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V I O:
do u really need that as a girl/lady?

emzmorz:
I am suffering from acute leukemia.
My Doctor told me that I am lucky if I last for one month.
That was almost 2 weeks ago when he told me that,
yesterday I bleed severely and my
doctor told me that my condition is getting worst.
I only have one week.
At first I am denying the fact that I only have week
to live well he is not God.
Only God has the power to tell when
someone will die.
That's my fiancee always reminding me,
God is the Creator and He can only tell when some one
will die. But if this is my last day on Earth
I will ask forgiveness to my Parents for all
the disappointments that I have caused to them,
for all the pain and heartaches.
I will also want to go to the beach with my love ones
and spend the rest of the day celebrating with them.
Thank you.

filnaija:
Oh ok, my husband was born in Nsuka but my in-law have a branch of Oando in Enugu Town. My husband is still in Naija because he wants to finish our house in Transekulo.

Anyway, I will supply a real hair wig in Lagos and Enugu, probably this week while my husband is still in Naija.

tatiana009:
Hmmm, so lack of submission equals murder? Na wa o

mmeri:
Sad story though but real.
There is no reason for a man to lift his hand, lest shoot his wife.
My advice if you harbor this thought is to, just drop it. I tell you, it is not worth it and the society will judge you terribly if you commit the act.
I agree that a women should submit but the realities in modern time is that both parties must be committed to make it work.
It is time that men begin to shed some of their ego. If your wife out-ran you economically then adopt diplomacy.  Period!

solidifi:
Inked Nerd my dear, women are not animals. They're vital part of men. But they're commanded by their Maker to be submissive.

No matter what a woman is, her husband is her head, except you don't believe God's word. When a wife loves money more than her husband, what manner of wife is she. Is better not to enter into the marriage institution at all, because you'll be the 1st graduate of this great institution.
Let's be objective & factual here, bias & sentiments apart.

tatiana009:
@ Solidifi, the poster asked a simple question, who is to blame? And you said the women( the victims) and went on to state their lack of submission as the reason. Now even though you went on to say men should not think this excuses murder, the point is that in its self is wrong. When a crime is committed the person at fault is the perpetrator. By the way you should learn to discuss with people with different opinions without bringing in the devil. I don't know why some people need to bring the devil into everything even a simple discussion! i think you should take your own advice and not let him operate in your life and speech

solidifi:
tatiana009,
I'm entitled to my own opinion. Air your views, and possibly proffer solution(s) to this problem @ hand as others did, and stop attacking someone's piece of mind.

I reiterate, I never supported and 'll never support such barbaric, devilish, cannibalistic, uncultured, unmanly act.
Tanx.

10cirenoh:
Well violation should be the worst, i always think about how i'm going to cope if my girl is violated, she's a V. and everytime she tells me she's going back to school, the thought jumps into my heart.

I have also chatted her up about it and her mood after our convo always look sour, i bet she's also dreading that ever occuring.

Funny thing is that she said if ever anything like that's going to happen, she's going to plead with them to let her go see me, have it with me first, then go back to them (joke sha)

filnaija:
Yes, I'm a Filipino and married to a Nigerian, I was in your country a week a go for vacation. Anyway, I have a question, is that real hair wig, extention and weave-on, is it a good business in Nigeria?

filnaija:
Inked_Nerd, are you from Enugu? Because my in-laws are from Enugu and we have properties over there.

cap28:
After reading some of the posts on here i am now convinced that there is a marked difference between how black people who were born and raised in america view racism from the way black people who came to the US as adults view racism.

You have to have lived through it to understand it and unfortunately many nigerians who came to the west as full grown adults do not understand what its like to live in an environment where being black is regarded as a mark of inferiority.

This is why some posters on here are saying things like: "whats the big deal", "why cant you move on" whereas blacks who were born and raised in an environment in which they have constantly been told that they are less than, automatically take offence to these pictures.

