gift items but all the cars that accompanied me I didn't see anyone with any of the souvenirs. Some of you might want to think from the description that my wife is unexposed but this is someone that has lived and worked in the Emirates (UAE), being to Britain, Italy and some few others.

After the whole function when we got back I was very angry not because of the shabby execution of a well planned marriage but the facts the she thinks I should commend her for her efforts and stress she went through and not the opposite. The way I look at the issue is like you registered for a course with 50 points as benchmark then u score 15 and you're expecting a "part on the back" or songs of praise. I ain't perfect but I love excellence, my sadness lies in the facts that I don't want to start our home with discord at the same time i can't tolerate or live with this kind of argument. The argument is that she claims it wasn't her fault, the people she designated could not meet up to expectations but every of the plans were drawn by just two of us only. Imaging spending so much to get very little outcome.

If you're in this situation what will you do? Thanks

GreaterFuture:
Some people say that it seems as if Plantain gets Ripens faster when at home compared to when it is at the seller's Store, this may be true but I'm not sure
Anyways How do I Slow down or delay the Ripening process in Plantain?
PS: I don't have a freezer

Pancakeey:
Yinmu
Nonsense talk
Why should a stranger message me without going to the point.
I’ll not even reply the person

And if you’re referring to that HR chat then the HR was very unprofessional.
You’re messaging an intern with hi and you’re still asking the person to calm down.
Is that one HR?

A normal HR will state everything about them and the company in one message
Talo raye “hi” “hello”

Zzor:
Good morning to you all, I know i would get a correct advise and steps to take here over my mistakes. I met this man who lives and work in the US on one of the social media networks and we became chat buddies, strictly platonic and nothing more, he told me how he lost his wife to cancer some years back and have been unable to remarry, he told me about his only child (a girl) who lives with his mum here in Nigeria, I get to know much about him from our chats and I realized he has not seen his daughter for some years now and there was no communication with his daughter for almost two years. The reason was that the mum told him never to call her again since he has refused to remarry and will only speak with him when he has found a wife, he's the only child of the mum and they are from a very wealthy home, the mum is eager and so desperate for more kids from him (you understand how our mothers behave on issues like this). During one of our conversation, he suddenly asked if I would consider him for marriage and I replied with a solid No, he then begged me to play along as he intends Introducing me to the mum as his fiancee just so he could speak with his daughter, he sent me crying videos of how he misses his daughter and how his mom kept to her words, I sympathized with him and saw the eagerness and somehow I agreed to speak with the mom and play along so he will achieve his aim of speaking with his daughter. The next day his mum called and I could hear the excitement in her voice, she was so happy and didn't even care of other things, she spent more than an hour with me on phone and told me alot, by this time I was already scared but can't withdraw. That was the beginning of this whole problems, his mum now call me on daily basis, through her I have spoken with aunties and uncles of this man I haven't even met, recently she sent someone in my location to check on me and she brought really expensive gifts for me,she wanted to visit me but I somehow was able to convince her that she should wait till her son comes back which is next month. I have complained to this man of how he got me into a trap I didn't bargain for and he keeps begging and sending crying videos and telling me to do this for him so as to establish once more a good relationship with his mom and daughter and that when he comes back, he will sort out everything. Now this whole thing has really weigh me down, I don't sleep well anymore, I've lost weight and my heart skips each time my phone rings, my mum keeps asking me if anything is wrong but I can't get to tell her, I'm depressed already. Please help me with advise on what to do and how best to remove myself from all this. Please don't bash me and I'm not a good writer too, pardon me.

some50686:
Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her

Discombulator:
Since senseless begging as become the order of the day I might as well help some people afterall I bet I'm the only person that is actually capable of making good on my word.
400 airtime for first 20 people, I don't care who you support i don't particularly like any of them anyways.
After 20 people if you drop your number you've just wasted your time

IRIEBOY:
hi nairalanders.

yesterday I was scammed 10000 naira by someone impersonating BB9ja housemate Kiddwaya on twitter. I never knew that's a fake account ... below is the format he use to scam me of the 10k..

"Playing this truth or dare game wt a frnd and he got me, he dared me to ask a random fan for 10k he knows it's something I cant do and won't do... We placed a bet of 10million each, Anyone who helps me win will get 10% of the money (1 million naira ) , Just DM me pls"

this is the account details I sent the money to :

1414608431
Access bank
Terseer Terry kiddwaya

what convince me to send the money was because the account name of the account number is the real name of BB9ja Kiddwaya .. you can check the account number and see.. I borrowed that money to send to the scammer cause I didn't have 1 kobo on me.. I will attach screenshots ..

manos:
Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.

The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.

I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)

For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.

The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."

I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her.
While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.

This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.

There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.

Rotjijatau:
I'm writing this piece with due permission because both parties involved are on nairaland. My friend & his wife had a small issue that made them to keep malice for more than a week. Then last Friday he went to work & she sent him a text message that read "I am going with our son, whenever you are calm & settled, come for us, the key is under the footmat in front of the door" to his greatest surprise he came back home later in the evening & didn't meet her. He didn't call her, next day Saturday no communication whatsoever from them, Sunday which was yesterday same & today too no communication. Everyone adviced him not call her since he didn't send her out of the house neither has he ever maltreated her. Maybe she's trying to show him that whatever happens she has a place to go. I think her mother is suppose to ask her why she came home or better still contact the husband to know why his wife came back but nobody from her family contacted him. On a second thought, the mother shouldn't be blamed since nobody knows what the wife told her mother, but this is not the first time the mother is acting in this manner. He has put all her belongings together in the house so that anytime she wants to come & pack, its fine by him & if she comes back its still fine by him. Anything she wants to do is very okay with him, he just want to keep his hands clean. What is your advice or take on this? One thing has been hindering him from making a move to call or look for settlement is PRIDE & EGO. They really love each other that they can die for each other but right now I don't know what the devil is doing.

Update: She has sent him a text this morning which read "i'll be coming tomorrow to pick some of our things & I'll also need money for our son's provision. hope you're fine? He hasn't replied her yet but this is what he intends to send her

"Your coming should very early in the morning before 7:30am or in the evening cos i'll be going to work & cannot drop my key, better still i'll help you put all your belongings together so you can pick up everything at once. It's gonna save you the stress & Tfare wastage of coming randomly for one thing or the other. Whenever you're finally ready to return, feel free! but if you're waiting or expecting me to come for you then i'm sorry ma'am, all i can say at this point is "ALL THE BEST'' as we call it ''QUIT'' because never will you see me nor will i do such follow up again, reason being that you chose your path & defined the fate of your child. I think at some point we've all tried in one way or the other. Sorry i don't have money right now for provisions, month end perhaps.


I told him to chill first & not send it or even if he'll send it let it be later in the evening. This issue has got everyone confused, to me I think one of them should just act the fool for peace to reign cos I don't see any issue that is worth all this. I bet you if you hear from both of them, you'll know that there's no problem at all warranting this, in fact its child's play. Its just the devil.

funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

Crazeman03:
Hello Nairalanders, Hope you guys are staying Safe. Please don't mind my writing, I will make it short as possible.

I met this wonderful lady Last year and everything has been going good until 7 months ago when she told me she was Hiv+. That hit me hard but that didn't change anything, she was surprised I didnt react and opening up to me didn't scare me because I'm negative though we haven't had sex yet before the moment.

Now it has been 4 months we've been having unprotected sex. I'm not afraid of contracting the virus, as she keeps taking med and her viral load is low. I made sure before we went for test before having unprotected sex. Her CD4 count is above 750 and viral load is below 20, which makes hiv undetectable in her.

Now one night around 3months ago, she woke me up in the middle of the night to ask me, why do I love her knowing fully well about her status because she could not believe she will ever have a relationship with someone negative not even in this Nigeria by the way they stigmatize hiv+ people. I told her the reason and I'm not afraid hiv is not the worse or the baddest of diseases. There are more killer diseases than HIV and HIV is not a diseases but a virus. Only attack your immune system and its no longer a deadly virus.