I have spent a lot of time researching and reading about the experience of african americans and i understand why african americans/ black people born and raised in america are upset.

Being black in america is synonymous with inferiority - there are some nigerians who are in complete denial about this but you can not run away from the truth. Black people in america have it ingrained in them from the cradle to the grave that there is something wrong with them because they are black, furthermore dark skin (especially on women is regarded as unattractive) the western media has placed on a pedestal the beauty of the white woman and has degraded the beauty of the black woman, this is evident in those pictures that Beyonce took in which the make up artiststs darken her skin in such a way that it looks as if the darkness of her skin is blotting out her beauty, in other words being very dark skinned makes it impossible for people to actually tell whether you are beautiful or not - this is what the white fashion and beauty industry thinks of dark skin.

Were Fela's dancers and singers not mostly dark skinned? were they not exquisitely beautiful? did any of them look like that caricature that Beyonce displayed in that magazine?

If you look at the way Fela's dancers/singers decorated their faces you can tell that this was done with the utmost care and attention, their faces were like works of art, contrast that with the cartoonish sambo like distortions on beyonce and you will see that the whites are merely using beyonce as a way to further push their insidious campaign that dark skin is not beautiful.

In the old days white entertainers would put boot polish on their faces and pretend to be black people - they would speak and act like braindead buffoons because this is how they wanted the world to perceive black people, as a result "black face" became synonymous with the words: clown, buffoon, sambo, simpleton and fool. It therefore beggars beleif that Beyonce and her handlers would go as far as using this sort of imagery to portray an african person.

Does it mean that beyonce and her handlers are so devoid of self respect and basic human dignity that they would be willing to not only demean themselves for a quick buck but also disregard the suffering and abuse meted out to their ancestors who fought for years to rise above those kind of hateful images and be treated as equals in a nation built on the sweat of their ancestors?

pinkrex:
I got voilated when I was 13 by an older gurl n d intersting part is dat we later dated cos she wooed me like a spirit. She waz all ova me but she disgust me so much now. I guess she's married now. Now yu now how dat feels?

chaircover:
And where can I buy "it will soon be over" cleanser from? 

Inky thanks jare. when you say real oil . . . , what do you mean pls?

In response to your question  . . Just finished

I dont really want to use clearasil moist. I want something a little more "stronger" I am an "aunty" not a teenager so need to start caring more for my skin

filnaija:
That is true actually, most Asians have wavy hair. Most Asians that have straight hair are Filipinos, Korean and Chinese.

ogugua88:
Is she the only light-skinned AA? Fanta from Bracket, is he not lighter than Beyonce? Omotola is light. There are albino Nigerians. With that said, if she darkened her face as to blend in with Africans/Nigerians, then I will never understand what she's trying to convey.

dasa:
its no big deel. Geez. Cut her some slack. I am black and i dont find it offensive. Its white people and lostfrican americans that think it is.

savanaha:
Most of the people saying move on will have a change of heart if they experience. However, I think the issue with humanity atimes is the inability to be empathic.

That people are always criticising Beyonce or whatever, if any other celebrity were to use shoe polish or whatever to darken ONLY their face in order to pay tribute to Africa or wherever they would get flack for it. Even Forest Whittiker got some flack for painting his whole body dark to play "Last King of Scotland."

ogugua88:
Tell them o! The same happened to me when I was dating a Mexican some years back. We were living in Southern California then, so you can only imagine how we were stared upon. At some point he wanted to stop holding hands in the public because the stares and the comments were too much.

ALSO, in 2008, I was campaigning for Barack Obama about 10-15 minutes from my house; a huge rally. One white lady drove up to me and asked me if I knew what I was doing, holding the signs I was holding. I told her "yes". She told me "slavery needs to be reinstated".

Maybe if those of us abroad start sharing our experiences with racism, they'll begin to understand why this is upsetting. It's regression when all we want and need is progress.