The problem I have now is that whenever I imagine myself having it and how I will popping drugs everyday, make me kinda moody towards her, because I always keep telling her to always take her drugs. Last night she discovered she is pregnant and I'm just imagining things how everything will play out, I know when she will put to bed she won't be able to breastfeed. People will ask questions. I really need to tell someone in my family but I don't know who. My mom my react and the other person I trust is my younger sister.

On her own part, only her elder sister and brother knew she has the virus. And she had it since 2007.

I only need an advice if I need to tell any member of my family, looking to settle down with her this October.

Solearr:
Comments before I continue

Collins918:
Something is really bothering me. I need advice from married women and men in the house please. I have been married for a year with 2 kids ( twins) but my wife has had never post any of my pics on her social media. I am not happy with her.

1. On our wedding day she posted her pics and of her family members and friends except me . I have address the problem with her to know why . She said she will add more later. She never did which I had never bothered to ask again because our marriage was young to start having issue just because of pics

2. On our twins dedications the same thing happened again. She posted over 100 pics on Facebook but none of mine. I have address the problem. Asking her again why she keep excluding me from her social media account. I asked her if she is not happy to have me as a husband. She said no . She has forgot to add my pic . She apologise.

3. My twins were born a day before my birthday in May. We had a small gathering at home for our birthdays. We snapped loads of photos but she didn’t post any of mine. Even on her WhatsApp status she posted our twins and on my day she only wrote happy birthday to my soulmate but not a pic of me. I was upset that I asked her , how would feel if I have not posted any of your pics since our wedding until now. She said well it’s my choice to do it and she has had never forced me to put her pics on my Facebook and WhatsApp . She said I can go ahead and remove it. She said it’s her Facebook she can do whatever she want including who to post. We had a heated argument and we haven’t spoke to each other since then.
4 I am not happy with her attitudes . I know it’s only pics we are fighting for , to some people it may seems as a stupid thing to fight for . But it means a lot to me. I feel jealous when I see other couples posting each other on Facebook but why can’t my own wife can do the same for me. She doesn’t think is a big deal to her. I feel bad . Now I am wondering if she truly loves me for real or if she only married me because of my money. I am not rich . I have my furniture company. I have opened a shop for her. I take care of her and her family 100% financially. I am not ugly , I only senior her by 3 years. It’s not like she married her father or grand father age mate that’s why she will feel embarrassed to post him . I just don’t understand why she doesn’t feel to post any of my pic. I just don’t know what to do or say to her anymore. I want to know if what she’s doing is really right. For married men and women in the house . How would you feel if your partner has had never post you on social media before ? Please single stay out of my post. Many thanks

Sepsis:
Hey guys. I could use a little perspective on something that’s been bothering me. Got married for a little over a year now and I have a kid. The baby is not up to a year yet. The crux of the matter is my wife started stress eating after she delivered. Her weight was normal after delivery so it wasn’t as a result of the pregnancy. After delivery, she started eating a lot of junk. She wasn’t staying with me then - she was with her folks. Her eating wasn’t supervised.

Now she came back all fat and bigger than normal. When we dated, she knows my stance on being overweight. I have a special dislike for fat or thick girls. They always look lazy and clumsy and I’ve never been attracted to a fat lady.

Now she’s overweight. She looks way older than I am and I don’t know how to force myself to be attracted to her. When I see pictures of men and their wives looking fit, it makes me wish that was me.

We haven’t taken any picture together in up to six months. She hasn’t taken any either. I can’t post her on my social media because I’m not proud of the situation.

She has a good character and takes care of the baby well. I work full time, run errands and cook for the house. Her main job is taking care of the baby. I have tried to help out domestically to lessen her burden. In fact, since we started living together she hasn’t gone to the market for one day.

I don’t know how to approach this situation. Already I’m sexually frustrated and I’m too young to be feeling this way.